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  • Turning 18 in 6 days. Can I move out tomorrow?

    I have a lot of problems with my mom because she is a single parent and she believes everything I do is wrong. I am considering moving out to my boyfriends parents house (they offered me to stay there) as soon as I can. Because I feel that I am not in a healthy environment at my moms house. We fight too much and I can't live like that I often stay up at night because I can't sleep I have too many things to think about ( because she says my decisions are incorrect) i am currently enrolled in a community college and paying for my classes on my own. I have a part time job and always have gotten around on the bus. My boyfriend is concerned with me moving out because we don't want my mother to call me in as a runaway and then I am forced to go home although I turn 18 on Sep. 5th 2016. Which is SIX days away.

  • #2
    Turning 18 in 6 days. Can I move out tomorrow?

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you have been going through a form of stress and frustration living with your mother.
    We understand that sometimes situations can get out of control and it makes it uncomfortable to live under those conditions.
    It seems you have a dilemma about leaving home 6 days before your 18th birthday and possibly being considered a runaway.
    In some cases the police have been known to not pursue a runaway report when someone is so close to becoming the majority age.

    You might consider contacting the police as another option. By contacting the non-emergency number of your local police department you can inquire about their procedures in a situation where a minor is considering moving out of their parents home a few days before they reach the legal age.

    You are free to give us a call at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) to talk more about your situation and explore options with one of our crisis service volunteers.
    NRS is also available to live chat at www.1800Runaway.org

    We applaud you for your hard work with continuing your education while working a part time job to pay for classes. Excellent, good for you.
    We look forward to speaking with you.

    Take Care,
    NRS
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    • #3
      Can I leave even though my 18th birthday is in 14 days I’m so tired of getting treated like a bad kid when my parents pulled me out of high school and made me get a full time job, when my grandma moved In I lost my room and I now sleep in a chair in the office. I get yelled at for no reason when I’m not working I am stuck at home cleaning everybody else’s mess and other people’s rooms. I can’t have friends or anything else I’m not allowed outside i am stuck inside all day unless it is to go to work.

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Hello,
        Thanks for reaching out to us. That seems like an incredibly frustrating situation to be in so it’s understandable that you want to consider your options. You shouldn’t be made to feel unwelcome at home and like a servant or yelled at like that.
        Legally speaking we aren’t experts but generally your parents have legal control/responsibility for you until you are fully 18. If you did leave your parents could still report you as a runaway and if police found you they would likely bring you home. When you turn 18 the runaway report would automatically turnover into a missing person report and the police would no longer try to bring you home if they were to find you. It is possible that the police may not enforce or look for a runaway who will turn 18 in two weeks but that is up to them or how hard your parents push them. If they happen to know where you would go they could try to send police directly there to pick you up.
        If you don’t have a plan for where to go it may be worth considering trying to find a Temporary Living Program in your area that specializes in helping at risk youth who need a bit of time and help transitioning into their own steady place. They could also help you get a diploma potentially.
        Nobody should feel oppressed and used at home the way you have described. If there are more questions you have or you just need someone to talk with feel free to reach out to our online chat, or call 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    • #4
      Hi so I’m considering leaving to go to my sisters house and I Tun 18 in 5 days,I live with my single mother who just thinks I’m the cause of all problems and always say “I can’t wait til you get your own sh*t and get the f*ck up out my house”and she saw my overnight bags and stuff packed and told me I’m not going anywhere not even when I turn 18 so if I leave right now could I be penalized,or if she does call the police and I’m out of state and I turn 18 before they could find me what could happen?

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      • ccsmod13
        ccsmod13 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS. It sounds like your mom has been making home incredibly stressful for you. You do not deserve to be talked down to or made to feel unwanted. The good news is that once you turn 18 you are considered a legal adult in most states with the legal freedom to choose where you live.

        It's understandable you would want to move out as soon as possible, but there can still be some risk with leaving as a minor. Until you turn 18, your mom can attempt to report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal but it is a status offense. This basically means that your mom can ask police for assistance with returning you home even if you are out of state. Your mom would either have to know where you are going or you would have to come into contact with law enforcement for this to happen. Because you are only a few days away from turning 18, it is unlikely that police would intervene at all in this situation. When you do turn 18, the runaway report would be expired and police would no longer attempt to return you home to your mother.

