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I’m 14 and both of my parents are dead. I live with my legal guardian but I don’t want to stay anymore. There so much verbal abuse that has been happening. I have an older sister who is 21 that I can stay with. I have told her I want to stay and she has agree to it. But I don’t know if my legal guardian will let me leave. I don’t want to just leave because I feel as if they will bring me back because it’ll look like I just ran away. My guardian has many health issues both psychical and mental to where she takes medication for it so I can’t use that. There has been a point to where have tired to kill myself, and my guardian told the doctors that I did it for attention so I didn’t get the help I need. I have tried to talk to her multiple times but she turns everything I say against me. I feel like I’m going crazy, I don’t want to be here anymore but I’m scared to leave because I don’t know how she’ll react.
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Hi there,
Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We appreciate you reaching out and are sorry to hear about the situation with your legal guardian. It sounds very stressful, and you do not deserve to be treated the way she treats you.
Regarding living with you sister, since you are 14, your guardian can file a runaway report. If your guardian were to file a report, then you could be found by the police and returned home. Also, there are laws about harboring runaways, so while this is rarer, you should know that it is possible for your sister to get in trouble if a report is filed. That being said, if your guardian were to give you permission, then you would be allowed to live with your sister.
Another option could be filing a child abuse report. If this is something you are interested in or would like to hear more about, we can help you with that. We can even just talk through your options and what could happen if you were to chose to file a report. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is another great resource to talk through your options (https://childhelphotline.org/).
It is important that you take care of yourself. Talking with school counselor, teacher, or another trusted adult can be super helpful. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is also a great resource if you’d like to talk about your mental health https://www.nami.org/Home and the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ is another helpful resource.
We are here to support you 24/7. If you would like to talk in more detail, please contact NRS either by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chatting online through 1800runaway.org. We care about your safety, so if you are ever in an emergency, please call 911.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS
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My brother raped me through my whole childhood and I never told my parents. They found out around one year ago by going through my notebooks and I am now in counseling. It is helping, but it does not help that they never even punished him, or made him move out. We have filed two police reports but that was it and nothing ever came from it. I feel so unsafe in my home and my parents know that, but they continue to let him stay here. He hasn't touched or penetrated me in a few years, but he's made several comments and he looks at me like he still would like to abuse me. Recently, he's even looked at my little sister that way, I do not feel safe just being in my home. I cannot hide away in my room like I used to and i'm terrified to sleep knowing he used to do things to me while I was asleep before. His looks toward me make me feel uncomfortable and my parents know this. They also tell him personal information about my life that he should have no access to. They have also told other family members without my permission. I feel so frustrated and upset they have taken no action to make me feel safe, or even punish him. They told me he has a plan to move out next year, thinking it would provide me some sort of comfort, but it does not. He should have been gone as soon as they found out to protect me, and I will be leaving next year when I turn 18, so him even moving out next year would not help. I do not feel safe and I am scared. I need to leave this house.Comment
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Hi there,
HI,
Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS), we are so glad that you did. Firstly, we want to commend you for your strength and bravery throughout this entire process that you have experienced. No one should have to endure what you already have, especially at the hands of a family member, and what you continue to endure each day that your parents allow your brother to stay under the same roof as you and expose details of your personal life to other family members. Your discomfort and fear are completely valid, and your family and the police should be taking this very seriously.
We work best with people if we can have a conversation with them, so we can better understand the situation and explore options or create a safety plan together. We urge you to reach out via chat through this website or on our phone hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here for you. We believe you.
In addition to speaking with us you may also want to reach out www.rainn.org - The National Sexual Assault hotline, as they may have some legal suggestions that they could help you out with.
We are here to help 24/7 and really hope to hear from you soon.
Sincerely,
NRS
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