Will my friends parents get in trouble if I run away to her house?

[Guest]

Hi im 15 im currently staying with my aunt , for right now because my mom boyfriend said i took his shoes which i didnt so when i was finna walk to the stairs he dragged me down and started beating on me i have bruises on my neck and my chest and arms , i was at my gf house yesterday since i ranaway yesterday so csb got involed and the police . Then they brought me to my aunts , Mind you my mother saw him doing this and she didnt help me or nothing , Today she told me that if i go to school tommrow and if im talking to my gf im gonna get in trouble and she said that im getting pulled out of my current school this because shes mad that he has a warrant for his arrest for touching me so tommrow im gonna tell the counselors and repeat everything because i dont feel safe anymore

[ccsmod16]

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out; we are glad that you did. You have been through such a scary situation and we are sorry to hear that your mom didn't help you and now blames you for the crime committed against you by her boyfriend beating you on the stairs.
We are very glad that you were placed with your aunt, and because of this, your mom won't be able to have you removed from school. You are right to talk to school staff about this and we hope you will give them your aunt's contact information since she will have the paperwork showing you were legally placed with her.
You did not deserve to be treated this way either by the boyfriend or your mom. We are here to support the complex feelings you may be experiencing as well as to listen and help you through this stressful time. We are glad that your girlfriend is there for you too.

You are welcome to chat us through this website, or call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) We are here for you 24/7 to believe you and support you. We truly hope to hear from you soon.

Sincerely, NRS

[Guest]

Hi I'm 13 I've been considering running away for a really long time now because I feel emotionally abused and not accepted, I'm transgender and bisexual but I haven't come out to my parents yet because I don't feel I can I've only come out to my school where I feel partially accepted they struggle with pronouns, I try to be understanding but it's really upsetting and annoying I'm also an only child I've always wanted a sister and when I was 5 or so I asked my parents for a sibling and they said "life is hard enough with you as it is" my parents say they love me and occasionally do nice things but I feel like they don't mean it or their just doing it so I don't realize what their doing. I tried to tell them that I have depression but they didn't take me seriously as they usually don't and so I decided to cut myself to show how I feel and they just compared me to my 17 year old cousin like they always do, Christmas and my birthday have been my least favourite days of the year for 2 years straight just last Christmas they compared me to my cousin because I was wearing a black jacket when I've never seen my cousin wearing a black jacket before. Now they are threatening to take me out of school because I get annoyed with them gaslighting me. I've always been very lonely because like I mentioned earlier im an only child and every friendship I've ever had has been ruined by my parents so now all my friends are secret from them, they also don't respect my privacy they go through my entire phone all the time I had to write this in incognito mode on Google. School is the last piece of happiness i have.

I originally came here to ask, if I ran away to my friends house could my friends parents get in trouble?

[ccsmod16]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes a lot courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things at home are not so great right now and that things have been super difficult. You do not deserve to be treated that way and deserve to be respected.

Regarding running away, since you are still under the age of 18, your parents can still technically file a runaway report. Running away is not illegal but it is a status offense (something you cannot do because of your age). If your parents were to file a runaway report, then you could be found by the police and returned home. Also, there are laws about harboring runaways, so while this is rarer, you should know that it is possible for your friend’s parents to get in trouble if your parents files a runaway report. You can, however, with the permission of your parents, stay at your friend’s house.

It can be super helpful to have strong support systems. How would you feel about talking to a friend, a family member, or teacher/school counselor about what is going on? Sometimes it can be really helpful to have someone that will listen to what is going on and someone that can offer suggestions/advice. Your well-being is also super important and having coping mechanisms to take care of yourself can be super beneficial. You can listen to music, journal about what is going on, exercise, take a walk, draw, or just do an activity that makes you feel good.

