moving out at 17

[Unregistered]

i need to move out of my house my mom favors my younger sister and my little brother to. she hardly pays attention to me at all. I live in missouri my friend said i can move in with her Will She be able to call me as a runaway? and she dont let me hangout with my friends but she lets my younger sister and brother go hangout with their friends. and she beats my youngest brother with a shoe and when he wont stop crying she puts him outside with no shoes or no coat when its cold out

[ccsmod1]

RE: moving out at 17

Hello,
Thank you for reaching out. We are sorry to hear about what is going on with your mom and your siblings. That sounds very difficult. It sounds like you are feeling that your mom is unfair toward you when compared to your siblings. It sounds like she has also been violent towards your youngest brother. He does not deserve to be beaten or locked outside. It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation at home and it is understandable that you have thought about moving out. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can also talk about options for your brother.
Since you are under the age of 18, if you leave home you could be considered a runaway. This means that your parent or legal guardian could call the police, who might force you to return home. Running away is not a crime, however anyone who allows you to stay with them could risk criminal charges for harboring a runaway.
We are not legal experts. Laws are different from state to state, county to county, city to city. In some areas, police might not take a runaway report for youth who are close to turning 18, or they might take a report but not force a youth to return home. How a local police department responds to the situation can vary drastically. A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are.
If you have any questions or you need someone to talk to about your options and help come up with a plan, we can help. Please do not hesitate to reach out. We are looking forward to your call, and wish you the best of luck.

[A tired minor]

Moving out at 17

My living conditions are acceptabl, but constant fights between me and my mother she is the case of everything that happens to lately for example she has been assuming that I have been sneaking guys in the house and having sex with them when I'm still a virgin. I haven't seen my grandma all spring break and suddenly one day she call to spend time with me I was very happy till I found out my mom used my grandma just to watch me I felt very hurt for that I'm scared to even be with a guy alone and she does this and when I was younger she never let anyone baby sit my brothers but when it came to me I was raped multiple times by a family member that was supposed to be watching me. My mother is slick and manipulative and all of our fights get worse.... Things I even self harmed for. im so tired of living her I can't go to my dad cause he also wasn't a good parent when it came to issues and I didn't want to hear I "I told you so " I want to leave with out being called a runaway but I have no place to go I'm on edge a lot lately and always depressed being closed doors. I want to know is there somewhere to go

[ccsmod16]

Re: moving out at 17

Hi there,

We’re sorry to hear about your difficult situation at home. We’re glad you are being brave enough to reach out to get help. You have been through a lot and deserve to be treated better.

We understand you are still just 17 but would like to move out from home. We are not legal experts here but generally speaking you need to be 18 to legally leave home. These laws vary from state to state so your situation can be different than others. Would your mother be open to giving permission to live elsewhere, like another family member or a close friend? It’s nice you have a good relationship with your grandmother and it is a shame that your mother is trying to use that against you. We can try to refer counseling if you think talking to a professional about your current and past experiences may help you. Rape is a very terrible thing and we are sorry that you had to experience that. There is a national number you can call if you want to talk to someone specifically about that. The organization is called RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network) at 1.800-656.4673.

We're glad you reach out to us. We know it takes a lot of strength to ask others for help when trying deal with a private matter. If you would like to discuss your options further feel free to give us a call or go to our chat service. We are here to listen; here to help.

Best,
NRS