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  • ccsmod13
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    Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. In general, if a minor (under the age of 18 in most states) leaves home without permission from their parent or guardian, they can be reported as a runaway. It is not illegal to runaway no matter your age, but the police will likely return you home. You are right that runaway protocol can vary based on state and police department. The best way to know for sure what the police will do is to call the non-emergency number for the local police department to ask questions anonymously.

    For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

    Thank you, NRS

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    Well it matters what state you are in

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there. That sounds like a very intense situation and we are so sorry you are going through this. You're very brave and mature to contact us and talk about this. Please know you are not alone and we are here to help in whatever way we can.

    It sounds like you feel very neglected and no one is taking you seriously and are being treated unfairly. That's got to hurt. You have a right to your feelings. But you also have the right to be happy and feel safe. We want that for you. And you can get there, but it may take a little time and some creative thinking on your part.

    We are pretty concerned when you talk about suicide and cutting yourself. Dying is definitely a very serious thing and not something to be taken lightly. You should know that suicide is almost always painful and people often regret making the choice to die this way when their attempt doesn't work -- and it usually doesn't work. It's a good idea to talk about these feelings with people you trust. We are a confidential hotline and don't judge. We hope you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Or you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-2763-8255. If you're in immediate danger, call 911. As for cutting, a great website is https://twloha.com/. You can get a lot of great information and support there about self harm.

    The reason why we encourage you to talk to someone is that often it simply helps to feel heard. You have a voice and we you deserve to be heard. It's healing in it's own way, even if it doesn't "solve" the situation immediately. But it's also possible that in talking things through you might find that there are options you haven't considered yet to help make the situation better. We'd like to help you figure out what you'd like to do. So please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us by visiting our website at www.1800runaway.org. We can talk more about what you're feeling and about what running away is like and also alternatives to running away.

    You have a lot to live for. Things will almost certainly get better and there are real things you can do to make it so. That's not just us saying that or being nice. It's reality.

    Please be safe. We hope to hear from you soon!

    NRS

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    I'm 14 and I want to run away from my home. my parents treat me unfairly and so does my siblings. my brother acts like he cares but ends up he doesn't. I told my mom that I'd kill myself one day and that I cry myself to sleep every night but she just pushes me away. my brother knows that I cry myself to sleep but doesn't do anything. yesterday, I came home from school arguing with my mom, I got my phone taken up and got it checked. They found out that I was dating a kid at my school, they flipped and slammed my phone onto the floor. I know that I'm wrong but have they seen my sister? my sister lied to my parents for 5 years and they never bothered. they act like they know everything but they don't. they make up assumptions. some days I think about cutting myself. last night, I planned on how I should kill myself and I wasn't afraid of dying anymore. this morning, I planned on how I should run away, get kidnapped, or get hit by a car.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Can I leave an adoptee family at 14

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. In general. Legally it’s your parent or guardian that has the right to determine where or who you can stay or live with. We would like to hear more about your situation in order to see if there might be some options to explore.
    Perhaps through talking you might come up with a plan to help resolve whatever issues that might be going on.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS


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    Can I leave an adoptee family at 14 and stay with my 16 year old boyfriend and his mom?

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    I feel suicidal, I cut, the reason why is because of my bad past and that my mom abandoned me to my dad and his parents though its hard and I've lived with them for the past five years and recently i've been cutting and started feeling suicidal though they know about this, my grandfather about killed me twice because I "backtalked" my grandmother and my grandmother and me fight alot and 2 of the times we've fought, i've been called a b*tch, also I still cut secretly and they dont even check on me as much as they should and they are bad at hiding knives, they litterally hid the knives underneath the kitchen sink; How stupid is THAT!!!!

