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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation on our Bulletin. It sounds like you are in a really scary spot right now after being kicked out by your mom and not getting along well with your grandmother. Because you are still a minor your family has a legal responsibility to care for you and it is not okay for them to kick you out. You deserve to feel safe.

    You do have the option to contact child protective services for help and to ensure you have safe place to stay. We understand this can sometimes be an intimidating decision to make and you do not have to do it alone. You can speak with an advocate at The National Child Abuse Hotline to learn more about what this might be like for you, www.childhelp.org.

    Another option that you might have is to go to a youth shelter. Youth shelters can provide a safe place to stay and the often offer transitional living programs. TLPs are long term housing programs for young adults that provide support while you work toward living independently. If you call our hotline or chat with us, we are happy to search our databases for resources in your area.

    We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and through live chat at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon so that we can provide support and resources.

    NRS

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    I'm 17 and I have been kicked out from my moms for a few month now I've been hoping around from here to there and just started to live with my grandmother but we can't seem to get along I haven't even been here for a week and she wants me out I don't know what to do, where to go, or who to contact anymore. I don't like this and isn't how I wanted to be growing up. Is there anything I can do so I'm not living outside soon. None of my family is help and believe anything they hear about me that most of the time isn't true. I have no money and a little of clothes and stuff. please help me I'm stuck and in need of help asap if anyone around my age or something please reach out to me in my socials ****
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 11-06-2020, 08:50 PM. Reason: Edited for identifying information.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your mom is making your life so difficult and complicated. As you are still a minor, she does have a legal responsibility to make sure you are taken care of, whether that be at home or at your friend’s house with her permission.

    While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Some police can be more understanding about what is going on at your home. In our experience, police will oftentimes return the youth back to their guardian almost no matter what. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety.

    It might be a good idea to talk a little bit more with us about what exactly is going on and what options you might have. Please don’t hesitate to call us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I’m 17 my mom kicked me out but she’s still trying to tell me what to do at a family friends house and telling me that I can’t go live with a different family friend is I want to get emancipated but is it legal for her to kick me out but still try to control me

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It is not okay for your parents to threaten to kick you out or to threaten you in any way. Their job is to ensure you are safe and cared for, and we are so sorry they are failing you in this. You deserve to be treated with respect and you have a right to feel safe at home.

    While we are not legal experts, we can speak on this generally. Your parents are your legal guardians until you turn 18 which means that they are legally responsible for you. It is not legal for them to kick you out of the home without setting up an "alternative living arrangement" or another safe place for you to stay. If they do kick you out, this can be considered neglect and you have the option to report this to child protective services. It could be smart to start reaching out to family members or friends who can offer you a place to stay so that you have a plan in place in the event your parents do this.

    If you are not staying at home, unfortunately your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying or you come into contact with law enforcement for another reason. You would not be arrested or charged with a crime; however, it is likely police would bring you back to your parents.

    Emancipation statutes and laws can vary state-by-state and it can be a difficult process. The general requirements include that you are able to live independently, financially support yourself, and can demonstrate that it would be in your best interest. Some states require parental consent while others do not, but in every state this would require that your parents are at least notified. Once you are able to demonstrate you can live on your own, financially support yourself with a stable job, and have a plan to finish school, you can usually file a petition with your local family courthouse. It is usually recommended that anyone looking to pursue emancipation consult with a lawyer first. We are happy to connect you with a legal aid resource in your area if you contact us directly by phone or live chat.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    Good luck and stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So i dont know if you guys are still on this but I am a 16-year-old almost 17 in 28 days but my parents said that if I tell them something they don't like that I have to move out and I don't know if they will call the cops and have me arrested or if I will be able to just move out and be on my own and get emancipated.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's going on. Your parents' threats to leave you behind with nothing is very worrisome and it's not OK for them to say that to you. Since you are 17, you are considered a minor, and if your parents fail to provide you with necessities such as food or shelter it can be considered neglect, which you have the right to report. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you (like youth shelters), please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    Guest replied
    Hi, im 17 and my family and I were/are planning to move to west virginia this friday. I live in florida and my parents are now saying that because I stayed out a little later at work, they are going to kick me out. Everything I have is packed except for the clothes on my back, what do i do?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. What you have been experiencing sounds very sad and very, very unfair. You do not deserve to be treated this way by your mother. It’s not your fault that she behaves this way. It sounds she is being abusive towards you and you have the right to report it.
    We do understand that this would may be a difficult step for you to take.
    To gain more information about reporting child abuse visit the link below.

    www.childhelp.org

    Your feelings are important and they matter.
    You are deserving as anyone that wants to be happy.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 07-18-2020, 02:39 AM.

