I'm 15 and want to move out

[Guest]

i need help , if i can't leave this house i am going to kill myself because i can't do this anymore

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is always available if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Reaching out to a school counselor or another adult that you trust could also be a good outlet for you as well.

This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We truly want to be here for you as a support during this challenging time. We can brainstorm your possible options with you and come up with a safety plan that you feel comfortable with. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

Stay strong and stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello, I'm a 15 years 16 in a couple months and i want nothing to do with me legal guardians who say I am lucky they adopted me because I would be worse now if they didn't but they have been manipulating me and verbally and once in a while physically abusing me for little things that don't matter I am also always grounded all the time. there's more but i just want to leave is there anyway to do so without the law involved or with my legal guardians not being able to do anything about it because they will not let me leave. pls help...

I cant trust no one because of trama my legal gaurdians gave me and i wanna live with my biological dad but i cant because they put a restraining order on him from me so idk what to do i might just ya know kick the bucket.

[ccsmod4]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
We are sorry that things are not going well between you and your guardians. That must be pretty hard for you. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change.

Your safety and well-being is important.
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Sometimes when communication breaks down with someone you are close to you making it difficult to know just where to turn. You did well reaching out today. We would like you to know NRS is here to listen and here to help. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. You don’t deserve to be abused and it is not your fault that this is happening.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you would like to make a report of child abuse contact Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org


Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 15 and I want to move out as all me and my mum do is argue and it’s is very upsetting for me and I have a daughter with my girlfriend and my mum doesn’t always let me stay with her but I would like to know if there is anyway I could move out to my girlfriend going through police

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

im 15 and really wanna move out im verablly abused and my mom wants to control me i have no family i can go to beacause they are also toxic like her and no friends im thinking abou jus killing myself

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

It sounds like you are really going through a lot. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

Please be safe. Reach out to us any time if you want to talk.

NRS

[Guest]

I'm 15. I moved in with my dad a long time ago and his girl friend. As I'm getting older they seem to get more and more toxic. Calling me names, talking about me nonstop. They won't let me talk to anybody. I can't talk to any of my friends. Can you look into emancipation?

[ccsmod15]

Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and talking about what is going on for you. It sounds like you are having trouble at home with your Dad and his girlfriend. You have come to the right place for help.
We want you to know that no one deserves to be name-called and talked about disrespectfully in their home, and we are sorry this is happening in yours. You deserve dignity. It sounds like your Dad and his girlfriend are treating you so badly that you are considering emancipation. We would love to provide you with a resource for legal aid in your state, as well as the emancipation laws for that state, and we can do so if you call us at 1800-RUN-AWAY. Getting emancipated is often a long and involved process, but for many it is the right choice. We hope to be able to give you the information you need to make a decision that is best for you.
In the meantime, reaching out to friends, other family members, and maybe even a school counselor can be positive ways to cope with what is going on at home. Also, finding the things that feel good for you personally will be good at this time. It is not easy to deal with this kind of emotional trauma…you have done a great job by seeking our help.
Please call or instant message us (1800runaway.org) at any time. We are here to listen, here to help. We wish you the best of luck out there.
Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm currently 14 and living at home with both parents and was wondering how i could get out asap. I have wanted to get out of this house since i was young but my parents are not open to any of it. I have gone through physical, mental, and emotional abuse and also suffer from ptsd, anxiety, and major mania depression and would like to not have to take medications for these problems. the main reson i have anxiety attacks and freak is because of my biological father who has been an alchohalic since before i was born. He has been the abuser since i was around 10 and no matter what i do cps didnt help my mom wont help my therapist tries but only recomends playing a sport or getting a job. i understand why a lot of adults dont get why id like to move and its honestly because i feel like i am suffocating. I feel like im trapped here and theres nothing i can do because anyone living here can watch my parents say or do hurtful stuff but dont do or say anything. [my biological father] also has a past history with abusing my mom but was never as bad. My parents both lie to cps for the fear of getting all 4 of us girls getting taken away but i dont want that for them because they are so great to my siblings and hardly even yell at them compaired to screaming in my face and throwing chairs and tabes at me and picking my up and choking me or throwing me and always telling me how much or a piece of garbage i am but pretending nothing happened they next day or when their friends are around.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

It sounds like you truly are going through some challenging times. We appreciate you reaching out to us for help. You don't have to face this alone -- the more support from trustworthy people and sources you can get, the better.

It sounds like CPS has not been helpful so far, but you can still file another abuse report if you want. Sometimes several reports can cause CPS to take a situation more seriously. If you do decide to make another report it would be good to be as detailed as you can be in describing what has been happening, including specific incidents with dates if possible. If you have injuries you may want to take a photo of them as evidence. You can file a report through us via chat or by calling us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also file through www.childhelp.org (1-800-422-4453).

