17 and got kicked out

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Hello I'm 17 and in Pennsylvania my mom kicked me out of the house and then called the cops would I still be a runaway or am I free to live with a friend. And if not would there be any way to move out at 17 or do I need to wait till I'm 18 because they are mentally and pshycially abusive so please help.

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RE: 17 and got kicked out

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you have been through a lot and we are sorry to hear about this. We’re glad that you reached out, we’re here to help in any way that we can.

So you shared that your mom kicked you out of the house, and then called the cops. This has got to be frustrating. If you are in need of a safe place to go, you can call us at 1800runaway and we can try to locate a shelter near you. You disclosed mental and physical abuse at home. We’re not here to tell you what you should or should not do. We just want to help keep you safe, because that’s something that every individual deserves in their own home. You do not deserve to be abused in any way. If you would like to report this, you can call Child Help USA at (800) 422 4453.

It sounds like you might be staying at a friend’s house or are at least interested in staying with a friend. We are not legal experts, so we cannot say for sure what would or would not happen but generally speaking if you leave before you are 18 without legal guardian’s permission, it’s considered running away and your legal guardians have the right to make a runaway report. If a report is made, and the police find you they typically would just bring you back home. However, anyone that you stay with could potentially be charged for harboring.

To find out for sure what it would be like in your area, you can call your local law enforcement and just ask hypothetically. If you would like help doing this, you can call us and we can do a conference call with you and your local police.

You deserve to feel safe. Please do call or chat with us to talk further through options and your situation, we’re here to help.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi i'm 17 and I live in Arkansas my grandmother kicked me out the other day and said that I have to go live with my grandpa. I don't wanna live with him. Because she kicked me out do I get to pick the place I stay at?

[Guest]

My dad kicked me out witbout any of my clothes and toiletries im 17 cani call tge police to get my stuff back ?

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Hello,
We are glad you reached out to us. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time. We are not legal experts and situations can vary depending on city and state. Calling the police is always an option, but it is difficult to predict how they may respond.
In addition to being available by bulletin and email, we have a 24/7 hotline and are always here to listen and help (1-800-786-2929). We can provide legal resources and other referrals to help.
Do not hesitate to reach out.
Good luck,
NRS

[Guest]

My mom plans on kicking me out when I turn 18 which is this month and I have no idea what the hell I am going to do

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Hi,

Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us tonight. That sounds like a very scary situation for you to be in, and we understand that you may be stressed right now and wondering what to do next. We're sorry you're going through all of this. Here at the National Runaway Safeline we can help you look up a shelter around your area if you do not have a friend or family member to live with. In order for us to do this you would have to call into our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are 24/7 and we can talk to you about what you're going through and also look up shelters in and around your area.

We wish you the best of luck with everything and we are looking forward to hearing from you!

[Guest]

My friend is being abused and had called CPS for help she wants to live with me and my family and her family will kick her out is this okay to live with us they could care less about her and she is 17

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Hi there,

Thanks so much for reaching out to us. It makes sense that your friend would want to leave home if she's being abused, because she does not deserve that at all. We're glad she has someone like you and your family to support her.

If her parents kick her out, that is considered neglect by child protective services in most places, so you could choose to report that if you want. If her parents kick her out, they may never file a runaway report to the police. We are not legal experts, but according to our experience here, if her parents never file a runaway report to the police, then the police won't know that the girl is a runaway, and won't really be able to press charges for harboring a runaway. Additionally, we almost never hear of these charges being filed.

-NRS

[Guest]

Hi. So my mom kicked me out yesterday and I’m currently staying with my bf and his parents. She’s selling my car and turning my phone off and I’m not to sure what to do next. I’m 17 and work at a part time job about 5 out of the 7 days in a week. Im not sure what to do. I don’t want to overstay my welcome but I also can’t go back home unless I’m getting my stuff. Any advice?

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Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a tough time, but we are here to support you and help you in any way we can. That sounds so stressful to be kicked out of home and going through this situation. But it sounds like you have some supportive people in your life and you’re working hard to help yourself.

Just so you know, your parents have a legal obligation to take care of you and give you a place to stay until you are an adult at 18. If you haven’t already, you consider reporting this as neglect. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or you could call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

If you haven’t already, you could consider reaching out to a trusted adult, relative, worker/teacher/counselor at your school for help and support. You could also consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling. Just so you’re aware, we have a conference calling service here where we could help mediate a conversation between you and your parents.

