Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

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Re: Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

most the boards on here I looked at don't answer this question
they just talk about why they want to and all that.. I just want to know what will happen to me if I get caught
here's the situation
I haven't seen my dad in 4 years, since I was 10. I live with my "mom" and her.. Kevin. I got kicked out of school and I'm not about to go back for reasons I don't feel like saying because it would just take me forever to explain all the way and I don't believe if I did anybody would understand. It's my account so nobody else will understand but me. I haven't been to school for more then a year. I got expelled last year. For not going. And passing a note saying that I hated everybody in the school and wanted to kill them, and telling this one girl I was gonna kill her. I'm not messing, my step-dad, that's Kevin, has literilly 30 cats in this small house. And then there's 4 dogs. It's a big mess and nobody takes care of it. IT'S DISGUSTING! I HATE MY MOM AND I HAVE FOR A LONG TIME. All of my "friends" left me behind a long time ago, but they were never there anyways. Nobody was ever there. So my "mom" doesn't even talk to me. I literally haven't had a conversation with anybody in about a year. Kevin threw me out of my house at 10 at night when my mom was in Washington (we live in Indiana) because her mom was dying. I went to my aunts. And I had to fight her to let me stay there. He calls me a "worthless" [edited for language] and then there's his lovely cats. And my "mom" doesn't do a damn thing about it.
And then there's more. I think I'm literally going crazy. And it's scaring me. Things have been happening to me since I was very little. I spend all day everyday literally going into my own little world in my head. I have friends there and a family that loves me. And then I cry the rest of the day because it's not real. Nobody cares about me and I don't care about anybody.
I'm starting to have flash backs from when I was a child (like, 5 or 6?) and they make me cry and there's thoughts that I can't get out of my head. My dad's friends.. did things to me when I was little. And now EVERYTHING is coming back to me. AND I HAVE NOBODY TO TALK TO ABOUT IT AND NOBODY CARES.
Mom expects me to do homeschooling, k12.com
I can't do it. I can't do hours of it everyday. She says I have to do something. I'm having a hard enough time just staying alive and it all seems so hopeless. I have broke down and cried in front of my mom and begged her to do something many times and she does nothing. And now I'm getting worse. I'm drifting in and out. Like, I'm not here anymore half the time, and nobody even knows or cares. I haven't left this house in god knows how long. I LITERALLY HAVEN'T TALKED TO ANYBODY IN 11 MONTHS. [edited for content].
I HAVE TO GET AWAY.

I feel like my Mom doesn't care about me either. I may not have a stepfather, but with my dad I am always in the wrong. End of discussion no if's and's or but's, I am always in the wrong.

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Re: Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

Hello There!

Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

Thank you,
NRS

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i was told you get out of my house..

so i was yelled at my my mother to just leave my house so would i get in trouble with the police? by the way i'm 14 and live in maine.

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RE: i was told you get out of my house..

Hi there,

We are so happy you decided to reach out to the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear that your mother yelled at you to leave and it sounds like you are thinking about running away but are worried about the consequences.

If you were to leave your house, your mother could file a runaway report and the police could come find you and bring you back home. However in most states, running away is considered a status offense which means it does not go on your record. However, if there is an adult, typically considered 18 or older, in the place that you may end up staying at, they could be charged with harboring a minor.

You might want to think about where you would go if you did decide to runaway and how you would take care of yourself in regard to food and other basic necessities. Also, your parents are legally responsible for you until you turn 18 years old. So if she were to lock you out of your house there could be consequences for her as well. If she did not allow you back in to the house, you could call the local police department and they could assist you by providing you with a safe place to stay.

If you would like to talk about any issues you are having at home feel free to call us anytime. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24 hours a day. We also offer a conference service for youths and their parents through which we could act as mediators to help you try to work out any issues you may be having with your mother. So this could be an option as well.

Hopefully, this information and options will help you make an informed decision. Again, please feel free to call us anytime. 1-800-RUNAWAY.ORG We really wish the best for you!

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i need help running away

I've been abused. And my dad finally stopped. I'm so scared. I need to run away to new York. I live in west Virginia and my dad threatened me today saying he was going to know out my teeth and give me a bloody nose and he said I was going to have to sleep outside and its really cold out there. I have somebody to live with in New York I just don't know how to get there and I don't have the money to go. Please. I need help. In afraid.

