I need some advice (18/F/SC)

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Let me first state, I am here for advice not to be put down for my decision. So the most helpful advice would be nice.

I am 18 and I am planning on leaving on Friday. I have boxes packed, plenty of job, a car, and I have a place to stay that is safe and I will pay some bills for my house I am staying at.

Now, in my state I can technically leave my house because I am the age of majority.

I plan on having my boyfriend help me pack while my grandparents (whom I live with) are gone, I am planning on leaving a note telling them I am safe and I will visit them soon again and soon will send them money for the car.

Now, is this a solid plan? I am leaving because of the verbal and physical abuse and they refuse to treat me like an adult.

Do you think this will work and is there anything I am missing out on my plan? I know legally they cannot make me come home. But is there anything I can do to make sure I am secure and they cannot take me away from my new place of living.

Thank you guys so much.

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline, it sounds like you have thought through your plan and are getting away from your home where you aren’t getting treated like you want to. We aren’t legal experts, but being 18 in most states gives you the rights as a legal adult and you do have the right to go where you please and you won’t be forced to go back home. You did mention that you are taking a car and would be paying/sending your grandparents money for it, is the car under their name. This may be something to consider that they may be able to report it and may have future repercussion. Also, it’s great that you have a safe place to go to and have the ability to stay somewhere safe, have you lived with these people before? It may be good to consider a backup plan just in case the house you move into doesn’t work out. One thing you can do is call into us and we can look up shelters or transition living situation near you that can be of temporary placement if you ever get into that situation. Another thing to consider is how you will cover medical expenses, are you still on their insurance? If you leave, that may impact your ability to this access and may consider looking into your own insurance.

We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.

-NRS

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