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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting us here at NRS. We appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation at home. It can definitely get stressful when the adults at home are not supportive and it is understandable to be feeling overwhelmed. It is not okay for your parents to yell at you constantly or to talk down to you like that. You are a human being and humans make mistakes sometimes. That does not mean you have messed up your life or that you should give give up. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel cared for.

    Having a support system is very important during difficult and stressful times. We want to encourage you to reach out people that you trust to talk to about how you are feeling. This could include friends, family members, a counselor or another trusted adult. If you are not quite ready to reach out to anyone in person yet you can speak with a counselor at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or by texting "connect" to 741741.

    We truly want to be a support for you during this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in detail about what has been going on or further explore options for coping, please do not hesitate to contact us directly. We are available 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.

    Stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hi,
    im 14 and my life is not the best my parents are always yelling at me and telling me i might as well give up because i've already messed up my life. I'm depressed and angry and i need to get out of my house but i can't and both my siblings are gone at someone else shows for the week and I'm about to brake down and loses it. what do i do

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. Things at home sound overwhelming for you from your message and we are sorry you are struggling. It’s very brave to reach out for help, and we want you to know that we are here to help and support you.

    NRS provides supportive services to youth who have no place to go, who are in crisis, or having problems living at home. Sometimes sharing with another person helps to develop strategies to problems not previously thought of. We can talk with you in more detail about what’s going on and are available by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us at www.1800runaway.org by clicking on the chat button. You are welcome to use the forum as well, but please know that we are unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you are in danger or feel unsafe, please contact 911 for emergency assistance.

    Thank you again for reaching out to NRS, and we hope to hear from you. Stay strong and know that you are not alone.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I cant be in this house anymore I’m 14 years old and I want to move out as soon as possible

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It takes courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing what’s going on. It sounds like things are very stressful with your mother’s abusive behavior towards you. We understand you are diligently working in school as well as at home and feel unsupported the rest of your family as well. You deserve to live in an environment where you are safe and treated with respect, and we are sorry you’re going through this.

    Your safety and well-being is important and you don’t deserved to be mistreated. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    You may also be able to report any mistreatment to Child Protective Services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi. I'm not sure if this forum is active anymore but um, I wondering I guess what I can DO abt my situation? My mom is really verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive I feel like shes really manipulative because she makes it seem like I'm lazy and do nothing and ungrateful when I push myself everyday to help, in fact I'm the one who does the cooking and cleaning and stuff 87% of the time.... She kinda sleep deprives me, and always gets mad at me no matter what I do,,,, theres not one day where she doesn't say something rude to me. She also really forces religion on to me, and makes me present myself in a certain way to all her friends... I've failed all my classes because my mom takes priority over our religion than my actual grades... I'm always sleep deprived. Shes so JUDGEMENTAL theres just so much I could go on about.

    My family is also very 2 faced they act supportive but then all turn on me. I would have no where to go if I decided to leave. I'm too younge to get a job I'm only 14 turning 15 soon. I have no friends to help me because I'm home school....

    I feel like the situation is so bad over the last 4 years I've been thinking about suicide. I'm not gonna do it because I feel like I have potential but this whole environment is so stressful for me..

    I'm honestly too scared to talk to someone about this because I dont want my mom to get in trouble...

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone. Being screamed at constantly can be overwhelming and frustrating. One option to consider is to speak with an adult or school counselor about what is going on. We know that most schools are closed right now but some counselors are still meeting with students virtually.
    We know that you mentioned wanting to move out, we are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide you with support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 13 and my grandfather is all ways screeming at me over something i didn't do and my 11 year old sister get spoiled be him and i want to move out now

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks for reaching out to us. We are very sorry to hear that home is not a good place to be right now and that your mom is being abused by your dad. That's very traumatic for you and the whole family. We are also very concerned when you talk about suicide. We hope that you will continue to reach out for help just as you reached out to us.

    We are located in the United States and it seems you are in Great Britain, so we are only familiar with the laws and resources located in the US. Here are some helplines located in your country that you may want to contact to get the help you need:

    Support Line:
    https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/suicide/
    01708 765200

    Crisis Text Line:
    https://www.crisistextline.uk/

    Abuse:
    https://www.nspcc.org.uk/
    0800 1111

    We hope the above resources can provide some help, along with other people in you life that you trust reaching out to.

