I'm 14 and I need to get out of my house.

[Guest]

I think this is anonymous so im just gonna go ahead and spill. my sister and I were adopted into a family of six, making us the seventh and eighth members. The mother birthed two girls and one boy and adopted another long before my sister and I came along. my sister and I have a very very strong bond; shes the only person who really understands me and vise versa. we were never treated the same growing up and we used to be physically abused. Now it is mostly verbal abuse but my sister ran away with her boyfriend....now they live in a different county together, almost an hour away. everyone gets treated so much better than me now... if you think about the movie cinderella, that's what my life is like. (only my sisters aren't really evil). I hate it here and I wanna leave but im only 15. my sister said as soon as she turns eighteen, she'll try to get me out of here but that isn't for another 6 months. I want to go live with my best friend... her mom said she would take me but no way my parents would ever let me.. what do I do

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It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation that is making you feel trapped. It also sounds like you’re making some great decisions in talking with your sister and reaching out to us to discuss your situation.

We are not legal experts, but in most states, the age of majority is 18, meaning that if you leave home before 18, you’ll be guilty of a status offense. It’s not a crime, but what it usually means is that if the police find you they will return you to your parents’ home.

There are some risks of running away to live with a friend or family member without your parents’ permission, though. For instance, it’s rare, but technically it is possible for your friend’s mom to be charged with a crime called “Harboring a runaway.”

You also may want to consider what your parents would do if you did run away. Would they know where you were? Would they go looking for you? If they found you, what kind of trouble would you be in? These are things to consider as well.

Living like Cinderella can cause a lot of stress, which can take its toll on your mental health. You may also want to consider trying to seek some mental health services. Your school should have a therapist or counselor, and if you’d rather not use them, you can always contact SAMHSA, which is the Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration, at 1-877-726-4727 or samhsa.gov. They can help connect you to mental health services in your area.

Again, it sounds like you’re in a difficult situation and you’re attempting to make some really important decisions for your life and your future. We are so glad you reached out and you can always chat with us online at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7 and we’re available to listen and help.

[Guest]

I’m 18 and I’m living with my mom. She has mood swings so much that I don’t say anything around her out of fear. I only say what she wants me to say. She constantly mocks and degrades and insults me. I know I need to get out of here. I’m suicidal and I can’t go back to my dads house because he’s worse. I’m trapped and I don’t know where to go. All of my friends are either in college or living with their parents and I can’t stay with them.

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Hi.
We’re sorry you’re dealing with such a difficult situation.
Please know your life is valuable and you matter, no matter how your mother makes you feel.
If you feel like you might hurt yourself in any way please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org.
It’s not easy when you’re not comfortable in your own home, feel responsible for your mother’s emotions, and feel forced to say things you don’t really want to please someone else.
It’s not right that your mother mocks, degrades and insults you and that you feel trapped by your parents whose job it is to support you.
We’re here to listen if you’d like some help figuring things out or just want a friendly ear to talk to. We’re sorry you’re going through this and are ready to listen either by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY or on chat at 1800runaway.org.
We’re here to help you 24/7 and wish you our best!
-NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I need help i am unsure of what to do about he current situation Im in. I just want to get away from home. Ive already tried running away twice but that hasn't help. At this point im willing to do anything to get away. Ive tried suicide over 3 times. I have cut my self in different areas and cause other self harm. I do this because I hate where I live. My mother is abusive and possessive. For example. I got my phone taken away and I took it back while she was gone and I had the phone for a while. I mostly took the phone to keep in contact with a very close friend of mine that I really care about and she usually helps me through a lot of the stuff I have going on. After a few weeks my mom found out that I had stole my phone back and was talking to my friend that I wasn't allowed to be talking to. Its a long story. But anyways after she found out and she starting beating me with her belt which is normal. But then she started pulling on my hair and dragging me and punching me and scratching me and then she held me up to the wall and started choking me and I could breathe. While she was choking me she was punching me.She has left marks on my face. All because I was talking to someone I wasn't supposed to be and because I had my phone. And this isnt the first time that she has abused me like this. She has threatened to take a bat or a metal pole to my head and beat me with it. She has threatened to kick me out but then doesn't because she wants to keep me hostage.And she has said that she is going to keep locked up in hear as an inmate and make my life miserable. I want to run away again but that approach jus hasnt been working. Please im begging someone for help. I already know about suicide and abusive hotline preventions and all those things but Im really scared to call them because what if they cant get me out of this place. Please I begging.

