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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS! We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you decided to.

    Leaving at home, whether you're 12 or 15 (or even older), can unfortunately come with its share of problems if you don't have permission from your parent to leave. And while those might not be problems that affect you directly, since running away generally isn't considered a crime, it could pose some legal issues for anyone who allows you to stay with them, like your family member or a friend. A good way to avoid these potential issues is to see if your parents will give you consent to stay someone else. Say if they agree to let you stay with your family member, that family member will be unlikely to get in trouble with the law for harboring a runaway.

    You really do sound like a hard worker, and it's great that you're thinking about what's next for you and how you'll you there. Having a plan is important, and it seems like you're really trying to think through things to prepare for your future. If you need any support in figuring out next steps, your school counselor or social worker might be a good person to talk to. They can help you set some additional goals and fine-tune those plans so that you really feel comfortable in what's to come. They're also good folks to talk to in general!

    If you'd like to continue to chat through your situation, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    Im a older sister that is 12 but in June ill turn 13 i hate how I'm being treated and when im 15 or 16 im gonna try and move in with my aunt and probably not visit my parents we literally do everything at the house so of course I can clean and I can cook some foods i love to make cakes and im trying to buy a cheap apartment near me and support and fend for my siblings because I don't what them to go through what I am I am a great worker and I hope that someone will hair me even though im young im just hoping that if I told them my story they would help me. My dream job is to go to school for cosmetology and do hair and nail im really good already just please tell me if it's not agensed the law to move in with a family member at the age of 15 and what age do you have to be in order to move out I think im at a good start with 42.64 dollars thanks for listening and I hope you have the answer im looking for

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

    You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adult that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your father will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents/legal guardians to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your father could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so. Things may be a bit different in your state, we could look up the age of an adult for you if you would like to reach out via call or chat. We can talk about emancipation if you are a bit curious around that, as well as the option of running away before turning 18.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

  • ccsmod5
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things at home have been pretty overwhelming lately and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody, especially if you’re feeling unsafe at home.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hello im 15 turning 16 this summer and I have a tough situation which i will try to describe as best as i can even though im very bad at words. My mom lives in a different state and i live with my father who has full custody of me. I am transmasculine, nonbinary (i use the micro label paraboy) and im achillean omnisexual and greyromantic and my father is both homophobic and transphobic. Im not sure if i can call it verbal and psychological/emotional abuse but my dad is that way to me fairly often. I also do not believe in the same religion as he does and if i ever try to express that he just tries to make me doubt how i feel so i can believe what he believes although since i have recognized this i dont allow it to get to me much. The religion he is in is called Jehovah’s Witnesses and they are basically a cult although most people dont realize it and its really bad for me to be here. I currently have a plan to get a job once I’m 16 and save for a car so I can leave on my 18th birthday but I’m not exactly sure how much longer I can wait. I know of emancipation and that I can go to court and tell them I’d like to live with my mother when im 17 but I’m terrified of my father and want to avoid anything court related or anything where he may have even the slightest chance to give his opinion about what id like to do and also possibly be able to keep custody of me till im 18 especially because my already hellish life will be even worse if that were to happen. I have seen some things say that in the state where I live because 17 year olds arent considered minors or adults theres a loophole in the law that allows them to move out without parental consent although i dont think something this good could be true i wanted to see if that was true or if theres some other options i have that would allow me to escape a little sooner. Btw I have talked to my mom about this and she is supportive of me but since a lot of times what she says shes gonna do she doesnt always do or she doesnt do it till way later than she said she would i cant really rely on her fully.

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    I’m 15 also and I want to get out of this house, I’m so tired of my mom and she doesn’t respect that I only have her and my mom dies, she’s get mad at me and my brother for every single thing and so called is a Christian and doesn’t know how to apologize for mistakes, she’s very abusive and doesn’t care about my feelings, I sit in my room all day just wishing that I can die, from all of this, my dad is gone, and my uncle is really the only one that I can talk to

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    im an fifteen yearold female and im sick of all the stupid ******** that happens. i snuck out to see my bf becausei barely get to go anywhere because my mom is scared immaget caught up in some stupid stuff and she has called the cops on me 9 going on 10 times for leaving because im tired of being here. i want to go live with my dad for a lil while until she gets ********ing right or just move out and live with a friend. what can i do?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out, we hope to help as best we can. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.
    If you think your parents/guardians would agree, there is also the option of an alternative living arrangement. Where your parents give permission for you to live with another family, if you would like we can help you have this conversation with your parents through a conference call.
    If you have any other questions about your situation and want more direct responses, please reach out to us via chat or call.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi i'm 15 years old and i would like to runaway. My family is better off without me. And i would like to be adopted by my friends parents.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there.

    Thanks for contacting us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

    Running away is a big step, and it's generally a good idea to spend some time thinking through a plan before making that decision. Having an idea of where you'll go, how you'll get there, and what you'll do to survive once you're there are important things to consider. It's also helpful to spend some time thinking about your safety and what steps you can take to try and safeguard that. It's important that you approach this time from a realistic standpoint and that you have some tough conversations with yourself about what you want, what makes the most sense to get you to that point, and if there are any other worthy options you might be able to consider along the way. As you mentioned, finding somewhere to go that's safe for you is one thing, but adding pets into the mix is another thing. Bringing them with you does not guarantee that they'll stay with you, nor that they will be getting what they need if they are with you, both of which should be considered.

    As you continue to think things through, it might be helpful for you to consider looking into therapy. Having a support system in place to help when things are feeling really heavy and overwhelming can really be beneficial in repairing relationships, but also in working on and healing ourselves individually. A therapist can also help you develop some of the tools needed to address some of the issues you're having that are causing you to want to leave. If this is something you're open to, a good starting point in finding a therapist is to reach out to your school counselor or social worker. Sometimes you can see them for a few sessions before looping your parents in, and they can also help advocate for you to maintain ongoing services if your parents are hesitant about letting you see a mental health professional.

    If you'd like to chat in more detail about what's going on, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    hi, im 14 and i’ve considered running away previously but never seriously up until now because i’ve learned a lot about myself that my very religious mother definitely wouldn’t approve of.
    but i have two cats and two 80lb dogs, no way im ever going to leave them behind. the dogs and the younger cat would definitely do just fine, but i’m worried about my other cat who is pretty old (probably 13+)
    i also don’t know how i would, pretty much just a child find safe housing on my own let alone with four pets.
    help?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Im 15 , can i move into a friends house legally with out parent permission in New York state ???

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like your family has been making it difficult to live at home, and that you feel unsafe living there. We're sorry to hear that you've been going through that at home. First and foremost, safety is our top priority at NRS. If you feel you are ever in an unsafe situation at home, please contact local emergency services and authorities immediately. It may help to speak to a school counselor, contact social services, or talk to another adult outside the home about what has been happening to learn more about abuse reporting. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Secondly, it also sounds like you feel your family is contributing to your mental health issues and that you have self-harmed because of it. Again, at NRS, your safety and well-being is our biggest concern. A great resource is the Crisis Text Line, which is a free, 24/7 and confidential crisis line that is available online, since you stated you do not have a phone. A crisis counselor will respond immediately and help if you are feeling down, feel like self-harming, or having suicidal thoughts. Their website is www.crisistextline.org and you can also message them through Facebook Messenger by messaging “HOME”.

    Third, it seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you may feel like running away. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parents may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with, may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law in your county, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. If you are looking for legal aid help in your area, a great resource is contacting United Way by calling 211. United Way is a free and confidential service available 24/7 that you can contact to find local resources in your area.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
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