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  • #91
    Hi, I am 14 and I have been struggling with some things at home. My parents found out that I’ve been skipping online classes and the my grades dropped from straight A,s to straight F’s. The only reason why I did it is because I am home alone 24/7 and then around 3:31 my little brothers come home and I need to babysit. I am home alone from 11:00am- 8pm. I just wanted attention from my parents but know I feel like I am just a burden to them. I have had thoughts of doing drugs from the last 6 months now and yesterday was the first day I tried something. Once my parents found out that my grades dropped, the first thing my dad told me is “I want to just go home and choke you.”. And then this morning my mom woke me up saying that I need to start working on weekends at the family restaurant and when I told my mom that I was going to use the weekend to start focusing harder on school she said “ I don’t care”. My mom also threatened to take all of my clothes away and only leave me with underwear and bras and a shirt and a pair of pants. I also think I’m bi- curious, and I don’t want to tell any of my family because of all the homophobic jokes they have made over the years. I also haven’t had my own room for almost a month now because we have this friend (that I did not agree could come home ) staying at my house. In the past days has also invaded my privacy by taking my room door down and he claims that a 14 year old girl does not need “privacy”. They also threatened to take my phone away when my phone is the only thing I have close to outside communication, and my phone is also the way I turn in school work. I wish I could have an open conversation with them about how I’m feeling and why I did all of this, and the thoughts I’ve been having, but they will just end up calling me ungrateful or go on about how I don’t do enough, or that this is all just in my mind, or that they never had the opportunities in life that I have right now as a child in Gen Z. Please help me, or just threaten to send me to military school in South America because it’s “cheaper”. Please help me.

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    • ccsmod16
      ccsmod16 commented
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      Hi
      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline – we are here to help and to listen.
      We’re sorry to hear that your parents have made threats to hurt you, aren’t letting you focus on school, and threatening to take away your phone. You do not deserve to be treated that way, and you have a right to file a child abuse report. You can do so at ChildHelp 1-800-422-4453.
      Normally investigations are taken when there is strong evidence of physical abuse or neglect, however this may also depend on who takes the call. Any hotline worker at ChildHelp should be able to take your report and let you know what actions they can take. One of our own hotline workers can also help you file an abuse report.
      We would like to leave you with a few hotline referrals. The Trevor Project (1-866-488-7386), the LGBT National Hotline (888-843-4564), and TransLifeline (877-565-8860) are 24/7 hotline numbers that you can access to speak to someone if you are in crisis or if you wanted to speak with someone. The Substance Use and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) hotline is also 24/7 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
      You can also reach us via our 24/7 hotline and chatline to discuss these options further. Navigating your sexuality and a changing home life can be confusing, but you are not alone in this process.
      Best of luck,
      NRS

  • #92
    i dont know what to do. and i dont know if my parents are even abusive. my dad isnt around so when i mention my parents i mean my step dad and my mom, who are actually divorced. confusing i know. they never told me why they were even getting divorced. never have, never will. i cant help but think its because of me because in the same year they got divorced, before, i was cutting + was very suicidal. i was 8? maybe? my mom is terrifying. i know she doesnt truly love me. she kicked me out of her house because of the way i shut the micro wave, so i lived with my step dad for a week, and then she made me come back and pretend like nothing ever happned. i do strongly belive she was abusing xanex for a while. her docter, who is a friend, keep that in mind, gave it to her for 'sleeping'. thats not what its used for and i know htat. she has force fed me xanex before when im having panic attacks so i just fall asleep and she wont have to deal with me. she takes my phone for anything i do because she hates me talking to my friends about her and what she does. she wont even let me stay with my grandma because then my mom wont have control of me. whenevr i bring up how i am feeling she calls me crazy and screams at me. i really dont want to live anymore. i took too many of my depression meds and over doesed. i should have gone to the hospital but htye would have drug tested me, i had smoked weed with a friend the day before, which is really weird for me, but i needed something to forget for a little bit. But i never told my mom. only one friend. i was sick for a week, and tbh, i wish i woudve taken one more pill that wouldve pushed me over. im just doing so bad and i have no where to go. ive tried talking to counslers, inside and outside of school, but my mom finds a way to get them to tell her what im talking about. i dont know what to do but i want to do something that isnt ending my life, because i dont want to leave my friends and my sister.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe and stay strong,
      NRS

  • #93
    My parents have been fighting a lot and it’s mainly anger at the other parent. Just angry no physical

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #94
    Hi , I’m 14 years old and I can’t stand my parents , they are way to overprotective and I can never do anything , I wish I was living with my other family , I want someone who will understand how I feel and who will appreciate me , my mom and her bf compares me to other people and I hate it ... I try my best and I just can’t live here anymore .. they put me under so much pressure and I can’t take it anymore I wanna runaway every night and day .. it’s so hard for me , and her bf controls me and he acts like he’s my mom I just need help my mom lets him control me and he hit me to and I don’t wanna be in this house no more , I can’t accept what god is giving me right now it’s torturing me ..

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    • #95
      hey am 14 and i need help my parents are mean she threating me everday hits me calls me names and it makes me said and i was raped and i told her and she said she take care of it and it was still happening nd she never brought it up to me again she just brusted it off and i need help i dont wanna stay here

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      • ccsmod13
        ccsmod13 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment tochild protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

        We are so sorry to hear that you have experienced sexual violence. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and you deserve to be believed and supported. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

        We hope to hear from you soon.

