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    ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way, neither do your siblings. It is good to hear that you seem to have a positive relationship with your grandma. It can be hard to speak out about what is going on at home, and we are so proud of you for reaching out. Change comes from taking steps like this. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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    im 14 currently in 9th grade my name is ******** its 2021, back in 2014 to 2015 i was 7 or 8 yrs old in 3rd grade i loved cleaning when my mom saw me clean she was so proud of me same with my step dad , couple months after in dec or jan my step dad proposed to my mom she was happy but then they broke up in 2017, in 2017 i was in 5th grade . me and my mom my little sister and brother had to live with my grandma because we were homeless at that time , recently my grandma told me i did not have to do chores and thats when my mom and grandma started to argue so many times . in 2017 or 16 i got abused by my mom in front of my 1 year old sister ,i got bruised and pushed down to the floor punched in my stomach several times and got kicked , that night was terrifying , i still sometimes get threatned by my mom because she says she will punch me in the face or slap me , or she either says she will kick me out and make me sleep outside . back in 2019 me my sis and brother were beaten , i tried to run away but i couldnt she pushed me towards a wall and kept slapping me and my sister and brother , i got beaten because i was asking my mom what did she say because i couldnt understand her that well , my siblings got beaten for no reason at all ,, i started to cry but when i cried she told me to shut the f up , till this day i still get beaten and yelled at and im tired of it , my mom body shammed me because i ate the last left overs from the night before and that brought me down were to the point i didnt want to eat anymore i get called stupid ,weak, dumba** , and a ***** , i just want to be adopted by my grandma but i dont know how to escape the household. i want to be adopted with a new familly at this point
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    Help, my parents have been recently treating me like absolute ********, they constantly call me ungrateful they say that the only reason I have social anxiety is because I want attention they also dump everything out of my closet if I forgot to do my laundry they never are satisfied with my accomplishments and prefer to tell the family all the bad/embarrassing things I have done.

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    You've come to the right place. It seems like you are dealing with a lot right now. Great job reaching
    out for help. The National Runaway Safeline offers confidential support 24/7 both on the phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY and via chat on: www.1800runaway.org

    Emotional and verbal abuse is hard to be around. Here are a few resources that you can reach out
    to for support:


    Depression is a very serious disease. There are counselors and medical facilities that can help
    get you the support you need.

    You can reach out to:

    NAMI Helpline
    (National Alliance on Mental Illness)
    The NAMI HelpLine is a free, nationwide peer-support service providing information, resource referrals and support to people living with a mental heal...
    nami.org
    Hotline: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)
    Business: (217) 522-1403

    or

    Depression & Bipolar Support Alliance
    Leading patient-directed national organization focusing on the most prevalent mental illnesses. The organization fosters an environment of understandi...
    www.dbsalliance.org
    (800) 826-3632


    Self-injury and cutting is usually a coping mechanism. There are other things you can do if you
    do not want to harm yourself. You can snap a rubber band on your wrist or you could use a piece of
    ice instead. Here's a resource for self-injury:

    To Write Love on Her Arms
    A non-profit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury and suicide. The web...
    www.twloha.com/
    (321) 499-3901


    As far as emancipation goes, the requirements vary from state to state.
    If you'd like more information on emancipation, you can reach out to our hotline or online chat mentioned earlier to explore your full options.
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    Im 14 and there's to much emotional abuse /fighting verbally and my family sees me as a problem when i need help im so tired of living in that house . I want to be emancipated right now I battle depressioin and have cut myself a few times. THEY know but dismiss it and disown me from problems i clearly told them I needed HELP from.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out, we understand it takes great courage to take this step, and we're glad you did. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS.

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. It's important you know, that your parents kicking you out is illegal, they would need to make sure you have a safe and stable place to stay if they wanted you to leave your home. This is also reportable against them.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.


    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.


