im 15 and wanting to run away

Ever since I was adopted, I've gotten into trouble many times. I once drew pictures of everyone in my family when I was 6 and when my mum got angry at me I ripped them up. My mother will get angry at me for anything really, it's no surprise to me that by now as I'm 15, I don't want to be here. When I was younger my plan was to run away one day, but even when I would go walk our dog, my parents thought I ran away and they were going to call the police. Recently, my mother has been saying things to me such as "you're trying to turn my children against me" and "all you do is start problems" but it's becoming a daily thing. I have looked into student exchange programs just to get away for even a year, but they're too expensive. When I'm 18 I'm moving out and I am going to cut the ties I have with this family. But for the time being, I could use some tips. I never talk back to my mother when she says things to me that aren't true and I learned that I have to be wherever they say. For example I used to be in my room all of the time, but then my mother would get angry at me, but when I'm downstairs with her she gets mad at me. She makes me feel scared to ask anything but her motto is "if you want nything out of life, you have to ask" but even when I ask, she turns me down. On a rare good day, she will say yes, I'm thankful for the good days. I'm just living here, I have a roof over my head and a bed to sleep in, food too. I know that people have it worse than I do, but it's not an enjoyable place to live, I don't feel worth anything, I feel like everyone here is a stranger to me. I often wonder if there's anything I can do about it, or temporary solutions.

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Hi i am 15 y/o
my mom and i arent in good terms from the past few months.. live has been miserable for me.. she found out about stuff related to me that she shouldn't have.. i cant take it anymore.. the fights and scoldings i get everyday .. all the drama because of this.. i think i will be better off without her . I live in delhi,india. I have a boyfriend who is ready to run away with me but after some time because he is collecting money for the runaway...my boyfriend is 18..... can you tell us that should we move to another city or are there any runaway centres etc in delhi,india.. i am mature enough to live on my own now.. and what should i do about school? Continue going there ? Wouldnt my parents go and find out about where i am from my friends in the school.. and if i will continue to go there and my parents or the police go there for investigation and they find out that i still attend the school like normal .. what should i do then.?and what if my parents find out that i have run away with my boyfriend.. how can i hide him in this whole situation if i get caught... please help me

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Reply: Hello Respected sir or madam

Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. You don’t deserve to live in fear or be mistreated by your mother.
Your safety is important. Having a plan would be something to consider before leaving home. Perhaps there is a relative you can look to for support.
The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA.
Since you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe and take care,
NRS

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Hello respected sir or madam I am an Indian 14 year’s old girl and I really want to leave my home... I don’t have my father and my mom always shouting on me and emphasizing me to leave her house... Sir or Madam pls give me a good advice and pls reply... I live in Malad, Mumbai, India... I can leave my house but I always feared of got raped by wrong men so pls.... help me

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Hi there,
Thanks for reaching out to us. It must be frustrating to want to do something but be blocked in some way. We’d like to know a little bit more about your situation in order to help. Do you think you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)? We can work with you to help you figure out what your best options are and what you’d like to do. We also have a live chat option on our website. We are totally confidential and are here to listen, here to help.
Be safe!
NRS

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Hello –

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about the way you have been treated. It sounds horrible to receive rejection from someone that you care about. It sounds like the mistreatment at home is becoming difficult to deal with. It seems that you do not receive the support that you probably should at home.

If you are thinking of running away I would recommend calling into our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) to discuss your options further. Running away is not a crime but it is important to talk it out before making this type of decision.

Additionally, we offer a conference calling service if you had any interest in having a moderated conversation with your parents where you set the rules and we would act as a mediator to help improve your life at home.

We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct. We can also be reached via live chat between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST.

Best Wishes
~NRS

I’m 15 and I feel like want to runaway but I can’t what should I do?

Im 15 and i cant deal with any of the stuff going on at home. It's breaking me physically and mentally. I just want to be happy again. And away from this toxic environment what can i do

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Hi there,
Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.
We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring. One of our main goals is to make sure you are safe, so if you ever seriously decide to run away and need shelter, resources, or a safe place to go you can find safe locations at nationalsafeplace.org or reach out to us directly and we can find local resources in your area.
With school, under the Mckinney Vento Act, every runaway homeless youth has the right to education and you can ask about what that looks like by calling out to the National Center for Homeless Educational Helpline 1-800-308-2145.
We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.
-NRS

Im a 15 year old female and Im looking to run away. I have my reasons and would rather not share but living with my parents has become problematic and abusive. Im just hoping to show my parents that the way they treat me could cause me to just disappear one day and never come back, I dont want to go to a shelter but would rather seek possible advice on how not to get involved with law enforcement. What do I also do about school if I were to miss it for awhile?

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Thank you for reaching out and taking a healthy step towards having a more comfortable living situation. First of all, if you feel like you are suicidal and have thoughts of self-harm, you can always call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They are available 24/7 and are there to listen and provide support whenever you need it. Also, if the situation in your home makes you feel unsafe, and you are being physically or emotionally abused, you can call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. It is so important that you feel safe, and you do not deserve any sort of abuse.
We are not legal experts, but if you choose to move out before you turn 18 you will not get a criminal charge. Your legal guardians can file a runaway report for you and if you get picked up by the police, they will return you home. You can also look into the emancipation laws for the state that you live in, which would allow you to be responsible for yourself legally. This often means being able to prove that you can take care of yourself financially.
Please consider calling our hotline to talk further about the issues you are facing at home and the options available to you. We are here 24/7, are toll free and completely confidential. Best of luck to you and please take care.

I’m 15 I can’t handle being at home anymore I have 6 months till I can move out but being here is making me so suicidal and I’d rather be homeless then here

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Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are going through a lot at home and you've mentioned being beaten and unable to eat. That is not okay at all, and you so deserve to feel safe at home and to have your basic needs met.

We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you leave home without permission before turning 18, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

Hello I'm 14 about to be 15 in 1 month my family gives me no attention they are never home I don't know my dad but I do unfortunately live with him i am hit all the time and I have been beaten by my mother a whole lot and I'm really tired of it they leave me at the house all the time and when they come home they don't feed me I want to leave extremely bad I know I can leave at 16 and not be forced to go back home unless in immediate danger but I'm trying to leave now because if I dont I'm afraid something else will happen no one loves me in my house my boyfriend offered for me to stay with him and my parents dont know where that is so what If they can't find me? But what if they do I couldn't go back I just couldn't I used to cut myself because of how much my family downs me I need to leave and i need to leave now