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  • #46
    I’m 17 my mom kicked me out but she’s still trying to tell me what to do at a family friends house and telling me that I can’t go live with a different family friend is I want to get emancipated but is it legal for her to kick me out but still try to control me

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your mom is making your life so difficult and complicated. As you are still a minor, she does have a legal responsibility to make sure you are taken care of, whether that be at home or at your friend’s house with her permission.

      While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Some police can be more understanding about what is going on at your home. In our experience, police will oftentimes return the youth back to their guardian almost no matter what. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety.

      It might be a good idea to talk a little bit more with us about what exactly is going on and what options you might have. Please don’t hesitate to call us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #47
    I'm 17 and I have been kicked out from my moms for a few month now I've been hoping around from here to there and just started to live with my grandmother but we can't seem to get along I haven't even been here for a week and she wants me out I don't know what to do, where to go, or who to contact anymore. I don't like this and isn't how I wanted to be growing up. Is there anything I can do so I'm not living outside soon. None of my family is help and believe anything they hear about me that most of the time isn't true. I have no money and a little of clothes and stuff. please help me I'm stuck and in need of help asap if anyone around my age or something please reach out to me in my socials ****
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 11-06-2020, 08:50 PM. Reason: Edited for identifying information.

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation on our Bulletin. It sounds like you are in a really scary spot right now after being kicked out by your mom and not getting along well with your grandmother. Because you are still a minor your family has a legal responsibility to care for you and it is not okay for them to kick you out. You deserve to feel safe.

      You do have the option to contact child protective services for help and to ensure you have safe place to stay. We understand this can sometimes be an intimidating decision to make and you do not have to do it alone. You can speak with an advocate at The National Child Abuse Hotline to learn more about what this might be like for you, www.childhelp.org.

      Another option that you might have is to go to a youth shelter. Youth shelters can provide a safe place to stay and the often offer transitional living programs. TLPs are long term housing programs for young adults that provide support while you work toward living independently. If you call our hotline or chat with us, we are happy to search our databases for resources in your area.

      We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and through live chat at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon so that we can provide support and resources.

      NRS

  • #48
    Hello I am 17 I turn 18 in March and it’s The last day of November. I live in Maryland. I got into a fight with my aunt because I came home 30 mins late on a Sunday. Which I get there is ground rules and stuff but she put her hands on me and tried to grab my phone out my hand after I called my dad. My dad isn’t doing anything about this situation and nobody else is in my house. She told me to get out and I packed my stuff and I’m staying with my best friend now. I don’t know what to do I texted my sister and she said that they acting like nothing happened and it’s just a regular day. Everyone is telling me to not go back including my teachers and staff at school Bc they personally know how my parents are. I have my own job and I’m saving up. Should I just continue moving forward independently?

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Your aunt's reaction to something so minor is extremely worrisome and she doesn't have the right to treat you that way. You deserve to feel safe and loved at home. It sounds like you are in a tough spot right now and figuring out your next steps can be confusing. It may be beneficial to write out a pro/con list for staying or returning home to help you decide. It's also important to think about all the aspects of living away from home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc.

      Your safety is the most important thing to us and the physical abuse from your aunt and neglect (throwing you out of the house) raises some concern for your well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if your parents request that you return home and you stay where you are, they can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • #49
    Hey my name is Taniya, im 17 and got kicked out and is now staying with my dad's mom. My ma kicked me out plenty of times but this time she didn't call the cops every other time she "kicked " me out she called the police and acted like i was a runaway, when she and her ma pinned me down just to get my phone i kicked her to get free and was arrested for FV simple battery, a month before allat my brother pushed me and i punched him i didn't know i punched him hard enough to bleed nd that day i was charged with FV simple battery. Now she kicked me out because im the devil and disrespectful, i get your supposed to treat your parents like gods and goddesses but why treat someone better than they treat me, i get fat shamed which im not fat i just have a tiny tummy that im insecure about, i've been to the mental hospital twice for harming or trying to end my life and after i got out my mother put me on punishment. im just wondering if i should go back, she changed the locks and she still has most of my stuff plus she took my game system and phone so i have nothing. My dad's mom doesn't like to drive anywhere besides her job or to get my lil cousin so i cant really get a job and they dont let me use the car since i only have a permit. what should i do?

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,

      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us.

      Wow it seems like you have gone through some difficult times and we are sorry that you have had to deal with all of that. Because you know your situation better than anyone it is your decision if you go back home or not.

      From what you have described it does seem like living at your mom’s home is not the safest option for you and seems abusive. If you would ever like to file an abuse report you can file one by calling Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You also can consider talking to a school counselor about what is going on. They would be able to file a report and also able to provide support and possible resources for you. It is hard to go without most of your things you could consider calling your mom to see if you can pick up your things if you do decide to go back. Also if she were to not allow you to come back because you are a minor that is considered neglect and you would be able to call the police and report this. An option could be to write down the pros and cons of going back in order to help you make your decision.

      We know you mentioned trying to take your life, and we are happy that you survived and are able to share your story with us today. You do not have to deal with these emotions alone please reach out if you need help to The National Suicide Prevention Hotline- 1800-273-8255. Another resource that may be helpful is called NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses). They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.

      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please reach out to us. We are available 24/7 by phone or by chat. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • #50
    I am currently 16 and being threatened with being kicked out. I've had my laptop taken away from me, my phone became unusable a little under a week ago due to unknown issues with the battery, and the phone I was using in the meantime until I got it replaced has also been taken away from me. Leaving my school laptop as the only actual way to reach out for help to anyone, which has the majority of sites that could be helpful to me blocked on it. I have no job and only currently have 50 or so dollars on my person. I'm unable to reach out to anybody due to the lack of a cellphone. What do I do? Please help.

    I live with my grandparents and my parents are not in my life, and my aunt and uncle back my grandparents almost always. I have no one that I am related to who would be willing to help me.

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    • ccsmod0
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We have a database of youth shelters in which we can find a program in your area that may be able to give you a place to stay temporarily and help you to find something more permanent. As a minor, if you are kicked out of the home, you can tell the police who can contact Child Protective Services for you as well, since your parents legally have a responsibility to take care of you until you are 18. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe, NRS
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