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  • ccsmod4
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    I’m 14 and I’m not tryna..

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home (such as neglect), you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).


    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I’m 14 and I’m not tryna live with my crack or meth head mom and she lives in a trailer with no power or way to clean myself. How is it possible to move out and legally with my friend that is a better environment?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 09-26-2019, 06:25 AM.

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  • ccsmod2
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    First of all thanks for writing in today it can be difficult to make that first step and it show a lot courage on your part. It not cool that your mom is putting you down and encouraging your young sibling to do the same. Parents should be encouraging. You mentioned self-harming if that something you interested in exploring for help there is website called Adolescent Self Injury Foundation and talks about some ways to do deal with self-harming. If you ever having though suicidal though you can always call in here or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). We do have conference call options were we could act as an in-between with you and your mom. It’s important to remember that you are never alone.
    Thank you and good luck
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    I'm 15, and I hate living with my mum. Like I hate it and her. Ever since I got into high school I've had a rough time. My mum decided I was old enough to find out that I was basically a mistake and that her and my dad accidentally had me and were debating on whether or not to get an abortion. If I'm honest I don't think I ever needed to know that and I'm not gonna be able to look at her in the same way I used to. On top of that me and her always argue, in front of my younger siblings, in front of her boyfriend. Now my Dad stopped seeing me when I was about 6 or 7 and my mum makes me feel like I'm to blame for that. When I was 11 I began self-harming and had a lot of suicidal thoughts. I kinda stopped doing that because things turned around but it's like she saw I was fine again and now just carries on with her old ways. I'm always being verbally abused by her and she encourages my younger siblings to do the same. I know it seems pathetic but all this is really getting to me and I'm honestly on the verge of breaking. I can't live with my mum anymore I literally feel myself slowly losing all my energy and just giving up. Please get me out of here.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Living in a stressful environment is hard enough on its own, and we can only imagine how strong you must be to handle it with depression, too. Already having an awareness about your mental health, however, can be helpful. For example, do you know when things at home might make your depression worse? If you want to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we are more than ready to have a conversation with you to explore triggers to your depression, discuss options to help you cope, or just listen to you explain your situation as we work on a plan together. We are here to help in whatever way you want.
    You mention wanting to live on your own. We are non-directive here, meaning we do not tell anyone to do or to NOT do anything. However, we want you know to know some general information to keep you safe and informed. If you are under the age of majority (usually 18 years old), your legal guardian has the right to give you permission to leave the home. If you leave without that permission, you would be considered a runaway. Your guardian may make a runaway report with the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is what’s called a ‘status offense.’ This means that if you are already in trouble with the law (like you’re on probation), it could make your situation worse.
    If leaving home without permission is something you wish to do, we would rather have you safe and off the street than in a park or with someone you do not know well. We have a database full of shelters across the country. If you want to explore what options might be around you, please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Again, we are here only to help in whatever way you want and to support you.
    Thanks again for your message, and please be safe.

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    I have depression and I can't live in my house cause its so stressful and I can't breathe in it etc. Its just too much of a bad living arrangement and I just want to live on my own since I will sooner or later anyways.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. It is not okay for your mom to threaten to kick you and to hit you. Home is supposed to be safe and from what you shared your mom is making you scared to live with her. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I’m 14 and my mum is telling me to leave and get the ******** out of the house, we have a long history of clashing and butting heads but over the years it has gotten progressively worse, I feel trapped and stressed, as soon as someone raises their voice even if it’s not directed at me I get anxiety and I get stressed, my mum verbally abuses me, she screams and shouts about how I’m “so ungrateful” and that i “have no respect” and that I have a bad attitude, she also calls me names and tells me to shut the ******** up . At this point it’s hard to explain things because of everything that has happened iv gone to school counseling and spoken to teachers I trust, but at the end of the day they all believe my mother because she’s as perfect as a rose whenever she’s around others, I’m the liar, I’m full of ********, I get suicidal thoughts on the daily and I don’t know how much more I can take of this crap. At one point around the end of last year she was being aggressive and she cam and whacked me in the head, I had had enough of her crap, so I pushed her back with my feet because I was on my bed cornered, I snapped, I told her if she tried anything again or came near me I would snap. I was just so scared of her and I still am. I have no door where we live, so she can always see and hear everything, we have daily arguments and disagreements, we had figured things out for a while, and then things have started to go down hill again, we have had more and more arguments and it’s mostly about money or how I don’t do anything around the house, I know I am privileged compared to most children who have more issues, my mum pays for my school and sports payments, buys me the clothes I need, and is generous, but then she just goes and throws it all in my face afterwards, I would trade everything just to have a safe environment, she doesn’t seem to get that. Today everything just got worse, I said that I need more space for clothes and that I might sell or most likely throw out some old dresses, I don’t go anywhere fancy to wear them, this is when the argument broke out, she started screaming at me and being hostile, I was fighting back and I threw one of the dresses out of my room and said “find space in your wardrobe” I had no other place to put my frustration, she storemed and and got in my face, screaming at me, she shoved me really hard in the chest, I snapped again and I pushed her back, we got physical and had a big fight. She wants me out of the house she took my phone and my new laptop, but I can keep my ipad cuz my nan paid for half, I have 100$ in cash, she asked if I was staying and I said yes but I would just keep to myself, I hide in my room most of the time but I do not think I can take anymore of this crap, we also live with her girlfriend (my mums getting les) and she has been abusive in the past too, my mumtakes her frustration from her relationship out on me too.I don’t want to speak to my father because he sides with my mum and I’m sure he’s doesn’t want me, my grandparents live in another state over, but I have a life here and my friends that I feel safe around, I have moved around my entire life and I only just started to feel stable in school. What should I do, talking to my mother is a death zone and her way is always right, I don’t have a bf or anything so there is no underlying issues there.
    I live in Australia

