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  • #76
    I wanna move because it’s toxic,
    Dont get me wrong I love my mom and step dad but I hate being stressed with always babysitting my younger siblings and my dog plus I have school now which makes kit time for gaming and going out with friends my mom always yells at me for having an attitude but never asks me why I have one or how I feel I always get yelled at if they do the little mess and I just feel like ******** about it and on top of that I feel sad all the time and I’ve been getting more and more suicidal but I’m fine it’s whatever. No one knows how I truly feel .

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You mentioned that you having been getting increasingly suicidal and it raises some concern for your safety. We can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741.

      It seems like your mom and stepdad don't fully realize how all of these responsibilities (and the tree that comes with them) are making you feel. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • #77
    I don’t want to be in my house no more because I don’t like the way I’m being spoken to and they way my parents get on I only live with my mum but when my dad drinks with my mum I get brought into every argument and I get slabbered behind my back

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear things have been so difficult at home.
      It sounds like you are not being treated very well by your parents, and that their drinking is affecting your home life and wellbeing. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website at 1800runawy.org or call us at 1-800-RUN AWAY. We hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • #78
    I'm 14 and I want to get out of my house because I hate my mom and my sister

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    • ccsmod7
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Sounds like things are ovewhelming with your mom and sister right now, and you are feeling like you need to leave. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you call or chat us we can talk through your situation with you, help brainstorm you options, and look for local resources such as youth shelters if you need.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #79
    Hi I'm 14
    and I would like to move out with my brother we're working on getting a lawyer but the reasons we want to move out is because well my parents are separated so I live with my dad most of the time and my step mom and both my sisters with my brother but I get forced to go to my moms when I'm not happy there we have a relationship which is not well we fight and argue a lot and sometimes it gets to the point of physical and verbal abuse and tends to get the cops involved, which then gets my dad stressed and gets mad at me for it and then my siblings hear about it and call me out for it. I just wanna get away from it all cause they cause rumours and then everyone hates me for it and thinks that I'm the "bad kid" I just wanna move out so I can live on Munich own focus on my own and my mental health without getting made fun of or beat I feel so alone most of the time the only person I can talk to is my brother and dog, And yes I've had multiple therapists and counsellors and it doesn't end very well so I just hope I can live on my own with my brother.

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #80
    i’m 14 and i wanted to move out for 2-3 years now and my mom wont let me and she thinks that i should stay with my family and my room is the cause of my depression, and my dad never talks to me and when i try to all he does it say “worry about your self, not anyone else.” and i’m sick of living in this house, i feel more alive when i’m out and with my friends. in my house i just feel targeted

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hello –

      Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are so sorry to hear about the way you have been treated at home, you deserve to be more supported by your parents.

      One of the services we offer as an organization is our conference call service. This conference call service is a moderated conversation between you, a member of the NRS, and your parents. In this conversation you set the guidelines and goals in order to have a productive conversation that can improve your conditions at home.

      The best way to discuss your situation further and how we can be of assistance is either by calling in to our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929) or utilizing our online chat.

      Best Wishes

      ~NRS

  • #81
    I’m 15 and my brother hits me he has pushed me to the ground and he has left bruises on my arms. My parents just yell at him and don’t punish him so he does it over and over but if I try to fight back I get in trouble. He has pushed me into walls and after I got back up he would do it again. I’m really scared to tell anyone and I don’t know what to do.

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    • ccsmod15
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      We're sorry to hear your brother is mistreating you and your parents aren't taking it seriously enough. That must be frustrating and you certainly don't deserve to be neglected like that. One option would be to file an abuse report about what's going on through your state's child abuse reporting hotline. You can also file through us or through Child Help (www.childhelp.org) at 1-800-422-4453. A report would likely lead to an investigation as to what's going on and how the situation can be rectified.

      Another option would be to tell someone else you trust in your life about what's going on. Perhaps that's a teacher, counselor, or another relative. Perhaps they could advocate for you to make your case to your parents that this is not a good situation and your rights to safety are being abused by your brother. This takes courage, but the more you are able to open up about the situation to others who can help, the more likely things can change for the better. You have this courage inside you, please know that!

      If you'd like to talk to us about this to brainstorm other ideas or just walk through how these options might go you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our website: www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 and are confidential.

