im 15 and wanting to run away

Hi I am 15 1/2 and like most people I don’t feel like belong in my family I deciding to run away because I honestly really don’t know what else to do. Before this I have considered suicide but I am over that and thinking rather to just run away and to work hard to support my self and maybe more. Not like most I am not mad at my parents I love them It’s just that my mom and my dad fight all the time and are now most likely divorce. The divorce does not bother me but the fighting does. My dad is a loving caring father same with my mom but my dad can be like a kid sometimes in the sense he can get really mad for no reason especially when he is nervous almost like bipolar. My mom again loving caring mom but can also get mad but I can understand sometimes because of my dad but recently she said I’m against her or whatever and that if my parents divorce that she wants me to go with my dad which really hurt me because I actually understand her Situation and don’t want to be with my dad . I don’t want to pick sides or anything and I feel like running away is my only option but I don’t what to do and at the same time I love my parents. My parents will definitely be sad if I left . But me... I.... know that it’s horrible like this me there. I’m honestly very confused and don’t know what to do. I know you guys aren’t lawyers but what do I do, do I leave, do I stay

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us and sharing about how you have been feeling internal in comparison so how your parents treat you based on assumptions of what you feel. We appreciate your honesty and it sounds like you have been trying to improve yourself through various outlets and therapy. It sounds like you are in a complicated place and have talked about a place where you would be able to focus on yourself. It may be good to think about a place where you think that can happen and call into us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY so we can further assist you in thinking about how you can move forward.

We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.

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Hi, I’m 13, I deal with disorders that make it hard to control my anger and the way I talk with my parents. The thing is, they think I don’t care, that I want to do whatever I please, but the truth is their wrong. I actually truly love my parents, every time we argue I feel so bad, I even self harm. I go to therapy, do everything I can to get better but the relationship with my parents, is so bad, it ruins everything. I really don’t want to keep hurting my parents and feeling crappy because, that’s the only thing blocking my way from getting better. I don’t know what to do, I stress myself, my parents make me feel sad, and I may cause it, but the thing is I’m not emotionally okay so I deal with things differently then they do, which can be dangerous for me. I want to move out, be in a place where I can focus on myself, become better, study, and be productive without having my parents stressing me extremely much. Thank you

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear about the problems you are having with your parents. It seems like they are very strict. You mentioned that you have considered suicide, talking to someone could help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is a great resource for support. You stated that you really want to leave home. If you decide to leave without your parents permission, they have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away isn't against the law but if you decide to stay with a friend, they could get charged with harboring a runaway. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with another family member. If there is any abuse at home, you could report the abuse to Child Protective Services. Another option that you have is looking into emancipation laws for your state. If you have any questions or just want to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.


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I’m 15 male who live in an asian household and I want to leave home
I am what you consider a prime example of a student, I make very good grades contribute in class and is usally favored amongst teachers.
But at home it just takes a turn. My parents won’t let me do anything I want to, and everything has to fit to their desires and their view and I have no say in the matter even though I have valid explanation. Along side this they always make me feel little and worthless. Although I have really good grades and excel in education, they make it seem like I did nothing and that I owe it to them to do good in school.
They won’t let me do or get anything I want that they do not approve(specifically my dad). Like I have given up my drive to do anything. I work so hard in school and I get nothing in return, not even appreciation. I feel so trapped and worthless and I’ve considers suicide multiple time. I really want to leave but I don’t know how I’m going to do.
If I was in another typical family I would be considered a perfect child but I had to be stuck with the strict, unappreciative, non understanding, asian family who thinks I’m worthless.

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Hi,
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a tough position at home and it must be really hurtful that your dad seems to favor your younger brothers over you. You don’t deserve to be threatened ever! You absolutely deserve to feel safe, supported, and loved where you are. You mention that you’re wanting to live with your older sisters, which could be a great option. Since you are a minor, you would need your parent’s permission to go live with your sisters. You might consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling at home and why you feel it would be best to live with your sisters. If you need help having that conversation, please don’t hesitate to give us a call. We are here to listen and help you come up with a plan! We also offer a conference call service, so if you’re nervous about having that conversation with your parents on your own, we can help you talk to them and try to keep the conversation fair and productive.
Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:

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Stay safe!

I'm a 15 year old boy who wants to leave my household. My parents don't even respect me at all, and they favor my younger brothers over me, instead of a mutual relationship with all of us. My dad told me that he was going to "beat the crap out of me," if I were to enter my younger brother's room again, and that I would be kicked out. The only reason I went in there is to tell him to stop yelling over a PlayStation. My dad came home, and he told me to go into my room, because I don't respect my younger brother's authority over his own room. I was babysitting my younger brother, and he locked his door, and wouldn't let me in. How could I babysit, if he locked himself in a room, yelling and crying? I want to go live with one of my older sisters, who are both over 20. I don't think I have many options, considering I am only 15. I just want to continue on with my school work, and not have to worry about this again.

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us today. It sounds like you've been dealing with a lot at home and you're looking for some answers. We're glad you're planning for your safety and considering pressing issues before you leave home. This is likely to keep you safer. We would love to help more, but we don't have any information about laws or resources for runaway youth in Canada. You can try Kid's Help Phone in Canada, 1-800-668-6868 https://kidshelpphone.ca/what-is-kids-help-phone. Hopefully they can help!

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I'm 15 and in grade 9 (in Canada)
I want to run away. I live with my stepmom and she took my phone and other devices months ago. She constantly gets me in trouble for no reason and tells me i cant talk on the phone or go out. Everyday she calls me names like a **** and ********** and leaves me notes giving me a bunch of work to do. I cant live with my dad because he'll tell her to take me back. I want to go to my moms but my stepmom might tell the authorities shes a unfit parent so i cant go. I would go to foster care but i wanna stay at my school because i'm on scholarship and at a shelter im scared my things will get stolen. She constanly judges me and is mean, she wont let me leave and said if i go to the police ill regret it.

