Can/how do I leave

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Hello... so um... I've been thinking about running away... I always feel stressed and overloaded by people and things... I also have ansitey.... Mom was an alcoholic and somewhat of a drug addict (weed and other things)... my three siblings are ether always smoking weed and/or drinking... even from a young age... I'm thirteen... well will be in two months... My dad is somewhat fine he was fiscally abused by his father and mother at a young age but he (my dad) has been working those issues out... my stepdad is a somewhat and alcoholic drinks three to six beers a night and smokes half a pack of smokes a week... my mother for some reason is always super strict with me while she was super uncontrolling with my siblings.... I'm also gay and I have been rethinking my gender over the past 3/4 months... my mom who is kind of Christian is alright for people being gay but transgender and non-binary people she thinks are crazy and I can't think about her ever excepting me if/when I come out. she also says anyone who is under the age f 16 don't know who they are ... my dad calls gays fagot's and trans disgusting... one of my sisters is somewhat bi and was bi at my age... one of my other sisters is kind of ace (so my family is fine with that).... and my brother is really straight... my grandpa effected by the Monociteo fire and mudslides has now moved in with us full time and is very unconsiterit to me and my mom (his daughter)... All my friends don't know me that well... only some know I'm gay... and only two know abut my gender struggle and they don't really listen to me when I talk about my struggles.... My family don't know me at all or at least the real me... What would be the most legal way for me to leave my home and school.... I want to run away... but I only have a little less then 140$ in gift cards for amazon and one for Tillys the clothing store... so I want help... but I don't feel I could ever leave at least right now

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support.

We want you to know that it takes a lot to reach out for help, and we're glad you did. We want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and loved in your home and accepted for who you are. It can be a really difficult think to be struggling with your identity and not feel supported by your parents or friends. If you want to talk to someone about your struggles you could reach out to the LGBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743. Someone there would be able to talk to you more specifically about that subject and offer a listening ear. If you are searching for an online community that you could relate to, you could find one in the It Gets Better Project at itgetsbetter.org. There are organizations and people that are here to help.

We are not legal experts, but because you are a minor, if you run away and your parents file a runaway report you could be returned home. It is not illegal to run away, but there could be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a minor. Do you have any other family members or a trusted adult like someone at school that you feel can advocate for you during this time? We also have a conference call service where a liner could mediate a conversation between you and your parents so that you could feel more safe sharing your feelings. If you would be interested in that or want to talk through the options that you have, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Let us know how we can best help,

NRS

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