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    I am 13 and live in south Florida. I have been seriously considering running away for years, but I've never tried (not counting when I was around five years old and walked 25 feet from from the driveway in the middle of the night before fleeing back to the safety of my house, screaming all the way to my parents bedroom, but I digress). Now, I'm not childish enough to simply pack a small denim bag full of cookies and go on my merry way. I know that no matter how much stuff I bring, I'll eventually run out, and need more money. I know that it's sometimes possible for 14 year olds to get jobs and I probably have enough money saved up that it can last me until my next birthday (and even if it doesn't, I was mistaken for a highschool freshman once when I was in sixth grade, so...) but I plan to be constantly moving around, hopefully, eventually, getting to Canada. Also, I am painfully aware of the fact that getting a job as a teenager requires a parent's permission most of the time. So I: 1. Can't stay in one place for very long, therefore can't be waiting for a paycheck. And 2. Can't get a parent's permission. Is there any way that I can legally get a job if I run away soon?

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    RE: Could I legally get a job as a teen runaway?

    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting us here at NRS through our online forum. It seems you have been thinking of running away for quite some time now. We are sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. From the sound of it, it seems that there is some tension at home between you and your parents and you feel leaving is the option you have. Sometimes talking things out and exploring some possible solutions may help improve things at home. We would be happy to explore some options and resources with you.

    Regarding your question about legally getting a job at 14, we unfortunately are not experts on the law and working rights. The best way to gather information on state laws for age that you can work may be through the Department of Labor http://www.dol.gov/dol/topic/youthla...quirements.htm and speaking to a representative that may answer the questions you are having.

    We hope this helps. If you would like to talk more about your situation and obtain various resources please consider reaching out through our main crisis line at 1-800-786-2929 or through Live Chat via www.1800runaway.org.

    We look forward to hearing from you soon.

    Best,

    NRS
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    • #3
      The reason I want to run away is partly because of where I live. There are many reasons why I hate Florida, but one of the main reasons is the heat. I know it must sound silly, but it's like torture for me. All I ever do is sit inside, on the internet because I can't stand going outside most of the year. Now that I think about it though, it is partly because of my parents. They never let me do anything! I know that's the most typical teen complaint, but my parents don't even let me walk across the street without supervision. That normally wouldn't be a problem for me, as (believe it or not) I've always been a fairly well behaved kid, but the real problem is that they never have time to do anything. So I'm stuck in the house constantly. Even if I wanted to go outside, I wouldn't be allowed. And I always have a constant fear that my Dad will somehow access my internet history. I don't look at porn or do anything dangerous, but the thought just makes me uncomfortable. And then there's my grandmother. I had been considering running away even before she moved in a little more than a year ago, but now that she's here, even leaving my room is unbearable. I just try to stay away from her, because no matter what I do, every action of mine is somehow a problem. I remember one day (years ago) when I picked up something I dropped on the ground after she told me not to, she said that she would beat me if I was her child. And I don't doubt it. Grandmother was abusive to my mom when she was a child. Yet somehow, she allowes grandmother to stay with us. She sleeps in my parents' room, forcing them to sleep on the couches in the living room, makes ridiculous demands and is incredibly rude. If anyone acts half as bad to her as she does to them, she returns it twice as bad as the first time. And Grandmother is still more important to my mom than I am. The root of the reason I want to leave is that I feel like I'm being backed into a smaller and smaller corner. Literally and figuratively. Long, long ago (before 3rd grade where my name was more or less unofficially changed to "Fatty") I was confident in public places. After that stopped, at least I could wander the whole house without feeling vulnerable to verbal attacks. Now the only place I go is my room, which is messy, dusty and hot. And I'm getting the horrible, nagging feeling that my chance to run away and escape is slowly disappearing as my health degrades due to the lack of exercise (that I like to tell myself is the fault of Florida and only Florida) and the ever shrinking percentage of healthy food in my house. Wow, that turned into the most overdramatic sob story ever. I'm making it sound worse than it is. It's not like I'm on the verge of death or anything like that. I just feel so trapped. Is that a valid reason? I feel like even the streets are a better place than anywhere I have to live with my grandmother.

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      • #4
        RE:

        Hello again,

        Thank you for taking the time to share more of your story. It sounds like a lot has been happening at home, and there are different reasons that make you feel running away is best for you. It seems that maybe talking more directly with us may help provide some insight, a changed perspective, and some helpful solutions to some of the problems at home. The best way that we can better help you is if you were to reach out by phone or chat as responses are not always immediate through the online forum. If you were able to call in or chat with us, we would be able to explore more with you in a timely manner. Leaving home is a big step, and sometimes problems at home can be resolved with minor adjustments and more open communication between family members. If you would like to brainstorm some ways to talk with your family about your concerns and needs, we can help with that. It sounds like a lot has built up over time and you may not have a place to let everything out. We are here to listen and to help.

        Please call our free, confidential and 24 hour crisis line at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat through our website www.1800runaway.org.

        We look forward to your chat or call soon.

