I'm 15 and want to move out

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you have been going through a lot for a long time at home along with school that is also very demanding of you. It must be very frustrating to feel you have no one to support you, but we want you to know that you are not alone and we are here to help.

You mentioned your mother is verbally abusive and threatens you physically. Your safety is very important, so if you ever feel unsafe we encourage you to call 9-11. Childhelp is another resource for you that can assist you in reporting abuse and they can be reached out at childhelp.org.

You also mentioned that you think about suicide and we thank you for your honesty and openness. In addition to us here at NRS, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is here to help and can be reached at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Sometimes talking things out will bring about solutions you haven’t yet thought about, but your life is very valuable and you deserve to be heard.

At NRS we can help by providing supportive resources, shelter information, or to listen. We also provide a conference calling service if you ever want to talk with your mom about how your feeling, but feel scared to do so alone. Either way, we can be reached on the phone at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us live at 1800RUNAWAY.org. We hope to hear from you.

Stay safe and strong,

NRS

I’ve been verbally abused and my mother takes my sisters side in every argument if my sister says she didn’t do/say something my mother believes her. Today it has gotten to the point where I can’t deal with it anymore. My mother threatens to beat me which is not the worst part I find it hurtful that the only person I could fully trust is someone who doesn’t believe a word I say. I’ve been thinking about suicide for over two years. I want to leave but I feel like I don’t have money to leave or enough time due to school. I have talked to my dad about my mother’s actions he’s talked to her and my mothers response is that she can do whatever she wants. I’m over it. I’m 15 turning 16 soon I want to leave I need advice. I can’t go to other family due to personal reasons. I don’t know what else to do.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

I’m 15 I just turned 15 in June I really wanna move out and live with my aunt and uncle they even invited me to live with them my uncle is planning on taking to my mom but I know she’ll say no I haven’t said anything to my dad I trust my aunt and uncle way more than my mom

[ccsmod16]

Hi, thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like things are really hard for you at home between the way your parents treat you, the filth, and how seriously difficult your mental health is because of all of this.
Unfortunately, our services, help and referrals are based in the United States so we found the correct service in Canada to help you, www.kidshelpphone.ca
You will be able to tell them everything you told us and get the help you need. It takes a lot of courage to talk about the things that hurt, so we hope you will tell Kids Help Phone everything.

Best of luck,
NRS

Hi, Im 15. I live in Canada. I can't stand my parents. They are annoying as hell. They act like they are the supreme god of the world and everyone else is scum. In my opinion they're the scum. They can't even handle their own jobs and they're picking on me 24/7. They tell me to think first if I'm wrong then blame the problem on others but they're always blaming others. Talk about being hypocritical. Whenever I say something positive or some good news they always turn it around and use it towards me. For ex: I say I studied really hard for a test (which I did, I studied my life out) but then I got an 80% and they're like, "why didn't you do better? I thought you studied really hard. Isn't that what you said? You're such a failure, why do we even pay for your taxes, why don't you move out. Why don't you just go and die." It annoys the hell out of me. And whenever I pull the same trick on them, they get SUPER mad. Well what the F*CK?! I don't even get mad at them and they're going sicko mode on me. Honestly I wish either they can just pass away or I do. I can't stand them at ALL! They always tell me to run or leave the house but when I actually do, they call me and threaten that if I don't come back, they're gonna tell every single person I know that I ran away. Who even does that?!?! It's like I'm trying to keep it lowkey but they want the whole world to know. I'm not really a dumb person too. I play three instruments I get decent grades, I have a good social life and I try to skip ahead a grade and I'm good at sports. Today I was doing a test in summer school for math 10 and I was hella tired. But they took the oppurtunity and started complaining about this and that. It feels like I am the parent and they're always on my back complaining about this and that. AND I DO WHAT THEY SAY. I literally do every single thing they say but still they continue. I am so Tired of staying in my house. Plus the house is a legit dumpster. I would die for a foster home. I don't care if they abuse me and whatnot, better than staying with my parents. I'm literally going to go crazy. Whenever I ask them if I can go out they say sure go ahead. When I come back it's like all hell broke loose. They start asking me "did you do all your homework?" "you didn't do this or that and blah blah blah". I'm like, if you didn't want me to go out, why didn't you just say no when I ask you retarded piece of sh*t? And they are constantly arguing, and when I'm around, they manage to angle the argument towards me. NO MATTER WHAT THE ARGUMENT IS! does anyone know how to apply for foster care in canada? I have soooo much evidence against my parents that I can use to get me out of the house and shutting up my parents so they won't tell all my friends about my family situation.

