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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    I really need to get out this house

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.

    From what you shared, it sounds like your mom and your sister are not able to take care of you or keep you safe. It is awesome that you have already identified family members who can more adequately support you and care for you. Reaching out to these family members is a good first step. They can take action through the court system and child protective services in order to obtain custody of you.

    Child Help is an organization that advocates for young people in situations similar to yours and can help you come up with a plan for approaching the transfer of guardianship. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org for help with starting this process.

    We are here 24/7 to listen if you would like to talk more about your situation. Do hesitate to reach out again at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.

    We wish you the best,
    NRS

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    im 14, almost 15. i have been living with my sister and she has 0 gaurdianship over me. my mom lives in her car. my sister phisically and mentally abuses me, and leaves me home alone for days at a time. i have a family whos willing to take me in. what steps do i need to take and what do i do?

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like living with your grandma is hard, maybe because she finds it hard to understand someone who is 14, which is hard for you. It’s hard when she is mad for no reason and it’s really hard to be blamed for things you didn’t do.
    We are glad that you have your friend’s mom to talk to, and that she is supportive of you. As far as living there, that’s a harder thing but we would like to talk with you about all of this. There are two ways to do that; either call us at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org. We really hope to hear from you so that we can listen and help.
    Sincerely, NRS

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    I 14 years old and I hate living with my grandma she all was mad for no reason so she take her anger out on me she always blame me for things I don’t even do but when we around family she alway put on a fake mask like everything is ok I talked to my friend mom about it she said it’s ok for me to stay with her but I know my grandma won’t let me

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline! It sounds like you’ve been going through a lot lately at home with your mom and stepdad. You don’t deserve to be hit or slapped by your mom, or put down by your stepdad. You deserve to be treated with respect and understanding by both of them. Your mom and stepdad are taking out their bottled up anger on you, and you don’t deserve to be treated that way by them.

    You could consider filing an abuse report, which would tell CPS that your mom has been hitting you and they could have a case worker come visit you and talk more about what’s going on at home. You can fill one out on your own, or you can call us and we can fill it out with you. If you’d like to talk more on the phone about how your mom and stepdad have been treating you, you can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or you can call Child Help, which is the national child abuse hotline, at 1-800-422-4453.

    It can be really difficult feeling like you can’t share a big part of yourself with your family. If you feel safe coming out to your mom but think she might kick you out, it might be good to have a plan of what to do if she does kick you out. It’s great to hear that your aunt supports you, and it sounds like she deeply cares about you. You might consider telling her more of the situation that’s been going on at home, or try to visit her for a little while to be away from your house. If you want to talk more on the phone about being in the LGBT community or how your parents talk about the community, you can call the LGBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743.

    Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot of strength to ask for help, and it’s great to see that you are figuring out your options and how to keep yourself safe. If you’d like to talk to us further about your situation, we’re always here to talk on the phone or chat on our website. You can call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    Stay safe!
    National Runaway Safeline

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    Guest replied
    I'm 13 and I'm a closeted pansexual. I live with homophobic parents and it's really scary. I was physically abused a couple times by my mom and my stepdad is frequently mentally abusive but he doesn't know it. He says things like your to young to know anything, shut your mouth you don't know anything and just tells me horrible things about myself. I am suicidal and my mom doesn't know. I lied on my depression test at the doctors office because she would have gotten mad if she found out I have depression. We were on vacation a few weeks ago just me my mom and my baby sister and I was really tired we had been on two planes that day. We were going to our hotel from the restaurant and she apparently said carry my purse and hold the door and gave me th hotel room key. I didn't hear her at all because she had just shook me awake. She was left outside for 30 min in the cold and had to go to the front desk to get another key. By the time she got to the room she was very angry she put my sister down and slapped me in the face twice and screamed at me like she was a jail officer on beyond scared straight.I was screaming for help but know one heard me. She pinned me against the and started shaking me and I was crying. The next day I apologized and she didn't because normally when we have an argument she apologizes also. Now she threatens to slap me if I whatsoever move my eyes. She thinks I roll my eyes but I don't. I'm coming out to my mom on New Years and I think she might kick me out. I came out to my aunt on my birthday and she supports me and said if anything goes wrong she'll by me a plane ticket to live with her. It made me really happy and made my day better. I'm really scared on what my mom will think. Her and my stepdad talk about gays horribly.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you are dealing with a very difficult situation at home and it was really courageous of you to reach out to us. You mention hurting yourself and wanting to be able to live longer. You are not alone in feeling this way. We take your safety very seriously and it is our first priority. You can always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. They can provide additional support to you and answer any questions you may have regarding your situation. Another great mental health resource in NAMI. You can reach out to them at 1800-950-NAMI or text NAMI to 741741.

