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  • #16
    I am 17 years old and just had a baby. I am in the foster care system. My parents lost custody of me and my other siblings, so we were placed with my grandmother. . There is no place in my grandmother's house for me and my child and nothing was done to help accommodate us. My grandmother expects me and the baby to sleep together in my bed. We had a regular court appearance scheduled last week, so I asked my attorney if I could live with my 18 year old boyfriend and his family and was told that I could decide where I wanted to live. My sister who is 16 years old is living with my grandmother even though her father (she has a different father) won legal custody of her, and social services knows this, and they let her continue to live with my grandmother. My baby was born 10 days ago, I advised my family and my attorney that I was going to live with my boyfriend's family but now my grandmother said social services called her stating that they will report me as a runaway, and that my boyfriend's parents can be arrested. My grandmother is angry because she's afraid the money she gets for me will be taken away. No one is trying to do this and I didn't runaway. My family comes to visit me and the baby at my boyfriend's house all the time. My boyfriend's family has the room set up for me and the baby, takes us to our doctor's appointments and have even given us rides to a court appearance. My family couldn't and hasn't done this for me. They even told me that they didn't have room in their car for me or my baby and that I had to find my own way to court. I have left a message for my attorney, as he was the one that advised me that I could move in with my boyfriend, but I wanted to see if there was any additional information I should be informed of.

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to NRS. From what you shared, you have been dealing with a lot lately and it sounds like you have been doing your best to handle it responsibly. From what we know, general runaway protocol does not apply to minors who are in the foster care system. Your attorney would know best what your legal rights are when it comes to where you can live and how to proceed from here. Speaking to your family and attorney about the situation was definitely a good step to take. It sounds like your family is not able to provide for you or your child, and moving to your boyfriend's house would be a much more adequate and supportive living situation for both of you. It could be helpful to contact a caseworker if one is assigned to you, to notify them of the situation. Social services might be under the impression that you left home without permission since you are still in the custody of the state. You have already been taking all of the right steps to prioritize your and your baby's well-being.

      If you need any additional support through this challenging time, please do not hesitate to reach out.

      Good luck,
      NRS

  • #17
    Hi, I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18, can I legally move into his apartment without parental consent?
    We live in Columbus, GA

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    • #18
      Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out to us.
      To begin with, you mentioned that you want to legally move into your boyfriend’s apartment, without parental consent. In most states, anyone under 18 is still considered a minor. Unfortunately we aren’t legal experts, but if you decide to leave without your parent’s consent, your guardians may contact the authorities, and file a runaway report. In the same way, whoever is harboring a runaway, in this case being your boyfriend, may face some consequences. An option to consider would be to reach out to your local non-emergency number, and asking them about your states local laws and runaway procedures. You may also look into talking to your parents about any future plans you may have with your boyfriend.
      Again, thank you so much for reaching out to us! If you feel like you need to talk further, you may reach out to us anytime at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!

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      • #19
        Hi, I’m 16 years old and I know you probably get this a lot and my boyfriend is 18 years old. I live in Alabama but my mom doesn’t mind that I live with him. She mainly wants me out and I think it was because she was kicked out at 16 at her age. But I also have probation for 6 months. Will they allow me to live with him? I haven’t started probation yet but will be on the 21st.

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        • ccsmod9
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. If you have probation it might be a good idea to ask the police about what your options are as that requires legal attention. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          Be safe,
          NRS

      • #20
        hi, i’m going to be 16 in february. i was abused mental and physically at my old home. i moved in with my other grandmother. and i have moved 3 different times. i lost my mother at a young age. and lived with my great nana. i made the decision to move in with my moms mom. i moved out of there for reasons. and came to live with my dads mom. i am tired of being passed around and i just want somewhere permanent. i have a boyfriend that is very good and is going to graduate this year. he lives with his family and they have invited me into their home. they are great people and are very nice to me. he is 17 and i’m going to be 16. can i go live with him and my family legally? without permission?

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        • ccsmod13
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          Hi there,

          Thanks for contacting NRS and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.

          Generally speaking, you need permission from your legal guardian to leave home and live somewhere else. If you leave without permission, your guardian can report you as a runaway and potentially have you returned home by the police. If your guardian does give you permission to live with your boyfriend then you would be able to live there legally.