We are here to support you 24/7. If you would like to talk in more detail, please contact NRS either by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chatting online through 1800runaway.org. Another great resource is The Trevor Project www.thetrevorproject.org which helps LGBTQ+ youth navigate difficult times.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

Hi I am 13 years old and my mother has been abusing me for a while. I tried to go to my dads house but he got token away and I have nowhere to go.

[ccsmod15]

It sounds like you are going through a very tough time and we are glad you reached out to us. It is very brave of you to take steps to make your situation better and we will do our best to help you find resources that may be helpful to you.



Your current living situation sounds very challenging. It is your mother’s responsibility to provide you with a safe and supportive environment. If you are in danger, you can always call 911.



Do you have other friends or family or a teacher or counselor at school you are comfortable talking to that you are comfortable talking to about your situation? They may have advice or ideas that may be helpful to you.



A potential resource is the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at www.childhelp.org or 1-800-4-A-CHILD (422-4453). Childhelp is a 24-hour hotline with volunteers who can talk to you about your situation and provide resources that may be helpful to you.



You could also consider contacting your local Division of Family Services or Child Protective Services. If you are uncomfortable making the call, you can call us and one of our volunteers can make the call with or for you.



At NRS our main goal is to see that you are safe and off the street. If you leave home have you considered where you would go? How would you support yourself?



We’re not legal experts, but we can provide some basic information that may be helpful to you. Running away is not illegal. In most states, the age of majority (the age at which you can legally leave home) is 18. Since you are under 13, if you run away, your mother can file a runaway report. If you are picked up by the police they will likely take you back home.



You should know that if you are staying with someone and you are picked up there, they could be charged with harboring a runaway.



The way the police handle runaway and harboring cases varies from place to place. If you call the non-emergency number of your local police department they may be able to tell you how they handle runaway and harboring cases. If you are uncomfortable making the call, you can call us and one of our volunteers can make the call with or for you.



You can also always contact us via chat at www.1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We have volunteers available 24/7 to talk and to help you find resources that may be helpful to you.



We wish you the best!

[Guest]

I’m 17 working and wanna run away because i’m tired of how my parent mentally abuse me, i truly love and respect them but i can’t i really want to run away to my friends house and they are completely okay i just wouldn’t want them to get into trouble if i were found or caught, i’ve been thinking of suicide because of them but that’s not even the point, i just want to know if they would get into trouble if i were to run away and my parents report me missing?

[ccsmod1]

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are sorry to hear about the mental abuse you have been experiencing at home. Please know you do not deserve that and your mental health and well-being are extremely important. You deserve to feel uplifted and safe at all times. It sounds like you have the opportunity to stay with a friend and it sounds like you are feeling like this will be better for your mental health, which is understandable. Please know that we are not legal experts, but it is to our general understanding that there is always risks for any individual under the age of 18 when running away. If your parents report you missing and/or as a runaway and you are found, there is a possible chance you may be brought back home and it is to our understanding that it would be up to your parents to decide whether or not to press charges against the person you are staying with (i.e; your friend's parents). Situations may vary and again, please know this is just our general understanding and we do not know what to expect for an exact outcome of the situation.

We see that you have been thinking about suicide and are curious if you are having active thoughts of killing yourself. We encourage you to please call 911 immediately if you find yourself in or at risk of imminent danger from others or yourself. You may also now dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. They also have a website, similar to us, that offers online chat and support resources as well. The link to their website is here: https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=...ampaign=onebox

We welcome you to reach out to us through our online chat portal, found on our website at www.1800runaway.org or give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We would be happy to provide direct support for you and talk further about the situation with you. In the meantime, please stay safe and remember that your life is important and we need you here. Nobody in this world deserves the best of you more than you deserve the best of you and remember that healing is not linear. Even on the difficult days, it is all a part of the healing process. We are here for you and you are never alone.

Wishing you peace, safety, and outstanding health.

Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi, im 17 and have been having serious issues with both of my parents, mainly my father though, and plan on running away to my friends house tonight, If i TELL my parents that I am going to my friends house and going to be staying there for a few days or a little while, but still continue to go to school and work, would my friends or my friends parents get in trouble?

