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  • #76
    I need help. I'm 13 years old and I've had social media before but I've gotten caught texting some inappropriate things with my crush and I know that's bad. I have gotten caught 4 times and my parents have hit me many different types of ways like with the belt he even throws me to the ground and I'm constantly cutting myself to release anxiety and I'm always feeling depressed, sad, and angry and I get thoughts that sometimes I want to move in with my grandparents because I've discussed this with them and they understand WAY more and I feel like they will treat me better. What do I do I need help, please help me i don't know... I'm a 13 year old.
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 07-30-2020, 07:33 PM.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hey there thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS),
      It seems like you’ve been through physical abuse by your parents and are feeling unsafe at home to the point you have been self-harming as a way to cope with the negative feelings. You don’t deserve to be treated this way, yes everyone makes mistakes but that is no excuse to cause you physical pain or throw you around. It makes sense to want to escape a potentially unsafe situation to somewhere you feel more supported and understood.
      Generally if you were to just run away to your grandparents’ house you could still be labelled as a runaway. This is a status offence so you wouldn’t get in legal trouble unless it’s a constant thing. Police would generally try to bring you back home. They are also supposed to listen to any claims of abuse in the home and investigate your home before forcing you back into an unsafe place. The legitimacy of your claims are up to police generally though so they don’t always take these steps.
      Again we’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY. This might be one option to get placed with your grandparents if your parents are deemed unsafe for you to be around.
      You also mentioned texting inappropriate things to your crush. We don’t want you to feel judged but if you are becoming curious about sex and sexuality in general it might be helpful to learn some more about safety in sex and ways to talk about it in positive ways. https://sexetc.org/ is a good place to start to learn about your body and the changes that come with puberty if you don’t have an adult you trust to talk to you about these things.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #77
    I’ve been struggling with my parents for about a year now they have been trying to ship me off to all these different schools saying that if this one accept you this is where you will go! I have a friend and about 2 months ago her mom heard my story and agreed to help me then my mom came back again and said no to another good opportunity yesterday we went to them on our last time to beg them and tell them what they are doing they kept saying they are scared of who will be taking me to school I’m like the same way my friend would be getting to school is the same way i would I just want to go and live with them why am I the one that never gets a happy ending my mom kept saying that I’m shy and that I can’t do this and that I’m like that’s why I need her she keeps me going and now you guys are taking that away from me it was our dream to get out of these bad schools and uniform and stuff like that her aunt gave her a good Opportunity to go to a good school she and I tried to convince my parents they kept saying they wouldn’t change there schedules I’m like if y’all won’t do that then there’s no point of being scared of how I’m getting to school we have known them for two years they took me in they treated me well and my parents just want to be in control of everything that happens to me they are saying if they take you to school how will we. Know you are going to school well there’s lots of technology out here to day if they would like to be on FaceTime until I arrive that’s fine but they need to stop saying what if y’all get into in accident what if you don’t go to school like why would they not take us to school like if they can’t change there schedules what they can do so my dad goes to work at 7 we can wake up 6 or 5 and her house is 6 minutes away if he cared about me he could help once in a while and take 6 minutes! Only six out of his day and take me it’s not hard or I could spend the night on Sunday’s and we get to school they refuse to meet her aunt that’s even making any of this happen like why are they being so cruel I just want out I’m really done like they don’t have to be the ones to take me to school all they have to do is sacrifice 6 minutes of there time to drop me off then her parents take us to her cousins house then we get onto the bus it’s not hard at all I want out they can’t accept something good what kind of people are they keep saying we wish we could they can they aren’t thinking deeper I really want out someone understand

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      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like you and your parents are not on the same page when it comes to school and transportation to/from and it must be really frustrating. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • #78
    hi i’m non-binary and my parents don’t accept. i get yelled at 24/7 for no reason. i don’t think i can put up with it anymore. i want to leave my house :/

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      ccsmod3 commented
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      Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

      We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

      You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

      If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

      Stay Strong,
      NRS

  • #79
    my mom is pregnant and driving me crazy I can't go anywhere or do anything I pay for my own phone she tries to take away constantly but it was like this before she got pregnant she says things abt my appearance she calls me names ND she thinks object things help I am running away

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a rough time and we want you to know that you are not alone. You do not deserve to be called names.
      If you feel that you are being emotionally abused, you do have the right to file a report. You can file a report by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. We know you mentioned wanting to run away, running away is a big decision that only you can make. We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • #80
    13 and I want to move out because my 2 siblings make my life awful and I am responsible enough to live on my own.

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like issues with your siblings have been making home incredibly stressful. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel like you are safe at home.

      Living on your own before you turn 18 can be incredibly challenging. Generally speaking, your parents are your legal guardians until you turn 18 and have control over where you live and things like if you can get a job. Its understandable you would want to leave, but perhaps there are other options you can explore first.

      Having a support system can be really important during difficult situations. We encourage you to reach out to any friends, family members, a counselor, or other adults that you trust. Often having a safe space to talk through your feelings can help you brainstorm ideas you had not thought of previously. Perhaps one of these people could even help you talk to your parents about how you are feeling at home. You deserve to be listened to and helped.

      We truly want to be a support for you as you navigate this challenging situation. We want to talk more in-depth about your situation with you so that we can better help you come up with a plan. Because our email and bulletin services are different in that we can only respond twice, we can best help by phone or live chat. If you would like to talk more to explore your situation, you can contact us for immediate support 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

      Stay strong,
      NRS

  • #81
    Hi
    I want to move in with my nana because my mum treats my different to my brother and sister she makes me tidy the whole house myself we have horrible neighbor's aka they smoke weed. How would I move in with my nana

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      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #82
    im 13 nothing bad is happening at my home it’s just that I can’t find happiness here my moms she does everything she can do and I respect that but me im not happy so much stuff cross my mind living here I just wanna leave i feel like this family is causing me unhappiness i just don’t know what to do anymore how can someone else get custody of me ? I’m not saying I wanna leave my mom I just don’t wanna stay here anymore and I’m so afraid that I might runaway and never come back this is what causing my problems and pain .

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #83
    Look I need a place even for I'm 13 years old I just wanna live my life now that I'm a teen and he treated right...and maybe have the perfect family..

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      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #84
    Urm hi I kinda hope no one I know sees this But I really want to just leave my mum favourites my brother and is emotionally and verbally abusive and I can’t take it no more am I allowed to like rent or by a house at 13 or 14 in the U.K. I’m scared everyday wondering what mood her and my brother or gonna be in thanks for reading and sorry for wasting some of your time have a nice day

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      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #85
    Hi im 13 and my father can be emotionally abusive and my step mom yells at me a lot i want to runaway but i dont have the courage to my dad also askes me to leave and askes me where i want to go but im to scared to tell them i want to move in with my non biological grandma please help

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to provide support. It seems like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know you are not alone.
      You do not deserve to be abused in any type of way and we are sorry you are going through that. You do have the right to make a report and there are a few ways you can make a report. One option to consider is to reach out to Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You can also reach out to us by chat or by calling us and we can help with making a report. Also you mentioned your dad telling you to leave because you are a minor that would be considered neglect if he kicks you out and that can be reported as well.
      Running away is a big decision that only you can make as you know your situation best. We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen. If you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you it is a possibility that you could be brought back home. You could try talking with your family about your feelings. At NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your parents and help you have these difficult conversations.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • #86
    Hello I am 13 and do not want live with my mother I do not have a father to take me he left me when I was 2 years old who can I go to so I can leave legally and not get my mom in trouble

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,
      NRS
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