another thing is I'm literally afraid to leave the house, because once I come back, it's literal hell for the rest of the day. If I don't come back, they're gonna tell my friends. And I'm an active person. I hate staying in my room all day, I need to go out at least 4 times a day. During self-isolation I legit tried everything to ease the pain my parents cause. I took advil, prozac, sleeping pills whatever. I legit tried to drown myself in a toilet so I can finally die and enjoy some peace. Honestly, if my parents hate me that much, why'd they even give birth to me. I prefer if I was never concieved. Anyway, if there is a website or a form to fill out for foster care please link it or something. It would really help.

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Hey there thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline,
We want you to know that we are here to listen and support you through this difficult time. It seems like you are frustrated by your mom not supporting your mental health and are considering running away in response. You deserve to have a support network in place and family is usually part of that.
We understand that it can be difficult to reach out and talk about the situation you are in, but you have taken the first step in that and we are proud of you for that. If you can call in or chat with us online, we would be able to explore the situation more and maybe offer some options to help you out.
We look forward to hearing from you soon!
NRS.

I’m 13 and I want to run away (this is not my first time thinking about this). My mother does not have me as her priority and she does not care at all about my mental health whatsoever

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I’m a 15 year old girl and I want to move out of my parent’s home. They will never agree with this, but we don’t have the same views on things. And they are unaware of the fact that they’re contributing to my depression. It’s desirable for me to move in with my best friend. How can I legally do this?

Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.
We are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave home without your parents’ permission, they do have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home. One option to consider would be emancipation which would allow you to be able to leave home before turning 18. To find out more about emancipation you can call us for legal aid numbers or you can call your local court house.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

I’m a 15 year old girl and I want to move out of my parent’s home. They will never agree with this, but we don’t have the same views on things. And they are unaware of the fact that they’re contributing to my depression. It’s desirable for me to move in with my best friend. How can I legally do this?

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Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent's or legal guardian's permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, a family friend, or a counselor who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. Sometimes these conversations are easier with an adult to advocate on your behalf. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. If you would like to learn more about the reporting process, you can speak with an advocate at Child Help, childhelp.org. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal aid resources if that’s something you are considering.

We want to talk more in depth with you so that we can better support you in exploring your options and provide resources. You can reach us anytime at 1-800-786-2929 or through our live chat services at 1800runaway.org for immediate support. We are here 24/7 to listen and help.

Stay strong,
NRS

I am 15 turning 16 in less then two months do I need consent to move out and what can I legally do to make it happen

[ccsmod16]

Hi,

Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things have been very difficult and scary for you and you deserve to be treated threatened and abused. You have been very brave to reach out to us and ask for help, that takes a lot of courage.

It is understandable to want to leave and live with your friend, but there isn’t a legal way to do that because they don’t have custody of you. But you can reach out to Child Help, a child abuse hotline to report the abuse. You or an adult can call 1-800-422-4453. We can also help you report or look up shelter or other options for you.

We invite you to use either our live chat or telephone hotline to reach us right away. The best way for us to help you is by talking with you through our confidential services, and we are here for you 24/7 either by calling 1-800-786-2929 or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org
We are confidential and are here 24/7 to listen and help.
Sincerely,
NRS

im 14 turning 15 and i want to move out is there away if i can move to a friends house and i want to move because i been getting threatened and abused.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
You have gone through some very difficult times emotionally and physically that you deserve to be in a safe place.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more about your situation and how we might be of assistance, please call or chat soon at 1-800-Runaway (786-29290 or through our website www.1800runaway.org
(Click on the chat button).
You did a very brave thing by reaching out to NRS. Good for you.
Be safe,
NRS