    Wishing you well,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 15 and I want to leave my family. All my parents do is argue and shout and my dad hits my mum, I don’t want her to be abused, I want me, my mum, sister and dog to run away from him as every day he shouts at me for laughing with my friends. Yet when he does anything none of us can do anything otherwise he will Shout at us and hit my mum again. I want him gone from my life but for some reason I don’t, I always wanted a strong father yet every time I cry he tells me to grow up and goes back to sitting on the sofa drinking vodka. I will always love my dad but every day I go to bed crying. It is so bad that earlier I put on my reminders that tomorrow I was going to take my own life. Please help me

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are in a very painful situation watching your deal with his custodial guardians being emotionally abusive, and being unable to intervene. Here at NRS we truly want to be a support for you and your son during this difficult time.

    Unfortunately, the main thing you can do without being a custodial parent is to report any abuse and neglect to child protective services (CPS). You might reach out to the expert child advocates at Child Help if you have any questions about reporting: 1-800-422-4453.

    If your son is thinking about running you might give him our information (1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runway.org). We can provide him with support, and try to brainstorm his options with him, and/or look for local resources including youth shelters. If he does come to yours it is possible that police could get involved. You could be at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway that is a minor charge, but it might be difficult for them to successfully charge you based on the alleged abuse. If you physically go get him and take him from home rather than him coming to you, that is when you could be at risk for being charged with more than harboring a runaway.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk more. We are always here for you and your family.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My son is about to be 14 years old but I'm not his biological parent he is mother has custody they verbally and mentally abused him this is her second time in two years she's engaged and move some guy into the house if you seen where he lives at it's just unfit he's unhappy there he's angry he lashes out and it hurts me because I don't have any legal rights and I don't know what to do she's taking his phone from him so I can't contact them she told me she will let me know when I can see him and come get him my son is miserable he's going to be 14 this month I mean is there anything I can do can he just come stay with me I mean I know she may call the police I have no legal rights I mean what can I do I hate seeing him in pain like that

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks for reaching out to NRS,
    It seems like you are feeling singled out at home and that your mom isn’t giving you the support you want. It is understandable that you want to take steps to make the situation better and feel more mentally stable at home. It seems like you have felt so much stress from it you have had suicidal thoughts as well. If those continue or you feel like they get worse please call 911 or 1-800-273-8255 to reach the national suicide prevention lifeline.
    You may also want to consider looking at nami.org for more information on mental health since you mentioned suicidal thoughts and may be going through so depression like symptoms. They may have some ideas for dealing with the situation and your feelings. Another option would be to find a personal therapist/counselor. If you needed help finding one that is more affordable we can help with our database of information.
    You could potentially live with your uncle if you had parent permission to do so. If your mom does try to kick you out, and physically tries to do so you are able to call police as that is negligent behavior on their part and not something they should do. If you were to leave without their permission then your parents could file a runaway report and the police would force you to go home.
    Hopefully this information is helpful, you deserve to live in a supportive place, if you have more questions please reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

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    Guest replied
    i always feel really invisible here at my house. it’s not about jealousy but, my sister always gets more than me and my mom always yells at me for things that i didn’t do or they literally have no relation to me whatsoever. she’ll even drink, pop pills, ect. and thinks it’s okay. today i was talking to my step dad and he said something like we’re all just spoiled kids nowadays and i was like if i was spoiled i’d have a lot more things and the house would be wayyyyyyyyyyy bigger. then my mom jumped in and said if you don’t like it here then ********ing move out. and i’m honestly considering it. i have to share a room w an 18 year old that’s so “innocent” and “perfect” and “she does no wrong” i can’t live like this anymore. my mom has made me attempt suicide sooo many times and i can’t deal w it anymore. i wanna move in w my uncle at least there i’m happy, my family is there, and i feel loved and appreciated unlike here.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. It’s great to hear that you have a supportive place in mind. If you go to stay at someone’s house without prior permission from your parents, the adult(s) in the home could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your parents view the situation.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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