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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    If I stay in this house any longer, I can't guarantee my saftey or my family's. I'm starting to realize that I've been abused as long as I've been alive. And now I'm scared I'll kill myself if I stay here with this knowledge.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    We are sorry to hear your mom is so neglectful to you. It sounds like you really want more attention and to be seen and heard by your mom.Maybe you can write a letter to your mom explaining how you feel. Or just try to talk to her when she is in a better mood and seems somewhat available for talking. We'd like to help out more but probably need more information about your situation. The best way we can help is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We can talk about what your going through and what your next best steps are. We also have a chat feature on our main page if you'd like to contact us that way. We hope to hear from you!

    NRS

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    I’m 14 and my mom act like I’m not her kid and that’s I should listen to her and she don’t even care abt me she don’t care abt me going to school she acts like nothing matter she only cares abt her slef

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us today. Sharing what has been going on in your life takes a lot of bravery. Reaching out is a great first step. We appreciate your openness and we are always here to listen and support you in every way we can.
    First we want to say it is not okay to be blamed for things in your life from your mom. Being made to feel like you’re a mistake is unfair to you as you are valuable and your feelings are valid. It sounds very difficult to be living with your mom after your dad has passed away which we are sorry to hear about you going through. As you mentioned having thoughts of suicide, we do want to let you know that there is a great resource called the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255/suicidepreventionlifeline.org). They are always there to listen if you are feeling like you may hurt or kill yourself, but you do not need to be suicidal to call. They provide 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, and crisis resources.
    We are also here 24/7 if you want someone to talk to or brainstorm ideas with and we would love to talk to you if you feel comfortable reaching out. We have a 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and an online chat system through 1800runaway.org. We can explore options that you may feel best fit for your situation which can include safety planning, family meetings with your mom and potentially others, and abuse reporting, which may be hard to say how a report may respond to this situation but we can try to help gather and discuss as much information as we can. These are just a few options we can always expand upon if you can reach out to us again, and we can brainstorm others that you feel may fit better in your situation.

    Again, we appreciate your strength in reaching out. We do truthfully care for you and we are always here for you if you feel comfortable calling or chatting with us. Stay safe.

    Best, NRS

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    Hey I’m a kid whose 14 and I have been living like a mistake a disgrace like an ugly duckling my whole life except this time I don’t think I’m gonna have a happy ending I have been living my life like everything is my fault like I’m piece of garbage that shouldn’t be there it’s seems like it would be better if I was out of my moms life I had a terrible childhood my dad died when I was 5 my mom owns a restaurant and she cares about it more than me and I’m forced to work there when I don’t even want to I just want to enjoy my summer but no I have to face the same crap every day which is being blamed for everything being told what to do and being treated like sh*t (sry about that word is just the only word I can think of) and my mom just won’t SHUT UP !!!! And I pray to god everything private moment I can but it doesn’t seem to be getting better I even attempted to leave my house but my alarm didn’t wake me up so I thought it was a sign from god so I gave it a rest till now I’m still having thoughts of suicide or leaving or just getting out of my family’s life in general so if u have any thoughts that can help I would really appreciate it thank you and if u want to reply to me call me TT797

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation. You seem to feel left out and overlooked. No one deserves to feel ignored.

    You said you help around the house but your sister takes the credit. Is there a way to make sure you are doing the bulk of these chores right in front of them? Perhaps pick a loud chore like vacuuming while they are home. Or perhaps in casual conversation you can bring up a chore you are about to do like I am the one getting groceries next week and I am starting a list please write down your favorite cereal etc. You may be feeling invisible generally so perhaps you can ask your family to come to some event you participate in. You can make an invitation and say please come and see me in the play or invite them to a sporting event you are involved in. Maybe you could get involved in one of their clubs which could be a way to get your sister to start being nicer to you.

    You said that you want to get out of the house but we do not provide housing. We are here to give you support and keep kids safe by giving out shelter information or provide CPS help in abuse situations. The thing about a shelter is that generally you need your parents’ permission in order to stay there. Most states the legal age of majority is 18 when you are legally allowed to leave home on your own. You might want to reach out to a counselor (perhaps at school) to discuss how you are feeling. Perhaps you could ask your parents for family counseling so they would find out that you are needing attention.

    We are glad you reached out to us and want to give you as much support as possible. Remember that the National Runaway Safeline is here 24/7. You can reach out again here or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

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    I am 14 and i live in a family of 5 i have 2 siblings my mom seems to like my other siblings more than me i am the middle child but if i ask to get something she says no u have to help around the house but i do help around the house but my sister takes the credit my dad doesnt even notices me my sister is so mean to me and i want to leave i know noone will be worried si okease take me

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you don't deserve to be abused mentally or emotionally. You mentioned that your mom physically abuses your infant niece - this raises concern. You have the right to report this behavior of your mom's to child protective services. You can get more information by going to childhelp.org, calling 800-422-4453, speaking with a teacher or medical professional.