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Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are living in in a very difficult environment at home. You have been through a lot and you don’t deserve to be punched, dragged or scratched by your mom. We are very sorry to hear that you’ve tried to commit suicide and wanted to thank you for reaching out to us.

We are here to help so here are some options to consider.

Identify a plan for how to report your abuse. We know you know about hotlines to call to report abuse but are concerned about what happens if someone comes and doesn’t take you out of the house. Here’s what you can do plan for this. Document any physical or verbal mistreatment. If your mom been making any marks on you when she beats you with a belt take pictures. These can be shared with Child Protective Services. Maybe you have a way of secretly making any video or audio recordings when things get physical -- such as with your phone. If not, write down incidents when things get physical and share this information with someone you trust. Once you feel you have some documentation, mention you have this when you do want to officially report your abuse with a hotline like the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453.

Talk to a professional. It’s clear you are dealing with something very difficult at home. You can start with a counselor at school for a confidential talk. Note that if you discuss this physical abuse with this counselor they will be compelled to report it since they’ll know your name and they are “mandated reporters” so by law they have to report this abuse to Child Protective Services.

Also consider ways to protect yourself at home. When you think things will get physical at home, think about a part of the house you can quickly go to stay safe. Maybe there’s somewhere nearby you can go instead. There is also a national program where you can find a “Safe Place” in your area by entering your zipcode on this website: http://www.nationalsafeplace.org/find-a-safe-place or text 4HELP (44357) with your location: http://www.nationalsafeplace.org/txt-4-help/

These are just a few ideas to consider. It takes some courage to reach out to us and we hope this information has been helpful for you during this difficult time. If you would like to talk through this anymore, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

[Guest]

I’m leaving my house to go to a runaway shelter my parents are gonna hate me but they say rude stuff to me so why should they be mad right? I’m just scared to go like if they try to take me back from school or something

