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    I'm 17 years old, I live with my mom in Oklahoma, my parents are divorced. I'm deeply depressed and wish to move out and go live with my girlfriend and her aunt in Colorado. I was wondering if I left home at 17 in Oklahoma and my parents filed a police report, would the police attempt to or return me home?

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    Re: Can I move out at 17 in Oklahoma?

    Hello there,

    Thank you for contacting us today. We’re sorry to hear that things at home aren’t going well and that you feel like you can’t stay there anymore. It’s important that you feel cared for and comfortable at home. It seems like your girlfriend is supportive of you and its good that you have that.

    You mentioned that you're thinking about leaving home and staying with your girlfriend and her aunt. If you leave home without permission, your parents/guardians could report you as a runaway and the police would be authorized to return you home. How much the police actively search for you can vary, but crossing state lines doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t be returned home by the police. If you are reported as a runaway it’s typically just a status offense; however, sometimes people helping runaways are at risk for charges such as harboring a runaway. This charge is often considered a misdemeanor, but might be something to explore if you or whoever you would be staying with are concerned.

    There's definitely a lot to think about when running, like how you would get to Colorado, how you would enroll in school, and how you would pay for things. We are happy to discuss with you some safe options specific to your situation if you decide to call or chat with us.

    Best,
    NRS
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    • #3
      Can I move out at 17 without parental consent? I have a steady job and a good house to live in with my boyfriend and we each have our own car. We live in Oklahoma. I don’t want to move then be filed as a runaway. Because I’m not it’s running away.

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
        While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #4
      Hey there , I wanna leave home to californa , me and my friend are depressed and just wanna get away , life isn’t the greatest as we both have depression and family probelms . We would call our parents and everything to tell thennn were fine . I have a place to stay in californa with family , would that effect them if we just showed up ? Would we get called as a runaway and then go to jail for ‘ Kidnap ‘ if we ran away to them ?

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      • ccsmod10
        ccsmod10 commented
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        Hey there,

        Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds like you’re in a tough spot right now. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. You mentioned that your situation has caused some depression. If you’d like some additional support regarding this you can always contact the National Alliance of Mental Illness by calling 800-950-NAMI or by texting NAMI to 741741. You can also check out their website at www.nami.org.

        If you go to stay with other family members without prior permission from your parents, whoever you’re staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your parents view the situation.

        If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

        All the best,
        NRS

    • #5
      My sons girlfriends parents are destroying her inside and out. I sent her mom a message asking if she can come for dinner one day this weekend because her birthday is close by. Her mom screamed at her for it. Calls her stupid and a mistake she wishes she never made. Her dad is physically abusive as well. Can I let her move in or can I get in trouble? She is 14 severely depressed and I am worried about her safety not just from her parents but her as well.

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      • ccsmod5
        ccsmod5 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thanks for reaching out to us on behalf of your son’s girlfriend. We’re glad that she has someone looking out for her. Please let her know that we’re here to talk and help her if she wants to call or chat with us on our website.

        It sounds like home is really terrible and dangerous place for her. She definitely doesn’t deserve that kind of treatment. Unfortunately, since she’s a minor she can’t just leave her home without her parents’ permission. If she leaves and goes to your house her parents could report her as a runaway. If she wants to report the abuse or try to find ways to get her custody transferred, she or you can call Child Help (800) 422-4453 or www.childhelp.org We are also available to report the abuse to CPS as well. If she needs a safe please to stay, in the event that she decides to run away, we can also look to see if there’s runaway shelters nearby. We are here to help in any way we can.

        Again, thanks for reaching out to us. We are open 24/7.

        Thanks, NRS

    • #6
      Hi I’m 17 and my mom told me to get the ******** out and leave can I leave without being filed as a runaway?

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      • ccsmod13
        ccsmod13 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thank you for contacting us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this. Because you are still a minor, your mom is legally responsible for you. She can't legally kick you out since this can be considered neglect if she does not arrange an alternative living arrangement. If you need a safe place to go, you can contact child protective services in your state.

        Runaway reports depend on your parent. If you do have another safe place where you can stay, your mom could choose not to report you as a runaway. Unfortunately, she can change her mind at any point and still report you as a runaway even if she kicked you out. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This basically means your mom can ask police to return you home if she knows where you are staying. The only ways to leave without being reported as a runaway are if you have your mom's permission, go through child protective services, or you are granted emancipation by a court.

        We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

        Best of luck,
        NRS

    • #7
      Can I move out at 17 if I have my dads permission or mother’s even tho I don’t live with them and I live with my grandparents and they have Guardianship?

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      • ccsmod3
        ccsmod3 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thanks for reaching out to us! You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your legal guardian’s permission, who in this case is your grandparents. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your grandparents. If both your parents support you in wanting to move out, they may be able to help you communicate that to your legal guardians. However, we are not legal experts and there may be state laws that influence your specific situations. If you would like to contact us via phone or chat, we could help find some legal resources for your state. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

        Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

        Be safe,

        NRS

    • #8
      Can I move out at 17? I have 3 months until I turn 18 I live in Oklahoma with my mom and my stepdad; I don’t speak or see my birth father. My mother has made my life very hard bc Me and my boyfriend for a year broke up and I think it upset her. She started drinking again and claims I have an attitude all the time to make me stay home. She’s selling my car, I’m having to quit tech, and can’t see my friends bc of this attitude I have. First it was me then now she’s started going after my brother and step brother. Now she won’t even talk to my step dad who she threatened to divorce bc he hasn’t taken her side. She twist stories all the time and makes everything seem like it’s everyone else’s fault. She told me to move out a couple weeks ago then called the cops saying I ran away so I came back bc I don’t want to get the ppl I was staying with in trouble. I have a steady job and loving friends who are able to drive me to and from work. I have an amazing bf who makes me feel safe and whom I can move into if I wanted. I have many other parents who claim what she is doing is simply bad parenting. Am I close enough to 18 to leave or should I stay?

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to us here at the NRS. It seems like you are in a very stressful situation right now. It is understandable that you would want to leave home if your mother is treating you that way. It also seems like you have a great support system that would be able to help you out if you were to leave home. One thing to note is that we are not legal experts here at the NRS, but through our experience we have noticed that some police departments accept runaway reports for people your age, and some do not. The best way to find out for sure is to contact the local police non-emergency line and ask them. If the cops were to find you before you turned 18 there is a chance that they would end up sending you home. If you would like to further discuss your situation with us please do not hesitate to contact our 24/7 confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat. We wish you the best of luck!

    • #9
      Hello. I live in Oklahoma and I'm turning 17 in October 2021. I was planning on leaving home without my parents consent when I turn 17. My home is a bad place for me to be in. It makes me depressed and I get verbally abused. I do not want to report my parents because then my 14 year old sister would get taken away. I have a few options to do. I can move to North Carolina with my girlfriend and her mom, I can move to my aunt's house in Oklahoma, or stay with a friend. I don't know what to do in this situation and I tried to call the police department for any advice, but they didn't give me helpful information.

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      • ccsmod0
        ccsmod0 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
        While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway.This is something you may want to speak to your friend and aunt about first. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions but it sounds like the police have not been helpful in answering your questions.
        The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        Be safe,
        NRS
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