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    My son is about to be 14 years old but I'm not his biological parent he is mother has custody they verbally and mentally abused him this is her second time in two years she's engaged and move some guy into the house if you seen where he lives at it's just unfit he's unhappy there he's angry he lashes out and it hurts me because I don't have any legal rights and I don't know what to do she's taking his phone from him so I can't contact them she told me she will let me know when I can see him and come get him my son is miserable he's going to be 14 this month I mean is there anything I can do can he just come stay with me I mean I know she may call the police I have no legal rights I mean what can I do I hate seeing him in pain like that

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks for reaching out to NRS,
    It seems like you are feeling singled out at home and that your mom isn’t giving you the support you want. It is understandable that you want to take steps to make the situation better and feel more mentally stable at home. It seems like you have felt so much stress from it you have had suicidal thoughts as well. If those continue or you feel like they get worse please call 911 or 1-800-273-8255 to reach the national suicide prevention lifeline.
    You may also want to consider looking at nami.org for more information on mental health since you mentioned suicidal thoughts and may be going through so depression like symptoms. They may have some ideas for dealing with the situation and your feelings. Another option would be to find a personal therapist/counselor. If you needed help finding one that is more affordable we can help with our database of information.
    You could potentially live with your uncle if you had parent permission to do so. If your mom does try to kick you out, and physically tries to do so you are able to call police as that is negligent behavior on their part and not something they should do. If you were to leave without their permission then your parents could file a runaway report and the police would force you to go home.
    Hopefully this information is helpful, you deserve to live in a supportive place, if you have more questions please reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

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    i always feel really invisible here at my house. it’s not about jealousy but, my sister always gets more than me and my mom always yells at me for things that i didn’t do or they literally have no relation to me whatsoever. she’ll even drink, pop pills, ect. and thinks it’s okay. today i was talking to my step dad and he said something like we’re all just spoiled kids nowadays and i was like if i was spoiled i’d have a lot more things and the house would be wayyyyyyyyyyy bigger. then my mom jumped in and said if you don’t like it here then ********ing move out. and i’m honestly considering it. i have to share a room w an 18 year old that’s so “innocent” and “perfect” and “she does no wrong” i can’t live like this anymore. my mom has made me attempt suicide sooo many times and i can’t deal w it anymore. i wanna move in w my uncle at least there i’m happy, my family is there, and i feel loved and appreciated unlike here.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. It’s great to hear that you have a supportive place in mind. If you go to stay at someone’s house without prior permission from your parents, the adult(s) in the home could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your parents view the situation.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I know about the laws and everything in Texas already because I've been doing a lot of research. I know what I'm doing and I have a place to go. I have one question though, if I were to be found at my friends house after my parents file a runaway report, would the people I'm staying with automatically be in trouble or would they only face charges if my parents press charges?

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things in your life right now.
    It sounds like you’re fearing that the stress from the situation is getting harder and harder to handle.
    We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time.
    if you feel you are at risk of being a danger to yourself or others call 9-1-1 for immediate help.
    You might also consider the National Suicide and Prevention Lifeline. 1-800-273-2929


    Sometimes when things are too stressful it might help to talk with someone about it.
    You did a good job by reaching out.
    Often, having a space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and difficult time for you, but you are not alone in this.

    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    You are welcome to discuss your situation and talk about possible options for help.

    Be safe and take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i’m 13 and my parents verbally abuse me and I can’t find a way to leave. they bother me to the point where I can’t focus on work and i’m suicidal and my parents know that. I just need an escape from my parents and my family. I keep thinking of myself as a loser because I can’t keep up good grades and my parents always take things away from me. my mom takes away the things that make me happy and i’m sick of it. I see my house as a prison and i’m the prisoner. it would be cool to know what I can do at 13. my life has gone downhill because of them and i don’t have any friends or family where i live, I have no idea where to go. I feel just like a prisoner where i have no rights and freedoms.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are going through some not so good times at home and you don’t feel safe. We are here to listen and find out more about your situation so we may know how we might help.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    You did well by reaching out to NRS. Good job.

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately by dialing 9-1-1.


