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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

    You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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    I'm wanting to move out once I turn fifteen. I'm fourteen right now, but found out that I cannot legally move out until I'm 18 because I live in utah. I want to move out because I'm afraid for being mocked and verbally put down by my parents words about my wanting to be transgender. My parents are highly religious and do not want me moving forward with this, but I have nowhere else to go. I do not want to be homeless. Help?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us.
    It is a hard feeing to not feel wanted in your home and we are sorry you are feeling that way. But leaving may cause more depression and will not make your problems disappear. You may want to consider talking to a school counselor or therapist about what is going on at home. They may be able to provide support and coping skills. Suicide is a very serious matter and it is not bad you feel that way. But we do want you to know you are important and you are worth living. If you are ever feeling suicidal or just need someone to talk to please reach out to The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: 1800-273-8255. You are not alone in this, there is always someone willing to listen and willing to provide support.
    We hope that this information will be helpful in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are available 24/7. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I’m 15 and I want to move out. I don’t feel wanted here. I feel like I’m the problem if I go away it will make everything better. And it’s making me to the point I’m wanting to commit suicide is it bad to feel that way? I feel like I’m leaving in a toxic house.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and we are here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time, we want you to know that you are not alone.

    Abuse is never okay and we are sorry to hear that you are dealing with that. You do not deserve to be abused and you do have the right to make a report. There are a few ways that you can go about making a report. One option to consider would be to contact Child Help at 1800-422-4453, and they can help with a report. You can also chat with us or call us any time and we can help you with making a report.

    Unfortunately, since we do not know your parents it is hard to say the best way to ask if you could live with someone else. You could try asking when they are in a good mood, and at a good time of day. At NRS we offer conference calling where we can help you have these conversations. How that works if you would need to call us and then we can reach out to your parents.

    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support!
    NRS

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    My parents got divorced a few months ago and ever since my dad hasn’t been the same. I’m currently living with him and my brother, and my dad is verbally abusive, and my brother, physically abusive. It’s hard being a 15 year old female living in a house with a 50 year old and 17 year old brother. I have a job, in which I work full time, and I depend on my family and friends for rides there, and they treat that like they are my savior and make me act like they are. Im tired of living in a place I feel constantly uncomfortable and neglected. I have bruises all over my body from my brother, and I hardly feel any emotions anymore due to my dad. I have the option of moving in with my mom, but she’s even worse than both of them combined. Im at a loss here. I have many friends who are over 18, and are willing to take me in, but I don’t want to inconvenience them. I also don’t want to deal with the whole process of getting emancipated, and even if I did I would have to wait a year. Sometimes my dad can be very understanding, and my mom can be like that as well, how do I convince them to let me live with someone else, because that seems to be my only option here. I’m afraid they’re gonna say no and then my relationship with them will be worse and my life will be harder.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us and sharing a little bit about what you are going through. You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    I’m 15 and I get verbally abused every day and I’m sick of it , I barely eat because there’s never any food and I just so tired of this is there anyway I can move out because I’m really so close to just running away and being homeless

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you have been through so much, and as hard as it has been we are so glad you are still here. You deserve to feel safe and validated in your home.

    We are not legal experts, but we do have some general knowledge on runaway laws. The easiest way to leave home without the involvement of CPS or police is with the permission of your parent or guardian. You know best if this is a possibility. Emancipation may be another option. However, not all states offer this service and usually young people have to be 16 or older and able to fully support themselves with a job and school. The emancipation process can be lengthy, so if it is something you would like to explore, now could be a good time. If you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat us through our website, www.1800runaway.org, we may be able to connect you with a local legal expert. The third option we are aware of is abuse reporting. We fully understand this can be an overwhelming option that also takes time. If this is something you would like to explore, you could give us a call or chat to talk through it with you and possibly even help you make a report if you choose to do so.

    We understand how isolating it can be to live in a toxic environment. Your life is important, and we are so glad to hear you have friends who would take you in if you have to leave home. Now may be a good time to look towards them for support. It takes a great deal of strength and courage to reach out, and we are so appreciative you decided to turn to us. If you find that you're continuing to have suicidal thoughts, know that you can reach out to us for support, we would be happy to help however we can. Another good option is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, who you can reach by calling 800-273-8255. And of course, if you find yourself in an emergency situation where you need immediate support, please contact your local police department.

