why?

[Guest]

Why do you guys always tell us kids to call cps when they dont ever help? i tried to tell cps my dad was (Edit) me and do yu think they helped? no. they helpd him tho they helped him eget custody of me and my sister.

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Hello,

We appreciate you expressing your feelings about your situation with CPS and very sorry to hear about the abuse you suffered from your dad. We believe no child or minor should be hurt or abused by a parent, relative or adult. It's unfortunate you did not get the outcome you wanted but we hope you don't give up and will continue to seek options for help.
Is the abuse continuing? Are you and your sister being abused? Is there an adult or relative you can confide in? You said your dad gained custody of you who were you with before was it your mother? If so is she trying to help you? We understand your trust issues with CPS so we would like to offer you a referral to an outside agency that acts as advocates to children
who have been let down by the system.

Justice For Children
1-800-733-0059

You have shown great strength and courage by speaking up for yourself and your sister
anytime you feel threaten or unsafe you can call 911 for help you do not deserve to suffer abuse by anyones hands and we are sorry you do not feel safe in your own home.
Please give us a call at our 1-800-Runaway 24hr hotline if you would like to talk with someone about what you've been going through and what options might best help yours and your sisters situation.

Take Care,
NRS

[Guest]

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Yes I can see your frustration. I know exactly what you mean. I had a parent hit me in the face right in front of a cop. I took that opportunity to say to the cop "See this is my life. Can you please help me!?" I thought he was going to finally rescue me and take me away. Instead he laughed in my face. This was devastating blow. His reaction was "You ran away from home, What did you expect your Dad to do?" Over the years I told school counselors, professional counselors, clergy and each time it was the same thing. I would get up the nerve to talk and when my parents were interviewed they'd lie. The authorities would question neighbors and family members and of course they don't live with me so everything seems normal to them. So my parents got more angry and it just seemed to get worse. I say seemed to get worse. As long as I was telling someone and making a statement that I knew it was wrong and my parents knew that I knew it was wrong. I was strengthening myself and my identity as a survivor. I also reassuring myself that I deserved better and I was going to seek that out and not give up. I have some advice for children in this situation. The most important people to contact is child services or children and youth or children welfare. You can try reporting it anonymously as if you were a neighbor reporting it. Best to do that from a pay phone. This will get them asking questions but your parents wont be mad at you thinking you did it. You can report it directly to one of those agencies but be sure to have evidence or witnesses that are willing to come forward. By evidence I mean hidden camera video recording, pictures of bruising and audio tapes of verbal abuse. Showing up at the school counselor with fresh bruises forces them to document it. You may have to visit them several times with this. In cases of sexual abuse.If there is sex and transfer of fluids. Do not take a shower. Get yourself to a hospital. Or just get out of the house and call 911. Tell them you've been raped by your parent. Tell them if they call for parent consent they will denie consent because they were the attacker. Never give up. Never give in. When you give in, you lose a part of yourself. Knowing these things are wrong is half the battle. Life is not easy. But it is worth the trouble. It does get better. Keep the faith.

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Re: why?

Thank you for contributing to our bulletin board community and sharing some of your story with us. It sounds like you have been through a lot and you must be a very strong person. We hope that your inspirational words can give hope to others going through similar things.

[Guest]

Re: why?

im beans i wrote before about gettin help cuz i wanna leave my dads. my mom never ws married to me dad and i rebmemer living with her like till i was 7 and she loved us an took us away so he coulndt hurt my older sister ne more an he got custody behind my moms back my mom tried to get help an no one could help her she didnt have a lot of money and im pretty sure she does not have any $ now for lawyers and stuff. my sister is older then me and went to live with her and she is happy now. she is tryin to help me to know if i can leave but ppl from like the state keep telling her i have no rights and i just have to stay. i love my dad and i dont want to hurt him or get him in truble but being with him is just so stressful i am getting bad grades and its just that all ewe do is fight. i go to a councelor and talk to my school councelor to but they dont help. my dad just lies in front of their faces but when its just me an him hes diffrent. i am 16 adn i should have the right to say who i want ot live with. my mom is scard to death of my dad cuz all the stuff hes done to her and got away with i guess. my dad keep threaning me that if i go hell call th cops on me and put me in juvie. he was in juvie and got into truoble when he was a kid and he was abused realy bad when he was a kid. youd think he would want me to be happy but all he wants to do is hurt me and espesialy my mom to.

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Re: why?

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard and joining the conversation. We are sorry to hear that things are so hard for you at home. How long have things been like this at your dad’s house?

It must be frustrating to feel like people are telling you that you have no rights and that you just have to stay with your dad. You mentioned that people from the state are the ones saying you have to live with your dad—do you have a caseworker? Does your mom? How far away does your mom live from your dad? How often do you get to see and/or talk with her? Does your dad know that you want to live with her?

You definitely deserve to have a home that you feel safe, comfortable, and supported in. If you feel comfortable, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can talk more about your situation and help you come up with a plan that you are comfortable with.

Best of luck,
NRS