[ccsmod3]

Thank you for reaching out it takes a lot of courage. It is great that you have such supportive friends in your life. It sounds like you are planning on telling your parents you are going to stay at a friends, though there is a chance they will not give you permission to do so. We are by no means legal experts. Potentially your friend’s parents could get in trouble it depends on your local police station. Since you are 17 the police might be less likely to follow up since you are close to 18. The police might return to your parents as well. It is important to remember that if you feel that you are immediate danger that you can always reach out to the police. Another option to use is National Safe Place which will tell you the closest safe place in your area. To use National Safe Place TXT 4 HELP is a nationwide, 24-hour text-for-support service for teens in crisis. If you’re in trouble or need help, text SAFE and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357) for immediate help. Remember you are not alone, and you can always reach out to us. We are 24/7 and can be reach through team or chat at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or National Runaway Safeline | National Runaway Safeline (1800runaway.org).

[Guest]

Hey please reply, I am almost 15. I’m getting emotionally abused at home. I ran away once because I hate living here, it makes me very depressed and I want to live with my boyfriend and his mom, they would take me in but I don’t know how. My mom never gives me attention at home and her and her boyfriend stay in their room smoking marijuana all day everyday. I’m the only child so it’s hard for me not getting attention from anyone. Plus my grandma and papa stay here and my papa is on hospice, it’s all too much for me no one is focused on me as an only child. My mom never lets me go anywhere and she lets her boyfriend control me. It hurts me as a child getting no attention and they smoke all day and we live around people with guns and my mamas boyfriend tried to kill one of them they came to our house with guns while I was asleep. I really want to stay with my boyfriend and his mom, his mom takes very good care of me and loves me like her own please help.

[ccsmod16]

Hello, Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We’re sorry to hear about the emotional abuse and potentially negligent behavior from your mom that you are experiencing. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now, with your papa in hospice and mom’s boyfriend getting into fights at your home. It’s understandable that you want to leave given the stressful environment. It sounds like your boyfriend and his mom are both supportive and willing to let you stay with them, so that is one option to consider. Since you are a minor, your mom or legal guardian would need to provide consent, otherwise they can file a runaway report and the police will bring you back home if they find you. This is just one consideration among many, so please call us at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us through this website and we can help you think through other possible options that may exist. We work better when we can have a conversation with you and better understand her situation.  We truly hope to hear from you soon. Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi im 15 and my mother abuses me by hitting me with heavy or big objects such as: a metal pole,phone cords,broom,or even a paddle spoon and I feel like I should run away because of it but I have no ideas on were to go once I leave and I don't wanna contact anyone because it might cause trouble to others I just wanna leave the house so I feel safe and secure because for some reason my mom makes me put on ho3 stuff or tight things I don't like or wanna wear it makes me uncomfortable and I once told her I was getting bullied at school and her response was"thats your fault look at how you dress" now yk know how boys dress right? Yeah I dress like that and she saying it's ok for them to be bullying me:l I wish I could get myself a apartment or something until I get better but I don't have money so I can't leave..

[ccsmod11]

(If you feel you are in immediate danger for any reason, please call the police or go to your local emergency room.)

Hi there,
Thanks so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’re going through some really scary stuff right now, and you have our support and sympathy. You deserve to feel safe and accepted at home, and the way your mom treats you is absolutely not okay.

We know you don’t want to contact anyone, but we promise here at the NRS we are totally confidential and can give you more personalized help, but we’ll do the best we can below. You absolutely will not cause anyone trouble by calling us. The NRS is here 24/7 via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929).

It sounds like you are being abused at home. If you would like to, you can file an abuse report yourself against your mom and an investigation can be launched. This report would be completely anonymous. Feel free to do some research on your own if you’re interested in learning more, or we would love to chat with you here at NRS to walk you through the process.

