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  • ccsmod15
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    Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you’re feeling angry and overwhelmed, and you have every right to be. The behavior from your mom you are describing is considered physical abuse, and it is never okay. No one deserves to be treated like that. You have the right to tell someone about this abuse so they can help your mom stop. A good person to tell is a teacher or nurse at school, or you can call a confidential hotline called Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 and they can answer your questions about abuse and help you report it if you choose to. And if you ever feel like your mom is about to hurt you, please call 911 and they will send someone to help right away. It can be incredibly hurtful when a parent treats a brother or sister differently than they treat you. It’s understandable you’d be feeling frustrated with how unfair the situation is. While your mom has taken a positive step by staying sober, that does not mean it’s ok for her to abuse you. You deserve to feel safe and cared for at home. We at NRS are here for you any time at 1-800-786-2929 if you want to talk more about your situation or explore resources in your area like counseling or youth shelters.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 11 years old, and my mom hits me and punches me in the head, and slaps me, and hits me in the head and butt with a metal spoon.
    she’s 1 year sober, so it’s not like she’s drinking or anything. She just scares me sometimes. My little sister seems like she’s moms favorite, and it’s not fair. She never gets hurt by mom or sent to her room. All she does is eat chips, and dr. Pepper. Mom just hurts me and lets her get away with EVERYTHING. would this be considered abuse?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I need help I want to live with my but my dad let me I’m 15 and my parents are separated not divorced just living their separate lives I hate it at my dads house I just want to live with my mom but my dad threatens to call the cops if I do my dads been to jail several times and is a convicted violent felon, would the police really take his side? I’m terrified of my dad and rlly don’t want live like this can someone please help?

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If in your state 17 is the legal age you can move out, then you are within your rights to leave despite whatever your dad says. However from our knowledge most states the age of majority is 18 so it might help to talk to legal aid first to see what your options are actually.
    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My dad has been talking me out of moving in with my mom for 3 years now and i've finally tried to put my foot down and tell him Im moving in with her because I am of legal age in my state. My step-mom emotionally abuses me and has threatened me many times; she also manipulates my dad into seeing her point of view and furthermore I get backlash from the both of them. I have developed depression over the years and because of their final pushes I attempted suicide...They blamed my mom because of it but I only see her 2 weekends out of the month. So in this case 2+2 does not equal four... Im 17 and I wish to move in with my mom but my dad continues to put it down.. He claims he doesn't want to lose me; but doesn't realise Im losing myself.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. The best way we can help is if you (or your dad) give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the chat feature on our website: www.1800runaway.org. We can look into possible legal resources that may be able to assist in a transfer of custody. Till then, please stay safe! We look forward to hearing from you.

    All the best,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm wanting to live with my mom but my dad has custody and I'm turning 13 in Feb.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there! Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to share what's going on in your life and how you're feeling, but we're glad you did.

    It sounds like there's a lot going on at home, and we're sorry to hear that things have been so tough for you. Your dad being rude to you, calling you names and physically hurting you is not okay, and you don't deserve that kind of treatment. While we understand that it can be hard to talk about these sort of things, it might be a good idea to let your mom know how your dad and stepmom have been treating you. If that's not something you're comfortable doing at the moment, another option could be to talk to someone who you trust, like a doctor, teacher, or therapist. These are people who can help ensure that you're safe. It's probable that Child Protective Services (CPS) would also get involved to help facilitate your safety. If contacting any of those folks isn't ideal for you, you can always call us here at NRS. We're happy to learn more about what's going on, support you however we can, and file an abuse report with CPS with you and/or for you. We can also provide you with referrals that might be useful to you as well, like a therapist.

    Please feel free to reach out to us through our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY, or through our live chat that you can find on our website: 1800runaway.org--we're available through both, 24/7.

    Hang in there.

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I need help

    my dad is rude he has pulled my hair. slapped me across my face. grabbed my ear and pulled it. my stepmom hates me. she has kicked me before and screams and yells at me. she has stopped though since I've been kinda getting along. I'm with visitation with my mom and i spend the night at her and my grandma's house, every week or so. I want to live with my mom. I'm 12 by the way and a girl.p.s I don't have a phone i have my school Chromebook. my dad won't let me. he has called me names like b**** and brat some other stuff too. people on my dad's side talk bad about my mom and get jealous that I'm so close to her. he has verbally abused me also. IM NOT HAPPY AT ALL. my mom said she is trying to go to court to get me half of the time. i haven't told her that my dad slapped me in the face. my grandparents on my dad's side is also rascist

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like there is a lot going on with your siblings and your parents in relation to custody. I am sorry to hear that your dad and stepmom are taking things from you and treating you poorly. You do not deserve that. At NRS we are not legal experts, but can certainly provide you with some assistance related to what you shared about your situation. You mentioned that you have contacted DCFS many times and have not had anything happen. Unfortunately in many situations, a lot of physical evidence and examples of mistreatment and abuse are needed for DCFS to take the case. If you need support discussing what is happening at home or are interested in making an abuse report you can call Child Help 1-800-422-4453. An advocate can work with you and call the reporting line with you and provide support through your challenging time. If you need any additional resources or would like support in making a claim or making a safety plan, please do not hesitate to call NRS directly at 1-800-786-2929 or visit https://www.1800runaway.org/#. We are here 24/7 to take calls and chats. We can better support you with resources and referrals if we know where you are located and more about your story. Additionally, it would be helpful for us to know more about what is happening with you and your mom, so we might be able to better direct you to resources like legal aid and child custody support.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello im 14 years old i want to live with my full time but my dad doesnt agree

    Im not really sure what to do im the second oldest and my brother chose to live with my dad and now a month later my dad has custody of him but i dont want to live with him im tired of the way he treats and takes everything out of my room but a bed and treats me differently cause im a girl im just tired of him and then my stepmom doesnt make it any better she lies about the things i do so i get in trouble and ive told DCF (department of children and families) so many times what goes on and they tell me im wrong every time my mom is now broke and cant fight with him anymore im not sure what to do anymore

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  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are in a tough situation and we want you to know you are not alone.
    If you are going back to another guardian it may be a civil issue, you could call the police and explain your situation. We are not legal experts but if you were to leave without permission it is possible your dad could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they could bring you back home. We know you mentioned going back home so that is where the police may bring you.
    It is understandable that you are feeling depressed in this situation, you could consider talking to a school counselor about what is going on. Also a resource that may help you is called NAMI (National alliance on mental illnesses). They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to help and to listen. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Im 16 about to turn 17, Im in Maryland and my dad refuses to let me go home back to Florida, I'm super depressed and I'm losing it here what do I do to go back home? Is there a way I can leave

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  • ccsmod4
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you feel that your mother has been abusive towards you and you would like to go live with your father. You don’t deserve to be abused. What has been happening is not your fault. It took a lot of courage for you to reach out to NRS. Good for you.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Take care,
    NRS
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