im 15 and wanting to run away

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Hello, im 17 with asian parents living in the uk.


i was physically and emotionally/verbally abused since birth. they would never leave any scars, but would occasionally leave bruises which made me feel so alienated and enious of other kids as i would always see them smiling and happy with their family, with out bruises on their body. they stopped the physical abuse at the age of 13 as i started to threaten calling the police and fighting back whenever they did. ive been told by my older sister that even before i could speak i would be hit if i ever cried at midnight, and if that didnt work my parents would put me out into the back garden (which does sound like something theyd do). they also forced me to work for their chinese takeaway without any pay since the age of 10 up until 14 when they sold it, acting as if the food was pay. the emotional/verbal abuse lasted till i was 15 nearly 16.

ive always wanted to runaway as a kid, as early as 8, but didnt because i was scared if i got caught theyd beat me and i wouldnt know where to go, or how to survive on my own. but now that im older i think im capable of taking care of myself

nowadays, they are still controlling and manipulative, but not as abusive. they like to pretend (and think) we're now a happy familly, but we lowkey dysfunctional. my parents talk as if the passed never happened and would bring up theyre grand kids and what not.

this kind of behaviour angers me alot. if i ever end up having any kids (which i wont as i know what bringing a helpless soul that didnt have a choice of weather they wanted to be alive in this world, and ********ing their life up is like), i would NEVER let them meet.

i plan on running away from this place. though my parents do not do anything illegal now, i am filled with anger and deep hatred whenever i see them, hear them, or even thing of them. on top of that the living conditions are the greatest (i wouldnt say terrible, but i have an extremely small room big enough for a small bed that is shorter than my height and thin walls that do not black any sound). when i do runaway i might the police and find somewhere to stay as i dont wanna stay with any other family/relatives.

from some other posts i saw you guys usually say that child services come in as i am not 18 yet. i wanted to know if child services are going to except me being full of anger and animosity as a genuine reason for me to run away or if theyre gonna think that im just another "lil baby **********" that ran away from home for the fun of it as they dont do anything illegal anymore and if asked about the past, they would deny it.


Thank you,
D.

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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a stressful situation at home and that you want to live elsewhere. Since you are a minor, you would usually need to be 18 to leave home without permission. If you leave before then, your mom would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police are able to find you, they may return you home. You might consider asking for permission to stay with a friend or another family member.
You mentioned that you feel uncomfortable staying at home with your mom and her boyfriend; it could be an option to speak with your mom about how you’ve been feeling. Together, you might be able to figure out a way to make you feel more comfortable. If you need help having that conversation, please feel free to reach out to us anytime. We can call out to your mom and keep the conversation productive and fair. If you need any additional help figuring out your next steps or locating resources, give us a call. Our number is 1-800-786-2929.
Stay safe!
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Hi,
Thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a very stressful situation with your family and feel like there aren’t options. We want you to know first and foremost that your life matters and is important. You deserve to feel loved and supported, and we’re so sorry to hear that your family isn’t doing that for you. Please know that there are options available to you. If you feel like you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself, you can always call 9-1-1. Another resource that could be helpful is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255. You are not alone in this!
It sounds like home does not feel like a safe place for you. We’re not certain what your situation is based on your post. However, if there is a abuse going on at home, you always have the right to file an abuse report with child protective services. To find out more information about filing an abuse report and what the outcome of doing so might be, you can call the National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453. This hotline is confidential and can also help you figure out options for getting custody transferred from your parents to another adult if there is abuse going on. Your teachers or school counselor are also there to support you as well. They are considered mandated reporters, meaning they are legally obligated to file an abuse report if they hear of any abuse.

Another option is to leave home. If you feel that you’re unsafe where you are, it’s completely valid that you would want to leave. You know your situation better than anyone and if you want to leave, we support you and want to help you plan for your safety. While we’re not legal experts, we can share some general information about runaway laws. Generally speaking, you need to be 18 to leave without parental consent. If you do choose to leave without permission, your parents would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police find you, they may return you home. If there’s abuse going on at home, you might want to let the responding officers know. They are supposed to investigate allegations of abuse. Usually, there are not legal repercussions for running away. Before leaving you might want to consider the following: where you’ll go, how you’ll get there, if you have money and food, whether you have clothing for extreme weather, etc.
It can also help to talk to someone about how you’ve been feeling. You might consider talking to a therapist or a guidance counselor. You deserve to be supported, even if that support doesn’t come from your family. Please know that we are also here for you if you ever need someone to listen, help you figure out your next steps, or locate resources. You are not alone in this and we would love to hear from you. Our number is 1-800-786-2929. We’re here for you any time, all the time.
Stay safe!
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hi im 15 about to be 16 in august and i just want to get out of this house living with my mom and her boyfriend. I'm not comfortable staying here I just want to be adopted by another family if possible .. please help

I'm at the point where if death happens to be the only way I can get away from my crazy family then I'm ready to die I'm 15 ffs

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out in what seems like a very difficult time for you. We hope that we can help you explore some options.

