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    I am 13 and live in south Florida. I have been seriously considering running away for years, but I've never tried (not counting when I was around five years old and walked 25 feet from from the driveway in the middle of the night before fleeing back to the safety of my house, screaming all the way to my parents bedroom, but I digress). Now, I'm not childish enough to simply pack a small denim bag full of cookies and go on my merry way. I know that no matter how much stuff I bring, I'll eventually run out, and need more money. I know that it's sometimes possible for 14 year olds to get jobs and I probably have enough money saved up that it can last me until my next birthday (and even if it doesn't, I was mistaken for a highschool freshman once when I was in sixth grade, so...) but I plan to be constantly moving around, hopefully, eventually, getting to Canada. Also, I am painfully aware of the fact that getting a job as a teenager requires a parent's permission most of the time. So I: 1. Can't stay in one place for very long, therefore can't be waiting for a paycheck. And 2. Can't get a parent's permission. Is there any way that I can legally get a job if I run away soon?

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    RE: Could I legally get a job as a teen runaway?

    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting us here at NRS through our online forum. It seems you have been thinking of running away for quite some time now. We are sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. From the sound of it, it seems that there is some tension at home between you and your parents and you feel leaving is the option you have. Sometimes talking things out and exploring some possible solutions may help improve things at home. We would be happy to explore some options and resources with you.

    Regarding your question about legally getting a job at 14, we unfortunately are not experts on the law and working rights. The best way to gather information on state laws for age that you can work may be through the Department of Labor http://www.dol.gov/dol/topic/youthla...quirements.htm and speaking to a representative that may answer the questions you are having.

    We hope this helps. If you would like to talk more about your situation and obtain various resources please consider reaching out through our main crisis line at 1-800-786-2929 or through Live Chat via www.1800runaway.org.

    We look forward to hearing from you soon.

    Best,

    NRS
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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    • #3
      The reason I want to run away is partly because of where I live. There are many reasons why I hate Florida, but one of the main reasons is the heat. I know it must sound silly, but it's like torture for me. All I ever do is sit inside, on the internet because I can't stand going outside most of the year. Now that I think about it though, it is partly because of my parents. They never let me do anything! I know that's the most typical teen complaint, but my parents don't even let me walk across the street without supervision. That normally wouldn't be a problem for me, as (believe it or not) I've always been a fairly well behaved kid, but the real problem is that they never have time to do anything. So I'm stuck in the house constantly. Even if I wanted to go outside, I wouldn't be allowed. And I always have a constant fear that my Dad will somehow access my internet history. I don't look at porn or do anything dangerous, but the thought just makes me uncomfortable. And then there's my grandmother. I had been considering running away even before she moved in a little more than a year ago, but now that she's here, even leaving my room is unbearable. I just try to stay away from her, because no matter what I do, every action of mine is somehow a problem. I remember one day (years ago) when I picked up something I dropped on the ground after she told me not to, she said that she would beat me if I was her child. And I don't doubt it. Grandmother was abusive to my mom when she was a child. Yet somehow, she allowes grandmother to stay with us. She sleeps in my parents' room, forcing them to sleep on the couches in the living room, makes ridiculous demands and is incredibly rude. If anyone acts half as bad to her as she does to them, she returns it twice as bad as the first time. And Grandmother is still more important to my mom than I am. The root of the reason I want to leave is that I feel like I'm being backed into a smaller and smaller corner. Literally and figuratively. Long, long ago (before 3rd grade where my name was more or less unofficially changed to "Fatty") I was confident in public places. After that stopped, at least I could wander the whole house without feeling vulnerable to verbal attacks. Now the only place I go is my room, which is messy, dusty and hot. And I'm getting the horrible, nagging feeling that my chance to run away and escape is slowly disappearing as my health degrades due to the lack of exercise (that I like to tell myself is the fault of Florida and only Florida) and the ever shrinking percentage of healthy food in my house. Wow, that turned into the most overdramatic sob story ever. I'm making it sound worse than it is. It's not like I'm on the verge of death or anything like that. I just feel so trapped. Is that a valid reason? I feel like even the streets are a better place than anywhere I have to live with my grandmother.

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      • #4
        RE:

        Hello again,

        Thank you for taking the time to share more of your story. It sounds like a lot has been happening at home, and there are different reasons that make you feel running away is best for you. It seems that maybe talking more directly with us may help provide some insight, a changed perspective, and some helpful solutions to some of the problems at home. The best way that we can better help you is if you were to reach out by phone or chat as responses are not always immediate through the online forum. If you were able to call in or chat with us, we would be able to explore more with you in a timely manner. Leaving home is a big step, and sometimes problems at home can be resolved with minor adjustments and more open communication between family members. If you would like to brainstorm some ways to talk with your family about your concerns and needs, we can help with that. It sounds like a lot has built up over time and you may not have a place to let everything out. We are here to listen and to help.