It also sounds like you might be thinking of leaving home. This is a very difficult and personal decision and we support you no matter what you choose, but your safety is very important to us. If you do choose to leave, you have a few options you can consider:

1. Going to stay with a trusted friend or family member for a while (more on this below)
2. Finding a youth emergency shelter and staying there until you can figure out next steps (We can help you find one and they can help you get out of an abusive situation)
3. Staying home and doing what you can to make the most out of the last months until you turn 18 so that you can be as successful as possible when you move out.

Some legal things to consider:

If you do choose to runaway without your parents’ permission, your parents could choose to file a runaway report with the police. The police will then find you and bring you home. Although you wouldn’t get in any trouble with the law, there is a possibility that any person you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a criminal charge. This issue goes away once you turn 18, since in most states you will be considered an adult.

The way to get around this would be to get written permission from your parents (an email, text, note, etc) stating that you can stay with your friends. That way if they decide to press charges, you have proof that they gave you permission.

We also want to stress how important self-care is during this time. Please reach out to your trusted support network for guidance and a listening ear, and practice hobbies that relax you. Maybe this is writing, watching a favorite TV show, or working out. Taking care of your mind and body will help you be better prepared to make tough decisions ahead.

Again, we would love to chat with you to offer some more personalized guidance, but we wish you the best with everything going forward.

Thanks again for reaching out.
Good luck,
NRS

[Guest]

hi im 14 about to be 15 i live with my mom and stepdad my stepdad hates me and im also bipolar im online schooling i never leave my house i was grounded for 6 months because i made a username then i got ungrounded everything was okay then i went omegal and im grounded again and my mom went threw my phone and saw i was sending pics in my bra and underwear im not allowed a phone or any type of thing i cant watch tv i cant go to friends they bearly talk to me and when my mom dous she says i dress like a hoe and im acting like a hoe and that im going to get raped if i keep doing this ive asked to live with my dad but she wont allow me my mom keeps calling me a hoe a slut a whore and a ********** she always calls me a dissapointment im not allowed to shut my door in my bed room my mom has only slapped me a few times but she almost beat my ass the other night my mom wont allow me to get a job or buy my own phone with being bipolar i also go thre mood swings and when i was getting depressed i wouldnt move out of my bed for 2 days my mom just came in my room and said get the ******** up and open the curtens and said im lazy and whne i go to a happy mood they yelled at me saying ur ********ing grounded u cant skip along and smile ur grounded so im not allowed to have any emotion or ill just keep getting yelled at my friends mom i can stay over for a while but she dousnt want to get in trouble ik if i ask they will tell me no i got yelled at the other day for going outside and messing around in my yard idk what to do because i can get money to start me off but i really wouldnt have a place to stay at night because i dont want my friends mom to get in trouble and im not allowed to do anything im on a school computer rn my room is either the coldest or the hottest and its really cold rn and they took my heater so i was freezing all night idk what to do because if my mom finds out im on here my ass is grass cps has been to my house mamy times even after i tried to kms a few months back but they say that since there giving me food clothes and a place to live they cant do anything so i might just run away and go to another state far away from where i live will i get in trouble if i run away will i get in legal troubles how much trouble will my friends mom will get in?

[ccsmod15]

Hi there, 
Thank you so much for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You did the right thing contacting us. You mentioned that you are having a difficult time at home. Know that you deserve to feel happy and safe where you live. It is your family’s job to make you feel loved and accepted. Verbal abuse is never okay. You also mentioned a suicide attempt in this past year. Please remember that you are not alone and there is nothing more important than your life and well being. If you have suicidal inclinations again, know that 988 serves as a national hotline for suicide prevention. Additionally, you mentioned struggling with bipolar disorder. NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness and they serve individuals with mental health issues and their loved ones. Their information can be found on https://nami.org/Home and they have a hotline and chat service like us. You also mentioned being in trouble with your parents for sending potentially explicit images. Even if you are the one taking the pictures of yourself, as long as you are a minor, distributing them puts you at serious legal risk. Video chat sites such as the one you mentioned might also be dangerous for meeting strangers. Your safety is our highest priority and we want you to know again that there is nothing more valuable than your life. If you run away, the police might try to send you back home and your friends would be at risk for charges against them. One way to gauge your rights is to reach out to your local non emergency police with hypothetical and anonymous questions. We are here to listen and our hotline (1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat services run 24/7. We are toll-free and confidential.

