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  • #46
    I am 16 and don’t wanna deal with my parents anymore I want to get out of this house and be happy. They always put me down and expect me to do everything. How would I be able to get out of my house soon like today.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,

      You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent's permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you can chat with us via our chatroom at www.1800runaway.org. Please be safe. We are here for you and look forward to hearing from you.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • #47
    okay so im 16 and im tired of living in my home because i get verbally abused and treated like im nothing so i want to look forward to emancipated myself im in new york

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. It sounds like there is a lot that you are facing at home and you are thinking about leaving. We want you to know that by no means do you deserve any type of abuse. You are not alone in this and we are here to help as much as possible.

      You mentioned that you are wanting to know more about emancipation. We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works.  Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not. Unfortunately New York is a state that does not have a formal emancipation statute, although the court might recognize emancipation in certain circumstances. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation.  In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents.  It also helps to be in good standing at school.  The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18.  The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses.

      Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat.  We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

      NRS
      1-800-786-2929; 1800runaway.org

  • #48
    I'm 16 I currently live in new york state, me and my mother have had problems since I was young my mother has told me to kill myself and she has told me to leave her house my mom threats to put me in a residential group home many time because she doesn't like my boyfriend me and him have been on and off since I was 12 and he was 13 I can't take living with my mother any more I have thought about calling cps before but I have little sisters & an older sister and my mom only that gets verbally and physically abused. I was wondering If I wanted to move out without permission can I without the cops coming and getting me? his family is willing to take me in while we and him finish high school. and get on our feet I've done research and I saw that I can but I wanted to make sure

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you did.

      It sounds like things have been pretty tough between you and your mom, and we're sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, moving out without parental consent is situational and complex. Because we have no idea how your mom might respond, it's important to be aware of some of the issues that could arise in you leaving home without consent. While it doesn't look like your state has specific laws on harboring a runaway, it might still be considered a crime for your boyfriend's family to let you stay with them without consent. The best way to determine if that could be an issue or not is to consult with a legal professional. And even with that, it IS possible that if the police became involved, they could come get you and take you back home.

      While it's not super clear what sort of abuse is going on at home, because you mentioned filing a report with CPS, we did want to take a moment to comment on that as well. A lot of people tend to think that CPS will swoop in and remove children from their homes once an allegation of abuse has been made, and that's rarely the case. One of their primary goals is to keep families together, assessing situations and putting measures in place to ensure children are safe and to address whatever the main issues are in the family. That might mean implementing therapy, case management, anger management, or various other supports. Now if the children in the home are in imminent danger, they might remove them from the home, but that still doesn't mean they're going to remove every child (especially if they aren't the ones being abused). If you want to learn more about CPS, what they do, or talk over some potential scenarios, you can reach out to Childhelp. They're a child abuse hotline and you can reach out to them by texting or calling 1-800-422-4453, or by chatting with them live at www.childhelp.org.

      If you'd like to chat in more detail about what's going on, continue to explore some options, or see if we can connect you with local referrals, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

      Take care.

      NRS
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