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  • #31
    I live in the eastern side of Texas and i turn 16 tomorrow. I talked to my mom about me moving to live with her because my dad is always yelling at me and I get depressed and have anxiety. I talked to my dad and he won't let me leave even when i want to take him to court to change who my legal guardian is. He says he wouldn't and would refuse to pay child support. My mom doesn't want to take me because she said it would be a form of kidnapping. I don't know what to do and this is stressing me out with school and my grades.

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    • ccsmod16
      ccsmod16 commented
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      Hi,

      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline – we are here to help and listen.

      We’re sorry to hear that your dad yells at you, you do not deserve to be treated in that way.

      You mentioned wanting to leave home but being concerned about possible consequences. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this. Leaving home without permission from your parents as a minor is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your dad can report you as a runaway to the police. Again, you would not be arrested or charged with a crime because of this. It does mean your dad can ask police to return you home if he knows where you are staying.

      One way you could leave home would be to leave with permission from your dad. We want to clarify that while your dad can give consent to you leaving, he can also change his mind. We understand talking to parents about leaving home can be difficult. Maybe this conversation can be had with both parents if you are hoping to stay with mom.

      Another way you may be able to live somewhere else is through a child abuse report, via the child abuse hotline (1-800-422-4453). Normally investigations are taken when there is strong evidence of physical abuse or neglect, however this may also depend on who takes the call. Any hotline worker at ChildHelp should be able to take your report and let you know what actions they can take. One of our own hotline workers can also help you file an abuse report.

      If you’d like to discuss these options further, we would be happy to talk to you via our 24/7 hotline (1-800-786-2929) or through our chat feature:

      https://na0messaging.icarol.com/Cons...d=254&cc=en-US

      Best of luck,

      National Runaway Safe Line

  • #32
    Hello. I’m 16 and I want to run away from home. My parents have been emotionally and mentally abusing me since I was at the age of 12. I used to self harm but I have been clean since April 1st, but I still have to deal with the issues they’ve caused me every day. My mom has threatened me by saying I am allowed to live with friends if I don’t like it here (over text) but I feel as if I ask them to leave they won’t let me, so I want to run away.

    My main question is if you have any advice for how I can travel from texas to new york where my boyfriend currently lives. He said his family has no problems with taking care of me for however long needed. The only problem is I don’t know how to get there. I have a drivers permit (not a license) but I am not experienced enough to actually drive on the road with other people. I have a debit card with around $120, I have no current source of income either. I thought about having a friend take me to the airport and fly out there but I do not know if that will work or not.
    So do you have any advice or suggestions for how I am supposed to travel?

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      We are always here to listen and help out in any way that we can. It is unfortunate to hear that you are experiencing mental abuse at your home and it is causing you to want to runaway. We can offer you support to handle this situation. Our priority is always your safety. You mentioned that you have previously engaged in self-harm. This has got to be really tough. In some cases, it can be helpful to talk through these thoughts with someone. The National Suicide Hotline is available 24/7, just like us, but they have trained counselors that are there to talk through anything that you are thinking or feeling. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741.

      In addition, we are here to offer you support on your decision to run away. It is important to consider logistics and finances before getting on a flight across the country to move in with your boyfriend. Questions to ask yourself may include: who will drive you to the airport and pick you up once you land in New York? Will your boyfriend’s parents allow you to live with him for a long period of time? How will you afford to live in New York once you arrive there? Please note that we are not legal experts. Because you are 16, some airlines will allow you to fly on an airplane alone. However, you are technically still a minor and this will create limitations for you once you are off of the plane.

      As a minor, you are required to live with a legally responsible adult. If you do choose to run away then your parents have the right to file a runaway report with the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if the police find you, then they will have to bring you back home. It is important to understand that if you are filed as a runaway anyone you stay with could potentially be charged for harboring a runaway. If your boyfriend is over the age of eighteen, then he could get into trouble for this.

      Again, we are really glad that you reached out to us today, it is not easy to ask for help in situations like this. If you would like to talk more about what is going on at home and discuss options, please reach out to us on our 24-hour hotline or chat. We are here to listen and help with any concerns.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #33
    Im considering running away I have been for a while . My home situation isn’t the worst but it isn’t the best . I am 16 years old with a lot of responsibilities in my home all of the people the house-hold depend on me for so many things and I am emotionally and mentally drained I do not want to feel like this I just strongly desire freedom and a break from my everyday life . My sisters go through way worse because my mom is a little verbally abusive to them and that’s another reason why I haven’t acted on my running away plans because I feel as if that is a selfish move and I want to be there for them and support them but all I desire is to run away from the prison that is my home .

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with all your responsibilities at home and how your mom treats your sisters. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS
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