        Best,

        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
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        • #5
          I'm from Philippines and I just turned sixteen, but trust me, I have been thinking of running away since I was only ELEVEN.

          To be more precise, I have always been thinking of ways to get away from my family.

          they aren't abusive and I did not get into petty arguments and that I am saying this because if my anger. But, I do want to get away from them because they make me TIRED. STRESSED. LIFELESS. My family isn't a Sanctuary. I love them, I really do, and I am grateful for them for giving me life, feeding me, giving me a bed and a house to go home to, and having the chance to go to school. But as I grow up, its been hard to, always nod and be that kid you know? I mean, I can't keep going to school just to study some dumb subjects I don't want. I don't want the bed and having to be crowded by kids who don't respect me. I don't think I can keep being thankful when they always seem to SHOVE it on my face. How can I even carry about the house that made me so uncomfortable and so stressed that I rather have no house to go home!

          Its been really hard to keep loving all the time when, as time goes on, I have a lot of moments where I curse them and cry my heart out in bitterness. They aren't abusive, if I forgot to mention that, and they never hurt me intentionally.

          But I don't think they know that they did. That I was so hurt I am damaged. I am so insecure of myself I LOATHE being humiliated, even for a joke, and I always feel ridiculous for feeling like the world is ending just. for. that. silly. embarrassing. moment. I am so scared that I tear up whenever we have fights, and I end up having this cycle of bottling every feelings out every fight, of every day in my life, and then have a huge row with them, and pour my heart out leaving me so empty and drained and so so so sad I put my mask the next day. I don't like this anymore. I can't put up with any of this. I am suffocating in this house. I want to run away, as far away as possible.

          And that is why I want to go to the continents, far away from Philippines and somewhere I can have a fresh new adventurous start. I plan to go when I am at a legal age, but, I need help. I don't know what I should exactly do, and can I get a job or something? Is it possible to still be a writer? I've always wanted to travel and write. It's a nice way to live, only thing is, I don't really know how I should run away.

          Is it even possible for me to be able to travel so far? what do I need? what should I do? how can I keep them from tracking me down? do I need money to change identities? jobs what about jobs?

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          • ccsmod5
            ccsmod5 commented
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            Hi, there,
            Thank you so much for reaching out. It's often really difficult when your family is unsupportive or makes you feel insecure about making mistakes. You deserve the opportunity to start fresh as an adult, however we're not quite sure about the specific laws in your country as we care based in the US. Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
            We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

            Stay safe!

        • #6
          I am 15, and I live in Maine, but I was born in Wisconsin. I’ve always LOVED the city life and the streets. I guess u can say that I’d rather live in someplace like Chicago or L.A. than Maine. Like I REALLY hate it here.

          my family is okay. I live with my mom My brother and her boyfriend and they are all mediocre. They are REALLY mean to me at times, but they can be mildly nice at times to.

          we live in a remote spot in the woods far away from all of my friends and I hate it. I can never go anywhere because of it and I’m trapped inside my house all the time. The last time I left to go to a friend house was around 5 months ago and I’m getting tired of hearing them yell at me for senseless things. If I forget to put my cloths away I’m called lazy by my mom, and then my brother takes her side and starts saying things to me even though it’s none of his business. And when we argue, it’s bad. Recently I’ve been having school trouble and have been expelled. I have to go to tutoring in a super small classroom for 4 hours A day, then when I get home I smoke weed untill I pass out. My mom calls me a delinquent for it but really I just wanna chill out because the school doesn’t help me at all. They never give me any work in the small room I’m in and that may sound like a dream but they yell at me for not doing my work and when I explain the situation they say that they will fix it and figure it out but they never do. In my little class is one of my best friends and we both are going to run away together after this month. Both our parents emotionally abuse us and in his case physically so it’s a new start, I will bring a bag of essentials like shampoo tp extra cloths deodorant and a tablet so I can drop my phone so I won’t be tracked but I can still msg people I feel will not snitch, we have little money, around 500 in total and we need to know if we can get a job without a birth certificate or parents permission somehow, like maybe selling, I know I do not endorse this but it’s what we do best. An I do not mean to be rude at all but I’ve been reading these and you guys also say to talk it out or something like that. And I’m really looking into doing this for me and my best bud, so if there are any tips on what to do before and what to do to get a lot of income, that would be REALLY helpful.

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          • ccsmod3
            ccsmod3 commented
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            Thank you for reaching out to us. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).We hope to hear from you soon.

        • #7
          I'm 15 years old ill be 16 in less than 2 months , I've been thinking about running away for maybe a month or so but if done it before during spring break of my freshman year which was only a year ago . My mother literally treats me like ******** and I've had enough of it . I'm thinking about going up state maybe to Oregon , right now I live in Texas . When I runaway I still want to be able to go to school and I want to get a job since I'm turning 16 soon . I feel like my mother resents me for some reason and it makes me feel so empty inside , she treats me differently from my brothers . There's been plenty of times where I've wanted to kill myself and i really thought those days were over but they are coming back .