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    My mom kicked me out a month ago, and I've been staying with my dad. My mom verbally abuses me, and she won't let me see my brothers. And everyday it breaks my heart. She blamed me for doing drugs when I never even done them. And she now wants my social security number now, and she won't tell me what for. And to add on my sisters are in the middle of this and I don't want them to be. I blocked my mom from everything. She was the reason why I was cutting. She brings this person out of me. And I hate it. I want to call cps and the police but I did this one time and they said that she's allowed to drag me down the street and beat me. I'm 17. 17. And living with my dad was the best decision ever. I'm thriving and more. I'm about to re -enroll myself to school for my senior year and my mother is withholding all of my information. Minus my social security card. And I just want to be done with her. I really do. She forces me to give her money otherwise she'll threaten to call the police on my dad for false accusations and on me for 'drugs' that I apparently do. I just need help. I really do.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 07-18-2020, 02:41 AM.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    We are so sorry to hear about what you are going through. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. It sounds horrible to be treated that way by the people that are supposed to be supporting you. It is important to remember you are not alone and we are here throughout this process if and when you need us as a resource.

    Your guardians have a responsibility to provide for you until you turn 18, as a result, them kicking you out could be considered neglect, which is a crime. You have the option to report this to Child Protective Services. To learn more about this process you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You may be able to recover your documentation and money you have earned.

    If you are looking for shelter, we can help you find a Transitional Living Program near you. These programs offer long-term housing and help provide important living skills that help you become more independent. For more information on housing options call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at any time.

    We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct.

    Best Wishes

    ~NRS

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    Guest replied
    I have a a little over three months until I am 18. I live in tucson and my parents kicked me out. I have a job and am going to be a senior in highschool. We made arrangements to what bills i would pay. I payed mine and they continued asking for more after they already owe me from what they said they'd pay me back. I said no and they kicked me out for it. They left me with nothing but the clothes on my back and whatever i had with me. I was on the way to work and the sent me a text of all my stuff being thrown away. I don't know what to do. I don't have my birth certificate or my social. And i was already adopted once so it has been a rough life so far.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation. We are so sorry to hear you have been put in such a tough spot by your parents. It is there responsibility to care for you and it was not okay of them to kick you out so suddenly. We know this must be a scary time and it was very brave to reach out to ask for help. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and we are here to help in any way that we can.

    Because your parents have a responsibility to provide for you until you turn 18, it could be considered neglect that they kicked you out. You do have the option to report this to child protective services. You can speak with an advocate at childhelp.org if you would like to learn more about this.

    Another option for housing and support could be a youth shelter. Youth shelters are able to offer short term and emergency shelter for young people who do not have safe place to stay. Often these shelters are connected to transitional living programs which are designed for older teens and young adults. Transitional programs provide a stable place to live and important life skills to help you work toward independent living. If you contact us directly through live chat or phone, we can search for resources in your area.

    We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. If you would like to be connected with any resources or you want to further explore your options, we are available for immediate support at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    im 17 from texas, my parents have kicked me out of the house, they are dealing with addiction and trying to quit smoking and it seems that the anger they have about trying to stop is being taken out on me and to be frank the things i am told by them is very hurtful and all they do is yell at me. I can be just sitting there and they yell at me for no reason. I dont know what i am supposed to do from here i am staying with a great friend of mine but dont want to over stay my welcome. if you have anything that can help me i really need it. they have my phone all I have contact wise is an email ****. If you have anything that can help me I need it desperately.
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 07-07-2020, 11:57 PM. Reason: Removed email address.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like you've had to go through a lot and it shows that you are an incredibly strong and resilient individual! You shouldn't have to be in this situation and it's not right of your mother to put you in this.

    Your safety is our greatest concern here at the NRS and you mentioned a few things that cause us some concern. Your mom kicking you out of your home can be considered neglect and you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. You also mentioned that you had tried to commit suicide in the past. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

    In your post you brought up that when you were younger that you were sexually assaulted more than once and that you almost were while in high school. It's very frustrating and infuriating to hear that your mom and the police were unsupportive and disrespectful. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and we believe and support you. It can be really hard to deal with this alone and sometimes it’s helpful to reach out to additional agencies for support. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you (possibly independent or transitional living programs), please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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