    You definitely do not deserve to be treated the way are being treated at home. Child Help is a great resource that you can utilize by calling 1800-422-4453. They can help find some solutions or elicit options for you regarding what is going on with how your parents are treating you.

    Wanting to runaway can feel confusing and you may have many questions about it. We would be able to try to answer any questions you may have and talk about the situation further. We are always here to offer additional support via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org or you can call us 1800-786-2929. We are available 24/7 and are completely confidential.

    Stay safe!
    The National Runaway Safeline

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    Guest replied
    My family doesn’t love me and it’s like my brother and sister can do anything they won’t but I can’t and when I do my parent just called me names and it’s gotten to the point where I hurt myself because of it and I’ve been thinking abt leaving the house and getting away but idk where to go or stay and I have no money but if I want to live any longer and grow up then I need leave or I’m just not going to make it and it’s hard when I have my friends and I’m 14. I’m going to leave I just need to know when where and how

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    Guest replied
    I understand your pain
    Last edited by ccsmod6; 11-03-2019, 06:07 PM.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello!
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline. It was really brave of you to reach out to us. It sounds like things are really difficult at home. You definitely deserve to be treated better. You mention suicide a couple of times. We take this very seriously as your safety is our first priority. If you are having these thoughts you can reach out to The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Their number is 1800-273-8255. They can help provide you with support during this difficult time.

    The abuse going on at home is dangerous. We understand that it might be challenging to reach out to someone about it. If things ever get to the point where they are dangerous you can always call 911. We understand if you might not be comfortable with that. Another option is that you can call Child Help. They can help you report the abuse as well as offer support to you. Their number is 1800-422-4453.

    Another resource you might find helpful is NAMI. They are the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They can help talk with you about everything that has been going on in your life and provide local resources to help you further. You can call them at 1800-950-NAMI or you can text NAMI to 741741. IT was very brave of you to reach out to us. We are always here to offer additional support via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org or you can call us 1800-786-2929. We are available 24/7 and are completely confidential.

    Stay safe!
    The National Runaway Safeline

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    Guest replied
    I am 14 and ever since I was 4 I had a bed wetting problem that was the beginning of all of this catastrophe I’m in. So I was 4 and started bed wetting and couldn’t control it . It kept happening till the age of 11 .up until that age, I have been verbally abused during that whole period and sometimes physically. I would be scared ********less to go to bed and so I stayed awake for days on end.btw all of this abuse was 90% by my mom. Anyway fast forward like 1 year. My mom becomes crazily abusive for externally petty thing and occasionally tells me I ruined her life and my dad’s and sisters life. And followed by telling me to kill my self. She never ever apologizes for telling me these stuff. And now, 5 days ago, she threatens me telling me that if I don’t get in shape she will destroy this family, and with no other option, I accepted the offer because I don’t want my little sister to have a hard childhood like I did. Fast forward to this morning, I want to go the gym to workout to gain my access to using electronics ( part of the deal with mom) my dad wants me to record everything because he doesn’t trust that I will do it, and let’s be honest I can’t ********ing record myself running 3 kelometrrs and so when I decline, he grabs my keyboard and smashes it in front of me, and starts screaming and lashing punches in the air in every direction as my sister cries and my mom holds her in fear, that’s when he looks at me and then tells me “ either you obey you slave, or here’s the door you **********”. And so I left, and every one tells me to go back because I have no other choice , and tbh if that was mundane last option, I’d rather kill myself. Best part is that i come from an Arab family, and this is considered a little overreacting. Tbh every one tells me I’m overreacting and they may br right, but I have set my mind, either I’m out of that house or out of This life , please help

