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17 yr old classmate of my kiddo is in a very bad home situation, unsafe in many ways & couldn't call a hotline even if I could convince him to do that, because he has no privacy in his home situation - he would be overheard talking. He doesn't even have his own room. He has to sleep on a pull out couch with his older brother. There is drug abuse going on in the home [mother and older brother smoke pot - not sure if other things are going on], there has been violence between him & the older brother, their 1 bedroom trailer house has hole in the roof that landlord won't fix...etc. etc. etc.
I had a really messed up home when I was a teen, so I have shared a lot of that with him, so he knows I really do know what it's like. I am trying to get him to feel like he can talk [via text] to me, but there's still a lot I don't know about what does or doesn't happen in his home.
We've had him over to our place one time [that's when I was able to mention things about my childhood] and he has opened up a lot more to me since that. Unfortunately, the two other times we invited him, his mom wouldn't let him come over because she got mad at him about something. I wondered what would happen if he gets to a point where he feels he has to leave without permission? Would the police pursue him? Would my family get into trouble if we let him stay with us?
We have plenty of room & are financially secure, so we would help him if he needed help without needing reimbursement; it sounds like his mom gets welfare, from what he's said, and our state has very good insurance for low income people, so he's probably got that for health insurance. He just needs a safe place, where he can be & feel safe and comfortable. I know it's less than a year till he's 18, but from what my kiddo says, he has self-harmed and has talked about suicide.
I'm afraid for him, if he were to leave home without permission and then had to go back; the mom is verbally abusive, from what he has told me. He doesn't use that term, but he's mentioned her saying some things that I am confident would be considered abusive. I don't know if she is also physically abusive or not. The dad lives in CO, so he's not around to help.
All I've been able to find on the MN State Govt web site is that there is no emancipation of minor statute for MN, but a minor can be emancipated with parental consent or by court order.
I had a really messed up home when I was a teen, so I have shared a lot of that with him, so he knows I really do know what it's like. I am trying to get him to feel like he can talk [via text] to me, but there's still a lot I don't know about what does or doesn't happen in his home.
We've had him over to our place one time [that's when I was able to mention things about my childhood] and he has opened up a lot more to me since that. Unfortunately, the two other times we invited him, his mom wouldn't let him come over because she got mad at him about something. I wondered what would happen if he gets to a point where he feels he has to leave without permission? Would the police pursue him? Would my family get into trouble if we let him stay with us?
We have plenty of room & are financially secure, so we would help him if he needed help without needing reimbursement; it sounds like his mom gets welfare, from what he's said, and our state has very good insurance for low income people, so he's probably got that for health insurance. He just needs a safe place, where he can be & feel safe and comfortable. I know it's less than a year till he's 18, but from what my kiddo says, he has self-harmed and has talked about suicide.
I'm afraid for him, if he were to leave home without permission and then had to go back; the mom is verbally abusive, from what he has told me. He doesn't use that term, but he's mentioned her saying some things that I am confident would be considered abusive. I don't know if she is also physically abusive or not. The dad lives in CO, so he's not around to help.
All I've been able to find on the MN State Govt web site is that there is no emancipation of minor statute for MN, but a minor can be emancipated with parental consent or by court order.
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