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Hello, thank you for your message. It sounds like things between you and your folks are pretty tense right now. It’s understandable that you would want to remove yourself from that situation. It’s very hurtful for your family to say rude things to you. It could be possible that your family doesn’t realize how their words affect you. One option to consider is family counseling or mediation. Here at NRS, we do conflict mediation by phone, so if you are interested in that we will do our best to help you and a legal guardian have a productive and fair conversation. If you’re interested in family counseling or other resources in your area, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 and we would be happy to connect you with resources.
It sounds like you’re planning on leaving home and have a safe place you’re planning to go. It’s great that you’ve thought about a plan before leaving as it can be dangerous to leave with no plan. One thing to keep in mind about shelters is that they will need to reach out to your legal guardians. As far as legal issues, we are not legal experts but generally when a minor leaves home without permission, the legal guardians have a right to file a runaway report with your local police. It is a possibility that local police or your family may show up at school, though each police station has its own protocol. Running away is not typically considered a “crime,” and generally you would not face legal consequences beyond being returned home.
If you have further questions or need support, we are always here at 1-800-786-2929. Stay safe and stay strong!
--NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and don’t enjoy my life at home... I haven’t spoken to my dad properly since July last year because he hit me... only once in my life though. It’s not that that is bothering me, though, I don’t get on with my mum; she favouritises my brother (I have 3 older brothers, she prefers them all to me but especially my 3rd one) but I dispose him- he saw when my dad hit me and didn’t say anything, even said he didn’t see it before admitting to me he did once my parents had left- he’s betrayed my trust. Worse still, at the moment we are sharing a room, deprecated only our wardrobes and have been for a while (My oldest brother is moving to his cabin he has built in our garden), but will be out in a month or so. I kind of get on with my oldest two brothers but there’s so much drama; my oldest is a bit of a player and now smokes whilst the second oldest and my mum argue quite a bit. When I try to revise, my mother and father always try and talk to me. I’m patient, but ask them to stop talking politely, they never listen! They don’t respect my privacy and as a teen it frustrates me and they know this. I constantly lack sleep, sleeping for only four hours most nights although I need nine. I just too stressed to sleep! I enjoy my school life but I struggle in science and receive no help. My parents always force me to do what they want, blackmailing me to do so but I can request one simple thing and it won’t happen. My father hit me on holiday last year (which I was referring to earlier) and we are going on holiday this year in July as well. I can’t prove anything and it may happen again? I know I’m not being abused and there are people in worse situations than myself but I feel so angry all the time and like the world is always against me. I want to see a councillor but don’t want to ask my parents. I’m not a confident person so don’t want to ask any teachers- especially as if I did, they’d just get my parents involved. My parents have put so much pressure to do well to a point where I just don’t want to do well, I don’t care for my work and I can’t reach what they want me to. I couldn’t even choose what GCSE’s I wanted to take because they’re so controlling. When I try to talk to my mum she starts an argument. It’s not like I’m ungrateful for the food and the roof over my head but I think I can achieve a lot more in someone else’s care. Unfortunately, I don’t think i can go to care because I don’t really have a valid reason. One punch in 14 years that can’t be proven, lack of sleep and grades, and constant arguing? Never going to get me anywhere. I’m always so isolated and sad but always angry. Recently I’ve been more stressed than ever, arguing 24/7 and so my revision has taken a massive step back and I’m angry at everyone and everything. I have no care for work and can’t sleep at all. I feel like I can’t do anything without being shouted at. To try and release some emotion, I write in a book I have in my own language I made up because if my parents ever found out what I’ve been writing my life would get 10x worse... any advice?

Also, I have pets and love football- the two things that have probably kept me alive in the past. Sorry it’s such a long story Thanks for reading, if you did

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Hello,
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a very stressful situation and it shows a lot of courage that you reached out for support. It sounds like you’ve done your best to communicate how you feel to your parents and that you haven’t gotten a proper response. That must be very hurtful. You do not deserve to be hit or hurt in any way, especially by your family. We encourage you to reach out to adults that you trust—if not teachers, then perhaps guidance counselors, family, or even your friends’ parents. We are based in the United States so unfortunately aren’t aware of the local laws in your area, however many places will have a system for reporting neglect or abuse of a child. Based on your message, it sounds like you are in another country. There is likely a helpline that serves your area; you can go to https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/ for your local helpline. We wish you only the very best. Stay safe and stay strong!
--NRS

[Guest]

I’m a 14 year old girl. My father is arrested. My mother hates me. She said it herself. I’ve been feeling this way for over 10 years. She has 5 kids by 5 different men and she’s only 30. Every men she has had haven’t had ANYTHING going for themselves. She tends to bring them around her kids and they treat the kids just like she treats me .. TRASH. All I want to do is leave. I can’t take the pain anymore.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It’s not right you’re your mom to call you such hurtful things. We want you to know that you have value and worth. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. This can all influence your decision to leave.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and I’m tired of living with my family the mental abuse has made me attempt suicide before and I’ve gone to a mental facility at a point I am very tired of living in this home and I have friends that are close by that would let me stay I just don’t want to be in my home anymore due to mental abuse and trauma from past experiences such as my father drugging me and my family so that we’d black out and he’d use my mother as a sex toy and my mother constantly mentally abused me and so did my father my father doesn’t live with us anymore but my mom still mentally abuses me and so does my brother and they try to buy my love and I have severe depression and anxiety due to this family but I can’t cope anymore and I don’t want to stay here

