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  • #76
    Im 15 years old and i want to move out of my family's house to bad. I constantly get put down and being told negative things. They dont take me seriously when i tell them im sad or when i had severe depression, they dont like and support the decisions i want to make. They dont give me the love and respect that i give them and its heartbreaking. I dont feel safe at this home like i should, i feel more safe at school than i do at home. Please, can i move out at 15?

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    • ccsmod9
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. . It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #77
    i'm 15 and i am in dcf coustody because of my abusive family, i live in a resadental home because no one wants to adopt an openly pansexual transgender male with mental heath isues. i really want to move out or run away but i don't have anywhere to go. i'm scared i'll never have a real family, and that i'll be sent from program to program until i age out of the sistem.

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    • ccsmod7
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      Thank you for reaching out. We’re sorry to hear that your family is unable to support and provide for you. It’s understandable that you would have those fears. You deserve to be loved and feel safe and respected.

      Sometimes it can help to talk to a trusted adult or someone that may have gone through similar experiences. The LGBT National Hotline will have additional resources and support that can help you through this difficult time. They can be reached at 1-888-843-4564. In addition, the LGBT National Youth Talkline is available to provide support and can be contacted at 1-800-246-7743.
      Running away is a big decision. As you try to decide how you want to move forward, it would be good to think about how you would survive (shelter, food, etc.). If you need help, we can help explore your options more in-depth. Feel free to contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re here 24/7 and confidential.

      We wish you the best of luck!

  • #78
    I'm a 15 year old female and over the past year me and my mom have had serious issues that have resulted in her getting physical once in awhile, although for the most part its her constantly yelling at me. I've got suicidal idolization issues and have been struggling with self harm on and off because of the issues at home. I've got something lined up 10 hours from here for when I turn 16 in 7 months to move out but I'm not sure I can survive to that point, is there any way I can leave home without moving in with another family member and without talking to my mom?

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    • ccsmod16
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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. We believe what you are telling us about your situation with your mom. You don’t deserve to be yelled at constantly and you don’t deserve to for her to get physical with you.
      It is understandable that you struggle with self harm and suicidal ideation, both of these issues most likely stem from the way you are treated and the hurt that you feel emotionally due to your mom. We understand that when youth want to leave home, there is good reason for that. The difficulty is that we would have to talk further with you to help you figure out the options that you might have. Even if leaving would require parental consent, we would work to help you find ways to cope and survive your situation. You deserve your life. You deserve to survive this and have a life that you envision for yourself. You deserve to heard and helped. We here you. We are here to listen and to help.
      The best way for us to help you is if we can talk and listen to you, and we have two ways for you to do that; you can call us at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or reach us via live Chat through the website www.1800runaway.org We care about you and we are here for you 24/7 to listen and help.
      We really hope that we will hear from you soon.
      Sincerely, NRS

  • #79
    I'm 15 want to move out and be on my own with a group of friends my age what can we or I do

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      Generally speaking, if you leave home before you turn 18 (the age of majority in most states) without permission, your parents can report you as a runaway. Running away is not illegal, but your parents can have the police return you home.

      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #80
    Hey i am 15 and I have lived with my mom for almost 10 years and my father for 5 I feel like I have nobody I can really talk to because They always say that my dad is right and I never give him a chance. My mom beat me as a kid and stopped when I was 8 after the worst betting I have ever gotten and my dad makes me feel like I am in prison and that I am always wrong he believe that I will never understand and I am to stupid to take care of my self. He tretnd to isolate me from my friends and family because he believes that they are holding me back I feel like I can’t live and I have been suicidal when I was younger but now I feel like life has no meaning I don’t even se him as my father and more like my boss and I know that if he reads this he will think that all of this is my fault and that I am just stupid I really couldn’t tell witch one of my perents are worst but I feel like my dad is much worse then my mom and everybody thinks he will make my future better but if I still live with him I don’t know if I will even have a future. I feel like I need to move away or kill my self but since I am 15 and this country won’t allow me to move away until I am 18 years old i don’t know how long I will last I just hope that I can survive until my 16 birthday then I can leagaly make a case and maybe move away the sooner the better.

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It's not OK for your mom to have beat you when you were younger - no one deserves to be abused. It sounds like living with your dad is really stressful and it makes sense that you wouldn't want to be in such a tense environment. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #81
    Hi , so I've been living with my mom for years now but she's mentally crazy and toxic , she doesn't understand me or my part never . Like I'm not even her daughter she doesnt treat me like one , I've ran away before 4times . She sent me to a mental hospital because I was doing pills , and she right away thought I was trying to kill myself , witch wasn't the case. I'm so depressed and offline with myself I need something to get rid of this pain and void . I feel helpless I have no where to go . My dad is dead , my mom is crazy my other family hates me because what my mom made me become , I've been so angry . I just wish I had another family that understands me and can put up with my misunderstandings . I'm a female , and ik I sound crazy but I need medical help for my needs witch she can't provide since my whole life ! I have depression , anxiety , and ptsd . I can't live with her no more it's unhealthy for me I don't want to be like her when I grow up ! Pls help

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. We're so sorry to hear of your dad passing, it can be really hard to move forward when someone who was important in your life is no longer there. You and your mom seem to have a very tumultuous relationship and it makes sense that you would want to be somewhere that is calmer. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be difficult deciding what you want to do.

      You mentioned that you have been struggling with depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

      You mentioned that you wanted something to get rid of the pain and void that you have been felling which causes us some concern. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You also brought up that you have done pills before and if this is an area where you feel like you need some support you may want to check out Narcotics Anonymous by going to https://www.na.org/.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #82
    I'm a 15-year-old male who's been verbally abused by mother throughout my life as a preteen to a teenager. She's insulting and calls me a cockblocker. I don't want to live with her or any of my relatives due to them being religious, homophobic and obnoxious. I can't stand it anymore and it's getting harder to concentrate in school when I know I have to deal with a deadbeat father. My grandmother is no better than my mother. I want to leave immediately but I can't. She won't let me get a job, so I have no money and she always tells me to "man up", but whenever I try to tell her how I'm feeling, she gets angry like it's another burden that she has to deal with. She doesn't let me really have creative freedom, everything is so childish and gray. She can't give me what I need and I hope that when I'm financially stable, she dies in a horrific accident.

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    • ccsmod0
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      Hey there,

      It sounds like you're struggling with a lot right now between dealing with the verbal abuse from your mom and the homophobia from your other family members. You definitely don't deserve to be treated that way, and you do matter. It's not fair you've been put in such a frustrating situation. Sometimes it can be helpful to talk to friends and other trusted adults, like a therapist or a teacher you get along with really well. You can also always call us here at the National Runaway Safeline(1-800-786-2929), and we can talk with you about how you're feeling and explore some of your options. Thre LGBT National Hotline (1-800-843-4564) also has crisis workers who could help you work through some of this as well.

      We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

      We're here for you,
      NRS
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