Stay strong, 
NRS

[Guest]

hi, i'm 15, and my parents have been putting me in the middle of their fighting. My mom wants me to move with her, so her mental health can be better. i have told my mom about my suicidal thoughts, and she says that she doesn't care as long as she lives. I want to run away and live with a friend, since his parents treat me like an actual human instead of a bargaining chip. I hate living in my house, and i haven't wanted to be here in years. my dad basically doesn't care, he's only occupied with the other women he's seeing, so the only support system i have is my friends. could they get in trouble if i crashed at their house?

[ccsmod11]

(If you feel you are in immediate danger for any reason, please call the police or go to your local emergency room.)

Hi there,
Thanks so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now, especially with your mom seeming to treat you like a pet and your dad almost not caring at all. We are glad that you have friends you can lean on, but that doesn’t fix the issues you’re going through. It’s normal to feel the way you do, and it’s understandable why you want to go stay with your friends. There are some legal things to consider with this, which we’ll explain below. It’s up to you to decide if the risks are worth taking for you in your situation.

The law about runaways says:
If you do choose to runaway without your parents’ permission, your parents could choose to file a runaway report with the police. The police will then find you and bring you home. Although you wouldn’t get in any trouble with the law, there is a possibility that any person you are staying with over 18 could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a criminal charge. This issue goes away once you turn 18, since in most states you will be considered an adult.

The way to get around this would be to get written permission from your parents (an email, text, note, etc) stating that you can stay with your friends. That way if they decide to press charges, you have proof that they gave you permission. Sometimes this could look like asking to stay for a long sleepover or explaining your feelings honestly and asking for a break from home.

It also sounds like you might be thinking about suicide. If you’re in crisis, please dial 988 (suicide lifeline) to talk to a trained counselor. Otherwise, we’d love to chat with you here at NRS about finding more long-term mental health support.

The decision to leave home is a very difficult and personal decision and we support you no matter what you choose, but we’d love to help talk you through everything so you can make the best decision possible for you. The NRS is here 24/7 via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929).

Thanks again and good luck!
NRS

[Guest]

hi i have had enough with all the rules at my house and my parents dont give me enough credit for how hard i try to stay out of trouble im thinking about running away and staying at my best freinds house i plan on letting my parents know where i am so that if they are not ok with it they can come take me back home but my question is if they never come to get me and never file a runaway report will my friends parents or my parents get in trouble

[ccsmod3]

Hi,

We are glad you reached out to us for information. While we are not legal experts, we can provide you some general guidance. Please remember there are many specifics to be considered in every person’s case.

In general, if your parents consent, you can live in another home or facility. It needs to be safe for you and capable of providing for your needs until you are 18 years old or your parents bring you back home.  We understand from your plan why you could assume consent was given; however, it is always better to have consent in writing. You can decide if it is better to ask for written consent before or after you leave and what kind if terms you want in the consent.  We can provide you help writing a custodial consent letter.

It is not a crime or illegal to runaway. In most jurisdictions, the police do not cite or arrest adults who in good faith are helping a runaway stay safe and cared for.

We would like to talk with you more about your situation in more detail. You can start that conversation through a chat on our website or by calling our crisis hotline at 1(800) RUNAWAY. Both are available 24/7 and completely confidential.