          We hope this information is helpful and answered your questions. If you would like to talk more in detail about your situation, please do not hesitate to call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

          Good luck,
          NRS

      • #21
        hey I was just wondering like a person asked , I want to move out with my boyfriend.im 16 and his 19 and I want to be independent to wok and have a job and is it not good if my parents don't want me to move out yet can I still move out with my boyfriend at 16 , I was reading in the text that y'all said that if you move out without your parents permission they would make a police report and they would take as a runaway , soo what I wanted t tell you that that has happened to me one time and it was because I was 15 and the guy was 22 and my mom reported it and they took it has a runaway . but sense I'm 16 would she still would have to report that to a police if I want to move out with my boyfriend or she wouldn't have to do it no more sense im 16

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hello There,
          Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time at home and we understand the want to become independent.
          Even at 16 you are considered a minor, once you turn 18 in most states that’s when you wouldn’t be considered a minor. So what that means is if you do leave home at 16 without your mother’s permission she does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you home. Also your boyfriend could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway. That would usually be a fine or a misdemeanor.
          We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
          NRS

      • #22
        Hi I’m 16 years old and I live In Ohio I live with my aunt after my mom left me but she is really over protective and doesn’t let me do anything but stay after school because I’m a Matt maid I would like to move into my boyfriends he’s 17 and lives with is mom is mom would be able to Financial support if I moved in I’m tired of living here I am emotionally abused and forced to take pills for depression that don’t work can someone please help me.

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        • ccsmod4
          ccsmod4 commented
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          Hello,
          Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

          We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

          We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately. To report abuse contact Child Help at:1800-422-4453

          Take care,
          NRS

      • #23
        My daughter is going on 17 and has a baby I like to move to Michigan where my family is because there dad passed away does she have to go with me

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        • ccsmod9
          ccsmod9 commented
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          Hello,
          Thank you so much for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). Family issues can always be difficult and we appreciate you reaching out and looking for help. It sounds like you are looking for answers regarding legal issues and custody.
          We are not legal experts, but it is understood that in most states including Michigan have a legal minority age of 17. This means until your daughter is 18 she is in your custody and is your responsibility to provide food, shelter, and care. More specific and accurate advice can be found by calling the NRS (1800-RUN-AWAY) or using our chat system. Other options include a non-emergency police line or other legal aid.
          We are here as support to help through this challenging time, however the NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          Be safe,
          NRS

      • #24
        Hello, I have a question. I moved out when I turned 16. My bf is 19 and we live together. My parents love my bf and understand that I need to be with them. I live in Tennessee. Can the cops do anything when I have my parents consent.

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        • ccsmod9
          ccsmod9 commented
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          Thank you for reaching out to us for clarification. It sounds like you’ve gotten a manageable plan in place for yourself, which is impressive for such a young age! While we’re not legal experts, if you have your parent’s consent to stay where you are, the police would have no reason to take you home or ask you to leave your boyfriend’s house. It might be a good idea to get your parent’s consent in some kind of writing – even something like a text message from them could help out, just in case the police ask for verification. Overall, as long as you’re safe where you are and your parents do consent, there shouldn’t be a reason to ask you to leave.

          If you have any further questions or would like to discuss your situation any further, we’re available 24/7. Feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), or you can access our online chat at https://www.1800runaway.org/. Day or night, we’re here for you. Good luck with everything!

      • #25
        Hi, I’m 16 years old and my boyfriend is 19 we want to move in together but my parents aren’t agree but I really wanna do it. I currently work and my boyfriend too so we are really able to pay our bills but my parents are not agree. I’m thinking about running away but I’m scare they will put charges on him,but I want to be with him.

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        • ccsmod2
          ccsmod2 commented
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          Hello There,
          Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now.
          We are not legal experts but if you were to run away you’re legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home. Also whoever you were to stay with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway. Usually that would consist of a misdemeanor or a fine.
          We hope this information may help you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to help and to listen. Best of luck!
          NRS

      • #26
        hi Im 16 years old and i live in Washington state my boyfriend is 20 and he lives in Texas and he said i could move in with him and his parents, because i really cant stay here at my house my family treats me really bad i am emotionally unstable and i need to get out of here as soon as possible its so bad here, and i know my parents will never let me leave which is why we decided he was gonna come get me and move in with him and his family in texas, i know they have different laws there and i was wondering if i would be ok, i dont want to go through the whole legal action stuff and i dont have any money to get a lawyer to help m get emancipated i really need help

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        • ccsmod16
          ccsmod16 commented
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          Hi,
          Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did.