        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #96
      Hello, I’m reach out as a guest because I don’t want my mom to find this. My life at home is like “hell on earth”. Because I’m a darkskin African American, she always calls me, “******”, “ugly”, “blackie”. I’ve told her multiple times that the words that she calls me hurts but, she doesn’t care. NOBODY cares. I feel like I’m alone all of the time. I have no friends b/c their all scared of my mom. She insults them as well. My mom would talk about my weight(disrespectfully) by saying stuff like, “you’re so fat!” “I can fit in your clothes!” “Nobody will like you if you’re fat!”. She would also would also call me a “slut” if I wear clothes that are a tad bit tight. Once she told be that “I deserved to be *****” because I didn’t want to wear a dress that I felt uncomfortable in. She told me that I'm trying to “steal her man” because I wear leggings around the house. Before ( 5 years ago), she was VERY aggressive verbally but now (2 years to now), she’s aggressive verbally and PHYSICALLY! I’ve been hit with a wine bottle in my head and I had to take (pain medicine) because it’s was so painful. My head was spinning and I felt really strange. I’ve been hit with [various household items}, being hit in the shower(which makes the the hits much more painful), I've been choked, a knife has been pulled on me more than twice, my 8 year old hands near hot stoves, etc... Each time that I’m around my mom I want to [hurt] myself, she’s the reason. I can’t have NO friends. My family hates me. My teachers don’t care about me. NOBODY cares. Please help me. I don’t know if you can help, but please help me.
      Last edited by ccsmod16; 04-19-2021, 10:43 PM. Reason: Racially charged language, violence against child with weapons, swear word. Original in log.

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      • ccsmod16
        ccsmod16 commented
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        HI, thank you for reaching out; we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are going through a lot and you don't deserve any of this treatment. And it sounds like the verbal and emotional abuse have escalated into physical abuse.
        We are sorry that your teachers haven't listened to you, but we have. We believe you. We hope that you will reach out to us so that we can file an abuse report with your state on your behalf. You can chat us through this website, or you can call us on our hotline 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) and we will help you with the report.
        You don't deserve to be treated this way. You haven't done anything to deserve it and it is wrong of your mom to say and do these things to you. You deserve to have your life, you deserve to live and to be safe and filing an abuse report is a way to help that to happen.
        We truly hope to hear from you soon.
        Sincerely,
        NRS

    • #97
      I had always had been abused and now it just feels like it is normal, come home from school and BOOM, big punch, I sometimes fall unconscious from the beatings. I get all my privileges taken from me, My walk has became a limp, and I hate to admit this but i have thought of suicide and murder. I'm on the brink of insanity, I can hardly even have emotion anymore. They will just call me a victim and I just want to run and remove them from my life. They say they "Love me" but deep down i think they don't, my grade SUCK and I'm being truthful, once i get home today, I'm probably gonna die or run before they get home. Can you please help me.

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      • ccsmod1
        ccsmod1 commented
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        Hey there,
        Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. No one should be abused and you have the right to report it. You can check out childhelp.org for more information about abuse reporting. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

        We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

        If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

        Stay safe,
        NRS

        We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    • #98
      im 13 and ive been droped off with my dad and i dont feel safe and i need help but if he finds out then im gonna get hit more and my best friend is the only person i feel safe with and i dont have my phone so please if anyone can come get me and take me there i would be so happy i also have marking on me and blood is coming out of them i dont have my clothes not my toothbrush i have nothing but my school computer and i dont feel comfortable contacting the school bc after im gonna get hurt i just want to go when hes not around bc i would feel so much more safe

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      • ccsmod3
        ccsmod3 commented
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        Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

        We're so sorry to hear that your dad has been hitting you and that you don't feel safe. You don't deserve that sort of treatment. While we understand that you're a bit apprehensive about contacting your school, it might be a good idea to reach out to Child Protective Services and file an abuse report. Their job is to ensure that you're safe in your home, and if you're not, to decide what steps should be taken in order to make sure that you are. If this is something that you're interested in doing, you can file a report on your own, by contacting us here at NRS for support, or by telling a safe person of the abuse (like a teacher, school counselor, therapist, etc.). Each person that I've listed is considered a Mandated Reporter and has a legal obligation to contact CPS when there are any suspicions or indications of abuse. We understand that moving forward in this process can be scary, but want you to know that your safety is critical. These are folks who will prioritize that. If you have any questions about filing a report, what it entails, or would like to learn more about child abuse in general, Childhelp is another great resource to utilize. They're a child abuse hotline and you can reach out to them by texting or calling 1-800-422-4453, or by chatting with them live at www.childhelp.org.

        Unfortunately our services don't extend to picking up youth and taking them to a safe place, but this is something that CPS might be able to help with. You can also visit https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/find-a-safe-place to locate a safe place that you can go to nearby. Once you put in your address or zip code, you'll be given a list of places that are safe for you to go to. When you get there, you just let someone know that you're there for a safe place. They'll give you somewhere comfortable to hang out, and contact a worker who will come out and help.

        If you'd like to chat in more detail, please feel free to reach out to us by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

        Take care.

        NRS
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