There are also many resources that could help you find a safe place if you’re in need or help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

[Guest]

I'm 17, I won't be 18 until next year. My mom kicked me out last night. She says she's done all she can and doesn't know how to help me. She told me to leave and said "good luck". She took my keys, so I walked about an hour to be able to use a phone at the gas station. I got ahold of my boyfriend and he came to pick me up. He and his parents are willing to let me stay here. I'm afraid my mom will report me as a runaway. Luckily, he lives about a 5 minute walk from my school so I can still get an education. I'm not exactly sure what to do right now. Should I tell my school? Or even the police? Even if my mom eventually wants me to come back I'm not sure I can because I have a mentally and physically abusive brother at home. What are my options?

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Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. It looks like you just reached out via chat or phone to discuss your situation. Thanks so much for utilizing those services so we could best help.

NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

Best of luck,

NRS

[Guest]

im 17 and today i found out that my parents are, in a way, planning to kick me out, not immediately and because im an immigrant (my citizenship is in the process) i can't get a job. i have no phone anymore and it's very risky if i try to contact a friend to ask them if i can stay in their place. i have no idea about what to do.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS feels we can help by phone a little better. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Hello I live in connecticut and my mom is threatening to kick me out at 18 to go live with my father whom i haven’t spoken to in years he abandoned me and my sister, i turn 18 in november and i want to leave now but i do not want to leave on bad terms, i am being mentally and emotionally abused at home and if i leave i have a place to go, i will have shelter and food and i just need help on how to leave without getting law involved

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Reply: Hello I live in connecticut

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
As of right now you’re feeling like leaving before you turn 18 is one option.
It also sounds like you have some concerns about what might happen if the police become involved.
While we are not experts on the law, someone under 18 that leaves home, the parent/guardian may file them as a runaway and they may be returned home. Also, those that a reported runaway stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Anyone found to be assisting or aiding someone to run away may also find themselves at risk legally. For more specifics on the law, you might consider contacting the local non-emergency number for the police.

You might also look for a legal aid center in the area. They may be able to answer any legal questions on the subject. What might help the most is if you get permission to move out from your mother. Since she is planning to have you leave once you turn 18 maybe she would allow you to go sooner if you could provide a good plan on how you will survive.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail about your situation and explore options, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

Be safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

If i am 17 and my mom kicked me out, what belongings do i get to keep. i live in michigan

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Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It takes strength to reach out when you’re in a stressful situation such as this. This sounds like a terrifying situation, and it can be hard to know what to do next.
You mentioned that you’re 17 years old and live in Michigan. In Michigan, you would still be considered a minor. You could reach out to the police if you do not know where to go. There is also National Safe Place, at 888-290-7233. We don’t provide legal advice, but since you are a minor and have been kicked out of your home, authorities could determine if you would be returned home, and what belongings you could keep.
You could call us here at 1-800-786-2929 to discuss further options, including possible shelter options. You also have the option of chatting with us through www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 and we look forward to hearing from you.
Best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey, I'm 18 is still in high school and my mom is threatening to kick me out. I have nowhere to go as there are no homeless shelters within the nearest 100 miles there is 1 but it is specifically for abuse victims, and I am not being abused, what I am worried about is I am unable to get a job or apply for housing because I technically am not a legal citizen despite my mother being a natural born citizen and just failing to fix my papers but now is also refusing to fix my papers and after graduation I will be kicked out anyways. I have no idea what to do I cannot apply for college or even student loans I speak no Spanish, and I just feel completely helpless

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It's not right for your mom to threaten to kick you out, especially since you have such limited resources. You mentioned that you were still in school, it may be worthwhile to talk to your school social worker/guidance counselor about what's going on to see if they know of any local agencies that could help you out. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

What do I do if I don't live with my family and I get kicked out of my boyfriend dad's house at the age of 17? I also work, so I don't know what I could do, or if there is something that I can do.

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Thanks for contacting NRS, we appreciate you reaching out.

We could help connect you with a few options. The first is legal aid to speak to a lawyer, if you are concerned about the law. The second would be a shelter to stay at for a short time. The last would be a transitional living program which would give you a long term place to stay and provide lots of help and support. NRS could help you find these services in your area. Sorry to hear things are so difficult right now.

Don’t hesitate to contact us via online chat or at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

[Guest]

I'm 17 years old right now and I'll be 18 in about 3 months. In the last few weeks, I've been getting in trouble a lot. My grades slipped this year from perfect A's to having 1 C because I'm taking a lot of hard AP classes. I'm only a junior, but my parents are telling me that they will no longer support me financially since my grades are no longer perfect and eventually plan on kicking me out when I turn 18. I've always been a perfect child. I've never done drugs or alcohol, I've never snuck out or partied. I never talk back, I've always had perfect grades and I'm even the president of my class in DECA and in the National Honor Society. I never would have thought that this could happen because I've worked so hard to be so perfect my whole life. I don't really know what to do