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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like you and your parents are not on the same page when it comes to school and transportation to/from and it must be really frustrating. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    I’ve been struggling with my parents for about a year now they have been trying to ship me off to all these different schools saying that if this one accept you this is where you will go! I have a friend and about 2 months ago her mom heard my story and agreed to help me then my mom came back again and said no to another good opportunity yesterday we went to them on our last time to beg them and tell them what they are doing they kept saying they are scared of who will be taking me to school I’m like the same way my friend would be getting to school is the same way i would I just want to go and live with them why am I the one that never gets a happy ending my mom kept saying that I’m shy and that I can’t do this and that I’m like that’s why I need her she keeps me going and now you guys are taking that away from me it was our dream to get out of these bad schools and uniform and stuff like that her aunt gave her a good Opportunity to go to a good school she and I tried to convince my parents they kept saying they wouldn’t change there schedules I’m like if y’all won’t do that then there’s no point of being scared of how I’m getting to school we have known them for two years they took me in they treated me well and my parents just want to be in control of everything that happens to me they are saying if they take you to school how will we. Know you are going to school well there’s lots of technology out here to day if they would like to be on FaceTime until I arrive that’s fine but they need to stop saying what if y’all get into in accident what if you don’t go to school like why would they not take us to school like if they can’t change there schedules what they can do so my dad goes to work at 7 we can wake up 6 or 5 and her house is 6 minutes away if he cared about me he could help once in a while and take 6 minutes! Only six out of his day and take me it’s not hard or I could spend the night on Sunday’s and we get to school they refuse to meet her aunt that’s even making any of this happen like why are they being so cruel I just want out I’m really done like they don’t have to be the ones to take me to school all they have to do is sacrifice 6 minutes of there time to drop me off then her parents take us to her cousins house then we get onto the bus it’s not hard at all I want out they can’t accept something good what kind of people are they keep saying we wish we could they can they aren’t thinking deeper I really want out someone understand

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS),
    It seems like you’ve been through physical abuse by your parents and are feeling unsafe at home to the point you have been self-harming as a way to cope with the negative feelings. You don’t deserve to be treated this way, yes everyone makes mistakes but that is no excuse to cause you physical pain or throw you around. It makes sense to want to escape a potentially unsafe situation to somewhere you feel more supported and understood.
    Generally if you were to just run away to your grandparents’ house you could still be labelled as a runaway. This is a status offence so you wouldn’t get in legal trouble unless it’s a constant thing. Police would generally try to bring you back home. They are also supposed to listen to any claims of abuse in the home and investigate your home before forcing you back into an unsafe place. The legitimacy of your claims are up to police generally though so they don’t always take these steps.
    Again we’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY. This might be one option to get placed with your grandparents if your parents are deemed unsafe for you to be around.
    You also mentioned texting inappropriate things to your crush. We don’t want you to feel judged but if you are becoming curious about sex and sexuality in general it might be helpful to learn some more about safety in sex and ways to talk about it in positive ways. https://sexetc.org/ is a good place to start to learn about your body and the changes that come with puberty if you don’t have an adult you trust to talk to you about these things.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I need help. I'm 13 years old and I've had social media before but I've gotten caught texting some inappropriate things with my crush and I know that's bad. I have gotten caught 4 times and my parents have hit me many different types of ways like with the belt he even throws me to the ground and I'm constantly cutting myself to release anxiety and I'm always feeling depressed, sad, and angry and I get thoughts that sometimes I want to move in with my grandparents because I've discussed this with them and they understand WAY more and I feel like they will treat me better. What do I do I need help, please help me i don't know... I'm a 13 year old.
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 07-30-2020, 07:33 PM.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through some really difficult stuff and we want to do our best to help you. If your family members are creating a dangerous environment for you at home, you may want to consider filing an abuse report. A great resource for understanding that process and what could come of it is the National Child Abuse Hotline. They are reachable at 1-800-422-4453.

    We would be happy to talk to you about other options and how you might be able to leave. We can look through our database for runaway youth shelters and help you figure out how to leave in a way that prioritizes your safety.

    If you ever feel like you are in immediate danger at home, please call the police at 911.

    If you want to talk more about what is going on or about what other options there may be, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I want to move out because of my a bousive brother and mon

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing about what’s going on with your family. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and running away feels like one of your only options.

    Your safety is very important. If you feel threatened, we encourage you to call 9-11 for immediate help. You mentioned different types of abuse you are receiving from different family members. Childhelp is an organization that helps adolescents who are being mistreated, and can be reached at www.childhelp.org or 800-422-4453. If you wanted help submitting an abuse report, they can help with that as well.

    Regarding running away at the age of 13, while we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home.

    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We can best help by phone or chat so if you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We’re here to listen and help, and hope you can reach out soon. We are here to support you.

    Take care,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    can I move out at 13? my mom is verbally abusive, my grandma shoves religion down my throat, my grandpa is a pedophile and emotionally abusive, and my dad makes fun of my body every day. please help

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m thirteen and i want to move with an old family member. my family is mentally abusive and i just don’t know or trust what i might do to myself or what i mightn’t become because of it.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hey there,

    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees.

    You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

    We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 13 an my mother is very mentally abusive (she is mentally abusing me) , she makes me feel anxious and I'm very afraid of her.
    my mental health is currently dying, I can't eat, sleep or enjoy the things I loved to do. She makes me feel like ********. I love my father but I can't live with my mom.
    My aunt would probably take me and my 9y/o brother in, I would love to live with her. One time she's so nice and the next moment she is the most rude and mentally abusive person ever. I tried committing suicide because of her not only once, but she never did any physical abuse. Is that even a reason to move out?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you have gone through a lot, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    Living with a parent who drinks a lot can be really difficult and scary. Sometimes it may help to talk to people who are going through a similar situation. They do have support groups for teens who are dealing with a family members addiction it is called alateen. You can look online to see if there are support groups in your area.
    Also you do not deserve to be hit, if you feel like this could be abuse you do have the right to make a report. If you would like to make a report you can contact Child Help at : 1800-422-4453. You can also call us and we can help you with making a report. As far as leaving home because of your age you could be considered as a runaway. If the police do find you it is a possibility that they can bring you back home.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 13 and about to turn 14 but ive lived thru hell my. Mom drinks alot and only cares about her self i want to move out but im too scared telling her people wont believe me when i sed she hits me i only have two prople who actually saw her hit me i dont want to live with nobody i want to be on my own is that selfish i only wanted to work

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    Im 13 years old and want to move out. My mother is verbally and emotionally abusive. She calls me things like a mistake,whore,hoe,slut,**********, I want you to die, your ugly,and retarded. She slaps me in the face daily, she punches me in the leg, slaps me in back, and throws me to the ground. I want to leave this house cause i don't feel safe but i have no family, my dad died before i was born, and i have no grandparents or aunts or uncles. I want to commit suicide daily but don't. I recorded it and showed it to my friends and they said to do your best to leave that house or you could get really hurt worse then you already are. Im a straight A student and do nothing wrong. I do everything in the house while she sits in her room and watches tv and talks to her friends on the phone. I cook dinner and everything. I have bipoler 1 since i was 3 and it dosnt help. What should i do please help me.

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