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  • #91
    I am 16 and have been mentally challenged most of my life, including thoughts and an attempt at suicide. I am on medication and am doing better, but my mom brings the thoughts back everytime. she calls me names, she calls my friends names, she calls my friend's moms names, she cusses me out, she screams at the top of her lungs until she can't scream any longer, I truly cannot take this any longer. My parents have been divorced for almost 2 years and ever since their divorce I cannot deal with my mom and I need to get out. her most recent time yelling at me she screamed to the point where I was crying and shaking on the ground, she called me a 5-year-old and screamed at me to get up and cussed me out. These things just bring back my feelings of depression and thoughts about suicide and I feel scared in my mom's house. In my dad's house, I feel much more comfortable and he always helps me talk through my issues. I see a therapist every two weeks, but I cannot stand my mom anymore. Please help me get out of this house, what do I need to do and who should I contact.

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      Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a tough time, but we are here to support you and help you in any way we can. We want you to know that you are worth it and that there is hope for you. We also want you to know that no one deserves to be treated that way, and you should not have to go through that. But it sounds like your dad is a really supportive person for you!

      If you ever feel that you are in danger of hurting or killing yourself, you could call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255; suicidepreventionlifeline.org) or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online. If you ever feel that you are in danger, you could call 911 for immediate help.

      If you haven’t already, you could also consider reporting the way you’ve been treated at home. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or you could call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

      If you haven’t already, you could consider reaching out to a trusted adult, relative, worker/teacher/counselor at your school for help and support. Your therapist may have some ideas to help you through this as well. If you haven’t you could also consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling. Just so you’re aware, we have a conference calling service here where we could help mediate a conversation between you and your parents.

      There are also many resources that could help you find a safe place or help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

      Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

  • #92
    Well here’s the thing I want to live with my mom but she lost custody of me. Can I still see her or live with her? Can she get custody back for me?

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hey,
      Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you want to live with your mom but there are custody issues. Unfortunately we are not legal experts, so we cannot with 100% certainty. If you have a case worker, they may be able to give you an answer. Another option is for your mom to see a lawyer and ask for advice. If you need help finding a legal resource, you can give us a call.
      Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
      Stay safe!

  • #93
    my parents are divorced and i want to move with my mom and im already 13 and my mom knows i wanna go with her because my dad is mean and many stuff but idk how to go with her w out my dad knowing

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    • ccsmod9
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      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline- we’re glad you did. It sounds like things are pretty tense at home and you don’t want to live with your dad. You mentioned that your dad is treating you in a way you feel you don’t deserve to be treated. If you feel that how your father is treating you is abusive, you do have the right to report it. No one should be treated that way. If you do report abuse, you can do this by calling the National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800-422-4453) or visiting their website at childhelp.org. Also, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY- we are here to help.
      You mentioned that you want to live with your mom but you don’t want your dad to find out. This seems like a really tough position to be in, but we are happy to help you. If you leave home and your dad can’t find you, it is possible that he will file a missing persons report and the police will become involved in searching for you. If you would like, you could try talking to your dad about maybe living with your mom or asking your mom to take steps to change the custody arrangement.
      Again, we thank you for contacting us- it takes a lot of courage. If you have any questions or simply would like to talk, do not hesitate to give us a call or send us a message on our website.
      Best of luck,
      National Runaway Safeline

  • #94
    Divorce

    I want to live with my mom, but the last time I asked my dad said that I didn't love him, and that he would take away my college money and he would do anything he could to make sure I went to a different school district. Also, he said that whenever I'd see him we wouldn't do anything fun, and my stepmom said that I would spend all my time "paying back energy" aka doing a ton of chores all day every day. I've been called a pathological liar, said that I have mental health issues, and my dad told me I love you but I don't like you. CPS came by one time and my dad and stepmom twisted it so that I sound like a kid complaining, and they put the blame and focus on my own personal issues instead of the way they've been treating me. They also won't let me speak the truth, and if I try I'm "lying" and if I lie so that they can stop calling me a liar, I lie. It's joint custody right now, but I want to live with my mom full time.

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    • ccsmod11
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      It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, so we are glad you are reaching out to us because we are here to help! While we aren’t legal experts, we can help you think of a few options to consider!

      You mentioned that your dad and stepmom won’t let you speak the truth. Have you tried reaching out to someone you trust to help you talk to your dad and stepmom, or talk on your behalf? Sometimes, having an adult (such as trusted family member or counselor) can help some adults listen in ways they may not listen to you. If you can’t think of anyone to do right now, we do have a “conference call” service at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS) that may be of use. While we will not speak on your behalf, we will talk to you on the phone about the situation to help you think of options. We would then reach out to your parents, and then we would join the calls. Someone from NRS would be on the line to help keep the conversation constructive and allow both sides to be heard.

      You also mentioned that you wanted to live with your mom. How has conversation with her about moving in with her been going? If she is on board with the idea, she may be able to help talk to your dad and stepmom about the reasons why you want to live with her. Hearing your thoughts and feelings from her might help take some of the pressure off of you.

      As we said, we aren’t legal experts, so we don’t know the full details of the custody rulings, but we can get you in contact with legal aid if you are interested! If you wanted to receive legal services contacts, look into the conference call servoce, or think of other options, our hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929!

      Best of Luck

  • #95
    I'm 15. I've been living with my dad for 2 years, 3 in september. When I first moved here, my mom wrote a letter to give my dad stating that he has full custody unless otherwise. I don't think they ran it through the court though. I was only supposed to be her for a year. Then I decided to just stay. Now i'm second guessing that. I've been emotionally depressed plenty of times because of him & my stepmom arguing and constantly fighting. He has a problem with name calling. He calls me names too, some that you shouldn't call a child. I want to move back home to my moms, but he won't let me. My mom is scared of my dd, in a way. So whenever I say I wanna move back to her, my dad calls her and puts her on speaker and asks if she wants me back there. she says its best for me to stay with him. She tells me all the time she wants me back home. I called the police on him before because of violence between him & my uncle, and later that night, he told me that if i ever called the police on him again, he was kicking me out because he doesn't need snitch living with him. I've thought about running away, but I don't know what'll happen. I don't want to get sent off, or arrested or put in foster care. I just want to go back to my moms.

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    • ccsmod0
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      Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us. After reading your port we have found that this a similar situation to other post that we have received. We have attached our reply to that post here. If you have any further questions please feel free to give us a call 1-800-786-2929
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      Hi I am 16 years old and I want to go back to joint custody With both of my parents.
      Growing up my parents always fought and then decided to have a divorce. so since my dad left I started thinking that my mother was the one who caused our family to separate. My father had brained washed me from when I was young *hes very convincing* that my mom was this "witch" the entire time--although she did do some things to me where she could have disciplined me differently, but now that I've gotten older to understand, she isn't always the best parent either. She was just perhaps hurt that I "took sides" and didnt bother to listen to her side of the story. Since the convincing story that my father presented to me at a young age changed the way I've thought about my mother, we'd had constant arguments with each other. Despite the arguments, we both still had a fun times such as, every year we'd go on vacation with the family, I'd always have conversations with her that I felt it was necessary to talk about in my life,a.k.a. "Counselor", i had many great times with friends around my moms area, went out, and you know, the fun teen stuff and I still felt comfortable. I feel like the reason our relationship was constantly on getting back to "bad terms" was not only because of her nagging obnoxious ways lol, but the young mentality that I had about her growing up. We, one day, gotten to an argument, which then turned a little physical and later lead her to call the police. Luckily enough, my dad was near the area to pick me up. I was fourteen at the time, and the court decided it was simply best for me to have my dad temporarily have custody of me until I go back, which is this sept. 18 of this year. I've been living with my dad for two years now and "the grass is not green on the other side". I've thought that things would've been better but now I see the importance of having a mom in your life. For ex, ever since I've left, I've even lost my virginity. Which demonstrates the impact from the absence of a "mother-figure". My fathers relationship has gotten weaker. I sometimes feel like half of the times I'm raising myself. I would need to do things that only a wife should do. Like am I even supposed to be washing his underwear? Am I supposed to be considered "the women of the house"? Do I have to look after his things when he's not here? And. Most times he's never home--yes he's working, but I feel deeply isolated from my friends in school. It's so severe that I even find myself talking to myself. I don't even have a phone so I don't even know what it is to interact with people besides seeing them face to face. He doesn't even want me on the house phone anyways and if I do, he has calls being recorded so he would often question who I'm talking to. He claims that healso have cameras in the house--he has one installed in the computer and tv-- and one outside the apartment so obviously he would know if I went out. I honestly feel like I'm being caged. I feel like he doesn't want me to interact with know one which is probably the reason why I didn't even have a sweet sixteen, while my mother was trying to plan one anyways. He's also not a promising persons either. I'm sick of it and I don't know if this is healthy as a teen or not. I miss having a mom where I can tell my things to--he wouldn't understand and get it if I talk to him, which is while we always lack communications with each other. I miss going out and stuff like that. And whenever i do something wrong he would Say that"ima dog" or "a piece of s$&t). when i asked if i Could he would deny it and state all the negative excuses why I can't. Yes my mom made mistakes but we just needed a break. Now I understand what she's talking about. My life had been so much better before, she's even planning things for me to get a job etc. and my father would deny it because that's be too much interaction etc. and he although have done a lot of me and still is so i still don't want to give him up just to be with my mom however, I feel like we emotionally, have problems. I'm sorry for the long paragraph but I HATE TO FEEL LIKE IM CAGED. HE'S VERY CONTROLLING AND OVERBEARING.

