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    Me too I want to live with my mom but I am to sacred to ask him for some reason I say I going to tell him and at the end of the day I to sacred to ask him I don’t know why I am scared to ask him

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and for sharing a bit about your situation. . It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. Emotional abuse does get overwhelming and you deserve to be getting some help with it. It sounds like your step mom has been the only positive or comfortable environment for you recently and you would rather live there which is totally understandable.

    We are not legal experts, and we cannot say for sure what might happen at your future court hearing. It could be helpful to ask if you will have a guardian ad litem or a court advocate there to speak on your behalf. If you do have one, this would be a good person to speak to about your concerns and what you feel would be best for your well-being since their job is to advocate for you and your needs. Perhaps speaking to your step-mom about this would help as well to find out if she is able to help in any way. We can refer you to a legal aid resource if you would like to speak with a lawyer before this court hearing in order to learn more about what to expect and what concerns you should be bringing up.

    We truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time and provide any resources you might need (i.e.legal aid). You can contact us directly anytime by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.

    Stay safe and good luck,
    NRS

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    I'm 15 and I use to live with my dad but there was too much emotional abuse and it was making me self harm then I refused to go home with him and have been living at my grams for years now but that hasn't been any better. I've always wanted to live with my step mom but then they made me stop going there on weekend because of the fact I was happy there. Next week I have to go to court for missing so much school and the judge sent a letter saying there is a high chance of me being put in foster care. But I don't know what to say to judge or anything to see if I would be able to live with my step mom. I just don't know what to do anymore please help.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like what you are going through is abuse. If you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to call 911.
    You do not deserve to be hit. No one deserves to be treated like that. We are here to support you and want you to know that you are not alone.

    One option you have is reporting the abuse to Child Protective Services (CPS). We understand that this may be a really difficult decision, but if it is something you are interested in, we could help you make that call or support you through the entire process if you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If a child abuse report is taken, your local child protective branch can decide to investigate, which could potentially lead to removal following the discovery of abuse in the home.
    There is an organization called Child Help that advocates for young people in unsafe situations at home. Child Help has a National Child Abuse Hotline that you can reach by calling 1-800-422-4453, or by chatting with them on their website at (childhelp.org). They may be able to help you brainstorm some options and they can also support you in making a child abuse report if you decide you would like to.

    If you would like to talk more about your situation in depth, please give us a call or chat with us through our website at www.1800runaway.org. We are 24/7, confidential, and here to listen and help however we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I want to see my mom but my dad keeps me from her


    So my dad is a drunk and beats me he has left bruises and has cut my ear from pulling so hard and has also fractured a rib i need help I'm 14 and I just can be here anymore my mom just called today asking if she can see me my dad said no right away and said if she comes he will murder her I need help I'm abused every god damn day thank u

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. it sounds like you really miss your mom and would somehow like to live with her instead of your dad. We are not legal experts and have no say in which parent to live with. We would however like to hear more about your situation so we might explore if there are any options you might have to try and work something out.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I want to live with my mom but my dad want let me because he says that she is bad and don’t care for me but she do and I want to know what happens to my mom, I’m 13 finna be 14 I just miss my mom I have weird feelings like my dad hates my mom, lord please let me move back with my mom. I’m only 12 I want to move back with my mom but I’m just scared to tell my dad. Can you guys please let me move back with my mom? Please.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 01-14-2020, 12:51 AM.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thanks for contacting NRS,
    We are so sorry for what you are going through. It seems as though you are struggling to get through the situation you are faced with. You mentioned wanting to go to your mom and trying to live with her. Unfortunately it does not seem like abuse but rather this seems like a legal battle. If you are with your dad it is probably because the court decided it would be best for you to live with them. So it becomes a custody battle of you. If you get the chance maybe emailing your mom over the computer as you did now might help. You can ask why your dad has custody of you and not her. It might be a good idea to ask your mom to find a lawyer who can help with your situation. As far as sending you to juvie they cannot send you to something like that unless you have broken the law. They are simply trying to frighten you.
    If you feel you need to talk further with us please do not hesitate to call or use our chat option online as we don’t normally respond to second emails. Our call option is 1-800-786-2929 and you can find our chat option online at 1800runaway.org (click on the chat option). We hope you are able to find a quick solution to your predicament , NRS

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    I'm 13 and i've been wanting to live with my mom for the longest time now and shes ok with that but my dad wont let me. He says that i have no control over my life and that i cant make decisions like that and i get yelled at all the time because my dad and his girlfriend have very strict rules that i have a hard time following and i cant stay there anymore i don't know what to do because they aren't letting me out of the house and i have no way of contacting my mom because my dad destroyed my phone and i hate my step mom and now they are threatening me with sending me to juvie.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello,

    Thank you for contacting NRS and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.

