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    There is nothing wrong with my home life, its just me. I'm depressed, have anxiety, and just don't want to be around my so-called friends anymore. My parents and friends all think I'm crazy for everything I've done and treat me like nothing. They absolutely don't care if they are too harsh in arguments of exclude me from events, they just make me feel terrible. I want to get away. I just want a few days or weeks of freedom. Just a time to be alone and think over my life and to hopefully see something different in life that I'm not seeing, or to see I'm better off in the community setting I'm in. I also want to know if its legal or illegal.

  • #2
    Re: Leaving home at 16 in Texas

    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting us here through our online forum at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS).It sounds like you are looking for love, support, and understanding for what you are going through, but you feel that your friends and family are not meeting those current needs. Depression and anxiety can be very difficult to deal with, and it seems their behavior toward you is only making matters even more difficult. It seems you feel getting away for a little break would be helpful. It may help to think of where that place is (with a trusted family member or trusted friend) if you did decide to leave. We are not legal experts and laws vary across all states but generally 18 is the age at which a teen can leave home. Running away or leaving without permission is generally called a status offense in which your parent or guardian may file you as a runaway. We can help you obtain more specific information on laws in your state. If you wanted to talk more, receive emotional support, or obtain referrals and legal information from credible sources, please reach out by phone or chat.

    We look forward to hearing from you soon.

    Be safe and take care.

    Best,

    NRS
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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    • #3
      I currently live in Texas and my home life is terrible. My mom is so hard on me and I can see we will never have a decent life together. She's said all the hurtful things you can name in the book. I'm 16 years old and my best friends mom has agreed that she could watch me and support me until I'm 17 or 18. Do you think I may be able to do this and not be considered a run away?

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      • ccsmod10
        ccsmod10 commented
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        Hey there,

        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation.

        It sounds like your mom does not treat you very well. You never deserve to be talked down to or brought down. It’s completely understandable that you don’t want to go through the verbal abuse anymore, you deserve to be loved and safe at home. We offer a conference calling service, between youth and their parents. If you ever wanted our help talking to your mom about how you're being treated at home, we're always here to make that call with you.

        Legally you are a minor and under your guardian’s supervision until you are 18 or are emancipated by a court of law. If you decide to leave to live with your friend’s mom before then, your mom could file a runaway report on you. Running away is not a crime, but it is a status offense. This means the police could detain you until they release you to the care of your mom. We have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out of your house and live with your friend. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

        We hope our response is helpful. Also, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website.

        Be safe, NRS

    • #4
      I feel as if im being emotionally abused at home and whether they like to admit it or not they have! i have so much proof and the rest of my three older sisters have agreed and have run away from home at my age for the same reason... Im 16 years old and im about to be 17 in feb. I have been planning to be living with my boyfriend (who is soon turning 1 and get a job and help him out as well as him helping me out from getting away from that toxic relationship.. my parents are moving pretty soon i have told them flat out that im not going and that im staying here in Texas. I know as soon as im gone they are going to report me missing or as a run away to the cops and i really wish they wouldnt because we both had an understanding that i would be doing whatever i believe to be right... what im afraid about is if i get caught with a cop that they are going to force me to go with my parents and to finish the move, and or possibly getting my boyfriend or friends who are just worried and are trying to help me out into trouble.. i am also afraid of telling the truth if cops ask my reasoning for leaving and possibly getting my parents into trouble i know what they have done is ********ed with the emotional abuse but i dont want to get them into trouble with it... im just so scared and worried its all so surreal because it all feels so fast but also so slow... please give me help or any advice ANYTHING will help thank you!

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      • ccsmod3
        ccsmod3 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.

        We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, they may return you home to your parents since you are a minor, but you are in a grey area since you are so close to 18. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who is safe, and have reason to be there then they may not make you go back. One thing we encourage youth at 17 is to reach out to your local non-emergency line number and ask to speak to someone who knows runaway laws and ask how they might respond. It is good to be aware that there is something called harboring, which is a person who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring.

        We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.

    • #5
      If I still continue to go to school and get a job after i run away, will it still be considered a status offense?

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      • #6
        Reply:If I still continue to go to school....

        Hello,
        Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

        Running away is considered a status offense in most states as long as you remain in the police data base. While we are not experts on the law, someone under 18 that leaves home, the parent/guardian may file them as a runaway and they may be returned home. Also, those that a reported runaway stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Anyone found to be assisting or aiding someone to run away may also find themselves at risk legally. For more specifics on the law, you might consider contacting the local non-emergency number for the police. You might also look for a legal aid center in the area. They may be able to answer any legal questions on the subject.
        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

        Be safe,
        NRS

        We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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