We’re sorry to hear that no one in your family is getting along with each other, and we understand how that environment can seem unhelpful or stressful for youth. Unfortunately, if you leave your home without your parents’ permission, then you risk being filed as a runaway and being returned home by the police like you have already been. Legally, there are a few options that you may want to consider. Because we are not legal experts, we can’t initiate these processes for you, but we can refer you to other agencies who can get you started. Because it is likely that you’ll have to use local resources to initiate any of these legal processes, and because we don’t refer to local resources on our public forums, you will need to call into us at 1-800-786-2929 or email us at [email protected] to receive referrals to resources that help youth in your situation. If you email, please include your age and city/state.

One option you may consider is emancipation, which legally permits you to live on your own or in the company of someone else without your parents’ permission. This process also makes a youth financially independent of their parents. Emancipation also is a court-mediated process that can be expensive and time-consuming. Therefore, it is not for everyone. Additionally, some states may not offer emancipation, or may only offer it to people who are older than you. You can feel free to call into us to ask about emancipation in your state.

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Im 15 turning 16 soon and i dont wanna live in my house anymore. no one gets along and ive ran away multiple times but they call the cops to bring me back. i want to further my education but live somewhere else. I already have somene that would take me in but my parents wont let me leave. i dont know what to do. im open to get a job and stay in school if i leave, i just dont feel comforatble living here anymore and i feel like i would be much happier somewhere else

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are sorry to hear about the issues that you are having with your parents. Although emotional / mental abuse is harder to prove, you still have the right to report it. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource for abuse reporting and information on how to transfer custody. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to move in with another family member or close friend. You may also want to talk to someone that you could try such as a teacher or school counselor. You mentioned that suicide, your life matters ! Although you are going through a tough time with your parents you are not alone. Talking to someone about how you feel could help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) could provide you with support. Suicide is a permanent decision for temporary problems. If you have any additional questions or would like to discuss mre options, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.


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Im 15 and i am honestly tkred of my parents. I feel stdessed and mentally abused by them. They tell me im not doing good enough in school after i just made honor roll and have a 3.68 GPA. But they swear at me telling me that i am not doing good enough. Can i be put into foster care, i cry to myslef in the shower at nighf thinking im not good enough for them. I dont want my life to turn bad or have that as my life story. I dont want them dead or anything. I just want out. Is there even a thing called mental abuse? Is it even possible to permanently leave my family? Idk if i want to keep crying to myself, and this is the only other thing i can do besides suicide.

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Hey,
Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a tough position and it takes a lot of courage to reach out for support. It can definitely be difficult to be going through issues with custody and it’s understandable that you’re concerned about what would happen if you started attending public school. Those concerns are valid and you deserve to be supported. You mention that you’re unsure of what you may do to yourself if you stay in your current situation. Please know that if you ever feel like you’re in immediate danger of hurting yourself, you can always call 9-1-1. Another resource that you might find helpful is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255.
We’re not legal experts, but generally speaking you need to be 18 to leave home without permission. If you do leave, your family would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police find you they would simply return you home. Generally speaking, there aren’t legal consequences beyond that, but since we are not legal experts we cannot speak with complete certainty.
That being said, if you do leave you might want to consider the following: where you’ll go, how long you’ll stay there, if you have clothes appropriate for extreme weather, where you’ll get food and money, etc. Your safety is important, and it can be difficult being on your own, especially since you will not be a legal adult for another couple years. You may also want to consider what your backup plan would be if for some reason your girlfriend’s plan doesn’t work out.
Thanks again for reaching out. If you want to speak more specifically about yours situation please feel free to reach out to us. Our lines are open 24/7, so someone is always here to listen or help you find resources. Best of luck to you. Stay safe.

i’m a 15 year old female.

i want to run away with my girlfriend who has a car. she says she has a place where we can go and that it would be very unlikely for my parents to find us. i trust her because i’ve known her for two years. but if my parents or law enforcement finds me i’m afraid of what they could do. i live in north carolina. if they find me could they take me to juevenile detention or something like that? i don’t want to go to any type of jail. my parents are split and there’s a lot going on with custody and my schooling. i’m currently homeschooled but the judge gave a court order in which i have to attend public school. i have very bad anxiety that prevents me from mentally being able to take that. i’m ready to go soon. i just want to make sure i’m not getting into a lot of trouble doing so. i would be leaving without my parents knowing , i’m thinking of leaving them a note explaining that i am fine but i fear for what i may do to myself if i stay in my current living situation.

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Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have experienced a lot in your life and it is understandable that you would be exhausted. Experiencing as mush trauma as you have can take a toll on your health- mental and physical. It is a great sign of maturity to seek help when needed. You mentioned that you have been have been trying to help yourself but things just do not seem to work out. Have you considered trying to talk to a therapist about what you are experiencing? Often times having someone to confide in can help you brainstorm other ideas not thought of. In addition to brainstorming, it could be helpful to have additional support from someone who is not bias or judgmental. If you would like we can try using our database of resources to find services near you. We have a 24/7 hotline you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online as well. Again, we appreciate you reaching out to us when you are in such a tough situation.

My name is Aleisha and Iam 15 years old. I have ranaway before and when I came back, I went to 2 group homes. So that, I could get help and get better. Iam home now with my step mom and Dad. I want to runaway again. Iam mentally physically tired everyday. I just dont get the love I want from home. I know better but, this is the way out for me right at this moment. This is soooo hard. I been thru alot. I was gang affiliated, almost sex trafficked and now my temptation is to go back. Iam struggling. please help me.

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Hi there,

If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

Best of luck,
NRS