I am 14 and want to runaway to an orphanage

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are being blamed for things that you haven't done and your mom gets mad and it is really taking a toll on you. That cannot be easy. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

You mentioned that you dream of suicide. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

If you haven't already, you might try to talk to your mom about how you are feeling. You so deserve to be heard and to get the help you need. You might see if there is anyway you can see a counselor to talk about how you are feeling.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

I'm only 10 and I want to run to a orphanage BC my mom gets mad for no reason I say it wasn't me BC it wasn't me she says it's always not me and it's got to the point were I dream suicide :/

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Hi, and thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). You mentioned wanting to get away. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home.

If you'd like to talk in more detail about your situation and where you may be able to go, or have any questions please call 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us (www.1800RUNAWAY.org) as we can best help by phone or chat. Best, NRS

Please I want to get away from this dump I don’t know where to go

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

Hi I'm 15 and my mother don't want me near her, she hits me , say things about me being not worth to her , and she threatened me by saying that When I'll turn 16 she will kick me out of her house. Please helhelp me

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it's not OK for your parents to say such cruel and hurtful things to you. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

I'm 13 and my dad just said he'd be overjoyed if I wasn't his daughter, and my mum said she wanted to kill herself being my mother. I really want to get out of this life somehow. What should I do

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Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

Stay Strong,
NRS

I am 14 years old. I am transgender and I came out when I was 11. My parents say that they love me, but they do not accept me for who I am. They treat me like a different person. It's gotten to the point where I have to hide myself and isolate myself from them just so I can be myself. They yell at me for being emotionally distant and when I try to explain why and what I'm feeling, they don't listen. I feel safer and a lot happier when I'm not at home. I want to runaway and I wish I had a different family. If my extended family lived in my state I would try to reach out to them, but they don't live here. My parents are never violent towards me, yet I still hate being around them. They always say that they don't want to accept me because they want me to be safe, yet the thoughts I have and the fact that I am typing this at all, is definitely not safe.
I just want to get out of here.

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Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like things have been stressful at home for some time, and it’s understandable that you’d want to get away from the tension.

Many families experience financial hardships, and it’s normal to be worried about your parents and what might happen. But most parents do not think of their children as financial burdens, and would not trade their kids for any amount of money. Even if sometimes it is hard for your parents to afford to take care of you, it’s possible that they love you and would feel much worse if you were gone. Something else to keep in mind is that if you were to run away and you were caught, your parents could potentially be charged with neglect, which wouldn’t be helpful to them. It might be helpful to think about other ways you might be able to help other than leaving – things like babysitting or walking dogs for extra money, or doing the best you can in school so you can earn college scholarships someday
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It sounds like maybe you want a break from being at home, and your parents won’t give you permission to stay with your family member because they are concerned about your safety. It might be helpful to think about other ways to get out of the house. Maybe your parents would give you permission to stay with a friend or a different family member for the weekend. Or maybe you could join a club or sports team at school.

Sometimes it can be really helpful just to get things off your chest. It might be a good idea to find someone like a school counselor who you can talk to about what you’re feeling. We at NRS (1-800-786-2929) can also help you find resources like counselors or therapists in your area. Journaling about how you’re feeling can also provide a lot of relief sometimes.

It is brave that you are asking for help and looking into all your options. We are here for you 24/7 if you’d like to talk further.

Hi, I am a 12 year old girl
My parents are struggling financially right now, and I want to live with another family member to let my mom and dad to get more money. My parents won't let me live with said family member because she is suicidal, but she was there for me all my childhood. My dad left me with my mom and my sister until I was 9 years old. I want to stay close to my friends where because i have a hard time making them. When I tell my dad i want to live somewhere else, he yells and I cry. I am very emotional and don't want to stay where I am.

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Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline, we're here to listen and to help. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot at home right now, and that your situation has gotten to a place where you don't feel like living at home is an option anymore. You took a great first step reaching out for help. Please call us! We would love to chat with you more in depth about what's going on at home and see if we can figure out some options to help you feel safe. Feel free to reach out to us via phone- 1800-RUNAWAY, or via online chat- www.1800runaway.org, at any time. We are here 24/7

Hi I'm 16 years old and my parents don't want me anymore and my family dont feel like an family I'm in AZ can I call you to leave please... I dont wanna be here anymore

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Hi! Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you're going through a lot of unfair stuff with your family right now, and it's good that you're reaching out for support.

It must be really hard to feel like your family hates you and blames you for things that aren't your fault. It must feel unfair and stressful to be living in an environment like that. It makes a lot of sense that you're sick of it, and are looking for places to go that feel safe. If you ever would like to talk to someone in more detail about what you're going through, please know that you can contact the NRS any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a 24/7, confidential hotline and we are here to help.

No one deserves to be made to feel unloved by their family, and you don't need to go through this alone. Think about what your family does that makes you feel hated. Think about whether there is anything you can say to them that might help them see how they are hurting you. You can try to imagine how having a conversation with them about your feelings might go. You could also call the NRS and ask one of our liners to help you plan out what to say. Writing down your feelings in a journal could help. It could also help to picture what would need to change at home for you to be able to feel better.

It sounds like the way your family punishes you for stuff that isn't even your fault is one particularly challenge right now. That must be hard. You might try to imagine what would need to change at home for you to feel more comfortable there. Talking to your family about how you're feeling and what you would like to change might help, if you feel like they will listen to you. And if you think it could be helpful to talk to your family with the help of an independent, supportive third-party, the NRS offers a service when you call that would allow you to conference call with your family. It can help with having tough conversations, to make sure everyone feels like their voice is being heard.

You mention looking for somewhere safe to go. It must be hard to feel like you have nowhere to go or no options, but you deserve to feel safe where you live. It might help to think about the places where you do feel safe, such as a friend's house or school. It might help to talk to a friend, teacher or school counselor about how you're feeling and what would help you feel less trapped. You can also call the NRS and talk through options for places to go, such as shelters, any time. The NRS liners are able to look up shelters in your area and help you find out what resources are available to you.

It sounds like you're doing the best that you can to take care of yourself, and that's a good thing! Please feel free to reach back out any time, we are available at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are happy to listen. Good luck!