      Hi there,
      Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runway Safeline. We appreciate you contacting us in your time of need, it was very brave of you. It sounds like your parents are putting you in the middle of their issues, which isn’t fair for you and must be really stressful on you. You should have a say when it comes to which parent you’re going to live with. You never deserve to be talked down to or brought down. If your dad is the one with custody of you, being your legal guardian, he is the only one who can give you permission to live elsewhere. So that means that if you did leave to live with your mom, without his permission, he could report you as a runaway. If the police find you, they will return you to your custodial parent (which would be your dad).We offer a conference calling service, between youth and their parents. If you ever wanted our help talking to your dad about how you're being treated at home, we're always here to make that call with you. Sometimes just being able to talk can be a way to open up the lines of communication, and see the best way that everyone can compromise. We have heard in some cases, where the judge will listen to the child’s input on which parent they would rather live with. You may want to ask your dad about that. We also have a database of legal aid resources that help youth for free. If you wanted us to connect you with those resources, don’t hesitate call into our safeline. We hope our response is helpful. In addition, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #96
    I'm almost 17 and live with my mom. I want to go live with my dad because my life sucks with my mom. I don't think my dad has rights over me. What can I do?

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    • ccsmod7
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      Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like living with your mom has taken a toll on you, and you are wanting to stay with your dad. That seems like a really tricky situation since your dad does not have any custody rights over you.

      The easiest way you can leave home at 17 is with your mom's permission. You might talk to your dad to make sure that he does not have any rights over you, or ask if he would be willing to go to court to gain some custody rights. Here at NRS, we are not legal experts but we do have local legal aid resources if your dad needs any legal assistance. Please call or chat for legal aid resources. If you are financially self-sufficient and functioning as an adult, the court process of emancipation might be an option for you. Emancipation is the court process of having a judge determine if it is in your best interest to become a legal adult before turning 18. Emancipation laws vary by state and some states do not have them, so please call or chat us if you would like more general information about emancipation local to you.

      Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you have additional questions, would like to talk through your situation, and/or if you would like help looking for resources. We are here to listen, here to help and are 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

      Best,

      NRS

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  • #97
    my mom and dad are breaking up and my mom doesn't have a place to live. What can I do to help her i am a 13 year girl

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    • ccsmod2
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      Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It is very brave of you to seek help for your mom. We are very sorry to hear that your mom and dad are breaking up. You mentioned that your mom doesn't have a place to live. She could apply for low income housing through the HUD program (WWW.HUD.GOV). She could also look for emergency shelters through the (homelessshelterdirectory.org) website. Your mom also might be able to stay with other family members or close friends until she can afford to live on her own. If you have any other questions or would like additional resources please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.
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  • #98
    Hi, my parents have been divorced 3 years and I am almost 15. They have joint custody. I have not been to my dad's since February because last time I was there I did not want to go back to my mom's so I stayed and refused to leave with her. Within a week she put a temporary restraining order on my dad so we were not allowed to see him so I was forced to go back to her house. I have written several emails to her asking if I could live with my dad but she does nothing. I have asked her in person and her answer is immediately no. Just this week they finally lifted the restraining order but I have not been back to my Dad's and when I do it will be a supervised visit. My mom is a narcissist and is emotionally abuse. Living with her has caused my depression and anxiety. She has called me names, lied, and tried to blame everything she has done on my Dad and sometimes me. She has been physical but in the state I live in, there has to be a mark or injury to be considered abuse. I have called the police, talked to a therapist, and a school counselor and nothing is helping. She has everyone I know on her side and tries to make me look like the bad person. I am scared of being around her, she makes me feel bad, and it's hard for me to control my anger around her. She has now told me I could be put in foster care for running away or getting physical. No one is listening. I really really want to live with my dad. I feel safe, and happy there. It is in my best interests to be there. My dad has tried to fight in court to get custody of me many times and it just isn't working. Something needs to be done about the abuse. I also need to know how I can live with my dad. Any advice?

