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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home where you are unhappy. It sounds really frustrating to have to stay with your grandparents when they are failing to provide a healthy and safe environment. You mentioned that your mother is working on getting custody of you and your siblings but is having legal trouble. If you'd like you can contact us for legal aid referrals or you can go to https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help for help locating a local legal aid office.

    You mentioned some things about physical abuse that raises concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I want to live with my mom. Right now I live with my grandparents and it is very unhealthy. They often get into verbal and sometimes physical fights. My grandma tells me not to tell anybody but I get emotionaly abused almost every single day. My mom wants to get custody of me my brother and my sister. The reason my mom couldn't get custody the first time is because she didn't have money for a lawyer. My mom lives in a clean environment and she has more than enough room in her home for me and my siblings. The only thinges keeping me away from my mom is financial problems, and no concentrate from my grandparents. I can't call any of the holiness because I don't have a phone to call of of. I need help I NEED to get away from my grandparents. My grandmain has disabilities and it's often me and my siblings taking care of her rather than her taking care of us. When my grandpa gets home from work he always fights with my grandma. They have gotten to a point where he hits my grandma and pushes her down keep in mind she has disabilities. My grandpa is gone for months at a time for his job and my grandma can't take care of us by herself. My grandma and I have a very un healthy relationship. We get in fights and she gets into my face and verbaly and emotionaly abuses me. I can't contact the child abuse hotline because I have no way to. I NEED to live with my mother please help!!!

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Sole Physical Custody

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It is unfortunate that your father is ignoring the visitation agreement with your mom. It sounds like because of this and other things you have become quite frustrated.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail, explore options and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Sole Physical Custody

    Hi, im 17 years old and my dad just got custody of me when I was 16. I was with my mom my whole life until he took custody. I want to live with my mom because my father and I have a very toxic relationship, and im much happier with my mom. My dad gets super angry whenever I ask to go visit my mom when it's not her weekend and yells at me telling me I can't go, also saying "too bad". He also talks really bad about my mom and I can't stand when he does it. I also feel like im never heard in my household because whenever I share my feelings about me wanting to go visit my mom, my dad doesn't care. He also adds my grandma into the whole situation and it makes me very angry because she shouldn't be involved in this, she's not the parent, she had her chance. If I share my feelings to him about the situation without sounding disrespectful, he threatens me that I can't see her, and other things such as my phone, my car (that I payed/pay for), etc. What should I do about this situation? I don't want to live with my dad, and I never wanted to. I didn't even get to testify at court about the custody battle. The court order even states I have every right to visit my mom when I want to. I really need some advice, because this is very stressful for me. Thanks.

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that living with your dad is not enabling you to be happy. While we’re not legal experts, we do have experience with this kind of stuff. Typically, when parents are separated, custody is specifically arranged between the two of them and their lawyers. It might be a good idea to reach out to your mom in order to talk about how your custody could possibly be rearranged to have you live with her if you feel like the living conditions at your dad’s are not adequate. If you are interested in talking more about your situation and what’s going on, we might be able to help you out with some more specific information. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i want to go back and live with my mom but my dad won’t let me because of the guy she’s with but i met him and use to live with them and he’s perfect he treats me amazing and I just want to go back to my mom... I was happy and living with my dad I’m not... I want to go back ASAP

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there
    Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out.

    It sounds like you are having a hard time at home with your dad and you would like to spend more time with your friends. Spending time with your friends seems important for you. Talking and sharing with your dad how you fell and having a conversation with him can be helpful. Talking to other family members and friends and may be even a school counselor can of great help in many situations. You can also contact SAMHSA at 1-877-726-4727 and they can help provide you counseling resources. We are not legal experts but until you turn 18 your parents are responsible to take care of you. If you would like you can call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) or live chat with us at www.18000runaway.org and we can listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources

    You are being strong by reaching out for help. We wish you the best to hope to hear from you soon.
    Best,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I want to hangout with my friends and my dad won’t let me. Idk if that’s legal, not letting me go somewhere.

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds like you’re in a bit of a sticky situation since your mom has custody but you want to live with your dad. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but often times, custody issues can be drawn out processes and court appearances may be required. It might be a good idea to talk to your dad about custody and from there work with a family lawyer about how to transfer custody.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My parents have been divorced for a long time, and I am currently living with my mom. But I want to move to my dad's house. My mom doesn't physical or mentaly abuse me, and there is nothing wrong with my moms house. I just really want to live with my dad. Is there anyone I can call when 13 years old or anything I can do when 13years old to move to my dad's house?

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us and sharing a little bit about what’s going on, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and tell your story. It must be really hard to live in a home where you feel so much tension and unease. You mentioned having a hard time talking to your parents about wanting to live with your dad, one service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. We would help mediate the conversation so you can have a safe space to talk to your parents but you would not have to be alone.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on and why you feel so uncomfortable at your mom’s in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

  • ccsmod10
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us your story. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now and we hope to be able to help. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.

    If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

    You mentioned you wanted to go live with your dad but you don’t know how to tell your mom. One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your mom why you want to live with your dad. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

    Best of luck
    -NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m kind of the opposite but at the same time, the same.
    I personally want too live with my dad, but my mom won’t let me. I’ve talked too my dad about it but he almost seems to avoid the question, I’m too scared too ask my mom for some reason. I’m only 13 but everytime I come home after school, I dread being there and hate it. I’m never happy when I’m here and just angry or upset all the time. I’ve talked too my dad about it in person and he seemed okay with it I guess but he also knows that my mom would not Be okay with it and so he doesn’t want too get involved. I don’t want too go to court though because I don’t like feeling under pressure but if I absulutely have too just too get away from my mom, I would consider it. Any suggestions would be appreciateated... Thanks.

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hi i want to live with my dad but he ;lives overseas and i don't know how to tell my mum because i'm only 12
    i cant stand my step dad
    i am being emotionally abused!

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your dad’s house is an incredibly stressful and unhealthy environment for you. Custody arrangements are usually decided by the people involved and their lawyers so if you haven’t already spoken to your mom about trying to change the custody arrangement, it might be a good idea to start there. Additionally, it might be a good idea to bring up to your mom or a therapist/counselor that you trust that living with your dad makes you feel unsafe and like a danger to yourself. If you do not talk to a therapist and you are interested in doing so, a good place to seek one out would be NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness). They are reachable at 1-800-950-NAMI or at nami.org. Having a therapist might help you organize your thoughts and understand what your options are more completely. We would also be happy to discuss what other options there might be if you wanted to talk in greater detail about your situation. If you are interested, please don’t hesitate to contact us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.
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