    Take care,
    NRS
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    Hello,

    Ive had issues with my parents for over 5 years, literally since i was 9 years old and over the past two years it only got worse. My parents are always threatening to kill me if im not a virgin (which i still am due to fear of them) and they control, abuse me physically and mentally. im 14, and i basically got nothing. I have to leave tomorrow because my parents are kicking me out and leaving the country because they dont want to ever see me again. im so stressed and going to a friends house but theres so much i dont know. school, jobs, medical, etc. im so lost and my parents dont care they just want me out by tomorrow.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and being in a house with drugs is not safe. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be exposed to this kind of neglect. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how you might talk with CPS about your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Another option is to contact police directly about the drug abuse or dealing of the drugs. Many states consider drug abuse and hard drugs in the house to be the same as physical abuse/neglect and can help you get removed from the home.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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    I live with my dad in a one room and one bathroom apartment. We don't have the best relationship. Like at all. I hate the things he does. Im so uncomfortable living here. I've called cps and we had a case for a while but they believed him and not me. I live in a drug house. My dad is a addicted to drugs such as, heroin, cocaine, etc. He really does have a problem. I was in foster care for 3 years between the ages of 7-10. I've got moved home to home until my dad got ms back. My mom isn't in the picture and all my siblings are adopted and living happy. I just wish I could have a normal life with out being scared because my dad might get hurt or overdose. He has people come in and out of our apartment ever since he got me back and I hate it. I hate it so much. I need help to get out.

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  • ccsmod5
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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. If your mom is not providing basic necessities such as food, its considered neglect which is a form of abuse in most states. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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    my mom just said that she is going to stop feeding me and I have to become independent but she won't let me leave the house to get a job to earn money and I'm 14

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

    We're so sorry to hear that your dad has been hitting you and that you don't feel safe. You don't deserve that sort of treatment. While we understand that you're a bit apprehensive about contacting your school, it might be a good idea to reach out to Child Protective Services and file an abuse report. Their job is to ensure that you're safe in your home, and if you're not, to decide what steps should be taken in order to make sure that you are. If this is something that you're interested in doing, you can file a report on your own, by contacting us here at NRS for support, or by telling a safe person of the abuse (like a teacher, school counselor, therapist, etc.). Each person that I've listed is considered a Mandated Reporter and has a legal obligation to contact CPS when there are any suspicions or indications of abuse. We understand that moving forward in this process can be scary, but want you to know that your safety is critical. These are folks who will prioritize that. If you have any questions about filing a report, what it entails, or would like to learn more about child abuse in general, Childhelp is another great resource to utilize. They're a child abuse hotline and you can reach out to them by texting or calling 1-800-422-4453, or by chatting with them live at www.childhelp.org.

    Unfortunately our services don't extend to picking up youth and taking them to a safe place, but this is something that CPS might be able to help with. You can also visit https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/find-a-safe-place to locate a safe place that you can go to nearby. Once you put in your address or zip code, you'll be given a list of places that are safe for you to go to. When you get there, you just let someone know that you're there for a safe place. They'll give you somewhere comfortable to hang out, and contact a worker who will come out and help.

    If you'd like to chat in more detail, please feel free to reach out to us by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS
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    im 13 and ive been droped off with my dad and i dont feel safe and i need help but if he finds out then im gonna get hit more and my best friend is the only person i feel safe with and i dont have my phone so please if anyone can come get me and take me there i would be so happy i also have marking on me and blood is coming out of them i dont have my clothes not my toothbrush i have nothing but my school computer and i dont feel comfortable contacting the school bc after im gonna get hurt i just want to go when hes not around bc i would feel so much more safe

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,
    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. No one should be abused and you have the right to report it. You can check out childhelp.org for more information about abuse reporting. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
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    I had always had been abused and now it just feels like it is normal, come home from school and BOOM, big punch, I sometimes fall unconscious from the beatings. I get all my privileges taken from me, My walk has became a limp, and I hate to admit this but i have thought of suicide and murder. I'm on the brink of insanity, I can hardly even have emotion anymore. They will just call me a victim and I just want to run and remove them from my life. They say they "Love me" but deep down i think they don't, my grade SUCK and I'm being truthful, once i get home today, I'm probably gonna die or run before they get home. Can you please help me.

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