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. It sounds like you are very aware of yourself and put a lot of effort in understanding what you need. I’m sorry to hear how custody has been so complicated. We aren’t legal experts, so in this case, is there any way that you can be able to talk to the lawyer or judge who decided your custody situation? Also, you can call 211 to see if there any legal resources in your area.

      Sounds like your dad is putting a lot of effort into getting custody over you. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453, even if you have already. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like. It is very unlikely that you can be put into foster care. In most cases foster care is the last resort and would try and house you with family. Child help can also answer those questions more specifically.

      Another thing that you can do is look into emancipation, where you can have the right of an adult. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18. The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk.

      We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.

      -NRS

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  • #99
    I really want to live with my mum. My dad lives in gracemere Australia and mum lives in Zilzie which is about an hours drive away. I have recently spent some of dads money without him knowing but now he does. I dont want to go home cause he will probably kill me. He is really nasty to me but my mum is super nice and the best. She is very realaxed and calm. But dad is the opposite . I just relly need some help. I am 15 turning 16 in December. HELP!!

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      Hi, there. Thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you're in a stressful situation. You deserve to be in a supportive place and it sounds like your mom could be a good option for you. It could be possible that you could have custody transferred to your mom. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America, however, so we aren't able to speak to the custody laws in Australia. Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/ . We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in Australia.
      Please take care,
      NRS

  • I don’t want to live with my parents anymore.

    Hi im 14 and my parents have been going through marriage problems for about four years now And at Times it’s gotton physical and I had to call the police on the then A couple of times I have a feeling my parents are drug addicts they are violent and are emotionally abusive towards each other and it’s having an emotional effect on me. I want to live with my grandma but worried what would have to my brothers if I leave them there and worried if my parents would kill me if I left. Pls help what should I do?

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    • Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching otu to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about everything that is going on and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. We understand that it takes a great deal of courage to seek help. You mentioned experiencing abuse which may be reportable against your parents. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise.That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at (1-800-422-4453) or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. You would also be able to ask about what would happen to your brothers. They would try to find a safe place for all of you.

      Is your grandma able to advocate for you or do you have any other adults in your life, like a counselor or other family member, that you can turn to to help you report or just to support you? If not, we can help you through that process as well. Don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 to go about that.

      Stay safe,

      NRS

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      • I’m 13 about to be 14 in September. I want to live with my mom but my dad won’t let me. I’ve had to live with my dad for 4 years. We are waiting for a hearing date to be set but the court doesn’t seem to be trying. My dad mentally abuses me everyday that I’m with him. He gets mad all the time and takes his anger out on me by telling and cursing and blaming me any way he can. He sometimes hits or throws something. I can take it here I feel miserable every second that I’m here. I never have any good thoughts here. I always feel sad and empty when I’m here. I NEED TO GET OUT. PLEASE HELP ME

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          Hey, thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you're going through a rough time at home and it makes sense that you would be considering leaving. You definitely don't deserve to experience mental abuse, and you definitely don't deserve to be hit or have things thrown at you. If you want, you can call us at 1-800-786-2929 to report these actions to CPS. We're sorry to hear that life with your father is miserable, and hopefully we can help today.

          We're not legal experts, but the fact that you've gotten in touch with some already and are waiting for a hearing date is a remarkable first step. It can definitely be frustrating to have to work within the court system, which does not always work like it should and has to deal with countless custody cases. Of course, if your custody is transferred from your dad to your mom, then this would most stably provide a We ourselves are not a part of the court system, which means that we have are not legal experts - hopefully we can still provide you with useful general legal information on running away. If you feel that you cannot wait for this hearing to leave your home, and you leave without your father's permission, then you will most likely be considered a runaway. If your father reports you to the police, and the police can find you, they have the authority to return you home. In most places in the U.S., running away is not something you can get arrested for. If you want confirmation about that, you can feel free to call us and we can call the non-emergency police in your county to see what the exact penalties for you would be. You may especially want to do this if you live in Texas or in Indiana, as we have heard of some police departments in those states referring runaway youth to juvenile detention. Our number is 1-800-786-2929, and we can be reached 24/7.

