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  • #46
    Hi, I’m 14 and my mum is telling me to leave and get the ******** out of the house, we have a long history of clashing and butting heads but over the years it has gotten progressively worse, I feel trapped and stressed, as soon as someone raises their voice even if it’s not directed at me I get anxiety and I get stressed, my mum verbally abuses me, she screams and shouts about how I’m “so ungrateful” and that i “have no respect” and that I have a bad attitude, she also calls me names and tells me to shut the ******** up . At this point it’s hard to explain things because of everything that has happened iv gone to school counseling and spoken to teachers I trust, but at the end of the day they all believe my mother because she’s as perfect as a rose whenever she’s around others, I’m the liar, I’m full of ********, I get suicidal thoughts on the daily and I don’t know how much more I can take of this crap. At one point around the end of last year she was being aggressive and she cam and whacked me in the head, I had had enough of her crap, so I pushed her back with my feet because I was on my bed cornered, I snapped, I told her if she tried anything again or came near me I would snap. I was just so scared of her and I still am. I have no door where we live, so she can always see and hear everything, we have daily arguments and disagreements, we had figured things out for a while, and then things have started to go down hill again, we have had more and more arguments and it’s mostly about money or how I don’t do anything around the house, I know I am privileged compared to most children who have more issues, my mum pays for my school and sports payments, buys me the clothes I need, and is generous, but then she just goes and throws it all in my face afterwards, I would trade everything just to have a safe environment, she doesn’t seem to get that. Today everything just got worse, I said that I need more space for clothes and that I might sell or most likely throw out some old dresses, I don’t go anywhere fancy to wear them, this is when the argument broke out, she started screaming at me and being hostile, I was fighting back and I threw one of the dresses out of my room and said “find space in your wardrobe” I had no other place to put my frustration, she storemed and and got in my face, screaming at me, she shoved me really hard in the chest, I snapped again and I pushed her back, we got physical and had a big fight. She wants me out of the house she took my phone and my new laptop, but I can keep my ipad cuz my nan paid for half, I have 100$ in cash, she asked if I was staying and I said yes but I would just keep to myself, I hide in my room most of the time but I do not think I can take anymore of this crap, we also live with her girlfriend (my mums getting les) and she has been abusive in the past too, my mumtakes her frustration from her relationship out on me too.I don’t want to speak to my father because he sides with my mum and I’m sure he’s doesn’t want me, my grandparents live in another state over, but I have a life here and my friends that I feel safe around, I have moved around my entire life and I only just started to feel stable in school. What should I do, talking to my mother is a death zone and her way is always right, I don’t have a bf or anything so there is no underlying issues there.
    I live in Australia


    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. It is not okay for your mom to threaten to kick you and to hit you. Home is supposed to be safe and from what you shared your mom is making you scared to live with her. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      Stay safe,

  • #47
    I have depression and I can't live in my house cause its so stressful and I can't breathe in it etc. Its just too much of a bad living arrangement and I just want to live on my own since I will sooner or later anyways.


    • ccsmod16
      ccsmod16 commented
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      Living in a stressful environment is hard enough on its own, and we can only imagine how strong you must be to handle it with depression, too. Already having an awareness about your mental health, however, can be helpful. For example, do you know when things at home might make your depression worse? If you want to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we are more than ready to have a conversation with you to explore triggers to your depression, discuss options to help you cope, or just listen to you explain your situation as we work on a plan together. We are here to help in whatever way you want.
      You mention wanting to live on your own. We are non-directive here, meaning we do not tell anyone to do or to NOT do anything. However, we want you know to know some general information to keep you safe and informed. If you are under the age of majority (usually 18 years old), your legal guardian has the right to give you permission to leave the home. If you leave without that permission, you would be considered a runaway. Your guardian may make a runaway report with the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is what’s called a ‘status offense.’ This means that if you are already in trouble with the law (like you’re on probation), it could make your situation worse.
      If leaving home without permission is something you wish to do, we would rather have you safe and off the street than in a park or with someone you do not know well. We have a database full of shelters across the country. If you want to explore what options might be around you, please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Again, we are here only to help in whatever way you want and to support you.
      Thanks again for your message, and please be safe.

  • #48
    I'm 15, and I hate living with my mum. Like I hate it and her. Ever since I got into high school I've had a rough time. My mum decided I was old enough to find out that I was basically a mistake and that her and my dad accidentally had me and were debating on whether or not to get an abortion. If I'm honest I don't think I ever needed to know that and I'm not gonna be able to look at her in the same way I used to. On top of that me and her always argue, in front of my younger siblings, in front of her boyfriend. Now my Dad stopped seeing me when I was about 6 or 7 and my mum makes me feel like I'm to blame for that. When I was 11 I began self-harming and had a lot of suicidal thoughts. I kinda stopped doing that because things turned around but it's like she saw I was fine again and now just carries on with her old ways. I'm always being verbally abused by her and she encourages my younger siblings to do the same. I know it seems pathetic but all this is really getting to me and I'm honestly on the verge of breaking. I can't live with my mum anymore I literally feel myself slowly losing all my energy and just giving up. Please get me out of here.


    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      First of all thanks for writing in today it can be difficult to make that first step and it show a lot courage on your part. It not cool that your mom is putting you down and encouraging your young sibling to do the same. Parents should be encouraging. You mentioned self-harming if that something you interested in exploring for help there is website called Adolescent Self Injury Foundation and talks about some ways to do deal with self-harming. If you ever having though suicidal though you can always call in here or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). We do have conference call options were we could act as an in-between with you and your mom. It’s important to remember that you are never alone.
      Thank you and good luck
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.
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