We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

NRS

[Guest]

can I emancipate myself without my mom knowing and live with my friend is she said she wants to kill me and hits me because I was hiding a phone from her to talk to my friends. this has happened 4 times and I've been beaten up multiple times to the point where my whole body aches or I cant move a part of my body because my bruises are swollen. I need advice. if I run away with my friend because of this and what if my mom wants to press charges against my friend for giving me a phone and me for trying to steal but never getting away with it and it's been a while since that incident and she's going to use it against me. and what if she says she wants to send me with her brother who was my former mom's boyfriend and he raped my older sisters years ago. my mom is my adoptive mother and no one from my past life can approach me or my siblings legally. can my mom do this?

[ccsmod9]

Hey thanks for reaching out to us!

We’re so sorry to hear that you've had to live in an environment like that. Every situation is pretty unique so while we can offer some advice off the information you gave us just now, it would be really great if you could call our number or chat with us online so we can get the full picture.

Okay, to address your overall question, we are not legal experts but we can try to give you some general information. So, with emancipation, there is no way that you will be able to emancipate yourself without your mom knowing. To be emancipated, you need to be at least 16 years old and your mom would either need to sign off her approval or you would have to go to court to prove that you are able to live on your own.

If you still choose to leave without your mom knowing, you could be considered a runaway. Running away is not illegal, but instead known as a status offense. This just means that if you run away, your mom can file a missing persons and/or runaway report on you. If she does, this just means that the police will be looking for you and may bring you back home if you are found. In addition to this, some states have laws that make harboring a runaway a crime, so your friend’s parents could possibly be charged if your mom decides to press charges.

However, it sounds like you are dealing with extreme abuse in your home. One option is to try and contact Child Protective Services to file a child abuse report. If you are interested in this path, we can even help you fill a report out as well. Although we cannot promise the result of the report, Child Protective Services may review your case and potentially investigate. You could then be removed from your home. We can also discuss alternative options if you are able to call or chat us.

You don’t deserve to be in that much pain. We want you to know that we are here to support you as much as we possibly can; however, we can best do this by having a more in depth conversation with you either via our hotline (1800RUNAWAY (786-2929)) or by chatting online through 1800runaway.org.

We hope to hear from you soon and we hope everything works out.

Stay Safe,

NRS

[Guest]

Im 15 and turning 16 in august, its almost the end of the school year and I am planing to run away. My main question is if I got to school next year while not living with my parents, can the school legally make me go home/turn me into my parents/cops?

I cant stand living with my parents anymore, I dread going home after school every day and ive already been informed by my mother that im not going to be allowed to contact anyone or leave the house this summer. Ive stayed in my home because life with them was bearable while doing school and I had no where to go but the though of spending an entire summer alone in a house with them all day every day makes me feel like im going to die. The reasons I have for wanting to run away are because the rules they have are unfair and completely insane (example: im not allowed to leave my room after 8 pm and can only leave my room after 6 am for school, this rule was put into place because of my brother, I haven't done anything to give them a reason to do this. Im also not allowed to eat anything without permission, again this rule exsist because of my brother) I am constantly being yelled/screamed at/ scolded for every little thing (I get yelled at for not doing things I was never asked to do and I get yelled at for not doing stuff fast enough) I am never allowed to do anything a normal teenager is allowed to do like stay after school for clubs or go out with my friends, I cant call or text anyone (they say that I can as long as Im passing all my classes, have no missing assignments, and have done all my chores, but they always find some reason to not let me do things). My parents have also threatened to hit me for a number of reasons (being called alex at school, im trans. giving "attitude" or having a "look" on my face) my dad has hit my brother for coming home 4 hours late. I am a middle child and my older brother is the favorite while my little brother is a "problem child" and is violent, lies, and steals. my older brother is 19 and my little brother is 9 months younger than me. I get compared to my little brother when I do one little thing wrong and I never get treated like my older brother did. most of my life I tried to make life easier for my parents because they had to deal with my brother (I didn't go to club in middle school, I never asked for extra stuff, I never went to friends houses. basically if I couldn't do it on my own it didn't happen). My parents used to fight all the time and got into screaming matches with each other. I am genuinely afraid for my safety, Im depressed and anxious all the time, I feel like im walking on eggshells all the time at home. I have a friend who offered to take me in and said that there grand parents would be completely fine with it, I dont want them to get in trouble but I cant stay in my home anymore.