        We hope this information helps. If you would like to talk more about your situation in detail, please do not hesitate to reach out again. We are available for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

        Stay safe and good luck,
        NRS

    • #5
      hi. I live in INDIA. I want to move out of my home on the day i turn 18. can i call the cops if i fear my parents will harm me if i try to move out.i have been living in this wrecked hell for 17.3 years. they dont let me go out unless its for school. they dont let me call my friends and talk to them .they are forcing their religion onto me even though im an atheist. will the indian police give me a civil standby when im moving out?

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      • ccsmod0
        ccsmod0 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
        We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    • #6
      I’m turning 18 in 6 days, but I want to move out the day before my birthday would there be anything bc my parents could legally do to stop me from leaving ?

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
        While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #7
      I'm turning 18 in on the 18th. But I wanna move out the 17th. Can I do that if my Dad says I can? My aunt and uncle have power of attorney currently over me but if I get permission from my biological father to move out now, can I?

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      • ccsmod13
        ccsmod13 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. It sounds like you are just a couple days away from turning 18 and you are wanting to know more about what could happen if you left before your birthday. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this.

        18 is usually the age you are able to leave without permission from your legal guardians. You mentioned your biological father is okay with you leaving but that your aunt and uncle might not be. Your legal guardian is the person who can decide where you live until your 18th birthday when you are considered a legal adult. If your aunt and uncle are your legal guardians then they would be who you need permission from to leave. If you leave the day before, your aunt and uncle could technically still report you as a runaway to the police. In most cases, this would mean that police would return you home if you are found. However, since it sounds like you would just be a few hours away from turning 18 it is unlikely police would intervene at all. We always suggest calling the local police department for the most specific answers regarding this.

        The good news is that as soon as you turn 18 you are considered a legal adult with the legal freedom to choose where you live. We hope this information is helpful. If you would like to talk more about your situation or you are in need of any resources, please do not hesitate to contact us directly by phone and live chat. 1-800-786-2929; 1800runaway.org.

        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #8
      i was adopted into a family that hates me and makes me do all the chores and cleaning. I work 2 jobs to pay my grandmas bills and she doesnt work at all and sits around all day. as soon as im 18 I would love to go back with my real parents but my grandma is telling me i can not leave home untill im out of school by law. is this true and do i have to tell her im leaving when i pay for my own car and insurance?

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It must be difficult to feel that you're not welcome at home and have to support your grandma. We're not lawyers, so we can't provide legal advice. Generally, when someone becomes an adult, which is legally defined by each state and is usually when the individual turns 18, they can decide where they want to live. If you call or live chat with us, we can look up at what age a person is considered an adult for your state. We can also help provide resources and explore your options. We can be reached any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or 1800runaway.org. Wishing you the best of luck!

    • #9
      i am adopted and i am turning 18 this weekend. can i move out at 6am the day of my birthday without my adoptive mom holding me back?

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      • ccsmod1
        ccsmod1 commented
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        Hey there,

        Happy birthday and thanks so much for reaching out, we know it takes a lot of courage. We aren't legal experts, but once you turn 18 you are considered a legal adult (unless you reside in NE, AL or MS). This means that you can live where you wish. If you leave, your adoptive mom can call the police to request a wellness check, but the police would leave you be as soon as they can confirm that you aren't in any kind of immediate danger.

        If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

        Stay safe,
        NRS

        We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    • #10
      I turn 18 in 12 days. if i leave now can my parents do anything

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Thank you for contacting NRS,
        We appreciate you contacting us and being brave in reaching out. We can understand that sometimes it can feel like such a long wait if your parents are not supportive in any way. As far what your parents can do. The basic runaway laws allow parents to file a runaway report if a youth leaves home before turning 18. From there the police would be out looking for you. It is important to note that can never predict what the local police might do. You are so close to 18 it might mean the police won't do anything to bring you back even if you left and they found you. A good idea to think about might be to call your local non-emergency number to the police you could remain anonymous and just ask your questions. You would not get in trouble for asking questions. If you don't feel safe calling out to them we can also assist you with calling out if that is something that feels more comfortable for you. You can give us a call at (800-786-2929) or online at 1800runaway.org.
        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        Be safe,
        NRS
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