im 15 and wanting to run away

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Re: im 15 and wanting to run away

Hello,

It sounds like you and your girlfriend are seriously considering running away and we’re glad you reached out. You mentioned some of your concerns such as going to court and the police taking you back home. We aren’t legal experts, but it is possible for that to happen if your parents file you as a runaway and you are stopped by police. There isn’t always a way to know exactly what will happen in runaway situations; however, we are there to discuss possible options. Hopefully this gives you a start.

I'm 15 and I have decided that I want to run away.

I want to run away and my girlfriend wants me to as well, but I'm not sure if I should BC in my state, it's not exactly illegal to run away, but I can still go to court and the police can take me straight back home. The thing is, I want to go live with my girlfriend BC we are about an hour apart and we just don't like being away from each other so much. We only get to see each other about one a week during school. If I ran away from home and was sent back home, my parents would kill me and they probably wouldn't allow my girlfriend and I to see each other anymore.

I'm not sure what to do.
What would happen if I did run away? If I do, what can I do to avoid telling my parents and avoid going to court and being sent back home and stuff?

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RE: I'm 13 turning 14 and I want to run away with my boyfriend

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out tonight and sharing your story with us. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now with your boyfriend. It sounds like he’s not living in a safe or supportive place. That’s got to be so difficult to support someone who is going through so much. He is lucky to have you in his life and to be there for him. Sometimes being there for someone means providing support. Support can look like a lot of different things. It was smart of you to reach out. So let’s see how we can help you out tonight.

It seems like you have a bit of a plan in place for when you leave, but that you are focused right now on how to get your education. As someone who is under 18 years old, you have the right to an education. If you go to any public high school and tell them that you are homeless and need to go to school, they are required to give you an education. They might not ask for paperwork right away, but at some point they will get your guardian’s involved and reach out to them. We hope that this is helpful information.

Like we were talking about before, support can look like a lot of different things. It sounds like you are leaving with him to support him and to protect him. Thinking through other ways to support him might be another option for you. Are there people in your life who you trust who you might be able to get some guidance and support from? If someone is thinking about killing themselves, they may feel that way even if they are in a different living situation. One resource that might be helpful to you both is the National Suicide Hotline (1-800-273-8255). They are there 24 hours a day.

We hope that this is a little helpful. We are here to talk through more options, hear more about what is going on, talk through what running away might look like and provide you and your boyfriend with resources (places to stay, counseling, school resources, etc). Please call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are confidential and anonymous. If you aren’t able to call, you can chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Time.

We look forward to your call or chat.

Best of luck to you,

NRS


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I'm 13 turning 14 and I want to run away with my boyfriend

Stupid it sounds, but I really love my boyfriend, but his parents seems to hate him, his step dad always have to find a way to get him in trouble. They're too controlling, at first I thought they're just doing tht because they love him and wants to protect him, but now I'm really doubting it. I thought it was fine, I told him tht they just really love him. But hekept saying i know they hate me, I'm a terrible son, it's too much i can't handle it, I want to kill myself," when he said tht I was so scared and heartbroken, I don't want that to happen. So we are planning to run away on Sunday. But we are both worry about our education, please help we really want to go and still have education. It's either we go, or we stay and if it's too much he might do it, please help im scared, we already have everything plan out.

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Re: im 15 and wanting to run away

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been having a really hard time at home. This has got to be a really tough thing to try and deal with. We are here to help you out the best that we can.

So it sounds like your mom has been active in addiction for a long time. Your feelings about this are completely understandable. Similar to Alcoholics Anonymous, there is an organization called Al Anon. Al Anon is for family and loved ones of alcoholics, and offers support from people who might have an understanding of the things that you have been dealing with as far as your mother's addiction, because they might have experienced similar situations that you have been through. You can look up a meeting closest to you through this website: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/local-meetings

We are sorry to hear about the way that your dad has been responding to your feelings. You said that he wants nothing to do with you because of the way that you have been coping with things. Is there anything else that is helpful to you in terms of coping besides using drugs and alcohol? There is another resource we would like you to have, and that is the Alcohol & Drug Helpline at 1 206 722 3700. You can call this line, in addition to our 24/7, anonymous and confidential hotline at 1 800 runaway if you would like to talk about substance abuse.

It sounds like you are really thinking about leaving home, but you do not know how to leave. We want to let you know that here at National Runaway Safeline, we do not provide transportation in helping youth run away. The only transportation program we have is the Home Free Program, which is a family reunification program to return youth back to their families or guardians. Do you have a safe place in mind that you would go? We will not tell you to stay or leave home, because you know your situation better than we do. Our priority is your safety. There are a few things that you may find helpful when thinking about whether or not you should leave home:

What else can I do to improve my home situation before I leave?
What would make me stay at home?
How will I survive?
Is running away safe?
Who can I count on to help me?
Am I being realistic?
What are my other options?
If I end up in trouble, who will I call?
When I return home, what will happen?

If you would like to explore your situation further, just want to talk or would like any resources we are here 24/7 and we are anonymous and confidential at 1 800 runaway. We also have a chat option available through our website, 1800runaway.org, open 4:30pm to 11:30pm CST. We are here to listen and here to help the best that we can. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you again soon.

Good luck and stay safe,
NRS