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Im a 14 and I will be 15 in october I need to move out my household is toxic I am not aloud to have any freedom I have been verbally and somewhat physically abused and I feel like killing myself because I don't think I can take 4 more years of living here what is the best and quickest way I can move out into a friends house or get emancipated I don't want to get social services or CPS involved at the moment I just want to figure out what to do then move on from there.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there, and thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It sounds like things at home are pretty tough between you and your family, and we're sorry to hear that you're going through all that.

    Running away is a pretty big decision, and it's generally a good idea to have a plan in place before committing to it, which it seems like you're trying to do now. Consider where you'll go, how you'll get there, and what you'll do to survive once you're there. It's also helpful to spend some time thinking about your safety and what steps you can take to try and safeguard that. It's important that you approach this time from a realistic standpoint and that you have some tough conversations with yourself about what you want, what makes the most sense to get you to that point, and if there are any other worthy options you might be able to consider along the way. You mentioned that you have a family member that lives three hours away, and while that is definitely a decent trip, if that's an option, it might be a good idea to think about. If you'd prefer to stay closer to where you are now, it might be helpful to see if you have any friends that you can stay with, or if you might be able to stay in a local shelter or Transitional Living Program (TLP).

    If you'd like to talk about your situation in more detail or continue to explore your options with a safe person, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    If you find that you're continuing to have suicidal thoughts, know that you can also reach out to us for support. Another good option is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, who you can reach by calling 800-273-8255. And of course, if you find yourself in an emergency situation where you need immediate support, please contact your local police department.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    HI I am 14 I am turning 15 in 5 months and I ran away once this February because I couldnt deal with the punishments my parents have put upon me. I had no privacy .they took my door, I had no phone (which they constantly checked) I couldnt eat with them at the same table , I had no way to contact my friends ..I felt and I still feel trapped...I told them once about my feelings and they didnt believe me they just told me "its an excuse" even my brother told me "everything you said was bull********" and yes my brother listens to every private conversation I have with my parents. Their has been many times were i have experienced physical and emotional abuse. Just recently my father pushed me and pinned me down and screamed at me to say the truth. (I hadn't even started saying anything yet ) I cant live in a home where im scared every single time my parents get close to me. I live in this fear that one day they'll get to mad. I told them I wanted to run away again and they were fine with it. Ive looked into emancipation but I dont work. The nearest family member lives like 3 hours away from me. I don't know where to go but all i know is I have to leave this hell or I wont live to see myself reach 18. Ive had constant suicidal thoughts and my father tells me that I dont need a therapist and Im fine. At home I feel so mentally drained and I dont have the energy to do the things I loved anymore. I live on repeat. Everyday i wake up and I get yelled at for not doing a chore. I try really hard to do everything they tell me so I can avoid getting yelled at just once but they always find something new. I just want to be happy again so I need to leave this place and never come back. Please help me.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    i’m 15 and i wanna move out of my house i’ve been going through so much ******** and i found out my parents don’t love me and my grandparents keep accusing me of stuff i didn’t do i just wanna run away from it all but i’m just worried about getting arrested

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS! We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you decided to.

    Leaving at home, whether you're 12 or 15 (or even older), can unfortunately come with its share of problems if you don't have permission from your parent to leave. And while those might not be problems that affect you directly, since running away generally isn't considered a crime, it could pose some legal issues for anyone who allows you to stay with them, like your family member or a friend. A good way to avoid these potential issues is to see if your parents will give you consent to stay someone else. Say if they agree to let you stay with your family member, that family member will be unlikely to get in trouble with the law for harboring a runaway.

    You really do sound like a hard worker, and it's great that you're thinking about what's next for you and how you'll you there. Having a plan is important, and it seems like you're really trying to think through things to prepare for your future. If you need any support in figuring out next steps, your school counselor or social worker might be a good person to talk to. They can help you set some additional goals and fine-tune those plans so that you really feel comfortable in what's to come. They're also good folks to talk to in general!

    If you'd like to continue to chat through your situation, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS
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