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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i came to live with my dad and ive trying to get back to my mum in a different state he said he would let me if i had reasons


    how do i approach this?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You mentioned that your dad is sometimes physically abusive, we care a lot about your safety and that raises some concern. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    It's great to hear that your mom is so supportive and that you two get along so well. Custody and visitation agreements can often times be complicated and may involve lawyers and visits to family court. If your mom does not currently have a lawyer you two can go to https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/ to find legal aid groups in your area.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I want to live with my mom but she has no custody. I hate my dad he emotionally abuses me and sometimes physical. I miss living with my mom and I love her and know she will take better care of me. But my dad will barley let me see her what do I do please help!

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out! It sounds like your are very unhappy living with your dad and stepmom and that your mom takes good care of you and your siblings; while your dad and stepmom ignore you, even for necessities like food.
    We are not legal experts, and things can get a little complicated depending on custody arrangements. Perhaps you could talk to your mom about getting legal custody through the courts. With your dad and stepmom neglecting you and not providing food, Child Help (1-800-786-2929, childhelp.org) may also be able to help. They have crisis counselors 24/7 to talk about child abuse, the next steps to report (if you want to), and tips of getting custody transferred.

    We can also call out with you to make the abuse report, if you want to do that and you would like support. We understand that can be scary! We are anonymous and confidential here at NRS, but if you would like to call at 1-800-786-2929 and give us your name and information, we can call with you!

    We are here by chat and phone 24/7. Call us at 1-800-786-2929, or live chat through the button at the top of this site.

    It shows tremendous strength to reach out and we are here to support you through this very difficult time.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello.

    I am 12 years old and I am living with my dad. However, I am very unhappy here, but clearly my dad nor stepmom cares.
    I seem to almost always cry when I come home to my dads, and have experienced fear of coming back. This is the complete opposite when I am at my moms. She makes sure we have food, we have a proper hygiene, etc. Dad just neglects us. He doesn't pay attention to our needs. And once, my stepmom ignored my siblings when all they asked for is lunch! It made me beyond mad and I wanna do something about it. Dad won't agree however, and my mom does. Please help ASAP!

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  • ccsmod7
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

    Sounds like your sister is in a really difficult situation with her mom threatening to try to go to court over custody issues due you all not graduating from school and your sister wanting to live with your dad. That sounds like a confusing and stressful situation, and that has to be so frustrating that you mom moved her out there without her knowing. If you haven't already, you might get your dad involved so he could prepare to go to court for her if mom does go that route. If her parents have split custody, and she runs from her mom's place to her dad's place, police might consider that a civil issue for the courts rather than a runaway situation. If you all need any legal aid resources to help go through your legal options with moving your sister to your dad's please do not hesitate to call or chat us.

    We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

    We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

    -NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My sister wants to come live with my dad but my mom wont let her we are from Texas my mom moved last week to New York she didn’t want to go in the first place my mom told her they were going for 3 weeks when she got there she soon realized they weren’t coming back and was tricked now my mom saying she can’t live with my dad because me and my brother live with him and we didn’t graduate she said if my sister wants to live with him she’s going to take it court and use the excuse that me and my brother didn’t graduate. Also my sister never did want to live with her she’s always wanted to live with my dad but was too scared to leave her and leave her “alone” because she was the only one living with her although she is remarried and now she lives in New York with her husband so my sister wants to leave now that she won’t be alone

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  • ccsmod9
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.With situtions like these it is important to remember to record stuff or even go to a counselor to kind of show that staying with your dad might not be a good idea since it seem like you are showing signs of depression. Maybe his home isn’t the best in order to help with that. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I want to live back with my mom but my dad isnt ok with it. Ive lived with my mom my whole life but since we struggled a little bit my dad took me to live with him on a base in massechutets . I got in trouble with drugs in school and i have a tattoo so my dad is using it against my mom in court. He has temporary custody but hes trying to get full custody. He constantly looks through my phone and i get in trouble about a lot of things i never gotten in trouble about. Im not as active as i used to be and im more sad, i sleep way more and i dont feel comfortable talking to my dad and step mom as much as i do with my mom. Shes like my bestfriend. I barley come out of my room and i feel like im trapped. I love my dad but i dont like living with him. My moms working on getting me back but i have doubt thats not going to happen. My dad lives on a military base and i miss my friends and family. I just want to go live with my mom again. I dont know what to do.