Of course, you do not deserve to be abused and we are very sorry to hear you have been so unfairly treated. It's no wonder you want to live elsewhere. Outside of CPS getting involved and placing you elsewhere, the next most likely way for you to leave home without being considered a runaway would be simply to ask your parent's permission. If you have another relative or adult that you trust that can advocate for you to them, that might be helpful. The other option would be to file for emancipation through the court system, but that generally is something available to youth aged 16 and above.

We encourage you to reach out to us by phone (1-800-RUNAWAY) or chat with us via the chat feature on our website (www.1800runaway.org) so that we can help you figure out what your best options are. Even if you just want to vent, we are here for that too. You deserve support and we'd like to help. We are here 24/7 and are completely confidential. We hope to hear from you soon!

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

15 AND READY TO LEAVE

Hi I’m 15 year old girl and I am ready to move out. I done a lot of research and ever found possible apartments near me. My family has a lot of mental issues that they need to resolve. My current home is very crowded and everybody has issues with each other. Also they have enemies outside the home that likes to pop up at random times putting us at risk. I feel as thought distancing myself from them will be very beneficial for me mentally and physically. I love my family and all, but in order for me to become a better person for myself time apart from them will be much needed.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out so we are so glad that you decided to reach out to us.
Wow it defiantly can seem stressful and hurt your mental health living in a crowded home and having family enemies put you and your family at risk. One option to consider would be to report this to the police, especially if it is putting your safety at risk. You can also talk to a school counselor about what is going on at home, and they may be able to find options and resources for you.
We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen. Because you are a minor if you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. Also unfortunately most landlords will not rent to someone who is under the age of 18. If leaving is your only option you may want to consider staying with a family member or a friend.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7.
Best of luck,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 15 and I want to move away from my mom beacause she simply doesn't want to be a mom anymore, I've tried talking to her about how I felt depressed and how simple things gave me so much anxiety and I'm labeled as overdramatic she complains about us not having much money yet spends her money on weed and alcohol she already failed as mother with my older sister who's an adult now and she seem to only care about fixing her past and not remembering she has another child, shes 50 years old but acts like a 17 year old she just cant get her life together all my life shes put me through homeless shelters and in and out of boyfriends houses one of witch was a mentally abusive regersterd pedophile , a physically abusive boyfriend, and I had to live with her most recent boyfriend for 4 years and he hated me he would always give me disgusted looks and he made me so unhappy to the point that I stayed in my room a whole summer shes also ruined alot of my friendships she went to my friends party drunk and I just cried because I was so embarrassed of her shes just very mentally straining and I'm scared for my future my grades are bad my social anxiety is becoming worse and I feel alone neither my older sister or mom believe in feelings so whenever I have an anxiety attack i just have to go into a room and deal with it beacause all i get from them is stop worrying so much, I'm just really ready to get away frome them I want to have a future and maybe learn how to drive since my mom doesn't have a car or lisence I never got to practice like my friends I'm just ready to do things for myself since nobody else cant

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Your feelings are valid and you should be allowed to express yourself comfortably at home. It sounds like home life has unstable in the past and it must be really exhausting.

You mentioned that you've been struggling lately with some social anxiety and panic attacks. You are not alone in these kinds of mental health struggles and if you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

It can be really hard to live with someone who struggles with an addiction to alcohol. We want you to know that you are not alone. If you’d like to talk to other young people who are dealing with friends or family members who have drinking problems you can check out Alateen. You can find more information about this support group, or find a local meeting here: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

[Guest]

Hello I’m 15 and I would like to move out cause my mom is always messing with me over little things and I am highly depressed about it I cannot live in this house any longer.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension.

It sounds really exhausting to always have your mom mess over little things and it seems like maybe she doesn't realize how much her interference is affecting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

You mentioned that you are feeling highly depressed. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

[Guest]

Im 15 and i wanna move out because my parent are to strict my mom says she cant wait for me to move out and my dad says i cant have any friends i cant do sport or anything it feels like im wasting my youth and they both have huge egos and to much pride

[ccsmod9]

First of all, thank you for reaching out to NRS today. It was a very brave thing to do. We are sorry your parents are talking to you that. You do not deserve to be treated disrespectfully! One service that we offer here at NRS is something called a conference call if you decide you want to talk to your parents about how you are feeling. You reach out on our hotline, give us a little background of what is going on, and then ask to have a conference call allowing you to speak to your parents with the support of one of our liners. They will be able to mediate the conversation and allow you to talk to them that way. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from or to maybe build on your relationship and make it better. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that service is completely up to you. Some options to move out would be looking at a Transitional Living Program. These types of programs offer longer term living situation for different individuals depending on where you live. You can look into these programs online by providing the state you’re in. Lastly, you can use our chat service to have a more in depth conversation and explore a few more resources. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and our website is https://www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 and always ready to listen so do not hesitate to contact us again. We are so glad you reached out to us and know it is sometime difficult to ask for help.