    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 14 and I’ve always never gotten along with my parents, my dad wants nothing to do with me and I’ve never liked my mum because of what she did when I was younger. I don’t want to live with them because I don’t feel safe with either of them. I would rather live anywhere else.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. You’ve been brave and are very smart for finding us and asking for help with a really hard situation.

    It sounds like your dad has been on drugs and you don’t believe him now that he says that he is not, and that has been something scary and unpredictable in your life. Along with moving back and forth and your mom yelling at you and your brother’s behavior towards you, It is understandable that you want to be with your safe and stable cousins. Being treated this way is not fair and we are sorry that you are going through this.

    One thing to ask your cousin is if she can work with your mom and negotiate this situation. If your cousin can offer a compromise with your mom, maybe you stay with them during the week and with mom on weekends, or the other way around, that might be a way to help your mom feel like she is still in control of the situation and to give you some relief from the stress you are under. Maybe asking you grandmother to help talk to your mom might help too. Thinking about the timing of this conversation between your cousin and your mom is important. If she’s in a moment where she’s really stressed out, waiting for a more peaceful moment will help things go more smoothly.

    We also offer a conference call service where you call us we talk with you about your situation, and then we would call your mom and we act as your ally and advocate to help to work on a compromise in this situation.

    In the end, it is your mom or dad who have to give their permission for you to stay with your cousin, so talking with the adults around you to help you talk with her is a good strategy.

    You can reach us by phone just to talk this over or to talk more about the Conference Call at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through our live chat service via www.1800runaway.org

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 14 years old my parents are always fighting my dad has been on drugs for the longest time but now says he’s not anymore but it’s obvious he is my mom is always moving us back and fourth from grandmas house back to my dads house my mom is always yelling at me for nothing my brother is a year younger then me and has autism he is always hitting me throwing things at me and i get in trouble for saying something or crying I have a cousin that I usually stay with because my mom moved back to my dads house and I refused to go so i stayed with my cousin but my mom is trying to make me move back and I don’t want to because I don’t like it I don’t like the environment I get treated horribly and my cousin is 23 I think she’s married and has 2 kids her and her husband told me if I found a way to stay with them I could with no problem but my parents will say no so I need help where I can stay with her without having to get permission from my parents what do I do

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through some stuff and we want to support you. Whether or not you feel like you need to run away is up to you and whether or not you feel safe where you are. We would be happy to help you in whatever way we can. We can provide referrals to mental health resources, shelters, legal advocacy, among other things. We can also just talk you through whatever your situation is and help you figure out what your options are. We aim to empower youths and we prioritize their safety and their well-being. If you are interested in anything that we have to offer or talking about what options you have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 14 and dont want to stay with my mother anymore what can i do to leave ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    We are sorry to hear you are going through such a rough time at home. It's definitely difficult to hear your parents argue. And, of course, it's totally not right that they are mentally abusing you. It makes sense that you would want the situation to change.

    Of course, at 12 you are still under your parents guardianship. One possibility is that you can ask them for permission to live somewhere else that is safe and nourishing for you -- perhaps with extended family. Of course, you could also file an abuse report on the abuse you are going through. That would lead to an investigation that may eventually lead to you being separated from your parents. But whether or not you file is totally up to you. We never tell anyone what to do.

    We'd like to help further but need a bit more information from you to see how we can assist you. The best way for us to do that is if you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the portal at www.1800runaway.org. We can work with you to figure out what you'd like to do.

    Please stay safe and take care!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So my parents grew up bad and they never had someone to hide them threw life and growing up for them they never learned how to become somewhat caring parents my parents never hurt me but mental abuse me with words and have to here them fight which sucks for me bc I can't learn how to be a good parent bc of them I tell them I can't do this with u guys I had to listen to this since I was born almost they love each other and don't want to leave each other but the things they say is depressing I don't want to hurt my self bc of it I just want to know how do I leave my parents at the age of 12 I have a sister too who also has to go threw it and I don't know what to do I do want to live them but not foster care where I can't see my family I want to see my family just not them bc they might say promise we won't fight or call names but it happens again I told family members that I want to live with them but they don't understand what pain I go threw I go to church sometimes with my other family and they pray for me but I don't know what to do what do u think

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