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's going on, it sounds like you are in a very stressful situation. It may be a good idea to speak with your mom about moving in with her and making a plan to approach your dad to talk about how you're feeling. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Am only 11 and I wanna live with my mom but my dad won't let me and am also scared to ask him

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  • ccsmod11
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out to us. It’s not always easy to say that you need help, so we’re glad that you did.

    It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time right now, trying to figure out a workable and stable living situation. Certainly you shouldn’t have to deal with mental or physical abuse at any time. If you ever find yourself in a dangerous situation with your dad, call 911 to keep yourself safe. Also, if you find yourself struggling with self-injury again and need someone to talk to, you can text TWLOHA to 741741; this is a crisis line for To Write Love on Her Arms, which is a support organization for youth dealing with self-harm.

    It’s good that you are able to live with your grandmother in the immediate. If you’re interested in discussing your situation and figuring out next steps, you can chat with us online or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, and we’d be happy to talk through some possibilities. We could also conference call with your father, if you want, to act as a mediator while you discuss your living situation.

    Thanks again for contact us. We are a 24/7 hotline—please feel free to chat us or call us at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY to talk more about what to do next.

    Best, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 15 and will be 16 in decemeber my situation is pretty severe at the moment. I have been going. Through a lot since my transition from middle school to high school and there have been some bumps. I got caught smoking but it was once I was cussing online with my friends not on a public server just that my friend could see and my dad went 0 to 100 with all his punishments mind you my brother had gotten into drug his junior year and started selling senior year and now is going to college my dad actually kicked my brother out the ladder part of his junior year so now you would think that I might get it easier because I don't do as much but now it's 0 to 100 with punishments there is no in between for my dad he's very mentally abusive. He's threaten multiple times to put me in a correctional facility and back in foster care and he finally tried to about a month ago and it didn't work so he told my caseworker that night that I couldn't go back to his house because EVERYBODY felt unsafe with me in the house cause I was a threat the only person I have ever been a threat to is myself because a little ways back I had a self mutilation problem. When he used to get drunk a couple years ago it did get physical a few times. But, the mental abuse is just really bad. So the night he tried to put me back in foster care and they said there are many more children that need foster care more than you do he placed me in the huckleberry house for about a months maybe 3 weeks. It was nice down there gave me a place to regain my sanity but, he absolutely despises my mother so he told them she wasn't aloud to visit only him and whoever he brings. My thing is that he is always trying to tell people that he doesn't do anything to make me think I shouldn't love my mom or shouldn't want my mom to be in my life because they are divorced. I have been saying for a couple months I absolutely do not want to go back with my dad but then I kind went back and forth cause I was scared my mom wasn't gonna win the case and I would have to go back anyways so, I'm currently staying with my grandma until everything works out but, I believe my dad is sole custodian and he says he'll put me in foster care or with another one of HIS family before he lets me go with her even tho he has told me multiple times you know what you can just go live with you mother I'm done so, I am reaching out in desperate need for help cause I do not want to go back but I have invested so much of my self into the school district with marching band and softball so I'm caught between a rock and a hard place HELP!!

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    We are glad you reached out to us. It is understandable that you might prefer to live with one parent over another, and it does not mean you don’t love the other parent. It sounds like a frustrating situation considering especially after talking to your dad about it.
    Some things you might want to consider are possibly talking to your mom about this too if you see her. She might be able to provide some help and support with the situation. It might also be worth trying the conversation again with your dad and discuss how the situation makes you feel and work toward a compromise. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your dad one on one but still might want to talk it through with him we do offer a conference call service where one of our liners can help mediate the conversation, just call us at 1-800-786-2929 and ask about it. If there is any lingering questions or you just need to talk we would be glad to listen just give us a call.
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I want to live with my mom and not my dad and to be honest I dont know why I just love being at my moms and I have tried to stay but my dad just wont let me dandy dont get me wrong I love my dad but I would just much rather live with my mom

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