[Guest]

Hello, I'm a 15 year old female and I need to move out as soon as possible, I was going to wait until I was 18 but I just cannot take it anymore here at my parents. They are very controlling and I can't be myself or live without fear of them taking everything away from me. I know if I were to leave home before I was 18 my parents would get me back in a heartbeat so I'm unsure how I could get out and live with a friend. I've been suicidal since I was 11 and it just gets worse everyday, I keep telling myself if I can't leave one way I'll have to leave another way. I really need some help with getting out of here, I just want to live with my friend and have a life. Thank you for reading if you are, I really appreciate it if you're able to help me.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe and stay strong,

NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 15 years old and I want to move out. My mom moved me to a new state when I was 10 and it took me some time to adapt and when I finally did she decides she wants to move back to my old state. My big sister lives in her own apartment and she willing to take me but I’m scared my mom will feel like I betrayed her if I ask to move out.

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out. It's understandable that you don't like having to move so much when it takes awhile to adjust. You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18 to move in with your older sister. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom's permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. Maybe you and your sister can speak with your mom together to explain how you would like to move in with her, even temporarily. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

hi im 15 and i cant stay with mom anymore because she treats me so bad sometimes like verbally abusing me and putting me on punishment for small almost good for nothing reasons. I have no family I can stay with and i know she wont give up her rights to anyone, she wont probably even let me leave but i just wanna find a way to move out without bringing the law into it, i want to go to my best friends house but thats illegal. what should i do?

[ccsmod1]

Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline! We are always here to listen and help out in any way that we can. It is unfortunate to hear that you are experiencing verbal abuse at your home and it is causing you to want to leave your family. We can offer you support to handle this situation. You mentioned that you do not have any other family members to stay with currently, but that you want to find a way to move out.

It is important to remember that we are not legal experts. Since you are a minor, you would have to live with a legal adult. In addition, you would need permission from your parents in order to live outside of their home with another adult. If you choose to stay with another adult without your parents' permission, then your parents have the right to file a runaway report. You also mentioned that your mother would not give up your rights to anyone. Keep in mind that you would need an official document from a court in order for another legal adult to be responsible for you as a minor. It is important to understand this in order to form a plan.

Perhaps you could reach out to a friend or school counselor to help you form your best options. Again, we are really glad that you reached out to us today, it is not easy to ask for help in situations like this. If you would like to talk more about what is going on at home and discuss options, please reach out to us on our 24-hour hotline or chat. We are here to listen and help with any concerns.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 15 and my dad and stepmom verbally abuses my siblings. I have been hit with a paddle and held down by my neck. I have ran away once, but I cant anymore or they will hurt me. How do I leave? I don't want to live with my mom because things are crazy up there with covid and b/c she isn't financially stable and I don't want to start over and lose my friends. Can I leave by myself in Yuma, Arizona.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
You do not deserve to be abused in any way, and we are sorry that you are having to deal with that. You do have a right to file an abuse report and there are a few ways you can go about doing that. One option to consider would be to talk with a school counselor or a teacher about what is going on at home. Even if your school is virtual right now school counselors are still available to talk with students. You can also call Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. You can also call or chat with us and we can help you file a report.
We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could possibly happen if you were to leave
. If you left without permission because you are a minor your legal guardian does have a right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you it is a possibility that you could be brought back home. If you were to mention the abuse, they could involve child protective services.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

im 13 and i want to leave my parents house bc there abusive and they wont let me go to my grandmas house

[ccsmod2]

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us.

No one deserves to be abused and we are sorry that you are having to deal with that. You do have the option to file an abuse report and there are a few ways you can go about doing that. One option to consider would be to call Child Help at: 1800-422-4453, and they would be able to help with making a report. You can also talk with a school counselor or a trusted adult about what is going on and they would also be able to help you with making a report. Lastly, you can call or chat with us online and we would be able to help you with making a report.

We know you mentioned wanting to leave, we are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen. Because you are a minor your legal guardian would have a right to file a runaway report if you were to leave without permission. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.

We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions we are here 24/7 to help and provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS