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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are in a frustrating situation. It must be hard to try and talk to your dad about how you are feeling and have him keep down playing how you feel. If you ever want to talk with someone about how you are feeling you can contact NAMI at 1800-950-NAMI. Also if you want to talk with someone who may understand what you are going through contact Trans Lifeline at 1877-565-8860.
    It’s good that you at least have your mom and stepdad who support you. Maybe you can try having a conversation with them about how things are going at your dad’s and you can come to an understanding about how to move forward. Sometimes talking to loved ones about how you are feeling can alleviate some of the stress because they can go over some options with you. Also talking to friends or family can help you feel supported. If you want to us to assist you in starting the conversation with your mom, you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY and we can do a conference call. Its tough being in a household were you are not valued and constantly feel like you are being yelled at. If you want to continue to talk through your situation you can always contact us. We are 24/7 and here to help. Best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    Hello!
    I am a 13 year old transboy and I live with my father. However, I am quite unhappy with my living conditions. I want to live with my mother, but my dad always says no. The last time I asked he screamed at me for what felt like hours. I didn't bring it up again. I have plenty of reasons for why I want to live with my mother.
    For starters, I feel much more comfortable with my mom and stepdad. I see my stepdad as almost a real father, and I can actually have a conversation with them without any yelling or insults getting involved. I have developed depression because of being at my dad's. He basically brushed this aside as if it was nothing, and it really hurt. My mom takes care of us more than my dad does. My dad always disregards how I feel and pretty much tells me "There's gonna be negativity whether you like it or not, you should just socialize more"
    Which, it's not that simple. My stepmom and her kids are demons. Try to talk with them and you'll always get insulted. It has affected me a TON and I want out. Please help!

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It's great to hear that you and your mom get along so well and have a good relationship. Custody and visitation agreements can often times be complicated and may involve lawyers and visits to family court. If your mom does not currently have a lawyer you two can go to https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/ to find legal aid groups in your area.

    It sounds like your dad is not open to you when you are trying to express your thoughts and feelings about not seeing your mom. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your dad so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I 14 and i live with my dad my mom lives in south Carolina I want to live with my mom i havent brought it up to my dad but my he will just keep saying no... I miss my mom so much i wanna see her again
    Everytime me or my brother want to vist or she wants to visit my dad says no... What do i do?

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. From what we understand about the situation it might be good to write out some reasons for why it might be best to leave home. If you wish to talk through we would be glad to help out. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS
    Last edited by ccsmod9; 08-15-2019, 12:16 AM.

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    Guest replied
    i came to live with my dad and ive trying to get back to my mum in a different state he said he would let me if i had reasons


    how do i approach this?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You mentioned that your dad is sometimes physically abusive, we care a lot about your safety and that raises some concern. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    It's great to hear that your mom is so supportive and that you two get along so well. Custody and visitation agreements can often times be complicated and may involve lawyers and visits to family court. If your mom does not currently have a lawyer you two can go to https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/ to find legal aid groups in your area.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I want to live with my mom but she has no custody. I hate my dad he emotionally abuses me and sometimes physical. I miss living with my mom and I love her and know she will take better care of me. But my dad will barley let me see her what do I do please help!

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out! It sounds like your are very unhappy living with your dad and stepmom and that your mom takes good care of you and your siblings; while your dad and stepmom ignore you, even for necessities like food.
    We are not legal experts, and things can get a little complicated depending on custody arrangements. Perhaps you could talk to your mom about getting legal custody through the courts. With your dad and stepmom neglecting you and not providing food, Child Help (1-800-786-2929, childhelp.org) may also be able to help. They have crisis counselors 24/7 to talk about child abuse, the next steps to report (if you want to), and tips of getting custody transferred.

    We can also call out with you to make the abuse report, if you want to do that and you would like support. We understand that can be scary! We are anonymous and confidential here at NRS, but if you would like to call at 1-800-786-2929 and give us your name and information, we can call with you!

    We are here by chat and phone 24/7. Call us at 1-800-786-2929, or live chat through the button at the top of this site.

    It shows tremendous strength to reach out and we are here to support you through this very difficult time.

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    Guest replied
    Hello.

    I am 12 years old and I am living with my dad. However, I am very unhappy here, but clearly my dad nor stepmom cares.
    I seem to almost always cry when I come home to my dads, and have experienced fear of coming back. This is the complete opposite when I am at my moms. She makes sure we have food, we have a proper hygiene, etc. Dad just neglects us. He doesn't pay attention to our needs. And once, my stepmom ignored my siblings when all they asked for is lunch! It made me beyond mad and I wanna do something about it. Dad won't agree however, and my mom does. Please help ASAP!

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

    Sounds like your sister is in a really difficult situation with her mom threatening to try to go to court over custody issues due you all not graduating from school and your sister wanting to live with your dad. That sounds like a confusing and stressful situation, and that has to be so frustrating that you mom moved her out there without her knowing. If you haven't already, you might get your dad involved so he could prepare to go to court for her if mom does go that route. If her parents have split custody, and she runs from her mom's place to her dad's place, police might consider that a civil issue for the courts rather than a runaway situation. If you all need any legal aid resources to help go through your legal options with moving your sister to your dad's please do not hesitate to call or chat us.

    We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

    We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    My sister wants to come live with my dad but my mom wont let her we are from Texas my mom moved last week to New York she didn’t want to go in the first place my mom told her they were going for 3 weeks when she got there she soon realized they weren’t coming back and was tricked now my mom saying she can’t live with my dad because me and my brother live with him and we didn’t graduate she said if my sister wants to live with him she’s going to take it court and use the excuse that me and my brother didn’t graduate. Also my sister never did want to live with her she’s always wanted to live with my dad but was too scared to leave her and leave her “alone” because she was the only one living with her although she is remarried and now she lives in New York with her husband so my sister wants to leave now that she won’t be alone

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.With situtions like these it is important to remember to record stuff or even go to a counselor to kind of show that staying with your dad might not be a good idea since it seem like you are showing signs of depression. Maybe his home isn’t the best in order to help with that. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    I want to live back with my mom but my dad isnt ok with it. Ive lived with my mom my whole life but since we struggled a little bit my dad took me to live with him on a base in massechutets . I got in trouble with drugs in school and i have a tattoo so my dad is using it against my mom in court. He has temporary custody but hes trying to get full custody. He constantly looks through my phone and i get in trouble about a lot of things i never gotten in trouble about. Im not as active as i used to be and im more sad, i sleep way more and i dont feel comfortable talking to my dad and step mom as much as i do with my mom. Shes like my bestfriend. I barley come out of my room and i feel like im trapped. I love my dad but i dont like living with him. My moms working on getting me back but i have doubt thats not going to happen. My dad lives on a military base and i miss my friends and family. I just want to go live with my mom again. I dont know what to do.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's going on, it sounds like you are in a very stressful situation. It may be a good idea to speak with your mom about moving in with her and making a plan to approach your dad to talk about how you're feeling. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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