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi, thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like it’s been hard for you to feel good at home lately and it’s really good that you are reaching out for support and trying your best to take care of yourself. Your feelings are real and important, and it isn’t fair to you that your parents are treating you in ways that feel terrible. Your feelings are valid and you should know that you don’t have to go through this alone. You can give us at the NRS a call any time, 24/7, at 1-800-RUNAWAY, if you would like to talk to someone about what you are feeling and what you can do, we’re a confidential hotline and we are here to help.
    It sounds really tough to be 14-years-old, feeling gender dysphoria and depression, and not getting the support you need from your parents, and it makes sense that you’re thinking that running away is better than staying. Think about what it would take for you to feel safe at home, and where else you might be able to feel safe living right now. If you give us a call or visit our website to chat with us online, we might be able to help you find shelter resources in your area, or other local resources for teens struggling with their mental health or for LGBTQ teens.
    Even though things are hard right now, there are things you can do and people you can talk to. Since you mention that living at home with your family has sometimes made you feel suicidal, here is the number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255. They are also reachable at suicidepreventionlifeline.org, and they have people trained to help in times like these—you may call them any time, whether you are feeling suicidal again or just would like someone to talk to. You are not alone, even if your parents are treating you badly. Please consider calling a hotline and asking for support if you ever feel that way again.
    You ask what would happen to a 14-year-old who runs away in Alabama. It’s not possible to know for sure what exactly would happen to you, but here is some general information. First of all, it is not illegal to run away from home, even though you are a minor. If you run away and the police find you, it is likely that they will bring you back home to your family. Running away is considered a status offense, not a crime. If you run away and your parents choose to report you to the police as a runaway, it is possible that the police will look for you and, if they find you, bring you back home. In Alabama, the age of minority is 18, so that means you are not considered an adult until you are 19.
    If you run away, you might want to think about where you would go, where you can stay for a while and feel safe. Maybe there is a friend or a teacher you can talk to about what you are feeling, and whether they know anywhere you could stay. You might also want to think about how your parents would react and what you would do about their reactions. If you would like to talk about any of this, please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY anytime. We can look up shelter resources and talk through and troubleshoot tough conversations with parents and other adults. We also have a service where we can moderate a conversation over the phone between a youth and their parents to help make sure everyone’s voice is being heard.
    You’re asking the right questions and trying your best to take care of yourself, and that’s a good thing! Please reach back out any time, and good luck!

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    Hi. I’m running away tonight. I want some advice. I’m 14 years old and have gender dysphoria, which has lead to never having depression (note: not clinically diagnosed, but I’m 100% sure it is) and living with my parents has been terrible for my mental health and has in several occasions driven me to the point of suicide. I live in Alabama and what to know what will happen if a 14 year old runs away. Please answer ASAP! Thank you!

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us with this. It’s always painful when someone you care about is being abused but it’s good to hear that you’re looking out for your friend. Being in a situation like this can be really stressful and emotionally exhausting, so it might be helpful to you to check in with yourself routinely and make sure you are handling all of this okay. It also might help to check in with your friend and see how she feels about reporting the abuse. If you or her have questions about what reporting looks like, feel free to call the National Child Abuse Hotline for more information and help filing a report. Additionally, if your friend needs help because they are feeling suicidal she can reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. We are confidential and will not push you one way or another. To answer your question about what could happen if you run away, keep in mind that we are not legal experts and can’t guarantee what exactly would happen. However, it is probably helpful for you to know that if you leave home as a minor, your legal guardians have the right to file a runaway report with the police. Once that report has been filed, it is the police’s job to return you both back to your homes. If you and your friend were found by the police, your friend could let them know that she does not feel safe returning home and police would likely involve child protective services to make sure your friend has somewhere safe to live. We hope that answers your question. If you have further questions, feel free to contact us using our online chat or at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7 and are happy to help you think through more options or develop a safety plan for your friend.

    Take Care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My friend is being abused and she doesn’t even understand, until this summer it got really bad. She hasn’t left her house in 6 months, the only person she can have over is me. I can’t watch her become a shell of a person the other day i saw her suicide note. I can’t lose her. If we sneak out at night and run what can the police do?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,
    The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.
    Best wishes,
    NRS

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    Hello, I'm 13 years old turning 14 at October and im from Spain, im planning to run away from my home, im already crazy that drives me too much insane. I have been absolutely abuse when i was a kid and if you are wondering why, i'm running from my house? Well, i have been into a horrible experience when i was a kid and i havent told no one so my mom doesnt understand me that well. Talking about my mother, i hated her. She well thinks alot and she offence me too much with her imaginary like i have been beaten because of my rude personality. She doesnt understand me even i tell her some of my problem, she just said like "your too young for that to experience something" or like "im older than you so i know you" and heck she does, she actually never know me since she left me since i was a kid and never been in whole life would she care for me. I sometimes lost temper while she been continuing offencing some words thats not even true for me. If you also think that this is some kind of joke or lies then no, this happend to me alot. If theres none of help, i dont accept to someone who is going to say that i should fix it to my parents or something about asking permission first because im ready to leave in my house without asking my mother a permission. I dont trust people so much so i considered my mother not my real parents or i considered them something else that makes me hate her.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It's not OK for your brother to beat you or steal. It sounds very frustrating to have to live with your dad when life with him is so uneasy. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    You mentioned some things about your brother being violent towards you and your dad being a little neglectful. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

    You stated that your dad frequently drinks and that your mom has had some issues with drugs. It can be really hard to live with someone who struggles with an addiction to alcohol. We want you to know that you are not alone. If you’d like to talk to other young people who are dealing with friends or family members who have drinking problems you can check out Alateen. You can find more information about this support group, or find a local meeting here: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/. You can also check out Narateen, a sister organization that focuses on family members that use drugs by going to https://www.nar-anon.org/narateen.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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