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    Okay, hi to whomever is reading this. My name is Brittany, I am 17 years old, and I have an important question to ask. I live in Pennsylvania. I was also raised by my grandparents, so i already know that they have custody of me. The thing is though, my grandmother died when in was 13. So the result of that was that my grandfather got 100% of custody of me. Before my grandmother had passed, she told my grandfather to not be alone and miserable for the rest of his life and to be happy. About a year later, he met a woman named Marci, whom i have developed a close relationship with. She is like a mother to me. They have been together for 2 and a half years now, and my grandfather keeps bringing up bad memories from her past and keeps accusing her of doing bad things. I am old enough to know that eventually in every persons life, something happens. Everybody messes up. Its life. The thing is that my grandfather was born in 61 and Marci was born in 73. They grew up partying, and as they became older and the times changed they got out of that kind of lifestyle. This is the thing he keeps bringing up and at the same time he calls her really messed up stuff (i want to curse but i don't think this is the right place to) And during those 2 and 1/2 years she has been living with me, my brother, and of course my grandfather. But yesterday they had a really bad argument and she wants to move out. The thing though, is that she wants me to come with her. As I said before I have a really strong relationship with her. I call her my stepmother. As i also said before, I live in Pennsylvania and I am 17 years old. Can i move out/leave and go with her without my grandfathers consent, or do I have to wait till the age of 18 to be able to. Shes also wants to help me go to college and i know that she is the one to help me accomplish that goal. I know if i keep living with my grandfather I will never be able to accomplish that goal. I love her, but I also love my grandfather.

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    RE: Can someone inform me?

    Hello Brittany,
    Thanks for reaching out to us. IT sounds like you are in a tough situation, and we are here to help however we can. We are sorry to hear that Marci is moving out. It sounds like she has been like a mother to you, and it must be difficult to see your grandfather treat her badly and call her names. She does not deserve that. It is understandable that you want to go with her. Since you are under 18 and your grandfather is your legal guardian, if you leave home you could be considered a runaway. This means that your grandfather could call the police, who might force you to return home. Running away is not a crime, however your grandfather could press charges against Marci for harboring a runaway. However, if your grandfather gives you permission to move out then that would not be an issue. You might consider talking to him to see if that would be ok. We are not legal experts. Laws are different from state to state, county to county, city to city. We aren’t sure about Pennsylvania in particular, but we do know that in some areas, police might not take a runaway report for youth who are close to turning 18, or they might take a report but not force a youth to return home. How a local police department responds to the situation can vary drastically. A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are. You can also call us 24/7 to talk through your situation and we can help you come up with options and a plan to stay safe. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon and wish you the best of luck.
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