    From what you shared, you have lived with both parents at different times and right now you are with your dad. It sounds like living with your mom full time is an issue of custody and most likely she would either have to work out an agreement with your dad or take him to court. We are not legal experts here at NRS, so we cannot say for sure how you would be able to live with your mom. Perhaps reaching out to your mom or another trusted family member will help you better understand the situation and have an advocate on your side. If you call our hotline or chat with us through www.1800runaway.org we can provide legal aide resources in your area. Speaking to someone with more knowledge of the legal issues involved, could better help you discover your possible options.

    You mentioned that your dad is emotionally abusive toward you and this is not okay. The national child abuse hotline (1-800-422-4453 ; www.childhelphotline.org) is available 24/7 to provide support while you deal with this situation and they may be able to offer additional ideas for living with your mom.

    We truly want to be a support for you while you navigate this difficult situation. Please do not hesitate to reach out anytime if you would like to talk more in detail and brainstorm some options together.

    Good luck,
    NRS

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    Throughout the years I have been back and forth living with my mom or my dad. This year living with my dad has been worse than it has ever been before. I have had real bad issues and I act out because of the emotional and mental abuse that I go through because of him. I really love my mom and want to live with her for good but my dad said I am not going to ever until I am 18. My mom just moved to Arizona and I live in ohio. Its killing me to live here I am abused emotionally every day all the time by everyone I live with. How can I live with my mom? Please help

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out.

    You mentioned that you want to leave your dad and step mom’s house, and move in with your mom. You’re really brave for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’re in difficult situation, and we are here to help. An option to explore would be to reach out to your mom, and let her know what’s going on at home with your dad that you want to live with her instead. You may also explore the option to talk with your dad, and letting him in on why you think that your stepmom hates you. You both may talk things out, and your dad may hear what you have to say.

    If you are every feeling unsafe in your home, you can text the word safe and your location to 44357. The National safe place will text you a location to go to, and a case worker will be out to assist you. Safe places very by city and state, and if you want to know if there’s a safe place in your area, you can input your address in their website at the nationalsafeplace.org.

    Thank you once again for reaching during this difficult time. We hope these resources could be of some use to you. Please don’t hesitate to call us anytime at 1800) 786-2929, and we can reach out to other resources on your behalf. Best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    I want to move with my mom but my dad won't let me and my step mom hates me i'm about to be 12 and i really want to live with my mom so i need your help what do i do how do i help

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your dad’s house is an incredibly stressful. Custody arrangements are usually decided by the people involved and their lawyers so if you haven’t already spoken to your mom about trying to change the custody arrangement, it might be a good idea to start there.
    We’re not legal experts here at NRS, but generally, if you are under the age of 18 you are still under the custody of a legal guardian. It’s not illegal to run away from a legal guardian, but your mother could potentially get in trouble for allowing you to stay with her if her custody was revoked. If you haven’t already, you could consider talking with your case worker about your situation. We also have legal aid resources if you have more questions about the specific laws in your state.
    It’s good that your mom has changed but if you still have fear that she may revert back that might not be the safest environment either. Sometimes talking about how you are feeling with a guidance counselor, friend of the family, or therapist. We also offer conference calling if you want support and decide to talk to your dad about what you are feeling those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you would like you can call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) or live chat with us at www.18000runaway.org and we can listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources.

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    I want to lie with my mom and im 13 do I have a say.


    There was a time where my mom was abusive and cps had to get involved and she lost custody of us. She didn't have full custody, but we got to her. After I stopped seeing my mom, I had to spend more time with my father. I thought it would be a good thing, but over the year, things started to get worse. My dad will say things to me saying, " If I wanted to see my mom, why did I say anything in the first place when she was hitting "me. I see my mom 10hrs twice a month and I get to talk to her. My mom changed I feel more comfortable in her house than in mine. I always have this fear I don't know how to explain it but home doesn't feel like home most of the times I wish I didn't have to go with my Father and his wife all the time. My father as well lives in Mexico so we cross the border every day and it gets exhausting and when we ask if we can live in the states he gets mad and say no because it's what he says and he's the one the bosses. The tension in our house has also gotten bad we have had an argument for weeks straight or it argument after argument and it gets harder every day. I really want to know what I can do because I can’t stand living in this house anymore.

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