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. Nobody deserves to be abused or have to experience trauma. You can always make an abuse report by calling The Child Help Hotline at 1800-422-4453. If you would like our help with making a report you can always call us and we would be more than happy to help you.
And the experience with your father can defiantly be traumatizing and we are sorry you and your mother had to be put through that. Sometimes those experiences can be very difficult to deal with on our own. You might want to consider talking to a school counselor or a licensed therapist, sometimes talking to a professional can help us feel better. You can also contact NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses) they can be reached at: 800-950-NAMI. You also mentioned having past suicide attempts. We want you to know your life is valuable and you are worth living. If you are ever feeling suicidal you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1800-273-8255.
You also mentioned wanting to live at a friend’s house. We are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws. If you were to leave without permission you could be considered as a runaway. If the police found you they would most likely bring you back home. You could consider looking into emancipation or asking for permission to stay with a friend.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation if you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support for you. We wish you the best of luck, stay strong!
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and I don’t know what it is but everywhere but home I’m fine I feel fine nothing bothers me except maybe presentation at school but at home my anxiety and depression kicks in I don’t know why I think it’s because of my family mainly my mom But I don’t know how to tell her I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings but I don’t want to live at home anymore I just want out I wanna stop feeling like I’m not good enough for my family or not good enough for my mom I don’t know where I want to live but I don’t want to live at home

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS.

Depression and anxiety can be really difficult to come forward and talk about, so thank you for being strong and starting a conversation. No one deserves to feel uncomfortable in their own home, especially when it involves mental health issues.

Running away can be a big step and can often be very difficult when dealing with mental illness. The fact that your depression and anxiety kick in when you’re with family is very sad to hear. It is a hard decision but can be a viable option if you feel you can no longer be at home.

Obviously it depends on your comfort, but sometimes the best step towards feeling better is communication. Whether that is with your mom, a person in your family, a friend, or even a school counselor, talking about your troubles and what could be triggering your depression and anxiety can help a great deal. Telling one person can feel like a big, impossible thing, but you are not alone and have already started by talking with us here at NRS

If talking to people in your own life seems like too much right now, here are some resources for other groups that may be able to help. The National Alliance on Mental Illness can be reached at www.nami.org, at 1-800-950-NAMI, or by texting NAMI to 741741. There is also SAMSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services) that can be reached at 1-877-726-4727 or at samhsa.gov. We are also available here at NRS 24/7 to call or chat with you whenever you need support.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and I get punished for unexplained reasons and hit if I resist I also get threatened to get kicked out the house if I say or do anything.

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Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It is entirely inappropriate for your parents to treat you so unfairly as well as so hurtfully. Your parents have a legal obligation to take care of you until you are no longer a minor. Kicking you out of the house constitutes neglect, a form of abuse and can be reported just like physical or emotional abuse. If you are interested in learning about the reporting process or in filing a report, you can contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. Calling them does not mean you have to file a report and you can hang up at any time before you start making a report with no consequences. If you do not feel comfortable calling on your own, we would be happy to call with you if you call us first. You can call us on our 24/7 confidential hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org. We can also talk more about what your situation is and what other options you may have.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

My family has a lot of history. And each person has a lot of history. I feel like I'm not allowed to get mad or sad. If they do the call me ungrateful, worthless, useless, ect... I mostly want to get away from my parents and older brother. They abuse me. Verbally and sometimes physically. Yesterday I was supposed to go somewhere. I asked my mom to buy me a dress to take to the somewhere. She did. She did but the whole time she was complaining how us kids (there's 4 of us) never help around the house. I like to say that I try to help as much as I can. She kept on going so I decided to help her clean. And so did my other siblings. We were each in charge of a room in the house. No one else cleaned where they had to. So I personally felt responsible for it not looking like we cleaned it. I ended up not going to the party so my mom called me dramatic and stupid for not going. Later that day after I had been cleaning and crying my mom knocked on my door and asked if I still wanted to go. I said no. I had spent all morning after I cleaned my room getting ready. All that crying obviously ruined everything I did. She got mad and closed the door in my face. She said it was no ones fault but mine for crying. When my mom talks to me I don't like to talk back so most of the time I don't explain anything. This has happened so many times I can't take it. I cant hide my emotions in fear of being judged. I've been suicidal for years. She knows this. She's seen my self harming scars. I've asked for help. I haven't gotten any. So I'm asking for help now. Is there anywhere I could go to get away from home? To get help? But get help where my family doesn't have to be involved in setting this up. Because if I ask to set this up they'll just do it half way and not finish it like always. I just need someone to get me out of here. Like a foster home or a rehab I don't care I just want to get away. Please help.

