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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much constant tension between you and your parents. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

    It seems like your parents don't fully understand how keeping the move from you has hurt you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 and i want to move out of my house. I've been dealing with verbal abuse from my parents (especially my dad) for about 2 years now and they treat me like ******** because i like to smoke weed. I know that sounds ridiculous but thy always overreact about stuff like that and i know they lie about that stuff too. But the main point is i'm trying to get my life together and being around them makes the process harder because all they do is ********** and complain about everything. Nothing positive. I recently found out we are gonna have to sell our house and our lake house that i love going to all the time. They never told me anything about getting another house and just last week my brother told me that we bought a house and they didn't wanna tell you until after all the paperwork and payments were through so i wouldn't have a say. I can tell that my mom has some sort of mental problem because she is a crazy ********** and my dad is miserable and has anger issues so i hate all the negativity in my life and really wanna move out. What should i do?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a hard time at home. It must be hard living in an environment where you are being mentally abused by your parents. If you ever want to report the abuse or talk to some about how being in that environment is making you feel contact Child Help at 1800-422-4453. It’s good that you have your aunt who seems supportive of you and will let you stay with her. Maybe you can try and have a conversation with your parents about you staying with her temporarily.
    Since you are a minor if you were to just leave without your parents’ permission they could report you as a runaway. Also whoever you live with could risk being charged with harboring a runaway. It may be worth it to try and talk to your parents or your aunt about coming to some type of compromise. It also could be helpful to seek some type of therapy or talk with friends, a school counselor in the meantime while you are still in the environment. Sometimes talking to someone about what is going on can be a relief until you can actually get out of the situation. You can also contact NAMI if you find yourself in a stressful situation or you are having rough day by calling 1800-950-NAMI. You can contact us as well at 1800-RUNAWAY. We are 24/7, confidential and here to help! Best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    I’m 15 year old female and I want to go live with my aunt because I can’t take no more of the metal abuse and stuff and the names I get called whenever I’m at my house can my parents let me do that

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  • ccsmod9
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    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/ You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so. If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

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    Guest replied
    I'm going through the same crap!! I'm 15 and my step douche is homophobic/muslim and he makes me cry nearly everyday. My mother and him are both emotionally abusive and I really just want to move out. At least my mom isn't homophobic though. I'm perfectly capable of living on my own, but I can't live with my mother and her husband without wishing I never existed in the first place.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need of a safe place to stay.

    You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 44357. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm a 15 year old trans male, I'm stuck in a cult I can't escape. I need to leave, with or without my parents. This place is killing me. I have attempted suicide because of it. I want to leave and continue high school. I am willing to get a job so I can live on my own I just need help

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. Thinking about leaving home is a serious decision, and contacting us is a good first step in figuring things out.

    We are not legal experts here, but since you are still considered a minor, your guardian could file a runaway report on you. This means that you could be returned to your home, and your friend could potentially be in trouble for harboring a runaway.

    If you want to discuss you situation in more detail, you can contact us anytime by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or via live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are always here to listen and help.

    Again, thanks for reaching out.

    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm a 15 year old who no longer wants to live at home. Because I can't abide by my guardian rules I want to live with my friend. For a while.

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  • ccsmod11
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    Hi, and thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like there is a lot going on right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    If you'd like to talk in more detail about your situation or have any questions please call 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us (www.1800RUNAWAY.org) as we can best help by phone or chat. Best, NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi. I’m turning 15 this month and I really am considering moving out. My father returned from a long trip and the first thing he did was ground me because he was mad at such a little thing. I might be over reacting but I honesty don’t want this. I also love 1 hour and 50 minutes away from my high school, and I really don’t like the travel. I know some 1 room apartments I can rent with a part time job, but I just need some confirmation that it’s legally okay.

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  • ccsmod4
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    I’m a 15 yr. old male...

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. You don’t deserve to disrespected or put down. It’s unfortunate that your mother chooses to behave this way. It’s not your fault that she does this.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m a 15 yr. old male and I keep wanting to run away but I’m terrified of what might happen, it feels like my mom is depriving me of a social life, I’m not allowed to see any of my friends outside of school, and whenever I ask to see them, my mom gets aggressive, calls me disrespectful and puts me down, it feels like she plays with my emotions all the time and I don’t know if this is normal or not. She argues with me all the time for no apparent reason and I’m often left with a mixture of fear and confusion.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 09-17-2019, 02:29 AM.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi Jacob,

    We are so glad you found the NRS website and decided to reach out. It sounds like home has not been safe for you and it is making you feel like leaving would be the safer option. Abuse of any kind is never okay and certainly not your fault. It must be stressful to feel like your parents are not understanding and do not support who you are.

    If you are feeling unsafe, it can be helpful to inform child protective services. This would get a social worker involved who can help you and make sure you have a safe place to live. The national child abuse hotline can help offer support and talk with you about this process. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or at https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ . The Trevor Project is also available to help young people who identify within the LGBTQ who are in crisis and need a judgement free space to talk about what is going on (www.thetrevorproject.org ; 1-866-488-7386).

    If something happens at home and you feel like you need to leave immediately, you can contact the national safe place for help. All you have to do is text "safe" to 44357 and they will respond with the nearest safe place or you can go to nationalsafeplace.org .

    We are available 24/7 to help by phone (1-800-786-2929) and online chat service. We want to offer support during this difficult situation and help you figure out what you want your next steps to be. Do not hesitate to reach out any time so that we can better help you.

    Be safe,

    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 09-13-2019, 11:23 PM.
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