      Things can get better. Please get whatever help you need. All the best to you!

      NRS

  • #82
    Hi I´m 14 and i don´t want to live with my parents anymore, they always expect me to do everything around the house and i get I should not be lazy either but im also not the only kid in our family i have 2 other sibling and whenever they get in trouble its the most simplest punishment they give them but its a whole different story with me they take everything to a whole different level they take everything i have in my room including my clothes shoe etc. and they expect me to wear clothes that dont fit me but yet they dont do that to my other siblings and I am the only one who helps around the house and my mom still calls me an ungrateful child and i take it very harsh because i feel like if she dosent want me because im the only one whos always getting introuble for every little thing i do and she gets botherd with everything i do and say. My mom gets that I am going through a lot of stress lately and just yesterday she got mad at me calling me differt kind of names and I sometimes feel like if my mom enjoys hurting my feeling because after of what she says she dosent come tell me sorry but she does to my other sibling

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hey there,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline, it seems like you are going through a lot right now and it is understandable to be upset and feel frustrated by how you are being treated differently from your other siblings. You don’t deserve to have everything taken away for small things while your siblings get a slap on the wrist and an apology instead. It seems like your mom is holding you to different standards than your other siblings and it might be worth thinking about the reasons for this to find out what you might be able to do to lessen the load on yourself. It seems like you have other stress as well and you deserve to have support through this instead of extra pressure and confusion.
      You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
      If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #83
    im 14 and i can stand living with my mother an i refuge to go to my dads my mom fights with her boyfriend 247 theres to many kids in the house its a 3 roomed house my mom and her boyfriend stay in one room then my grampa stays in another then i stay in one but theres more people i have a 3 year old sister and a 1 year old sister but my moms boyfriend has to other kids ones 10 and the other is i think 9 or 8 i haven't really had a childhood i got raped in 2 i reported an I've always been around fighting like always been around it her boyfriend cant be here because she broke up with him and got a resining order o him but i had him come over once to help unpack because it was only me and my mom and my mom has my one year old sister i cant walk no here i cant drive im trying to get a job and do school ad have time to see my boyfriend he lives 24 mins away from me and i would like to stay with him but my mother would never allow it i try to go place but she complains about money and i normally give her money to take me to my boyfriends but the problem is my mom doest have a job she donest want to get a job till my sister is in school and i wont go to my dads hes to far for me and i dont know him like that my boyfriend sometimes misses school and she calls him a loser and she will call me a loser for dating him i told her she needs to get a job can she was like how about u get a job and i was like im trying i dont want to live here and i turn 15 in two months but there not much that can do i dont want to be put in foster care i dont want my family or someone in my family to take me i asked my boyfriends mom if she would take me and she said yes but how would i live there when my mother didnt even want me to go to my dads house yes it was my first time going over there and she didnt want me to go over there i need to get out of here for a month or a couple weeks i cant spend the night at anyone house please help me get out of this house please is there anyway i could move i with my boyfriend i really dont want to live here i mean i would be fine coming every friday,saturday,sunday over here but i just cant do the whole time over here please hep me

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hi,

      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline – we are here to help and listen.

      We’re sorry to hear that things have been rough at home, it sounds like it’s been rough for some time.

      You mentioned wanting to leave home but being concerned about possible consequences. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this. Leaving home without permission from your parents as a minor is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Again, you would not be arrested or charged with a crime because of this. It does mean your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying.

      One way you could leave home would be to leave with permission from your parents. We want to clarify that while parents can give consent to you leaving, they can also change their minds. We understand talking to parents about leaving home can be difficult. Maybe this conversation can be had with the family members that you would like to stay with.

      Another way you may be able to live somewhere else is through a child abuse report, via the child abuse hotline stated above. Normally investigations are taken when there is strong evidence of physical abuse or neglect, however this may also depend on who takes the call. Any hotline worker at ChildHelp should be able to take your report and let you know what actions they can take. One of our own hotline workers can also help you file an abuse report.

      If you’d like to discuss these options further, we would be happy to talk to you via our 24/7 hotline (1-800-786-2929) or through our chat feature:

      https://na0messaging.icarol.com/Cons...d=254&cc=en-US

      Best of luck,

      National Runaway Safe Line
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