My mom won’t even take me to my apt for my depression but instead will go to hers. My dad does nothing but comes home and sits, if the dishes aren’t done because of doing homework first he will start screaming at me. He has also threaten to hit me and I’m scared because he use to. My brother is over protective and it scares me, he gets violent when I don’t come home in time. He once made me download life360 on my phone. My mom, its always about her and if she’s not apart of something she will end up in it and act like the victim. I’m am so scared my dad is always calling my mom names and he use to call me fat then I starved myself and he wounded ‘quote, “why I’m so weird” he use to call me names as well. I have friends but they only want to be around me when I’m at my best. I’ve tried suicide but it failed. I work so I gave money to a friend that uses a juul and he yelled at me but little does he know I know he also use to have a drug thing where he gave this person money when using. Let’s just say I hate my family and I understand there’s people out there with a worse life but plz I need help. Everyone is in bed and I want to leave but I don’t know how too and I’ve also tried getting a separation from my parent but they will not let me leave.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you deserve to live somewhere where you feel safe. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You brought up some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Your dad's previous physical abuse and threats to repeat that behavior and your brother's violence is unacceptable and you do not deserve to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

You mentioned that you have previously have tried suicide. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I’m 14 years old and I’ve been with my emotionally abusive mother for 10 years now. She will get mad at me for the littlest things like if I am finishing up texting my friend she would ask me to take out the garbage and I’ll say yeah one sec and a few seconds later she will yell at me saying I never do anything around the house. There was this one Thule where 2 of my friends came over to see my newborn niece. We invited them into my house and keep in mind one is a boy the other is a girl. So before my friends sat down, my mother comes in and she sounds weirded out a bit and she’s out of breath to, she says what are you doing and I said just sitting down. She goes oh ok. So my friend girl is poor and she can’t afford food so I let her have some chili. My mother comes in with a pissed off look and she does have verbal aggression towards me and she told me that my friend can’t have any food because it’s ours and ours only. And I gave her a dirty look and she was mad I will admit that. But she’s greedy, has verbal aggression towards me, emotionally abuses me, and she has physically abused my niece. And my niece isn’t even one years old yet. My mother has called me spoiled when she buys stuff for herself, she’s told me this when I was going through depression “ if you killed yourself I wouldn’t care”. Let’s not forget she has put me and my father through depression. She wishes I wasn’t born, she shows verbal aggression towards me in public and it’s obvious. I’ve had enough of my mother. Can someone please get me out of that house

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you don't deserve to be abused mentally or emotionally. You mentioned that your mom physically abuses your infant niece - this raises concern. You have the right to report this behavior of your mom's to child protective services. You can get more information by going to childhelp.org, calling 800-422-4453, speaking with a teacher or medical professional.

It sounds like your mom isn't listening to you when you are trying to express your thoughts and feelings about your current situation. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I am 14 and i live in a family of 5 i have 2 siblings my mom seems to like my other siblings more than me i am the middle child but if i ask to get something she says no u have to help around the house but i do help around the house but my sister takes the credit my dad doesnt even notices me my sister is so mean to me and i want to leave i know noone will be worried si okease take me

[ccsmod15]

Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation. You seem to feel left out and overlooked. No one deserves to feel ignored.

You said you help around the house but your sister takes the credit. Is there a way to make sure you are doing the bulk of these chores right in front of them? Perhaps pick a loud chore like vacuuming while they are home. Or perhaps in casual conversation you can bring up a chore you are about to do like I am the one getting groceries next week and I am starting a list please write down your favorite cereal etc. You may be feeling invisible generally so perhaps you can ask your family to come to some event you participate in. You can make an invitation and say please come and see me in the play or invite them to a sporting event you are involved in. Maybe you could get involved in one of their clubs which could be a way to get your sister to start being nicer to you.

