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  • Hi im 15 and want to move out only bc my brother keeps starting fights with me and taking about me and I get angry and dont want to hurt him idk and idk what to do?

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    • ccsmod0
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your brother. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I am ** done with my mother, she wont stop verbally berating me for not completing homework and she plays the victim when I tell her to shut up. I want to leave to go live with my grandfather but I do not know how to go about it without taking it to court.
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 12-30-2020, 10:36 PM.

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      Hey there, thanks for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you’re going through a challenging time with your mother and we’re glad you reached out for support.

      Unfortunately, we don’t know your city/state in order to provide local resources, but it sounds like you have a safe place to go (to your grandfather’s home) but just don’t have parental permission. If you’d like support talking to your mom, you can call our hotline and ask to have a Conference Call. We’ll stay on the line and help you make certain your voice is heard in a calm way. We can help you and your mom understand each other by guiding the call. This can sometimes be a way to open up the lines of communication when families are feeling stuck. You can also google Legal Aid services or call us if you’d like help find local legal supports.

      You can also call the non-emergency police in your local area to ask if they would actively look for a youth that runs away (for your age) and if your grandfather would possibility be charged with harboring a runaway. You can also look here at National Safe Place to find safe spaces for youth at https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/find-a-safe-place.

      We are Limited in the Number of Times we can respond via the Forum so if you’d like further contact, please instead contact us via our ONLINE CHAT SERVICE at www.1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button) or our HOTLINE at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). We are here for you and wish you all the best, NRS

    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,

      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are in a tough position and we want you to know that you are not alone.
      You do not deserve to be verbally abused and we are sorry you are dealing with that. Your mother may be concerned about you not completing homework but is going about it in the wrong way. One option to consider is to try and have a conversation with your mother in a respectful manner. Both parties may listen better if there is no yelling or disrespect from your mother or from you. At NRS we offer conference calling to help you have these conversations. How that works is you call us and we can call out to your mother with you on the phone. We are there for support and to help mediate the conversation so that is stays productive. Another option to consider would be to speak to a school counselor about what is going on at home. They may be able to provide you with support and resources.
      We know you mentioned leaving as a minor your legal guardian could file a runaway report if you were to leave without permission. It is a possibility that you could be brought back home by police.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to speak further about your situation, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • My parents treat me like crap and I'm more mature than a 15-year-old about to be 16 but I have no job and money to leave

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. We're sorry to hear that your parents have been treating you like crap--that must be very difficult to go through. It sounds like because of how they're treating you, you're thinking about running away. Having money and access to money (like a job) when leaving can definitely be helpful. Without either, it's important to think about how you'd be able to financially provide for yourself and pay for your food, clothes, shelter, medical care, etc. Generally speaking, it's a good idea to have a plan in place before running away. There are definitely resources available that can help you if you leave and don't have money, so a plan can also look like knowing what those resources are.

      If you'd like to talk more about your situation in more detail, options that are available to you, talk over your plan, or anything else, please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat with us live at www.1800runaway. org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

      Take care.

      NRS

  • I’m a 15 year old Female from ****, I turn 16 in about 3 and a half months and I want to move out of my moms house it’s not heathy there. My father kicked me out of his house in June 2020 because he didn’t want to take care of me anymore. I’m not the “ideal” child he had in mind like my brother who’s going to collage for Aerospace engineering. I’m a failure at school and life. My dad is physically abusive, he punches me and he slaps me and grabs my wrists til they turn bright red. He locked me away in his house with no electronics to call for help and no outside contact while he abused me for 4 months early last year, Ive been suicidal since 6th grade and I’ve tried killing myself 2 times... My mom, I’ve been living with for the last 8 months. verbally and emotionally abuse’s me too she tells me that because I’m not religious I’m going to hell I’m going to end up like a coal addict on the side of colfax, she tells me I’m stupid and that I’m going nowhere in life and a whole lot more like how I’m just like my dad that makes me wanna die. And I talk to her all the time about how her words hurt but she doesn’t care. She only fights all day everyday. So I left I’ve been at my friends house with him and his room mates for 5 days now my mom wants to call the cops and idk what to do because I’m scared to go home. What are my options because I can’t go to my dad or want to go to an abusive household and I don’t want to go with my mom and none of my other family will take me. So what do I do?
    Last edited by ccsmod3; 01-09-2021, 01:47 AM. Reason: Edited to maintain confidentiality

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      Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. We're sorry to hear that things have been pretty tough for you; please know that you don't deserve the kind of treatment that you've experienced, whether physical or verbal/emotional, and we commend you for trying to address some of your concerns with your mom head on. Since communicating with mom on your own hasn't been very productive, would you consider trying to talk to her with someone else involved, like a family member or a therapist? Someone who can help mediate that conversation. This is also something we can help with at NRS, so if you feel like it could be a good idea for you, please reach out to us and we can help facilitate that.