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          • ccsmod6
            ccsmod6 commented
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            Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that the way your mother treats you sounds unfair and hurtful. It makes sense that you want to leave an environment that is so unkind to you. You are strong for surviving until now and stronger still for asking for help when you need it. It is not too much to ask for some compassion and kindness and you deserve it as a human being.

            Whether or not you can get a job as a minor depends on the specific state’s laws. While we are not legal experts, it is our understanding that you can work as a minor in Oregon and Texas so long as you are older than 14 years old. You may be restricted to working a certain amount of hours and you may need certain permits that require guardian consent, but unfortunately this is not information that we are entirely sure about. It would be best to contact the potential employer and ask them if they hired people your age.

            As a runaway, you are still entitled to an education. You can continue going to the school you are enrolled in or you could contact https://nche.ed.gov/ , the National Center for Homeless Education in order to enroll as a homeless youth in a new school without a guardian.

            It sounds like you are going through a really intense and difficult time in your life and we want to be there for you. Running away is something that we are happy to help you figure out safely. If you want to talk more about what’s going on and what options you may have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

            Take care,
            NRS

        • #8
          Good Evening to the Mod. I would just like to ask a few questions about running away, as ive been thinking on doing it since I was 12 and now Im 14, about to be 15 in a month and a half. My father isn't really crazy on beating me up to the point i bleed, but he usually threatens to beat me up, and say things like 'shut the ******** up' when we argue, without hearing my point. 'I will punch you' because of what he pertains to as my 'stupidity'. 'talk back and fight back at me when your strong enough'. He has punched me quite a few times like 4 times and kicked me atleast 3 times, and 1 time i got bruised on my leg because of the kicked. He says that I am a burden in the family, when he himself barely makes 1/10th of the salary of my mother, it should be him who should be ashamed. The favouritsm is also very obvious, like my grades. Just because im smart doesnt mean i cant do bad and make mistakes. He Kicked me when i had a grade of 84, shouted at me repeatedly, confiscated everything, including my phone, gave me a curfew an hour after my school ends. But when it was my brother who got a grade of 74 which is failing in my country he just shouted at him, but didnt do anything physical. and also to my sister. She got a failing mark, but what he did was ask her about it one time and thats it, he even took her alone to the mall to buy groceries, and im very sure he treated her, comforted her, and reminded her that failing is ok etc. This is not the only time my father did this, he doesnt even let her do house chores because 'shes the only girl' and my father told him she could go malling with her friends anytime even without asking permission from him and only to my mother. But when I am the one who does that, someone older than her by 2 years, he confiscates everything, gets mad and all. Also take note that he himself is a failure, i hate to admit it but he is, who gives him the right to get mad at me for having 1 grade at the line of 8 when he himself finished highschool with almost every grade at the 70 mark, and didnt even finish college because he was a slacker, according to my mom, he went to 2 different colleges, and wasted those opportunities just because hos reasoning to his father was he didnt have the energy to go to school. He sure was a bully when young, because of his surname, and his dad who was the chief of police at that time, he was just lucky he married my mom who works her ass off to provide for our family and give us the best. I dont want to run away because of my mom, but what he is doing is no longer fine, he shouted at me earlier and said i have no shame just because i forgot to change the position of (the thing where you hang your clothes) while we were eating, while my sister forgot to fill in the water jugs and bottles so we didnt have any to drink, and he just said to fill it in next time. I also dont think running away now is a good idea because of Covid, what will i do should i just endure it until they find a vaccine? which is expected to be made around 2022? And if i choose to run away when the pandemic is already done, what do i need to prepare? should i finish my education first? It is hard to find a job here in my country, because i think they dont accept minors, or they need permission from parents, and the pay is very low for working students, i dont think i can provide for my own (i live in the philippines; a 3rd world country) It would have been fine if i lived in Australia or the states because they pay the underage workers fine even in fastfood chains.

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          • ccsmod1
            ccsmod1 commented
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            Hey there,

            Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

            We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #9
          I am 14 also living in Florida and I've thought about running away for at least 4 years. I don't have much money at the moment ( which is why I haven't left yet but when I have enough money eventually, I would need a way to make money without needing parental permission and identification. I heard that you can ask single businesses (such as a mom and pop restaurant)for an under the table job as a busboy or dishwasher but I don't know how well that actually works.

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          • ccsmod1
            ccsmod1 commented
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            Hey there,

            Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like you've been thinking about leaving home for quite some time and it's great to see that you are critically thinking about what that would look like - it shows a lot of maturity. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. In addition to how you will create an income, there are other things that you will need to plan on. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

            It sounds like you are referring to working "under the table" which is generally characterized by the lack of formal hiring processes and evasion of local, state, and federal income taxation. While some agencies may be legitimate, working under the table does inherently have some risk involved as it is unregulated. Your safety is most important to us and we want to make sure you are aware of the possibility of human trafficking (also known as modern-day slavery). You may want to check out https://humantraffickinghotline.org/...ognizing-signs for a list of what to look for when accepting under the table work.

            If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

            Stay safe,
            NRS

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