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    If I stay in this house any longer, I can't guarantee my saftey or my family's. I'm starting to realize that I've been abused as long as I've been alive. And now I'm scared I'll kill myself if I stay here with this knowledge.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    We are sorry to hear your mom is so neglectful to you. It sounds like you really want more attention and to be seen and heard by your mom.Maybe you can write a letter to your mom explaining how you feel. Or just try to talk to her when she is in a better mood and seems somewhat available for talking. We'd like to help out more but probably need more information about your situation. The best way we can help is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We can talk about what your going through and what your next best steps are. We also have a chat feature on our main page if you'd like to contact us that way. We hope to hear from you!

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 14 and my mom act like I’m not her kid and that’s I should listen to her and she don’t even care abt me she don’t care abt me going to school she acts like nothing matter she only cares abt her slef

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us today. Sharing what has been going on in your life takes a lot of bravery. Reaching out is a great first step. We appreciate your openness and we are always here to listen and support you in every way we can.
    First we want to say it is not okay to be blamed for things in your life from your mom. Being made to feel like you’re a mistake is unfair to you as you are valuable and your feelings are valid. It sounds very difficult to be living with your mom after your dad has passed away which we are sorry to hear about you going through. As you mentioned having thoughts of suicide, we do want to let you know that there is a great resource called the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255/suicidepreventionlifeline.org). They are always there to listen if you are feeling like you may hurt or kill yourself, but you do not need to be suicidal to call. They provide 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, and crisis resources.
    We are also here 24/7 if you want someone to talk to or brainstorm ideas with and we would love to talk to you if you feel comfortable reaching out. We have a 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and an online chat system through 1800runaway.org. We can explore options that you may feel best fit for your situation which can include safety planning, family meetings with your mom and potentially others, and abuse reporting, which may be hard to say how a report may respond to this situation but we can try to help gather and discuss as much information as we can. These are just a few options we can always expand upon if you can reach out to us again, and we can brainstorm others that you feel may fit better in your situation.

    Again, we appreciate your strength in reaching out. We do truthfully care for you and we are always here for you if you feel comfortable calling or chatting with us. Stay safe.

    Best, NRS

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    Hey I’m a kid whose 14 and I have been living like a mistake a disgrace like an ugly duckling my whole life except this time I don’t think I’m gonna have a happy ending I have been living my life like everything is my fault like I’m piece of garbage that shouldn’t be there it’s seems like it would be better if I was out of my moms life I had a terrible childhood my dad died when I was 5 my mom owns a restaurant and she cares about it more than me and I’m forced to work there when I don’t even want to I just want to enjoy my summer but no I have to face the same crap every day which is being blamed for everything being told what to do and being treated like sh*t (sry about that word is just the only word I can think of) and my mom just won’t SHUT UP !!!! And I pray to god everything private moment I can but it doesn’t seem to be getting better I even attempted to leave my house but my alarm didn’t wake me up so I thought it was a sign from god so I gave it a rest till now I’m still having thoughts of suicide or leaving or just getting out of my family’s life in general so if u have any thoughts that can help I would really appreciate it thank you and if u want to reply to me call me TT797

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation. You seem to feel left out and overlooked. No one deserves to feel ignored.

    You said you help around the house but your sister takes the credit. Is there a way to make sure you are doing the bulk of these chores right in front of them? Perhaps pick a loud chore like vacuuming while they are home. Or perhaps in casual conversation you can bring up a chore you are about to do like I am the one getting groceries next week and I am starting a list please write down your favorite cereal etc. You may be feeling invisible generally so perhaps you can ask your family to come to some event you participate in. You can make an invitation and say please come and see me in the play or invite them to a sporting event you are involved in. Maybe you could get involved in one of their clubs which could be a way to get your sister to start being nicer to you.

    You said that you want to get out of the house but we do not provide housing. We are here to give you support and keep kids safe by giving out shelter information or provide CPS help in abuse situations. The thing about a shelter is that generally you need your parents’ permission in order to stay there. Most states the legal age of majority is 18 when you are legally allowed to leave home on your own. You might want to reach out to a counselor (perhaps at school) to discuss how you are feeling. Perhaps you could ask your parents for family counseling so they would find out that you are needing attention.

    We are glad you reached out to us and want to give you as much support as possible. Remember that the National Runaway Safeline is here 24/7. You can reach out again here or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
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