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you have a tough situation going on at home. It shows a lot that you reached out to us, situations like these can be hard to navigate and it can sometimes be hard to reach out but the fact that you did is huge, that is something worth being proud of. It sounds like you truly care about your friend and want o help her as best as you can.
    If your friend feels like they are in danger at home and need emergency services, they always have the right to call 911 for police and other emergency services. We want you to know we care about their wellbeing and safety.
    It sounds like your friend has been through quite an amount of pain from their parents. They don't deserve to be isolated from everyone or harmed in any way including being verbally and physically abused. It is not okay to be talked down to and bullied by her family. If they do feel abused or that their parent’s actions are abusive, they do have the right to report what is going on. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource that can help answer any questions they have about what reporting abuse looks like, what abuse is, and they can also assist in reporting if your friend chooses to do so. We are also here 24/7 to help as well to discuss reporting as an option or to report as well if they choose to do so. There are many outcomes to reporting and Child Protective Services try to keep the youth’s best interest in mind and safety as the top priority.

    You mentioned your friend has come to your house for support which sounds like you are a good support system for her. We aren’t legal experts, but if they are under the general age of adulthood of 18 years old in the US and has been kicked out by her family that is illegal as they are legally responsible for them until they turn 18. They have the legal responsibility of housing her and she has the right to report that they have kicked her out to the police.
    That being said, if she does come to live with you and/or someone else and her family tries to file a runaway report for her saying she ran away when they kicked her out, you have the right to inform the police of that information. You mentioned that you would not want to get in trouble for helping her which is understandable. The main way someone would get in trouble for housing a youth is if they are a runaway/have a runaway report filed on them and they are found at your house. As we mentioned above, if she has been kicked out she is not considered a runaway.
    There is a risk of if her family had told her to leave previously, but on the day she leaves home, if she chooses to do so, the police may say that is not being kicked out. The best way to get the clearest information on what the police may do is to reach out to your local non-emergency police in her area. They may be able to answer any information on the protocol for being kicked out and give more information on what they may do. You also do not have to do this alone, we are always here to help advocate for your friend and can call on their behalf or with the on the phone line to try to talk to the police department. We are confidential and we can assist with asking confidential questions to the police without sharing any information your friend does not want us to. If they feel more comfortable calling on their own, they also do not have to share any information they do not want to as well and ask those confidential questions.
    As a reminder, we are here to help sort through things with you and your friend and identify a plan that is safest and best for them. We do truly care about you and your friend and understand it must be an incredibly frustrating situation she is in. We are always here to listen and help brainstorm options that you and your friend feel may best fit her situation. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24/7 and we also have an online chat system at 1800runaway.org if you or your friend wants to chat with us. We hope to hear from you soon!


    Best, NRS

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    I have a friend that lives in a house down the road. She is verbally abused all the time and forces to do all the work around the house. Her parents call it chores but she does everything and they do nothing! She wants to get out of there because her mom is verbally and sometimes physically abusive! But her mom says she's grounded and isn't aloud to se any friends or anyone outside of her house. They argue a lot and her mom has told her to leave and go with the cops before, but when she does leave to stay with a friend they make her come back home! Her mom is crazy and screams in her face all the time bullying her calling her ugly and stupid! Just talking down to her! She comes to the point where she makes it look like she's caused physical harm as a cry for attention. She used to always be at my house almost liek she lived here, her parents didn't care. They took all of her stuff away and is forced to stay in her room and when she comes out she gets screamed at. I know this may sound like a normal grounding when she has to stay in her room, but it's been 2 months, and she just sits there with no friends or comfort. Her family all bully her and talk down to her like she's trash, and she starts to believe them! She wants to be emancipated but is afraid and we have no way of talking to her without her parents so she can tell them she wants to, truth is she is terrified of her mom. And if she leaves her house to come here, technically they can't make her come home because they've told her to leave before? Right? I just wanna help my best friend what do I do?

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