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  • i want to live with my father

    so ive been with my mother my hole life and she has a husband now and hes the worst i cant stand it here i just want to get a job and a car to work on my career but they are holding me back and my dad is the only one who would help me so im thinking if i could live with my dad so i can actuality start my life a happy one

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    • ccsmod13
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      We are glad you reached out to us for help. Getting along with a new step-parent is very challenging and even more so if he is difficult and not supportive. You deserve a supportive home and to be considered.

      You do have some options but the specifics depend on how old you are, where you live and some other details on the dynamics going on in your Mom’s house. We would like to talk to you more about all those details, help you come up with a plan that works for you, and get you in touch with the resources you need to support your plan.

      You can contact us for a chat through our website or call our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY to talk through all that. Both are available 24/7 and are completely confidential.

      We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

  • my mom is making me move to my dads and I wouldn’t like to. Yes today! Anyways, my dad is a drug addict, and achocolic. Yet, that’s the reason they spilit up. Yes I love my dad but he is not capable of being a good father since he didn’t have a good parenting hoods. And my mom makes my life miserable! I have no where to go. Can anyone help?

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    • ccsmod15
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      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline Forum line. The situation you are in sounds very difficult and it’s unfortunate that you are going through it.



      While no age is indicated in your message, it appears that you are probably still school-aged and there are laws for parents who walk away from the responsibility of raising their underage children. If you are able to, you may want speak to a relative or older sibling you are close to and explain the situation. Being really honest about your father’s behavior is important as it could put you into danger living with him. If that doesn’t work, I would encourage you to get back in touch with us using our Chat connection or via phone at 1-800-Runaway, both which are available 24/7 so there’s always someone for you to connect with. Here at NRS, we have resources in our database, which we can look into to possibly connect you to an organization near to where you live.



      Even if the move has been made, it’s important that you let someone know if you find yourself in danger. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us if we can be of assistance. Keep our contact information listed above with you! Good Luck to you!

  • I want to live with my dad but my mom hates my dad and i am 16 and how can i live with my dad and my mom not get mad because i don't living at my house all my mom does is start arguments

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Generally for custody cases like this your dad will need to initiate legal proceedings himself to gain full custody of you.
      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • I want to live with my father but my mother wont even let me see him. I don't know much but I'm pretty sure that its 50/50. i got to see him for the first time in 5 months only because she let my brothers and i go see our grandparents. its not just my father she wont let us see its that whole side of the family. i heard her say today that "a real dad is there for you and loves you." my father has tried and tried to see us but my mother only thinks about herself and what she wants. he called her the other day calmly and politely he asked "hey (not saying her name) when can i see my kids again" she replied "first of all don't call me yelling" and hung up. my dad was not yelling she also lies about him trying to see us and talk to us. i am 12 now and even though i don't see my father as much as my mother i have a better relationship with him and feel like i can talk to him more than my mom. it has gotten so bad to the point i have thought of kms because i was so close to that side of the family. my mother wants nothing to do with that side of the family but its not her family its mine and i want to see them. my father and step mother said when they get money they would try to fight for custody and i have no problem with it. also my mother is wanting my step father to adopt me and my brothers we dont want that to happen and neither does my father she said that if he doesn't agree she would make him. she cant make him right? is it really her decision if i can see my father or not? can i runaway to his house instead of staying with my mother? PLAESE HELP!

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hey there thanks for reaching out,

      It sounds like you really love your father and his side of the family and that they love you a lot too. It’s hard when you don’t get to see the people you love.
      Your dad is able to involve the police if your mom is not abiding by the court agreement in terms of your father’s visitation rights. This would also help provide legal documentation for the courts to show your mom refusing to comply with the custody split
      To answer your question on adoption, If the legal parent does not agree to give the child up for adoption and the court finds that the parent can care for the child, the adoption will not happen.
      If your dad does have 50:50 custody, you would be able to stay with him half of the time or whatever was agreed upon in the court.
      There are a number of things we can help you with at the National Runaway Safeline. Some of the services we offer are to do three way calls with you and your parent to mediate a conversation, we could also get you in touch with some referrals for legal aid for your location. We are available 24/7 at both https://www.1800runaway.org/ and 1-800-RUNAWAY. 1-800-SUICIDE is also available too.
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