    It sounds like your mom isn't listening to you when you are trying to express your thoughts and feelings about your current situation. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hi, I’m 14 years old and I’ve been with my emotionally abusive mother for 10 years now. She will get mad at me for the littlest things like if I am finishing up texting my friend she would ask me to take out the garbage and I’ll say yeah one sec and a few seconds later she will yell at me saying I never do anything around the house. There was this one Thule where 2 of my friends came over to see my newborn niece. We invited them into my house and keep in mind one is a boy the other is a girl. So before my friends sat down, my mother comes in and she sounds weirded out a bit and she’s out of breath to, she says what are you doing and I said just sitting down. She goes oh ok. So my friend girl is poor and she can’t afford food so I let her have some chili. My mother comes in with a pissed off look and she does have verbal aggression towards me and she told me that my friend can’t have any food because it’s ours and ours only. And I gave her a dirty look and she was mad I will admit that. But she’s greedy, has verbal aggression towards me, emotionally abuses me, and she has physically abused my niece. And my niece isn’t even one years old yet. My mother has called me spoiled when she buys stuff for herself, she’s told me this when I was going through depression “ if you killed yourself I wouldn’t care”. Let’s not forget she has put me and my father through depression. She wishes I wasn’t born, she shows verbal aggression towards me in public and it’s obvious. I’ve had enough of my mother. Can someone please get me out of that house

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you deserve to live somewhere where you feel safe. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    You brought up some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Your dad's previous physical abuse and threats to repeat that behavior and your brother's violence is unacceptable and you do not deserve to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    You mentioned that you have previously have tried suicide. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    My family has a lot of history. And each person has a lot of history. I feel like I'm not allowed to get mad or sad. If they do the call me ungrateful, worthless, useless, ect... I mostly want to get away from my parents and older brother. They abuse me. Verbally and sometimes physically. Yesterday I was supposed to go somewhere. I asked my mom to buy me a dress to take to the somewhere. She did. She did but the whole time she was complaining how us kids (there's 4 of us) never help around the house. I like to say that I try to help as much as I can. She kept on going so I decided to help her clean. And so did my other siblings. We were each in charge of a room in the house. No one else cleaned where they had to. So I personally felt responsible for it not looking like we cleaned it. I ended up not going to the party so my mom called me dramatic and stupid for not going. Later that day after I had been cleaning and crying my mom knocked on my door and asked if I still wanted to go. I said no. I had spent all morning after I cleaned my room getting ready. All that crying obviously ruined everything I did. She got mad and closed the door in my face. She said it was no ones fault but mine for crying. When my mom talks to me I don't like to talk back so most of the time I don't explain anything. This has happened so many times I can't take it. I cant hide my emotions in fear of being judged. I've been suicidal for years. She knows this. She's seen my self harming scars. I've asked for help. I haven't gotten any. So I'm asking for help now. Is there anywhere I could go to get away from home? To get help? But get help where my family doesn't have to be involved in setting this up. Because if I ask to set this up they'll just do it half way and not finish it like always. I just need someone to get me out of here. Like a foster home or a rehab I don't care I just want to get away. Please help.
    My mom won’t even take me to my apt for my depression but instead will go to hers. My dad does nothing but comes home and sits, if the dishes aren’t done because of doing homework first he will start screaming at me. He has also threaten to hit me and I’m scared because he use to. My brother is over protective and it scares me, he gets violent when I don’t come home in time. He once made me download life360 on my phone. My mom, its always about her and if she’s not apart of something she will end up in it and act like the victim. I’m am so scared my dad is always calling my mom names and he use to call me fat then I starved myself and he wounded ‘quote, “why I’m so weird” he use to call me names as well. I have friends but they only want to be around me when I’m at my best. I’ve tried suicide but it failed. I work so I gave money to a friend that uses a juul and he yelled at me but little does he know I know he also use to have a drug thing where he gave this person money when using. Let’s just say I hate my family and I understand there’s people out there with a worse life but plz I need help. Everyone is in bed and I want to leave but I don’t know how too and I’ve also tried getting a separation from my parent but they will not let me leave.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It is entirely inappropriate for your parents to treat you so unfairly as well as so hurtfully. Your parents have a legal obligation to take care of you until you are no longer a minor. Kicking you out of the house constitutes neglect, a form of abuse and can be reported just like physical or emotional abuse. If you are interested in learning about the reporting process or in filing a report, you can contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. Calling them does not mean you have to file a report and you can hang up at any time before you start making a report with no consequences. If you do not feel comfortable calling on your own, we would be happy to call with you if you call us first. You can call us on our 24/7 confidential hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org. We can also talk more about what your situation is and what other options you may have.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I’m 14 and I get punished for unexplained reasons and hit if I resist I also get threatened to get kicked out the house if I say or do anything.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS.

    Depression and anxiety can be really difficult to come forward and talk about, so thank you for being strong and starting a conversation. No one deserves to feel uncomfortable in their own home, especially when it involves mental health issues.

    Running away can be a big step and can often be very difficult when dealing with mental illness. The fact that your depression and anxiety kick in when you’re with family is very sad to hear. It is a hard decision but can be a viable option if you feel you can no longer be at home.

    Obviously it depends on your comfort, but sometimes the best step towards feeling better is communication. Whether that is with your mom, a person in your family, a friend, or even a school counselor, talking about your troubles and what could be triggering your depression and anxiety can help a great deal. Telling one person can feel like a big, impossible thing, but you are not alone and have already started by talking with us here at NRS

    If talking to people in your own life seems like too much right now, here are some resources for other groups that may be able to help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness can be reached at www.nami.org, at 1-800-950-NAMI, or by texting NAMI to 741741. There is also SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services) that can be reached at 1-877-726-4727 or at samhsa.gov. We are also available here at NRS 24/7 to call or chat with you whenever you need support.

    Best of luck,
    NRS
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