      Other general options that might be available to you are trying to stay with a friend or family member, particularly who your mom would approve of to try and avoid any legal ramifications. Filing an abuse report with Child Protective Services might be an option for you. It's important to know that this doesn't always look like being removed from the home, but it can also mean that mom receives some tools and resources that could help her develop more effective parenting skills. Going to a shelter might also be an option for you.

      In order to better help you, it would help us to have a little more information on your particular situation. If you'd like to talk in more detail or are interested in having us help facilitate a conversation with your mom, please reach out to us by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help. And if you're ever feeling suicidal and need some support, you can not only reach out to us, but you can also reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by calling 1-800-273-8255 or chatting with them at suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

      Take care.

      NRS

  • I’m 15 years old and I live with really rude parents. They are verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive. I have a younger sister who is 14 and she has almost run away from home because of our parents. I have also thought of running away but after seeing how my sister was treated I didn’t want to anymore. My parents are strict and have favorites. My parents are lesbians nothing wrong with that but they are not the best. I’m the only straight girl in my house right now and my sister just came out so now my sister is the favorite. She gets treated like the baby and they expect so much from me. Despite being 15 I have been looking for a job so I don’t need to spend time around my parents. They are both heavy alcohol drinkers and when they get drunk they like to argue with me. My mom has called the cops on me because I was “getting out of hand” because I was yelling at them because I got dragged down stairs and chocked by them. I have also been told that I need to be put in a mental hospital because I’m “out of hand”. I have been told that I would get my door taken off if I don’t do something that they ask of correctly. I cut myself because of them and when they find out they say that they know why and that they did it too and that it’s all fake and for attention. That only time that I’m happy is when I’m not around them. I’m always saying something that they don’t like and then I have to get yelled at by them. They always like to argue with me about stupid ******** and it always ends up with me getting grounded. I just don’t feel safe here anymore and need to live in a better home. Also, they people that I call my parents are the people who adopted me. They are my aunts that adopted me when I was 6 and my sister is my biological sister.

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It sounds like things have been pretty tough for you at home, and we're sorry to hear that. Regardless of what is going on at home, you don't deserve to be abused. Because you mentioned physical abuse, we want to make sure that you're first aware of your options around that. Whenever a child is physically abused, it is considered a child abuse. Do note that some physical punishments are allowed and vary from state to state, but generally speaking, any form of physical punishment that leaves a mark is considered a form of abuse. When this happens, an abuse report can be filed with your local Child Protective Services agency. They investigate the allegations of abuse and decide what next steps will be taken to ensure the safety of the children involved. If this is something that you'd like to do, you can file an abuse report by googling your state along with "Child Protective Services agency" and following the instructions listed. You can also disclose the abuse to a Mandated Reporter, who is obligated to make the report on your behalf. Mandated Reporters are teachers, therapists, doctors, police officers, amongst others. We're also Mandated Reporters here at NRS, so if you'd like support in filing a report or would like us to do so on your behalf, please reach out.

      You can contact us by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live through our website at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7, and are always happy to listen, and to help.

      Take care.

      NRS

  • I'm 15 (female) and I can't stand living at my mom's house anymore. I tried to open up to her about my suicidal ideation and was threatened with a trip to a mental facility. Now she takes away my phone whenever I come home and my phone's all I have because I have 2 great online friends. Also, my stepdad gets on my nerves a lot. I just want to run away and never return to that house.

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    • ccsmod8
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      Hello,

      We're glad you reached out to us. We'll try to help. It sounds like your mother is not listening to you about your issues. You deserve to be validated for your feelings and emotions and accepted as you are. It is unfortunate that you don't want to stay at home.

      We do want to say that it must be very hard for you to have to go through all of this. It sounds like a very stressful situation for you at home to the point where your thoughts drift towards completing suicide or hurting yourself. That is a very serious thing to be thinking about. If you are ever close to hurting yourself like you said you can call out to someone to make sure that you are okay. You shouldn't be afraid to tell other people what you are thinking about doing especially if you are thinking about hurting yourself. You are certainly not alone in this and there are many many people that are here to help you. A good resource might be to call the ‘National Suicide Hotline’ for someone to talk about what thoughts you might be thinking at the time. Their number is 800.273.TALK. They also have an online chat service that might be of help to you especially if you don’t feel like calling in (https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/).

      Sometimes when people hear the word suicide they tend to panic and don't know what to say other than you need "help". Realizing that people sometimes need time to adjust to talking about suicide or self-harm might be helpful to you and can help let people really understand about what is going on. Little by little people might soften the more you talk openly about it or try to share things about it.

      Lastly we are not legal experts here, but we know that running away is not a crime. If you were to leave without your mom's permission, she has the right to file a runaway report on your behalf. It is then that the police might look for you and return you home if they find you.

      It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. You can also call us if you want at 1800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7 and are confidential. Good luck.
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