          Best,
          NRS
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      • I want to live with my dad

        I live with my mom and my stepdad and they are very emotionally abusive constantly calling names saying I never do anything when I’m the only person in the house who actually cleans or does chores. There is no custody agreement on paper my dad was just letting my mom have me for a long time. I can’t handle living with my mom and my stepdad because of everything mentioned above and things have gotten physical a few times. I am staying at my dads house for summer but I am supposed to fly home tomorrow. Am I allowed to just not get on the plane? Can I get in trouble? Can my dad get in trouble? I already have 3 or 4 runaway reports on my record but I always came back and I just need to know what can happen if I just stay with my dad? I need a reply ASAP please as I am supposed to leave tomorrow!

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          Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runway Safeline. We appreciate you contacting us in your time of need, it was very brave of you.

          You should have a say when it comes to which parent you’re going to live with. It sounds like your mom does not treat you very well. You never deserve to be talked down to or brought down. If your mom has full custody, being your legal guardian, she is the only one who can give you permission to live elsewhere. So that means that if you did leave to live with your dad, without her permission, she could report you as a runaway. If the police find you, they will return you to your custodial parent (which would be your mom). Your mom could also get your dad in trouble for Harboring a Runaway.

          Abuse is never okay and especially not from your own mother, you don’t deserve that. Have you ever considered filing an abuse report? That’s an option we can discuss with you in more detail if you decide to call or chat with us. If you wanted more information on abuse and reporting it, you can also contact Child Help, they’re the national child abuse hotline. Their phone number is (800)422-4453 and their website is childhelp.org (they also have an online chat service). They also help youth find ways to get their custody arrangement changed as well.

          We have heard in some cases, where the judge will listen to the child’s input on which parent they would rather live with. You may want to ask your dad about that and let him know that your mom isn’t able to hold down a job. We also have a database of legal aid resources that help youth for free. If you wanted us to connect you with those resources, don’t hesitate call into our safeline. They could help you find ways to live with your dad instead of your mom.

          We hope our response is helpful. In addition, talking to school counselors and teachers about what’s going on at home could provide you with great support. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website.

          Be safe, NRS

      • Hi I'm 15, and I want to go live with my mom too I'm tired of being with my dad, he's always brain washing me about my mom and he would always hit me for the littles reason I always try to be a good kid but nothing works and I have thought about killing myself but I try to be strong and keep living my miserable life.


        About 3 to 4 years ago I found my mother's phone number and I talked to her and she told me she has been trying to get custody since my dad took me but my dad keeps lying and saying that my mother hit him and that she was abusive to him, and when I was 6 years old I remember seeing my dad hitting my mom but my dad tries to Deni it.



        all these years I've went to court I had to lie because my dad would tell me to other wise he would get mad and hit me and I could have bruises on my back and legs and arms.


        now that I'm 15 I have a secret phone that my dad doesn't know about and I got my mothers phone number but I haven't called her yet because I fear that my dad might hear me talking to her and he's gonna hit me and get mad.


        I don't know what to do, I don't want to call the police or 911 and tell them because my dad is gonna lie and say that I'm the one lying. I just want my mom I'm tired of having to lie for my dad, I want to tell the truth but he won't let me.

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          Hello and thank you for contacting the NRS. We are sorry to hear that you have been kept from your mother and that your dad has been physical with you. It is normal to want to know her and you deserve a relationship with her.
          We understand that you do not want the police involved. If you would like to report the way your dad hits you in the future keeping a record of any bruises with pictures may be beneficial. One resource for child abuse reporting is Child Help and their number is 1800-422-4453, you can also reach them at www.childhelp.org. They may also be able to help you look into some legal options as far as who has custody of you and your rights to which parent you live with. If you would like to reach out to your local CPS you can do so. We can conference call with you so that you can report if you feel more comfortable or we can make the report for you with enough information. You mention that you have thought about killing yourself. Your safety and well-being is in our best interest. If you feel you are suicidal and need help please call 911 or call in and we will dial out to your local police for you. If you would like to speak with people who specialize on the issue you can reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org .
          We are open 24/7 confidential and toll free. You can reach us by phone at 1800-RUNAWAY, or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Take care of yourself.
          -NRS

      • I’m kinda in the same situation, my mom lives in Texas and I live in Colorado with my dad. My dad is jerk who always has something to say about my mom and step dad, he is very mentally and verbally abusive sometimes it’s too much for me and I just want to run away and never see him again we’ve begged him crying and crying to have him please let us move with my mom but it’s the same thing no and then he tries to make us feel bad my life is a mess and no one cares to help I’ve talked teachers, school counselors, therapists, and parents but nothing has happened I’m 16 and I feel I should be able to make that decision of where I can be

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