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Re: Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

what about in oregon to coorado?

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Re: Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

Hello There!

Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are considering leaving home and may have read some of our bulletin postings. As stated throughout this forum we are not legal experts here as laws can vary how they are implemented by police district to district. Generally, being under what is considered to be an adult ( 18 is the general age ) you need parents permission to leave home. Should a youth leave home without the permission parents can call the local police to file a runaway report that would require police to return the youth home. If you are wanting to get more information about this you can always call out to your local police to get more information on the specifics of how they implement this or you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY so we could call on your behalf.
Remember we are 24/7 so if you ever wanted to talk more about what you are going through please chat or call us.

Best Wishes,
NRS

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Is it wrong to help a 14 child

There a 14 old girl that does not want to be with her Mom for reason that im not going to say but is it wrong for her to runaway and to stay with someone she know

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Reply: Is it wrong to help a 14 child

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

There are laws in most states against harboring a runaway.

It would be hard for us to give much more information without knowing more detail about your friend.
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
You both are welcome to call NRS and talk about the situation.
If you would like to talk and maybe explore some other options please contact NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

Great job reaching out today.

Take care,
NRS

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Re: Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

i live in pittsburgh and i hate my mom and family i am 14 I'm gonna kill myself i can't take it

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Reply: Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the national runaway Safeline.

We are sorry to hear about your situation and we would like to have a better understanding of your frustrations with your family members.
It sounds like you are very upset and are having suicidal thoughts.
We are glad you reached out to NRS for help. Good for you.

Things must feel pretty bad to have you so upset.
Maybe you can think of someone to call and talk about your feelings with.
If you don’t you can contact the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-8255
They are available 24hrs with counselors ready to listen to how you feel.
You may also reach out to the NRS crisis line 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or try our live chat room at www.1800Runaway.org
How does that sound?

Sometimes when seem overwhelming talking might help but also something like reading, listening to music or even writing can be a tool to help bring things to a more calming level.
You did a great job reaching out. It is a great way to practice some self-care.
Good thinking. Good job.

NRS is here to help and here to listen.

Take care,
NRS

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Help

I need help. My parents are driving me insane, they dont understand that i am a teenager and constantly abusing me with their words. I need to get out of here, i have been trying to get my friends to let me stay with them or my sister to adopted me , she lives in north philly

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Re: Is it illegal to runaway when you're 14? what can happen?

Hi,

We are sorry to hear that you are having a tough time at home with your parents. It sounds like you are exploring your options and mentioned living with a friend or staying with your sister. NRS is here to listen and help, and we would be happy to help explore all your options and provide resources and guidance. You can speak with us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Take care,
NRS

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i really wanna run away and go stay with my close friend im so tired of being responsible for 7 kids and im only 15 i don't have time to be a kid ive tried many things to talk to my family about how i feel they just don't care ive tried to commit suicide but i couldnt do it cuz i felt like the younger kids need me ive been so depressed ive gone from a straight A student to barely making it i work help with rent and im just tired of the verbal abuse sometimes even physical i just don't know what to do

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Hello and thanks for reaching out on our forum. It sounds like you’ve had to take on a lot of responsibility at 15 and we’re sorry to hear you haven’t had time to be a kid. We imagine it has taken courage to talk to your family about how you feel and we’re sorry if you haven’t felt heard.

We’re here to listen and provide support to the best of our ability. There are other resources out there as well. Also know we are not here to judge you or tell you which decision to make. Instead, we can go over pros and cons to the options/decisions you are considering and try to find local or national resources that can help.

You mentioned you’ve tried to commit suicide and you’ve been so depressed which sounds serious. Please know we care about your safety and hope you recognize you deserve to be supported and feel safe at home. If you are dealing with abuse – verbal or physical, you have the right to make a report. While this can be scary, we’re here to help you through filing a report if that’s the route you decide.

We want to thank you again for taking the time to read our forums and post your situation online. We’d be happy to continue talking to your situation should you decide to give us a call or Live Chat with us. A few other places you might consider checking out are http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ and http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/Page...?pagename=home. We hope this helps and wish you all the best!