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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us today, it was very brave of you. It sounds like you are going through such a hard time. We are here to help you and support you in any way we can.

    We are so sorry that you lost your mother at such a young age, it sounds like you’ve been through a lot of pain. You deserve to be happy and loved. It’s wrong that your uncle and aunt treat you so terribly. We are so glad that you have your grandmother and that she’s wanting you to live with her. We do offer conference calling services between youth and their guardians, if you want us to help you talk to them. Or maybe your grandmother could help you talk to your parents. We’re here to help you think through these options.

    We also have resources for legal aid, they’re lawyers who help youth. We can look one up in your area and they would know more about custody.

    If you feel comfortable, please reach back out to us. Our safeline is open 24/7 at (800) 786-2929 and you can chat with us on our website at www.1800runaway . We want to talk with you and support you through this time.

    Best, NRS

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    I'm a 13 year old female, and iv'e been through ALOT of stuff. My mom passed away when I was 8, and I moved into my abusive aunt and uncle's house. Now they are my legal guardians and I don't know what I can do to leave. I already told my grandma that I wanna go live with her and she said that was okay but I would have to bring it to court. I don't Know how to tell my parents that I want to leave, so could you give me advise on how to bring it up to them?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it seems like you are having a lot of conflict with your parents and have been attacked instead of supported by them. Its understandable to feel frustrated and look for ways to cope. It seems like you have turned to self-harming as a form of coping, if you are looking for some potentially healthier ways to cope https://twloha.com/ is a useful resource. It may also be worth looking for a counselor or therapist to help talk things out and cope.
    If you were to run away to your aunts’ house your parents could still have you come back home by filing a runaway report. It’s possible that police would listen to your story and choose to investigate possible child abuse before they brought you home. If you want more information on that you could look at http://childhelp.org/.
    If you have other questions please reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online.

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    I just turned 15, I'm in a toxic relationship with my mom and step dad, they verbally abuse me to the point of hurting my self. I desperately want out of this house hold, could I run away to my aunts house without being taken away from her.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Is there a legal way I can transfer custody to another family member without my abusive parents having a say in that I can do so or not?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone. You do not deserve to be abused in any type of way and we are sorry that you are going through that. You do have the right to make an abuse report and there are a few ways you can go about doing that
    . One option to consider is calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. You can also give us a call and we can help you make an abuse report. Another option is to tell a trusted adult.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could possibly happen if you were to leave. If you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home. Also whoever you were to stay with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway. You could look into emancipation, which may grant you adult rights before the age of 18. You can find out more information on emancipation by calling your local court house.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I'm 15 year old female, I live in a household that is only my mom and I. I want to move out because my mom verbally and mentally to the point I can't stand hearing her name or voice without it making me upset or angry. I'm not in any physical danger from her, but I don't know how much longer I can handle living with her. I have a friend that said would let me move in with them, but I can't just ask my mom to let me move out because she would say no. There are no family members I can move in with because they are just all the same as she is. I don't know what to do. My friend lives in a different state, but we are really close and have known each other for a long time.
    I really just want to get out of my house because I can't stand it. I really, really can't.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    It sounds like home is a very stressful place to be and it makes sense that you would want to leave. You mentioned that sometimes the abuse gets physical and that raises quite some concern for your safety and well being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 15 and i want to move out. I have been verbally and mentally abused for a few years now and in some situations even physically. Is there a way I am able to legally move out without them having a say in which makes me unable to?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what's going on. It sounds like the situation at home with your parents is affecting your mental health. It is not okay for your parents to hit you or call you names, I'm sorry you're being treated that way.

    Generally speaking, your parents are your legal guardians until you turn 18, so they can decide where you live. If you do choose to leave without permission, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can have the police return you home.

    The easiest way to leave home as a minor is with your parents’ permission. In this case, they would be allowing you to live somewhere else where you are safe and being cared for, it’s called an Alternative Living Arrangement. If your parents give their written permission, you can live with someone else (a relative or family friend, for example) until you turn 18. Sometimes having an adult advocate on your side can make communicating your needs more effective to your parents. Perhaps an adult family member, or a friend's parent can talk to your parents with you about your experience at home and the possibility of you leaving. We are not legal experts, so if you want more information you might consider talking to your school counselor to see if they could help you with the documentation, calling your local police department non-emergency number, or calling us so we can refer you to legal services that could answer any specific questions you may have.

    If you’d like to talk more about your situation and your options, please do not hesitate to reach out by calling us at 1-800-786-2929 or by chatting with us through our website at 1800runaway.org (click the chat button). We are 24/7 and confidential. We are here to listen, and here to help.

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    I’m a 15 year old female and my parents have become super strict and started taking away things I use to express my self. We have had bad arguments in the past that have led to yelling back and forth, getting hit a few times, them comparing me to my sister, and getting called unpleasant names. I’m sick and tired of them and want them out of my life fast. I was wondering if there was anyway for me to go live with a friend with out my parents permission or having to go to court. Talking to them is not easy and can lead to more arguing. I have even asked to talk to someone and they still haven’t taken me. Also any thing I say to my councilors at school will just take everything I say back to my parents.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS and for sharing a little bit about what's going on. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household and other family members are not supportive. It sounds like the stress you have been under while living there has become very overwhelming. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel safe and cared for.

    Generally speaking, your parents are your legal guardians until you turn 18, so they can decide where you live. If you do choose to leave without permission, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if your parents know where you are staying then they can have the police return you home.

    The easiest way to leave home as a minor is with your parents’ permission. In this case, they would be allowing you to live somewhere else where you are safe and being cared for. A helpful step is to start reaching out to friends and family members you might be able to stay with. Sometimes having an adult advocate on your side can make communicating your needs more effective to your parents. Perhaps an adult family member, a friend's parent or a counselor at school can talk to your parents with you about your experience at home and the possibility of you leaving.

    Child Help is an organization that advocates for young people in abusive and unhealthy situations. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelphotline.org to talk more about what your options might be for getting additional support in this situation.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

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    Guest replied
    Im a 14(turning 15 very soon) female. I cannot live at this house anymore. Please tell me there is some way i can get away from this hell hole

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us, we understand it takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. It really sounds like you have been feeling unhappy in your home for a while.

    We here at NRS are not legal experts, but we do know some general information. Running away is not illegal, it is considered a status offense. However, if your parents report you missing and the police found you, they could return you home. One thing we know that doesn’t happen very often, but is possible, is that harboring a runaway charges could be filed against the person who lets you stay with them.

    It is harder to find legal channels to be removed from your home, but we would be glad to explore some options with you if you feel like you need to be supported that way. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you can live chat us through our website https://www.1800runaway.org/. After this information, if running away still feels like your best option, we would also be glad to help you think through your safety plan.

    We hope that this information will help inform a plan that you feel is best for you. We would be glad to help and support you in any way that you feel you need. Thanks again for contacting us.

    Best,
    NRS
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