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18 and living in hotel with bf for a week

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  • 18 and living in hotel with bf for a week

    So to sum this up, my boyfriend is coming all the way from the philippines to come here and go to a local con with me in the town I'm living in, this con being Saluki Con. He plans on staying for a week before going back home.

    Now this sounds all fine and dandy but my real issue comes up when it comes to my parents. They're extremely overprotective and usually don't let me stay with someone unless its a really really old friend. Not only that, but they're very mentally abusive and is why my boyfriend wants me to stay with him in the hotel for the week that he's there because he's expressed how he doesnt want me here any longer (mostly because he and a few other friends have been present, via video chat or in person, when my mom/dad start yelling at me for the smallest of things).

    Once again, that in itself wouldn't be too much of a problem but I'm still having a lingering fear that somehow some way my parents are gonna find a way to give this info to the police or find a way to put my bf in a bad light (something they've done with past bfs when I dated one 2 years older than me and she called him a pedo).

    I'm almost certain there is nothing legal they can bring into this to actually file a police report but...I'm nervous to do this mostly because of the entire 'what if' thing. That and the fear of coming home after said week only to be bombarded with questions regarding what we did and stuff. It doesn't help that both of us are gay and trans and my family aren't exactly the most open to this so...I don't know??

    I guess after all that my main question is do my parents have any legal say when it comes to me staying with my bf for a week?

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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
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