You said that you want to get out of the house but we do not provide housing. We are here to give you support and keep kids safe by giving out shelter information or provide CPS help in abuse situations. The thing about a shelter is that generally you need your parents’ permission in order to stay there. Most states the legal age of majority is 18 when you are legally allowed to leave home on your own. You might want to reach out to a counselor (perhaps at school) to discuss how you are feeling. Perhaps you could ask your parents for family counseling so they would find out that you are needing attention.

We are glad you reached out to us and want to give you as much support as possible. Remember that the National Runaway Safeline is here 24/7. You can reach out again here or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

[Guest]

Hey I’m a kid whose 14 and I have been living like a mistake a disgrace like an ugly duckling my whole life except this time I don’t think I’m gonna have a happy ending I have been living my life like everything is my fault like I’m piece of garbage that shouldn’t be there it’s seems like it would be better if I was out of my moms life I had a terrible childhood my dad died when I was 5 my mom owns a restaurant and she cares about it more than me and I’m forced to work there when I don’t even want to I just want to enjoy my summer but no I have to face the same crap every day which is being blamed for everything being told what to do and being treated like sh*t (sry about that word is just the only word I can think of) and my mom just won’t SHUT UP !!!! And I pray to god everything private moment I can but it doesn’t seem to be getting better I even attempted to leave my house but my alarm didn’t wake me up so I thought it was a sign from god so I gave it a rest till now I’m still having thoughts of suicide or leaving or just getting out of my family’s life in general so if u have any thoughts that can help I would really appreciate it thank you and if u want to reply to me call me TT797

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Hi there, thank you for reaching out to us today. Sharing what has been going on in your life takes a lot of bravery. Reaching out is a great first step. We appreciate your openness and we are always here to listen and support you in every way we can.
First we want to say it is not okay to be blamed for things in your life from your mom. Being made to feel like you’re a mistake is unfair to you as you are valuable and your feelings are valid. It sounds very difficult to be living with your mom after your dad has passed away which we are sorry to hear about you going through. As you mentioned having thoughts of suicide, we do want to let you know that there is a great resource called the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255/suicidepreventionlifeline.org). They are always there to listen if you are feeling like you may hurt or kill yourself, but you do not need to be suicidal to call. They provide 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, and crisis resources.
We are also here 24/7 if you want someone to talk to or brainstorm ideas with and we would love to talk to you if you feel comfortable reaching out. We have a 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and an online chat system through 1800runaway.org. We can explore options that you may feel best fit for your situation which can include safety planning, family meetings with your mom and potentially others, and abuse reporting, which may be hard to say how a report may respond to this situation but we can try to help gather and discuss as much information as we can. These are just a few options we can always expand upon if you can reach out to us again, and we can brainstorm others that you feel may fit better in your situation.

Again, we appreciate your strength in reaching out. We do truthfully care for you and we are always here for you if you feel comfortable calling or chatting with us. Stay safe.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and my mom act like I’m not her kid and that’s I should listen to her and she don’t even care abt me she don’t care abt me going to school she acts like nothing matter she only cares abt her slef

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Hi there,

We are sorry to hear your mom is so neglectful to you. It sounds like you really want more attention and to be seen and heard by your mom.Maybe you can write a letter to your mom explaining how you feel. Or just try to talk to her when she is in a better mood and seems somewhat available for talking. We'd like to help out more but probably need more information about your situation. The best way we can help is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We can talk about what your going through and what your next best steps are. We also have a chat feature on our main page if you'd like to contact us that way. We hope to hear from you!

NRS

[Guest]

If I stay in this house any longer, I can't guarantee my saftey or my family's. I'm starting to realize that I've been abused as long as I've been alive. And now I'm scared I'll kill myself if I stay here with this knowledge.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS