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  • Ever since I was adopted, I've gotten into trouble many times. I once drew pictures of everyone in my family when I was 6 and when my mum got angry at me I ripped them up. My mother will get angry at me for anything really, it's no surprise to me that by now as I'm 15, I don't want to be here. When I was younger my plan was to run away one day, but even when I would go walk our dog, my parents thought I ran away and they were going to call the police. Recently, my mother has been saying things to me such as "you're trying to turn my children against me" and "all you do is start problems" but it's becoming a daily thing. I have looked into student exchange programs just to get away for even a year, but they're too expensive. When I'm 18 I'm moving out and I am going to cut the ties I have with this family. But for the time being, I could use some tips. I never talk back to my mother when she says things to me that aren't true and I learned that I have to be wherever they say. For example I used to be in my room all of the time, but then my mother would get angry at me, but when I'm downstairs with her she gets mad at me. She makes me feel scared to ask anything but her motto is "if you want nything out of life, you have to ask" but even when I ask, she turns me down. On a rare good day, she will say yes, I'm thankful for the good days. I'm just living here, I have a roof over my head and a bed to sleep in, food too. I know that people have it worse than I do, but it's not an enjoyable place to live, I don't feel worth anything, I feel like everyone here is a stranger to me. I often wonder if there's anything I can do about it, or temporary solutions.

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      Thank you for reaching out to us. We know it can be overwhelming when you don’t know where to turn. It sounds like you don’t like living at home and you feel unsupported by your family. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in their home. Sometimes when you feel uncomfortable at home, it can be helpful to reach out to people you trust. For example, talking to a friend or a school counselor. They might be able to offer support. If you feel like you can’t get along with your mom, reaching out to other family members you trust might be helpful.
      Again, thank you for reaching out. It takes courage to ask for help. If you would like to talk about your situation further, don’t hesitate to call us. We are 24/7 and confidential. You can call us at 1-800-786-2929. We’re here to help, here to listen.

  • im 14 and wanting to leave i dont like the drama its getting really old

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      Thank you for contacting us through our online forum. It sounds like a really stressful situation at home filled with drama. Home is a place where you should feel safe and comfortable. It’s understandable that you would want to leave that environment.

      There’s a lot to think about when leaving home. Do you have anyone who would be willing to let you stay with them? How do you think your parents would react to you leaving? As a minor, some things to keep in mind are that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. In this case, if you are picked up by the police, they could return you home. It’s also good to keep in mind that anyone you stay with could be at risk for harboring a runaway. Fortunately running away doesn’t usually have any legal consequences, but harboring is often considered a misdemeanor.

      We do hope that you reach out to us through phone at 1-800-786-2929 or chat to discuss your situation in more detail. Our goal is to help you find ways to stay safe. We would be happy to look up resources in your area, talk with you about your options, or just listen to what you’re going through.

      Stay strong,
      NRS

  • I am wanting to run away but i really done know where to go my family treats me diffrent form everyone else i just need to go far and as fast as i can but im really not wanting to but i think it would be best but im already in court over behavior issues what do i do

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      Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your family has been treating you in a way that you find unfair to the point of feeling like you need to leave. We’re not aware of the specifics about what you are in court for, but it could be risky for you to run away if you already have issues with the police or courts. We would love to discuss with you what exactly is going on and what potential solutions there are to your problems. If you are interested in talking about the particulars of your situation, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • Hey I'm needing some help I'm 15 and I live with my dad because I don't get on with my mum I've had family problems ever since I was 3 or 4 my mums done thing that make me not want to live with her but me and my dad don't get on to well we always fall out because when he tells me to do thing I take my time and he really doesn't like it so he screams in my face hits me and tells me he's going to kick ******** out of me so anytime he has a bad day or is in a bad mood he takes it out on me so ii really wanna run away I have family I could stay with but I don't wanna so I need ur help

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      Hi,
      Thank you for your message. It sounds like you’re having a difficult time at home. You don’t deserve to have anyone scream in your face, hit you, or threaten you. You do not deserve to have anyone take their bad mood out on you. It’s unfair and hurtful. We encourage you to talk with adults you trust about what has been going on if you feel comfortable doing so. Those adults could be teachers, guidance counselors, coaches, or even police. Based on your message, it seems like you are not based in the United States. Here at NRS, we are only familiar with runaway laws in the US. To find a helpline more familiar with the laws in your country, you can follow this link: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/ .
      We wish you the best of luck. Stay safe and stay strong!
      --NRS

  • I’m 15 and hate being home (female) . My mom is a snobby ********** treats me like dirt and I’m sick of it I’m tired of her bs . My bf said to live with him and his family but idk if his mom will allow it . I need help

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      Hello there –

      Thank you for taking the time out of your day in order to reach out for help on our public forum. Reading through your post it certainly sounds like you are going through a very hard time at home. No one deserves to be treated like dirt or anything less than a human being. We are so sorry to hear that is happening to you. You should feel love and support from your mother.

      Only you know yourself when it’s time to leave home due to it being an unsafe situation and no one but you can make that decision for you, not even here. It sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. One thing that may be helpful for you is to possibly note when the fighting/yelling is happening or any triggers of the fighting/yelling (some examples would be like after your abuser comes from work or after dinner and/or right when you get home) and to try to find things that can keep yourself away from home during those times (after school programs, sports program, study group at a friend’s house, getting involved in volunteering, etc).

      If you need to talk more about what is going on between you and your mother we might be able to offer help or just give you some support in the matter. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help from us or anyone that you trust.


  • Well I have a dilemma on my hands. So my mother decided that we will move by the beginning of the next school year. We are currently living with family members and I don't want to live with her by myself since she has anger problems and constantly belittles me If I do something incorrectly and cusses me out like it's normal. I am a 16 year old male and I can think of my self to be very responsible and I live in Maryland. If push comes to shove and I can't convince here to let me stay here with my friends and family members, I was thinking of running away to a friends house then text my mom my location so that she couldn't call the cops and say i'm "missing" and then when she tries to pick me up I thought of just refusing till she goes to court in order to state that I became wayward which I think she doesn't have the guts to do. But I am not sure if this would work so if I apply for emancipation saying I would go to school and live at my friends out while paying sufficient "Rent" to the parents of my friends and I geta job will they let me get my emancipation or not? I do not want to live with my mom again and go through another cycle of depression and suicidal thoughts.

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      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes a lot of bravery to tell your story and reach out for help.

      It definitely sounds like living alone with your mom is not healthy for you as no child should ever be constantly belittled by their parent. We do offer a conference call service in which we could mediate a call between you and your mom about staying with your friends and family if you think that would be helpful. In terms of living at your friend’s house, your mom could still report you for being a runaway if you stayed at your friend’s house without her permission, but running away is only a status offense. In terms of getting emancipated, we are not legal experts, but that process can often be long and expensive. Usually you would have to prove in court that you are mature, have a place to live, and are able to financially support yourself, so it would be good to mention that you are getting a job and planning on living at a friend’s house.

      Thanks again for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. Feel free to give us a call anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at our website.

      Best of luck!

  • I’m a 15 year old male in the state of Missouri.

    Ive wanted to leave home for a long while. I turn 16 in a month but I’m down to my last straw with my family. Sometimes I feel like the adult because I am basically raising my little sister, I’m also the only one who does anything in the house. It’s not necessarily to say my parents are horrible people but because of the way they live I can’t live. I really never got to be a kid and still don’t have that chance. I know a place where I’d stay but if I left now what would happen? What are my options?

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      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents. You mentioned that you have someone to stay with if you left home. If you go to stay at this person's house without prior permission from your parents, they (or the adult in the household) could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your parents view the situation.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • I'm 15 and I've been through alot these past few years.
    my parents got divorced and he lives in america with his new wife and Me and my mom live in .... , when things finally started going good and I got an amazing person who made me happy they found out and beat me alot and made me break up with and he broke up with me.
    now they've been keeping me in house arrest and I'm not allowed to talk to a few of my friends.
    I don't know how I can keep going cause I've started smoking and drinking And I really wanna stop and I just wanna leave cause I'm scared I might start hurting myself and I don't wanna do that.
    Please help me.

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      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. Your mom should not be abusing you and treating you poorly - no matter what. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community-based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis-related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Hey, today was the worst day of my life and I did something bad and got caught and now I cant do anything and I feel heart broke and feel like I need to leave and I feel alone here I get treated differently and left at home all the time and all I do is stay in my room and I’m starting to feel suicidal and depressed. I have adult that I can stay with could they get arrested for letting me stay with them ?

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      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage to do so. It sounds like today has been very stressful and overwhelming, it must be really hard to live in an environment that exacerbating those feelings. You mentioned that you are starting to feel depressed and suicidal. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

      Regarding your question about getting in trouble with the authorities, we aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you are under the age of 18 do opt to leave your home your parents (or whoever your guardian is) can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents/guardians. Whoever you do stay with could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your parents/guardians view the situation.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • i want to leave i can't stay here anymore it's too toxic. im crying everyday and cutting and im so depressed, ive turn to drugs as a gateway and i feel like my life us being torn out my hands. i almost killed myself the otherday and its sad that i have to be suicidal to get what i want in life

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about how you have been feeling. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and its making you feel like you do not have control over your life. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255; suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to the National Alliance on Mental health crisis text line. If you feel like you need someone to talk to, you can text “connect” to 741741 to chat with a counselor.

      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Please do not hesitate to call us 24/7 at 1-800-7862929. You know yourself best, so if you do decide to leave, the National Safe Place can help find you a safe place to go. Text the word ”safe” and your current address to 44357 for a safe place.

      If you would like to talk more in detail, we are confidential and available 24/7 to listen. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe and stay strong,
      NRS

  • I really feel the need to get out of the negative toxic energy that’s in my house. My whole family hates me. And they’re very hateful people and I am not like that. And I grew up with an abusive background and I really feel like I’m being pushed off the edge and I’m just going to lose my mind if I don’t RUN AWAY!!!

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      It can be difficult asking for help, so thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. If you ever feel as if you are in immediate danger, please reach out to emergency services (911).
      Running away, if you are under the legal age of majority in your state, would be considered a status offence. This would result in you being taken back home if picked up by the police. If there is abuse going on at home, you could file an abuse report with your local police or by speaking with a mandated reporter, such as a teacher, religious leader, or coach.
      You also mentioned feeling as if you are going to be “pushed off the edge”, so we have also included the phone number for NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness): 1-800-950-NAMI.
      Thank you again for contacting us. If you would like to talk more about this situation, please feel free to reach us by phone or chat. Our hotline (1-800-786-2929) is available 24/7 and is toll free.

  • I’m 15 and my grandpa is mentally abusive, I want to go to my moms house and live with her is it possible at 15?

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      Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult telling others what has happened to you. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.

      We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. Your grandpa could potentially get in trouble for having you stay there if your parents didn’t give you permission to stay there. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state. If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

      We would love to talk more about the details of your situation so that we can work towards a solution you find acceptable. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline at 1-800Runaway (786-2929) or use our live chat. We hope this information was helpful and take care

  • I'm 15 and I'm tired of my mom treating me like a kid. I'm almost 16 and I wanted to know if I could go to a foster home and leave the house with her. I'm suicidal and I need help. I can't ask my mom because she doesn't listen to me. And I really need help I walk around all day with a smile like everything is going well but I'm hurting and I really want to get away from all my family. I want to be adopted so I can leave this life behind. I need to go somewhere ASAP I'm just tired of everything she has put me through and I can't be here anymore. If I die trying to escape then that's what I'll do. I just want to be removed from this house before I do something that gets me killed or in trouble. I'm not in the right grade because a lack of days I've missed but I'm very smart. I just need and want new parents please help me I'm begging

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      Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us your story. It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time right now and we hope to be able to help. We’re also sorry to hear that you are feeling suicidal. Your life is very important. If you begin having thoughts about hurting yourself or others and want to talk with someone anonymously, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. One resource that might work for you is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255. They also have an internet chat function through their website at suicidepreventionlifeline.org. You can also contact 911 to talk to someone right away.

      We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. The people you’re staying with could potentially get in trouble for having you stay there without your parents’ permission. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state.

      If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

      You mentioned that your mom has put you through a lot. If what you have been experiencing is abuse you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.

      Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline at 1-800Runaway (786-2929) or use our live chat.

      Stay strong,

      -NRS

  • Hey I’m 15 years old I’m female and I don’t feel safe in my home. I have trouble sleeping because people have tried to brake into my house I’m living it currently and they starred at me through the window. I also just have paranoia and ptsd. Anyways All my life I was treated like a slave from my parents making me do absolutely everything for them when they are very capable Of doing normal stuff other people do on a daily basis . All my life my parents have physically and mentally abused each other and me. My parents have been changed for child cruelty multiple times and whenever I tried to get child services involved they always leave thinking I’m safe in my house but that’s only because they only listen and believe my parents so I never get the help I need. I live in the state of Minnesota so running away is illegal and my parents have threaten me to call me a run away and put me in Juvie if I run away. Every night my parents would fight all night until 3:00 in the morning. I didn’t ever get sleep but I was expected to go to school anyways. I tried talking to teachers but again they only believe my parents..I guess they where very persuasive. Fast forwarding a couple years in the year 2016 my friends parents found out that I was being abused and they took me as their own. That summer I was the happiest I’ve ever been all my life since I was safe, had lots of food (forgot to mention this but all my life i was super poor and we barely had money for food. In 6 grade I was only 60 pounds) and I had a loving “family” . I stayed with the for a year in a half then again my parents persuaded the judge that I was safe and they took me away for no reason and then they had to let me go back with my parents in 2018. After that I my parents and I became homeless for the first time. Then we stayed with my dads friend for a little bit but then we became homeless again just finishing 8th grade. After that my father left me with my mom. She was very physical and mentally abusive to my dad so when dad left she put all of that abuse on me. Every night she would beat me for stupid reasons and tell me not to tell anyone because they don’t need to know and lots of people hit their child. I knew that was wrong but I really couldn’t do anything about it so I just took the beatings. I had to hide my bruises from everyone at school and I’d sometimes cover them up with makeup. I didn’t care about hiding my scars I got from her because I could just blame my nonexistent cat even tho it didn’t look like cat scratches but they still bought it. After a long while I got back in touch with my dad. He wasn’t a physical abuser so I decided to go with my dad after being homeless for the 3nd time with my mom. And that leaves us to now In 2019 August 28th. I’ve been living with him for a while at my old friends house. Well here goes.. My dads an ass and only cares about me as a trophy daughter . He also says that he cares about me and wants me to talk to him if somethings bothering me but whenever I talk to him he tells me to suck it up and to stop thinking like the victim. He also hits me if I try to hold his arm or he pushes me away when I try to give him a hug in public. (My parents are getting a divorce ) The fact that Court custody date is this Friday. I honestly don’t want to go with my dad or mom. I was thinking about running away but that’s not a good plan so I was thinking about going to the police office but that’s scary. I wanted to live with my friend for a bit so my dad can save up money because where going to be homeless again and I don’t want to go through that for the 4th time in 2 years plus we barely have money for food. I’m surrounded by people who are always negative and talk about death and cutting and stuff. My roommate abuses me....but I don’t say anything and I just take it and let it happen. I have barely any energy for anything. I cut myself and left a scar last night when I promised myself that I wouldn’t do it again..even tho I didn’t realize I was cutting myself...that’s how upset I was. I’m usually alone all the time...and I don’t get any physical affection and I run on that... I just really want to run away to my friends house and stay there. Idk what to do...I’m probably gonna have to go back with my dad because he’s very persuasive. I just really really need help...please. Sorry if not all of this long paragraph doesn’t make sense I’m extremely exhausted.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. You have been through so very much, it is understandable that you are exhausted from stress and not sleeping and PTSD. Any one of these issues are serious; and all of them together, well, we believe you when you say that you don’t feel safe in your home. We are very sorry that your teachers don’t believe you and that CPS believes your parents instead of you. We believe you.
      As far as immediate help, it may be possible to bring all of this to the judge on Friday. Maybe you can ask one of the parents where you lived for the summer. Having another adult as your witness and ally and who may be ready to step up and take you in again. If you think this is possible, try to use today and tomorrow to write down your recent history with your parents. Start by telling the judge that you are not safe with them and that you have scars to show. That will get the judge’s attention.
      If your friends can’t come with you, have their contact information on paper for the judge, including work number, if they will be at work, and certainly let your friends know what your plan is, if this is what you decide to do. There is so much more in your message that we would like to help you with. We really are here to listen and to help you. You can reach us immediately by calling 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through our live chat service via www.1800runaway.org This way we can talk through everything and help you discover the options to help in your situation.
      We hope this helps and we look forward to hearing from you.
      Sincerely, NRS

  • I wish I can run away and start a new life. I'm miserable with my family. My mom being afraid to stand up for her self. My dad who thinks he's better then anyone else. My abusive brother. My other brother who's in middle school and smokes. My sister who's following bad influences from my brothers. And my youngest brother who I'm scared to leave behind with this horrible family. My mom is abusive to me. I hate her. I wish she never my mother. When I grow up I never want to see these people ever again or maybe I am crazy. I'm not sure if there's something wrong with me or them. I'm truly disappointed in my mom. She is no mother she is a lady because a mother loves, cares, and protects, and this lady failed at it. I can't wait to be 18! Best day ever.

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