          It sounds like you are in a very difficult situation and that your family treats you really bad, which contributes to feeling emotionally unstable. We are glad that your boyfriend and his family are there for you and believe you. We do too.

          We don’t have any authority to tell you whether it is OK for you to go or not, but what we can do is talk it over with you and to help you make a plan for yourself that you are comfortable with. You are right that each state has different laws, and while we are not legal experts, we can share general knowledge.

          We can talk over all of this if you can also reach out to us at 1800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat via www.1800runaway.org to discuss this further. We are here for you 24/7 to listen and help.

          We hope to hear from you soon.
          NRS

      • #27
        Hey I’m 15 I turn 16 in October 26 my boyfriend is 18 and we wanna live together my mom likes him well how he sounds but hasn’t met him she said it’s okay for me to live with him because her household isn’t very good but she is supporting and my dad don’t take care of me at all so I was wondering will she get in trouble if I move with my boyfriend without my boyfriend signing a legal guardian paper even if she is letting me move with him will we get in trouble like my mom or him because we plan on saving up and stuff and he really wants to help me. Do you think social workers or anything will find out I moved if I still go to school and stuff what do you think is best?
        Last edited by ccsmod4; 03-25-2020, 07:45 AM.

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        • ccsmod4
          ccsmod4 commented
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          Hello,
          Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

          We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are not legal experts so you might consider speaking with your mother about getting information from a legal aid source about transference of custody. We can assist you with locating resources in your area

          If you would like to talk more in detail and locate legal referrals, please call or chat soon.

          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          Take care,
          NRS

      • #28
        Hi, so im 15 and im heavily thinking about getting emancipated. I have some family and friends that are already 18 and have their own place. My dad is always telling me to "Get the ******** out" based off of this, can I just leave? Like get a job, and move in with those friends/family? Or do I still have to go thru the full emancipation process if they do not give me written consent to leave ?

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        • #29
          Hi, I’m 14 and I’ll be 15 in just over a month. My boyfriend is 16. Would I be able to (legally) temporarily stay with him and his family as my parents are always fighting and I just need to get away from that for a little while. Would this be okay/possible?

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          • ccsmod16
            ccsmod16 commented
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            Hi, Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are in a really tough situation at home, and it is understandable to want to stay with another family to get a break from it.

            If your parents give their permission for you to go, then there isn’t a problem, but they are the only ones who can give that permission. If you go on your own, they have the right to have you return home. But it is hard to be in an environment with a lot of fighting. We hope that you can reach out to us so that we can talk about it because that is the best way for us to help.

            You can reach us by phone at 1800-786-2929 (1800-runaway) or via live chat at www.1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 and all of our services are confidential. We hope to hear from you soon.
            Sincerely,
            NRS

        • #30
          I’m 14 and my boyfriend is 16 if I got my grandma who is my legal guardian to agree with moving in with him and his parents would they be any legal issues

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          • ccsmod13
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            Hello there,

            Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are here for you through these tough times we are facing, and are happy to answer any questions you may have regarding runaway or homeless youth. You mentioned that you are 14 years old, and in most states the age of majority is 18 years old. This means that someone under 18 is the responsibility of their parent or guardian. If you were to move out of your grandma’s house without her permission they could possibly file a runaway report. This is a report filed with your local police office that would allow the police to return you to your grandma’s custody if you were to come in contact with them. We are not legal experts here at NRS but we would like to make you aware of possible outcomes. You may want to consider talking with your grandma to arrange an alternative housing agreement. This means that your grandma gives her permission for you to live with your boyfriend’s family. This is something your grandma would have to agree to considering you are 14. If your grandma is in agreement with your move, then there would be no legal issue with you staying with your boyfriend’s family.

            If you would like more information regarding your situation we urge you to reach out to us on our 24/7 toll-free number at 1(800)-RUNAWAY. We can give you case specific information as well as resources to help you navigate this decision. Thank you again for reaching out and stay safe!

            Good luck,
            NRS
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