        Please call our free, confidential and 24 hour crisis line at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat through our website www.1800runaway.org.

        We look forward to your chat or call soon.

        Best,

        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #5
          I'm from Philippines and I just turned sixteen, but trust me, I have been thinking of running away since I was only ELEVEN.

          To be more precise, I have always been thinking of ways to get away from my family.

          they aren't abusive and I did not get into petty arguments and that I am saying this because if my anger. But, I do want to get away from them because they make me TIRED. STRESSED. LIFELESS. My family isn't a Sanctuary. I love them, I really do, and I am grateful for them for giving me life, feeding me, giving me a bed and a house to go home to, and having the chance to go to school. But as I grow up, its been hard to, always nod and be that kid you know? I mean, I can't keep going to school just to study some dumb subjects I don't want. I don't want the bed and having to be crowded by kids who don't respect me. I don't think I can keep being thankful when they always seem to SHOVE it on my face. How can I even carry about the house that made me so uncomfortable and so stressed that I rather have no house to go home!

          Its been really hard to keep loving all the time when, as time goes on, I have a lot of moments where I curse them and cry my heart out in bitterness. They aren't abusive, if I forgot to mention that, and they never hurt me intentionally.

          But I don't think they know that they did. That I was so hurt I am damaged. I am so insecure of myself I LOATHE being humiliated, even for a joke, and I always feel ridiculous for feeling like the world is ending just. for. that. silly. embarrassing. moment. I am so scared that I tear up whenever we have fights, and I end up having this cycle of bottling every feelings out every fight, of every day in my life, and then have a huge row with them, and pour my heart out leaving me so empty and drained and so so so sad I put my mask the next day. I don't like this anymore. I can't put up with any of this. I am suffocating in this house. I want to run away, as far away as possible.

          And that is why I want to go to the continents, far away from Philippines and somewhere I can have a fresh new adventurous start. I plan to go when I am at a legal age, but, I need help. I don't know what I should exactly do, and can I get a job or something? Is it possible to still be a writer? I've always wanted to travel and write. It's a nice way to live, only thing is, I don't really know how I should run away.

          Is it even possible for me to be able to travel so far? what do I need? what should I do? how can I keep them from tracking me down? do I need money to change identities? jobs what about jobs?

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          • ccsmod5
            ccsmod5 commented
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            Hi, there,
            Thank you so much for reaching out. It's often really difficult when your family is unsupportive or makes you feel insecure about making mistakes. You deserve the opportunity to start fresh as an adult, however we're not quite sure about the specific laws in your country as we care based in the US. Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
            We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

            Stay safe!

        • #6
          I am 15, and I live in Maine, but I was born in Wisconsin. I’ve always LOVED the city life and the streets. I guess u can say that I’d rather live in someplace like Chicago or L.A. than Maine. Like I REALLY hate it here.

          my family is okay. I live with my mom My brother and her boyfriend and they are all mediocre. They are REALLY mean to me at times, but they can be mildly nice at times to.

          we live in a remote spot in the woods far away from all of my friends and I hate it. I can never go anywhere because of it and I’m trapped inside my house all the time. The last time I left to go to a friend house was around 5 months ago and I’m getting tired of hearing them yell at me for senseless things. If I forget to put my cloths away I’m called lazy by my mom, and then my brother takes her side and starts saying things to me even though it’s none of his business. And when we argue, it’s bad. Recently I’ve been having school trouble and have been expelled. I have to go to tutoring in a super small classroom for 4 hours A day, then when I get home I smoke weed untill I pass out. My mom calls me a delinquent for it but really I just wanna chill out because the school doesn’t help me at all. They never give me any work in the small room I’m in and that may sound like a dream but they yell at me for not doing my work and when I explain the situation they say that they will fix it and figure it out but they never do. In my little class is one of my best friends and we both are going to run away together after this month. Both our parents emotionally abuse us and in his case physically so it’s a new start, I will bring a bag of essentials like shampoo tp extra cloths deodorant and a tablet so I can drop my phone so I won’t be tracked but I can still msg people I feel will not snitch, we have little money, around 500 in total and we need to know if we can get a job without a birth certificate or parents permission somehow, like maybe selling, I know I do not endorse this but it’s what we do best. An I do not mean to be rude at all but I’ve been reading these and you guys also say to talk it out or something like that. And I’m really looking into doing this for me and my best bud, so if there are any tips on what to do before and what to do to get a lot of income, that would be REALLY helpful.

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          • ccsmod3
            ccsmod3 commented
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            Thank you for reaching out to us. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).We hope to hear from you soon.
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