[ccsmod3]

Hi, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are wanting to get out of your house and that is understandable given how you have been treated. It sounds like they have been treating you poorly because of things related to your brother and not even things about you. It seems like they have also not allowed you to be a normal teenager which is understandable to want. It sounds like you have a friend who has allowed you to come stay with them and their family. Unfortunately, they can get in trouble for what’s called harboring a runaway, though the punishment for that can vary by state. Also you had asked if the school can make you go back home. So what can happen if your parents were to file a runaway report, is they could notify the police and either police or your parents could show up to bring you back home. If you would like to talk more about this or some other possible options, please either call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 12 years old and my mother is emotionally abusive. She always tells me how much of a disappointment I will be when I’m older and how I’m a narcissist and manipulative and lazy. I think I have ADHD and autism and my mother knows that too an does not do anything I want run away because I’m scared it will escalate to physical abuse. I’m also having trouble with eating and my body image and I don’t think I can tell anyone because I don’t have a trustworthy friends, siblings, or just other adults. My friend is moving to colarado and I want to go with her. I know the idea is stupid but I don’t know any other way to get out of this situation

[ccsmod7]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at NRS. It takes a lot of strength to speak to someone about the issues you are currently facing.

We are so sorry to hear about the things you are facing at home. No one deserves to be treated the way you have described. It sounds like you are dealing with several different issues. One option to explore would be The National Child Helpline. Live chat can be accessed at www.childhelphotline.org and there is a 24/7 hotline available at 1-800-422-4453. Though these are excellent resources, you mentioned you are worried it may escalate to physical abuse. It is important to know that if there is a risk of danger you should call 911. You also mentioned that you have been having trouble with eating and body image. These are really difficult things to deal with and we at NRS want to thank you again for sharing this with us. It is very hard to not have anyone in your life to speak with about these things. Maybe your friend who is moving could be an option to speak with? You mentioned they are moving away shortly, but would it be possible to remain in contact possibly over text or calling? If you don't feel comfortable speaking with them, there is another resource, National Eating Disorders Association which can be reached at 1-800-422-4453 or accessed online at https://www.nationaleatingdisorders....ntact-helpline. They may be a good option to discuss your trouble with eating and body image if there is no one you feel comfortable discussing it with.

In addition to the resources provided, we at NRS are available via chat and our hotline 24/7.We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or at www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) We are unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you do feel you are at risk or in danger, it is important to call 911.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

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I’m 22 and I have a disability but my mom is making me not have a job she made me quit McDonald’s and I really love that job and I want to runaway from home to start a new life at York pa am I allowed to start life

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(If you are in danger for any reason, please call the police or go to your local emergency room.)

Hi there,
Thanks so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like there is a lot going on at home with your mom, especially since she made you quit your job. We're so sorry to hear this is happening and we are on your side as you attempt to get through your situation.

To answer your question, since you're 22 you are legally an adult everywhere in the United States and you generally go and do whatever you like without your mom's permission, including working where you want and living where you want. If you are interested in setting up a plan to leave, we are more than happy to help talk you through things. There may be some Transitional Living Programs (TLPs) around York we can help you find if you need assistance with housing. These are apartment-style facilities that help young people get back on their feet. You might also look at Pennsylvania's housing assistance website (https://www.dhs.pa.gov/Services/Assi...Resources.aspx) for more information if you need assistance with housing. You might also call 2-1-1 to look for additional resources as you plan to leave home.

We would love to hear more about your story and give you more personalized guidance. The NRS is here 24/7 via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We hope to hear from you soon! Best of luck!
NRS