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it take courage to seek help. You mentioned that you have thought about suicide, talking to someone about those thoughts could help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is a great resource for support. It sounds like you are overwhelmed with things right now and thinking about running away. Having a plan about where you would go and how you would take care of yourself is important. If you decide to runaway, your mom has the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away isn't against the law unless you have a previous record you wouldn't get into legal trouble. You mentioned wanting to live with your best friend. If you were to stay with your best friend without your mom's consent, your friends mom could get charged with harboring a runaway. You could try asking your mom if she would allow you to stay with your grandmother or your best friend. Another option that you have is looking into emancipation laws for your state. We are not legal experts so we cannot say for sure whether you would be sent in front of a judge if you get caught running away. You can still attend school as a runaway, there is a program called the McKinney-Vento act that allows youth to enroll in school. For more information about the McKinney-Vento act, you could contact (1-800-308-2145). If you have any other questions or just want to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

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i am 15 and i want to run away

my story is a little different. i live in Nevada. i was having issues with my biological mother to the point i was mentally unhealthy. with her i was miserable for years. a few times i thought suicide was an option, but i never had the guts to do it. i have a step father and step sister and that is her family. i lived with them since i was young but still to this day i do not feel as comfortable as a family member should. we tried counselling and fixing this issue for years. i am a trouble maker i admit so that did start a problem with how strict they are. about a year ago i got in trouble and my mom decided to sent me to my grandmothers house. i have lived with her and her family here for about a year and i can say i have grown into a much better person. my mindset has become healthier and i have only gotten in trouble twice. recently i got in trouble for stealing which is breaking the law, i also have failing grades. my mother has decided to take me back with her in about 2 months. i dont want to go because i love my life more than i ever have with this family. and i know i made my mistakes and my grandmother doesn't need the stress. so i was thinking about running away. my best friend and her mom have talked to me saying i am able to live with them until i am 18. her mom doesnt have a problem with it and she adores me very much. she is also buying a bigger house in a month or two. what i am scared of is being caught and sent back to my moms house immediately and not having the chance to at least live with her again until im 18.


my questions are,

what options do i have?

if i get caught will i be sent to a judge for a hearing? or imminently with my mother?

will i be able to still go to school for the next 3 years being a runaway?

will i be able to live with my grandmother again if i get caught?

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Hi there,
Thanks so much for reaching out to us about these problems that are going on at home. We understand how this could be difficult for you, and how these situations could leave you wanting some help.

Some of the situations you describe sound like they could endanger your safety and well-being. Your parents should not be putting their hands on you to harm you, nor should they be engaging in mentally or emotionally abusive behaviors targeted at you. You deserve to feel safe at home and abuse gets in the way of that. Please feel free to call us to talk more about these experiences with your parents, or to file an abuse report to CPS.

We also want to check for your safety because you mention having a history of suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts. We want to let you know that we care about your safety and want you to seriously consider calling 911 if you think you are an immediate danger to yourself. We also definitely invite you to reach out to us to speak about these feelings you’ve had. A lot of people contemplating suicide benefit from talking to someone. It helps keep people from having to deal with the burdens of their problems on their own. Even if someone can’t fix your problems, they may be able to provide you support. You can reach out to us any time at 1-800-786-2929.

We also just want to invite you to talk to us about things that are going on in your life that are challenging for you in some way. You say that people don’t believe what you’re telling them right now, and we are somewhere you can turn to where you will be believed.

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I am 15 years old, and I want to get Emancipated, or I want to divorce my family. My family in my opinion, is verbally and mentally abusive. They have left bruises on me before from me getting spanked, but by the time I told someone, the bruises were gone, and I just looked crazy. CPS, came over to my house, once, and my whole family turned against me, and the another situation where CPS came to my grandmas, the same thing happened. Since i am diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and bipolar, and have attempted suicide twice, and have been to two mental hospitals for those suicide attempts, I feel as if, no one will believe me, and that think I'm crazy. Every time i try to talk an adult about certain situations, they always believe my parents. Because we live in a house, there is food to eat, and all in all, everything looks decent, it makes me look spoiled, and like I am crazy. I just want out of this family. I am tired of it, I am tired of them. Please help me with some advice.

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Hello,

Thanks for reaching out to us. First off, abuse is never okay and something no one should go through. Your safety is our number one priority. You can call us any day, at any time and we would be happy to help you through this, whether that means providing you with support or walking you through the process of filing an abuse report. You can reach us at 1-800-Runaway. Consider reaching out to Child Help, the National Child Abuse Hotline. You can find them at childhelp.org or at 1-800-422-4453. They will be able to provide you with resources and also help you to file an abuse report. Also, do not hesitate to call the police at 911 if at any point your safety feels threatened. We applaud you for coming to us- it takes a lot of strength.

It sounds like you are anxious to get out of your home, but concerned about being put into the system. We are not legal experts, but because you are 15 if your father files an abuse report the police will look for you and bring you home- despite being in a different state.

Give us a call if you have any more questions or would just like to talk. You can also reach us through out chat service located on our website, www.1800runaway.org. Remember, we are here and happy to help.

Best,
National Runaway Safeline

Im 15 in Texas my dad is highly abusive but the system is so much worse i want to run away with my boyfriend is there anyway i can with out my dad finding where i am they are moving to georgia in a few weeks could my dad still track me even if i go with them?